Female dom in search of... (NO MEN!)

[nightmistress]

(Why no men you may ask? I'm married to a wonderful man, not interested in cheating on him or breaking our marriage).

So what am I searching for you may ask? Well I'm looking for the right woman to share my heart with. I'm bisexual and my husband has given his blessing to search for the right woman for me. I want to fall in love, sharing my darker self with her. I'd like a submissive woman, since the only person I let dominate me is my husband (yes, I am a switch.) She must be willing to share with my husband and she has to accept that I have two children, my family always comes first. If I find what I seek, I will be asking her to join the family. Must not be any younger than 22 or any older than 38. If you are interested, please say hi.

Update!!!!
Ladies, if you are just looking for a little fun and nothing serious, my husband and I came to an agreement. I can play all I want, but it stays online and the play stops once I find the right woman. Online play is open to ladies ages 21 to 44.

 

[Primalex]

(Why no men you may ask? I'm married to a wonderful man, not interested in cheating on him or breaking our marriage).

So what am I searching for you may ask? Well I'm looking for the right woman to share my heart with. I'm bisexual and my husband has given his blessing to search for the right woman for me. I want to fall in love, sharing my darker self with her. I'd like a submissive woman, since the only person I let dominate me is my husband (yes, I am a switch.) She must be willing to share with my husband and she has to accept that I have two children, my family always comes first. If I find what I seek, I will be asking her to join the family. Must not be any younger than 22 or any older than 38. If you are interested, please say hi.

So you want someone who is female, bisexual, submissive, who will put you over her partner (or even better single and unwilling to find a partner) and she should accept that her importance is just below the family dog...?

 

[nightmistress]

So you want someone who is female, bisexual, submissive, who will put you over her partner (or even better single and unwilling to find a partner) and she should accept that her importance is just below the family dog...?

That is not what I said, I never said that the woman I was looking for would not be important. Do not put words in my mouth. (And by the way just because somebody is single doesn't mean that they are unwilling to find a partner, it just means they haven't found the person for them yet. My mother is a single parent and it isn't because she didn't look for a partner, she just couldn't find the right person for her. And she doesn't let that run her life). It's obvious to me Primalex that you didn't actually READ my message.

I want a woman I can share my life with, the other side of me that I can't let most people see. I want to fall in love with her, share the good and bad times with her. I want to be able to talk to her when my hubby is driving me up the wall. I will respect her and treat her like my princess, for she will be precious to me. Yes I would like her to be single (because I want her to join my family if everything works out the way I want it to) and I would like it if she didn't have any children (I have two of my own and with my adhd that's enough). Yes I'd like her to be submissive (because I do have a dominate side I can't share with my husband. I am his equal in the house, his submissive in the bedroom and I like it that way. But the dominate side of me still yearns.) But I would never treat anybody like they are an animal, even though I have a lot of respect for animals. They act better than some people do. As I said before, I would treat my woman with nothing but respect and love. She would be my princess, the other part of my soul. A part I would treasure always.

 

[Primalex]

Yes I would like her to be single (because I want her to join my family

So, this means he gets to fuck her, too, in the end?

It's obvious to me Primalex that you didn't actually READ my message.

Oh, I do. I just have the habit of reversing roles sometimes - replacing the female protagonist with a male one and then making my mind up about the...feasibility. The rationale that it is not cheating when you are fucked by someone else, you also love, just because it's the 'right' gender - well, this concept usually comes from a guy who sees two women in a household as two sex partners, not as a poly-relationship, where the second female _will_ take time and energy away from what was previously between the couple.


Please don't get me wrong, I truly believe that you have every right to seek whatever makes you happy. And I'm glad that you clarified some things.

 

[nightmistress]

So, this means he gets to fuck her, too, in the end?



Oh, I do. I just have the habit of reversing roles sometimes - replacing the female protagonist with a male one and then making my mind up about the...feasibility.


Please don't get me wrong, I truly believe that you have every right to seek whatever makes you happy. And I'm glad that you clarified some things.

In all honesty Primalex, the future is up in the air. Right now my husband is off limits (I've had too many women try to get in between us). He can watch and take me, but nothing more at least at first. There would have to be such a high level of trust between myself and the woman I seek for me to even let her touch my husband, let alone fuck him or him fuck her. Trust is a huge issue for me, I've been cheated on and betrayed too many times to count. I had to fight once to save my marriage from a harlot that tried to make my husband stray while I was struggling with postpartum depression after the birth of our first daughter. I'll be damned before I let that happen again. I've told my husband several times that I might never let him be with the woman I choose and he is okay with that. He just wants me to be happy and has hope that someday there might be enough trust to let go of my fears. I told him I would try to trust, but not to get his hopes up. For now he's content enough to do what I said before (watch and have me). It's not easy for me to even open myself to being with a woman again. The last woman I loved shattered my heart badly. It's been three years since she was in my life and I still hurt over her betrayal. While I am scared to be doing this, I am hopeful. I have a lot of myself to share with the woman I seek, parts of me I have had to kept hidden for too long. I can't wait to share that part of me with her.

 

[staciliv]

(Why no men you may ask? I'm married to a wonderful man, not interested in cheating on him or breaking our marriage).

So what am I searching for you may ask? Well I'm looking for the right woman to share my heart with. I'm bisexual and my husband has given his blessing to search for the right woman for me. I want to fall in love, sharing my darker self with her. I'd like a submissive woman, since the only person I let dominate me is my husband (yes, I am a switch.) She must be willing to share with my husband and she has to accept that I have two children, my family always comes first. If I find what I seek, I will be asking her to join the family. Must not be any younger than 22 or any older than 38. If you are interested, please say hi.

Crap, and here I just turned forty!

 

[nightmistress]

Crap, and here I just turned forty!

Well it would take a very special 40 year old to make the cut. I don't make promises though. We would have to have enough in common to make it work and enough things that differ so life wouldn't be a constant battle over who knows better etc (the last older woman I liked kept reminding me that I was younger than her and that I didn't know squat about anything. I know what I want, what I don't, and lots of other things. I don't want to constantly be trying to prove myself to somebody).

 

[Primalex]

In all honesty Primalex, the future is up in the air. [...]

Thank you for your answer and the best of luck to you then.

 

[nightmistress]

Thank you for your answer and the best of luck to you then.

Thank you for asking those questions, making clear what I'm hoping for will hopefully lead to less people who just want to mess around. And thanks, I hope that the luck will hold true and help me find what I seek.