Threesome tips

[Gunnlaug]

I'm hoping for some advice… or more, perhaps an indication of something I've missed/not thought about, etc.

My wife and I have been together for 10 years and have been monogamous but have enjoyed a pretty good sex life, with a lot of talking. Recently the opportunity to engage in an MMF threesome has come up and we have decided to go for it. My wife has been the prime mover in this development but it's something we have discussed before so it didn't come as bolt from the blue. I'm cool with the idea of MMF (or rather perhaps, MFM, as there isn't any bi element - this is my wife in the middle), even more than with MFF, largely because I consider that MFF might actually be less enjoyable for me (pressure to perform,to satisfy two women rather than one, great if you do, disaster if you don't).

Anyway, we have discussed the situation very openly. I know and like the guy but he isn't a friend, so there isn't likely to be any awkwardness, and my wife has been reasonable asking me to be sure that I will be ok with the idea of another guy kissing her, touching her, fucking her - I'm very cool with it provided my cock is in her mouth . She has also ascertained that, whilst there is no bi element to the projected proceedings, I will be ok with any accidental male on male contact - I regard it as inevitable if there are limbs and bodies going all over the place and I'm fine as long as it isn't intentional.

So… we've talked about what we expect/don't want/where we are prepared to go with it, and we're still both into the idea. But, is there anything I've missed (and yes, it will be safe sex). Thanks in advance.

 

[kinkymindnbody]

You can never be prepared 100%. Expect the unexpected. Go into this relationship with a open mind. Meet in a neutral place bar restaurant etc. Make sure the vibe is there. Have a word that is the signall you are good to go. Have a word that she is not ready to proceed tonight.

When you take the party to intimacy level you and your wife need to have safe words and agreed limits. Some guys agree to boundaries and then forget and cant resist to tempt fate. They need to leave immediately. Never let a person come back to your home. To many weirdos and scammers now days. Men and women both. Use reputable sites and magazines and clubs.

Last but not least JEALOUSY! We all think we can swing and watch our wives and husbands with other partners!!!! It takes a strong person to watch there partner be with a person of the opposite sex who isnt there spouse. Some find it immensely arousing! Some get very very mad and have to stop and leave immediately. You have to be prepared for both. You may be aroused and she may be mad or vice versa. You need to be open and honest with each other. Communication is the key.

I have seen swinging ruin solid long term marriages! Be careful what you wish for! Have fun but think long and hard.

 

[Gunnlaug]

You can never be prepared 100%. Expect the unexpected. Go into this relationship with a open mind. Meet in a neutral place bar restaurant etc. Make sure the vibe is there. Have a word that is the signall you are good to go. Have a word that she is not ready to proceed tonight.

When you take the party to intimacy level you and your wife need to have safe words and agreed limits. Some guys agree to boundaries and then forget and cant resist to tempt fate. They need to leave immediately. Never let a person come back to your home. To many weirdos and scammers now days. Men and women both. Use reputable sites and magazines and clubs.

Last but not least JEALOUSY! We all think we can swing and watch our wives and husbands with other partners!!!! It takes a strong person to watch there partner be with a person of the opposite sex who isnt there spouse. Some find it immensely arousing! Some get very very mad and have to stop and leave immediately. You have to be prepared for both. You may be aroused and she may be mad or vice versa. You need to be open and honest with each other. Communication is the key.

I have seen swinging ruin solid long term marriages! Be careful what you wish for! Have fun but think long and hard.

Thanks. These are issues which we discussed at length but we're both aware that it doesn't matter how much one talks about it in advance the reality will probably be different - to a degree we are happy with or not.

I have certainly been very clear that communication is everything, and I think we are both proceeding with out eyes open.