Dating Sites: How Should Men Message Women?

[LJ_Reloaded]

Thank the gods that this dude has finally told us how to act like a PUA/MRA in real life!

MRAs fucking hate PUAs.

My advice is if she asks about your job status or has a height requirement, ignore her entirely and don't even bother messaging her. She's not even capable of actual love.

I think women will have many legitimate perspectives as far as advice on this, but all the sensible folks agree with the basics, right? 1. Don't send her dick pics, 2. don't make sexual comments, and 3. if you're filtering out fat women's profiles, just stop, log off and rethink your life.

 

[Graf_Severin]

No dick pics. Be genuinely interested. If you're just passing time, don't message. Come here and fuck off. Have something to say. Be interesting.Opinions are awesome, don't shove yours down her throat. Don't imagine her naked until you both decide you can have a conversation, that's what lit and tinder are for. When you finally go on a date, don't go to the movies, or anywhere you can't talk. The operative part of dating is getting to know each other.

Thanks for the genuine response. I like "If you're just passing time, don't message," as I've certainly used dating sites as just-chattin' vehicles before--which I guess is okay, but the intentions can get mixed.

 

[RoryN]

My advice is if she asks about your job status or has a height requirement, ignore her entirely and don't even bother messaging her..

Remember that, ladies: you're not allowed to have reasonable standards and preferences (which both of these are).

You can now decide whether LJ's rants against feminism come from a genuinely intelligent query of gender politics, or from a butthurt little man who doesn't like the way women treat him.

 

[Pashenry]

Dating sites.

That sounded a lot like sales training.

Dating is exactly like sales training.

I dated at least a serveral dozen times and I met the person I'm with now on a dating site.


I treated it like my day job.

 

[RoryN]

Dating is exactly like sales training.

I dated at least a serveral dozen times and I met the person I'm with now on a dating site.

That's kind of a lousy ratio.

Might be because you think dating is like sales training.

 

[Pashenry]

training.

That's kind of a lousy ratio.

Might be because you think dating is like sales training.

If one has intuition and listens. One does not need sales training. Then one gets the job done.

In sales you sell.

In dating the same correlation.

I dated more then that. That was just dating site. At my age late (48 then) people have ALOT more red flags. I could have settled. As a sales rep I did more prospecting.......

If the only goal was to get down their pants then the close happened MUCH sooner then that.

My goal was a life partner that is a different game.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Dating is exactly like sales training.

I dated at least a serveral dozen times and I met the person I'm with now on a dating site.


I treated it like my day job.

Sure. Nothing easier than selling what someone wants. Have what they want.

 

[malefica]

- Reading profiles before messaging.
- Text-speak is generally frowned on.
- Unprompted cock-shots are also unwelcome.
- Don't go barging in fetishes first.
- Demonstrate/point out a common interest; i.e "So what is your favourite book by X author? What do you think of the latest season of Y? The museum in M is really good, isn't it?"
- Treat the other person like a person, not a sexual conquest.

 

[Sinny]

Don't bad mouth your ex in message or on profile. Never use a pic of your kids on your profile. Good lord, no dick pics. Don't lie about books you have read or movies you have seen. You will get caught. Don't say you are single if you are married. You will get caught.

I dated dozens of losers and was messaged by close to a few thousand men and i only was on a dating website for three months. You will have to wade through a lot of bullshit. Time reveals all cads, so be patient.

I am going on five years with my sweetie, who I messaged first. My advice to women is to ditch the passive shit and do the messaging. You go find what you want and take it.

 

[Wings]

Always know that a lot is two words. Two. Words.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Remember that, ladies: you're not allowed to have reasonable standards and preferences (which both of these are).

1) Women don't get judged nearly as harshly by their job status or their height. So it's not reasonable. It's hypocritical.
2) Women are free to have any standards or preferences they want, hypocritical or otherwise - but, and you obviously disagree with this, men are also free to avoid women whose standards they do not agree with.
3) Obviously you feel men should not avoid women whose standards they find disagreeable. You think they should all be as desperate as you.

Sorry, dude, but if women get mad because a man says don't date a woman who is obsessed over job status and height, that's tough titties for them. There is this thing called freedom of choice; it works for women, and it works for men.

You can now decide whether LJ's rants against feminism come from a genuinely intelligent query of gender politics, or from a butthurt little man who doesn't like the way women treat him.

You can now decide whether RoryN is a desperate male feminist who panders to women in order to get laid, or if he's just a desperate male feminist who panders to women in order to get laid.

Hint: only one man between the two of us is so desperate for pussy that he will say men shouldn't have a choice to turn down women with standards they don't agree with.

 

[MrRandyWatson]

As far as I'm concerned, men have lost the right to approach a woman for a date in any context whatsoever. And when my son is of dating age, he will be taught exactly that - only approach a woman who has expressed interest already. Sorry, but too many men - read: damn near all of them - have abused that right by sending dick pics, committing crimes against women, catcalling, being pick-up artists and players, the list goes on and on.

"But Randy, not all men--"

Yes. All men. Deal with it.

"But Randy, why should we take away a man's rights?"

Let's make men the scared sex for once. Men only figure out inequality when they're on the short end of it - case in point, the uprising of fathers' rights groups. Never mind that fathers deserve the short end in domestic court, but if you want men to give a shit, put them at a disadvantage.

"But Randy, they're already at a disadvantage! They have to pay for every date and buy an engagement ring and--"

OK, fuck you. Fuck you straight in your stupid, ignorant MRA ear. Be a man. Buy her stuff.

Seriously, men, the hell with all of you, including myself. Yeah, it is personal. When I look like a dipshit because of your actions, it is personal.

 

[Wings]

Randy doesn't have to message women because he talks to himself.


Be like Randy.

 

[DudeA]

I dated dozens of losers and was messaged by close to a few thousand men and i only was on a dating website for three months. You will have to wade through a lot of bullshit. Time reveals all cads, so be patient.

I am going on five years with my sweetie, who I messaged first. My advice to women is to ditch the passive shit and do the messaging. You go find what you want and take it.

Hmmm... I somewhat agree with this. If a woman typically receives thousands and thousands of messages, then it'll probably make her lose the energy to even respond, and even the good ones will get lost in the sea of endless messages. The majority of them are bullshit, so why should you even bother?

I've never been on a "dating site" and probably never will, but if a woman took enough interest in me to message me first... then things often go fairly well. Not perfect, but often good. Usually way better than me messaging them first, which usually get ignored or shot down. So a woman taking enough interest in a guy to message him first might not be a bad solution to being bombarded with constant messages. However, I would be more impatient in real life, and people could only do this because you have a profile online that you're transmitting to hundreds and thousands of people at once.

 

[MrRandyWatson]

Randy doesn't have to message women because he talks to himself.


Be like Randy.

Stay up all night thinking of that one, or did you get to bed around closing time?

 

[Wings]

Stay up all night thinking of that one, or did you get to bed around closing time?

Randy can't take a joke.

Don't be like Randy.

 

[Saint Peter]

Randy can only take a joke when Randy is the one telling it.







These are also the only times that Randy understands a joke.

 

[Sinny]

Hmmm... I somewhat agree with this. If a woman typically receives thousands and thousands of messages, then it'll probably make her lose the energy to even respond, and even the good ones will get lost in the sea of endless messages. The majority of them are bullshit, so why should you even bother?

I've never been on a "dating site" and probably never will, but if a woman took enough interest in me to message me first... then things often go fairly well. Not perfect, but often good. Usually way better than me messaging them first, which usually get ignored or shot down. So a woman taking enough interest in a guy to message him first might not be a bad solution to being bombarded with constant messages. However, I would be more impatient in real life, and people could only do this because you have a profile online that you're transmitting to hundreds and thousands of people at once.

Wait. You never have been on a dating site, yet you know that things go well when a woman messages you? You sure you never have been on a dating site?

 

[DudeA]

Wait. You never have been on a dating site, yet you know that things go well when a woman messages you? You sure you never have been on a dating site?

Well the initial intention wasn't to date, but to casually chat, but sometimes things blossom from there and it can turn to dating and such.

 

[Saint Peter]

Wait. You never have been on a dating site, yet you know that things go well when a woman messages you? You sure you never have been on a dating site?

Hello,

I saw a picture of your drumset on a porn site. Would you like to go out sometime? We could play the jungle beats and listen to the jungle sounds.

Sin Celery,
Pete

 

[doowdniw]

Can't you just say, "Wanna Fuck?"

And see where it goes from there?

It certainly lays it out on the table.

I had to chuckle at this. Had a friend in college who used this method at the local watering hole as an obligatory opening line pretty much with every girl he met. He got slapped in the face more times than I can count, but he also got laid on a regular basis.

 

[Sinny]

Hello,

I saw a picture of your drumset on a porn site. Would you like to go out sometime? We could play the jungle beats and listen to the jungle sounds.

Sin Celery,
Pete

I will show you my paradiddle if you show me yours.

 

[MrRandyWatson]

Randy can't take a joke.

Don't be like Randy.

I can take a joke. Just try to actually be funny.

I'm told I have a dry sense of humor. I probably do.

 

[Saint Peter]

I will show you my paradiddle if you show me yours.

LRLL!

 

[JohnnySavage]

All this seems like a lot of work for a blowie.