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[Little_Sister]

Lol True Blood is the last HBO show I got my fap on to. Vampires and boning is just an ingenious premise.

#truth

Pretty sure fap is not a word in Texas tho

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Dollie

Something happened I got a two fer

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Dollie------------- i want to comment but I'm totally embarassed and sleepy!
By the way I'm old and I can't take more than three medium fingers.
That's what you girls have to look forward to.
I have to go, the king is calling. Or is that the master? Sometimes I wonder.

Nite you crazy young perverts.

But I still like a nice penis shaped piece of chocolate now and then. Don't ever use one for a dildo. I heard they melt fast and make a mess in your hand, not in your mouth!

 

[ChainedUp]

Some days, try as I might, there's no corralling this place.

Often times we think we are in control of a situation when in reality the situation controls us. Relationships, work dynamics, choosing the right checkout like at the grocery store, all places where you don't really have the control you think you do. How important is that sense of control to you? Do you need to be in control of situations or are you able to accept things as they happen and adjust/adapt as they occur?

 

[rubydlite]

Some days, try as I might, there's no corralling this place.

Often times we think we are in control of a situation when in reality the situation controls us. Relationships, work dynamics, choosing the right checkout like at the grocery store, all places where you don't really have the control you think you do. How important is that sense of control to you? Do you need to be in control of situations or are you able to accept things as they happen and adjust/adapt as they occur?

It's your threat of citations I'm sure.

I think you're right, we have less control than we think but we still have some ownership of all situations. I like to go with the flow for the most part but I think sweeping everything under the 'out of my control' category gives us a lack of responsibility to make changes and be accountable where we should be.

 

[SomeoneFamiliar]

Some days, try as I might, there's no corralling this place.

Often times we think we are in control of a situation when in reality the situation controls us. Relationships, work dynamics, choosing the right checkout like at the grocery store, all places where you don't really have the control you think you do. How important is that sense of control to you? Do you need to be in control of situations or are you able to accept things as they happen and adjust/adapt as they occur?

Control is important in some instances, in others not so much. Controlling my own reactions and myself in general seems to be easier thang tying to control what's around me. So more adaptation, I would think. Adjusting my reactions to fit the scenario.
That and I tried the whole control freak thing. All I got was an ulcer and a Xanax prescription. I'm better off not trying to control everyone else.

 

[Suz_anne]

I have control freak tendencies, but in a really cute, adorable way.

 

[Bitesback]

Some days, try as I might, there's no corralling this place.

Often times we think we are in control of a situation when in reality the situation controls us. Relationships, work dynamics, choosing the right checkout like at the grocery store, all places where you don't really have the control you think you do. How important is that sense of control to you? Do you need to be in control of situations or are you able to accept things as they happen and adjust/adapt as they occur?

Life is what happens when we are busy making other plans.
Don't cry over spilt milk.
Go with the flow.
Sure I like order and control in many areas of my life but these sayings are popular for good reason. Sometimes things happen to upset plans, deminish our control, wreak havoc in our lives or be a minor but workable inconveniences. Plans and lists are useful tools but if we can't be flexible, if we can't adapt to changing circumstances, we're not going to make the best of the situation. It's a bit different if dealing with people in high positions of authority, working with laws, regulations etc, which offer control or at least a sense of it, but often only if seen to be enforced. Negotiation might be able to bring about better outcomes and give a better feeling of control.

It's easier to feel in control with people. Throw in a tech problem and all sense of control can be lost!

 

[RacyRedLips]

Some days, try as I might, there's no corralling this place.

Often times we think we are in control of a situation when in reality the situation controls us. Relationships, work dynamics, choosing the right checkout like at the grocery store, all places where you don't really have the control you think you do. How important is that sense of control to you? Do you need to be in control of situations or are you able to accept things as they happen and adjust/adapt as they occur?

At the grocery store? No. I have control there. It's called self-checkout. It drives me crazy how some people bag groceries so I take charge and do everything myself.

 

[Little_Sister]

For me it is not about control, I have no problem giving up all of the control as long as the situation is handled fairly.

I'm not someone who gets in a hurry in general so I don't mind waiting in lines. Traffic doesn't bother me. Etc.

Really very few things ruffle my feathers and those things that do, are usually because I feel like a situation is unfair or my child is being treated unfairly. In which case I go all Mama Bear and watch out.

The relationship dynamic is a big one for me. Last week hubs got head in the shower, patted me on the head and said "thanks babe" like he was good and did not plan on replaying the favor.

My rarely seen temper flared and I go from passive to murderous in seconds. I'm from Texas, grew up with a house full of brothers which means I turn into a physically scrappy little thing when I get THAT mad. Which meant bodily harm was threatened and would have been carried out without guilt if he didn't finish the job.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I enjoy control for things at which I excel. Other things I don't know, I'll let them have control. But luckily I excel at lots.

 

[DarkSimian]

my quote speaks for itself

 

[All_4_Love]

I don't believe in having control of anything outside of myself...not anymore. And even if there was an opportunity for me to be in control, I sincerely wouldn't want it. I have no desire to be in control of anyone or anything, other than myself in how I behave toward myself, how I treat others, and how I grow as a human being. I will purposefully avoid any situation where I may be looked to to take the lead or control an outcome. It is just not for me. It feels horrible.

I've felt submissive my entire life, always felt the need to be led, guided, directed in things, and/or under the control of the man in a relationship, had a deep need to trust, have always been deferent, sometimes to a fault, as it has put me into the hands of some of the wrong people.

I've discovered through the years that this didn't mean I was without the normal human desire for control. Mine just manifested itself in a desire to control other's feelings about me versus their actions, which resulted in people pleasing efforts, so that I would be liked and/or loved.

Now, that I wholeheartedly believe that I am lovable just the way that I am, I have been able to convert this trait into a genuine desire to please, help, and do good for others, which no longer comes from a need to be loved, but from a need to feel and to be loving, a desire to do good.

I am very much able to accept situations for exactly what they are. Regardless of how I may feel, my reaction is to turn inward instead of outward, and to find strength and peace in my surrender and acceptance of what is, and not what I think it should be. For the smaller everyday things, this has come unconsciously and effortlessly for me. For the greater things, it can sometimes take much work and effort.

There is unimaginable peace and freedom in letting go, in surrendering, and even more in trusting in something greater and more powerful than myself.

For anyone that does read my comments, I'm so sorry for always being so wordy. I am really terrible at being concise.

 

[DarkSimian]

I don't believe in having control of anything outside of myself...not anymore. And even if there was an opportunity for me to be in control, I sincerely wouldn't want it. I have no desire to be in control of anyone or anything, other than myself in how I behave toward myself, how I treat others, and how I grow as a human being. I will purposefully avoid any situation where I may be looked to to take the lead or control an outcome. It is just not for me. It feels horrible.

I've felt submissive my entire life, always felt the need to be led, guided, directed in things, and/or under the control of the man in a relationship, had a deep need to trust, have always been deferent, sometimes to a fault, as it has put me into the hands of some of the wrong people.

I've discovered through the years that this didn't mean I was without the normal human desire for control. Mine just manifested itself in a desire to control other's feelings about me versus their actions, which resulted in people pleasing efforts, so that I would be liked and/or loved.

Now, that I wholeheartedly believe that I am lovable just the way that I am, I have been able to convert this trait into a genuine desire to please, help, and do good for others, which no longer comes from a need to be loved, but from a need to feel and to be loving, a desire to do good.

I am very much able to accept situations for exactly what they are. Regardless of how I may feel, my reaction is to turn inward instead of outward, and to find strength and peace in my surrender and acceptance of what is, and not what I think it should be. For the smaller everyday things, this has come unconsciously and effortlessly for me. For the greater things, it can sometimes take much work and effort.

There is unimaginable peace and freedom in letting go, in surrendering, and even more in trusting in something greater and more powerful than myself.

For anyone that does read my comments, I'm so sorry for always being so wordy. I am really terrible at being concise.

I think you speak eloquently, and should be lauded for your efforts

 

[All_4_Love]

I think you speak eloquently, and should be lauded for your efforts

Thank you, DS. That is so kind of you. I just seem to always have a lot to say and very little experience in saying it briefly. Let's blame it on the woman in me.

 

[DarkSimian]

Thank you, DS. That is so kind of you. I just seem to always have a lot to say and very little experience in saying it briefly. Let's blame it on the woman in me.

well, we can't blame it on the man in you

 

[All_4_Love]

well, we can't blame it on the man in you

Haha. Very well, then. You do have a point.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Of course I am in complete control. Except when I'm not.

Echoing what was said above - I think control is a strange little beastie. I am in control of myself - my choices, my actions, my reactions. Life is shaped more by the thousand little choices we make each day than by the few big things that happen to us. I try and make those many small choices conscious ones, small steps on the long journey - to that extent I am in solid control of my life.

Sometimes random shit happens or decisions are made by other people without my input and because of my relationship with them, personal or professional, I have to improvise and adapt - but I do it by making those small conscious choices. If it's a good thing, then I can enhance it. If it's a bad thing I can influence it and control my reaction to it, and then through small choices pull it or push it back in the direction I wanted it to go.

If the situation is totally fucked (and not in a good way) then I can roll with it, survive through it, and start anew.

Off on a slight tangent - I also think most of life is full of just random stuff that our minds try and connect together. Understanding that the nature of the universe is all about probability saves me from going insane. I can do the best I can do but if I am dealt bad cards at the table, well, that is just the way it happens. Wait for the next hand, its coming soon enough.

 

[dutchrain]

You wouldn't even put a finger in there?

*Slips on a rubber glove & grabs lube* Fine. I'll do it. Bend over Pmann, I've got a finger for you.

I just had to quote …

Some days, try as I might, there's no corralling this place.

Often times we think we are in control of a situation when in reality the situation controls us. Relationships, work dynamics, choosing the right checkout like at the grocery store, all places where you don't really have the control you think you do. How important is that sense of control to you? Do you need to be in control of situations or are you able to accept things as they happen and adjust/adapt as they occur?

Most times I am able to accept things as they happen, work with them, work through them, work against them. Paul already said it much better than I could.

 

[italiansexylady]

I don't believe in having control of anything outside of myself...not anymore. And even if there was an opportunity for me to be in control, I sincerely wouldn't want it. I have no desire to be in control of anyone or anything, other than myself in how I behave toward myself, how I treat others, and how I grow as a human being. I will purposefully avoid any situation where I may be looked to to take the lead or control an outcome. It is just not for me. It feels horrible.

I've felt submissive my entire life, always felt the need to be led, guided, directed in things, and/or under the control of the man in a relationship, had a deep need to trust, have always been deferent, sometimes to a fault, as it has put me into the hands of some of the wrong people.

I've discovered through the years that this didn't mean I was without the normal human desire for control. Mine just manifested itself in a desire to control other's feelings about me versus their actions, which resulted in people pleasing efforts, so that I would be liked and/or loved.

Now, that I wholeheartedly believe that I am lovable just the way that I am, I have been able to convert this trait into a genuine desire to please, help, and do good for others, which no longer comes from a need to be loved, but from a need to feel and to be loving, a desire to do good.

I am very much able to accept situations for exactly what they are. Regardless of how I may feel, my reaction is to turn inward instead of outward, and to find strength and peace in my surrender and acceptance of what is, and not what I think it should be. For the smaller everyday things, this has come unconsciously and effortlessly for me. For the greater things, it can sometimes take much work and effort.

There is unimaginable peace and freedom in letting go, in surrendering, and even more in trusting in something greater and more powerful than myself.

For anyone that does read my comments, I'm so sorry for always being so wordy. I am really terrible at being concise.

Your words echo my thoughts yet again....... I am so very much the same....thank you for your beautiful posting

 

[Endless_Night]

I have control freak tendencies, but in a really cute, adorable way.

This^. But you forgot sexy. Cute, adorable, and sexy. I can foot stomp like nobody's business.

Only when it's called for, of course. Yeah.

Only when it's called for.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Pretty much a control freak, though my beautiful friend is doing their utmost to reform me and mostly succeeding.

Oh stop. You flatter me.

 

[ChainedUp]

I must admit back in the day if I was struggling for a topic(yes it happens) I'd announce it a "free for all" day and let the room run wild. But, that pretty much happens here anyway so announcing a day for seems out of place. But what is most impressive are those that even through the wild stuff still stay true to the question and answer thoughtfully.

What impresses you these days? What makes your mouth go slightly agape and causes an unnatural stare. For me, the night's sky full of stars will always do it. Or is the world, life no longer capable of impressing you? Has the wonderment gone like Santa Claus on Christmas morning? If so, can you get it back? Or is it gone forever once its gone?

 

[rubydlite]

What impresses you these days? What makes your mouth go slightly agape and causes an unnatural stare. For me, the night's sky full of stars will always do it. Or is the world, life no longer capable of impressing you? Has the wonderment gone like Santa Claus on Christmas morning? If so, can you get it back? Or is it gone forever once its gone?

Every morning I wake up and one of my children has usually snuck in through the night. Watching them breathe, so peaceful. Or watching them laugh, those deep belly giggles....
In the morning I wake up and watch the sun rise over the harbour. ..pinks and oranges causing the water to light up like it's on fire..
The full moon...

 

[DarkSimian]

I work the graveyard shift, and each night I leave the house for work about the time most people are going to bed. As I walk to my truck, I always look up, to find Orion. For some reason, knowing that those stars will always be there (at least in my lifetime), gives me comfort. And then there are the mornings when I am getting off, and I catch the first pink and orange and red rays of the sunrise. These are the things I look forward to, even when the rest of the day has been shit