Get over the awkwardness associated with roleplaying

[dirtynaughtygrl]

Maybe it is because I don't take myself very seriously, but I suck at roleplaying. I'll start chatting with someone, hit it off, things seem fun and flirty, and then they start roleplaying and I choke. I get flustered and tend to either disappear to let them down nicely.
I'm literate and educated and can write pretty well if I tried hard enough sure. But for some reason, when proposed with the idea of roleplaying with someone, I feel like I lose all intelligence and I just can't think of a coherent thing to say that wouldn't just kill the mood. =/

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Like everything, roleplaying requires an aptitude for it. Some people are marvels at it, some are finished before they start.

 

[SashaGaga999]

I think one of the other big things is just picking scenarios you are actually into.

I have a way easier time, and have way more fun, when I am RPing stuff that I actually fantasize about, vs. just doing it because someone else is into it.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Yeah, roleplaying used to be the domain of awkward nerdy people (like me!) but you'd be surprised who roleplays these days. Vin Diesel taught Judi Dench to roleplay when they were filming "Riddick" together, and I hear after that she started roleplaying with her granddaughters. I like Pathfinder myself but whether your preferences are for freeform or dice-heavy tactical stuff -

- oh, THAT kind of roleplaying. As you were.

 

[Hipshot1554]

Maybe it is because I don't take myself very seriously, but I suck at roleplaying. I'll start chatting with someone, hit it off, things seem fun and flirty, and then they start roleplaying and I choke. I get flustered and tend to either disappear to let them down nicely.
I'm literate and educated and can write pretty well if I tried hard enough sure. But for some reason, when proposed with the idea of roleplaying with someone, I feel like I lose all intelligence and I just can't think of a coherent thing to say that wouldn't just kill the mood. =/

Roleplay as I see it done in the threads seems too structured. It's more of a story collaboration.

With the right person I enjoy a chat that feels more like pillow talk.

 

[Ewobbit]

Maybe it is because I don't take myself very seriously, but I suck at roleplaying. I'll start chatting with someone, hit it off, things seem fun and flirty, and then they start roleplaying and I choke. I get flustered and tend to either disappear to let them down nicely.
I'm literate and educated and can write pretty well if I tried hard enough sure. But for some reason, when proposed with the idea of roleplaying with someone, I feel like I lose all intelligence and I just can't think of a coherent thing to say that wouldn't just kill the mood. =/

Actually, in my experience the opposite is more likely true.

Somewhere along Junior High, being cool becomes a lot more important than having fun. I've been there. I've had kids there. I've had grandkids there. I've been mentor to kids that age. And right about 12-14 is when we typically get so damn worried about what other people think that we forget how to play. We become afraid of judgement, of looking stupid.

Back it up and think about what you said at the end. "I just can't think of a coherent thing to say that wouldn't just kill the mood."

Why does it have to be coherent? Why are you so worried about "killing the mood"? What does that even mean to you?

See? You are still taking play too serious and making it work. If you didn't jump up to do a cheer and accidentally step on his dick, more than likely you didn't kill the mood.

And if you did, it's no big thing. It won't take hardly any effort to get things rolling again. Let yourself remember what it was like to be just a kid and not give a shit what anyone thought as long as you were having fun.

And fuck 'em if they can't take the heat, they need to get their ass out of the kitchen instead of messing with the hot cook.

 

[amofiga]

Roleplaying is basically acting. Some people have an aptitude for it and some don't. One of the key things is to try letting your own personality go and get into the mindset of the person you are to be. Again, I suppose that is basically what method acting is. I suppose if you are going to role play or act, you have to be good at fantasizing and can temporarily suspend reality.

 

[Hard_Rom]

Channel a movie actor in a scene. Method acting. Get in character and stay in character. How would it play out in a movie.

Movie clips, gifs and pics to get gist of role.

The less of you in the character the easier it is.

 

[Primalex]

Maybe it is because I don't take myself very seriously, but I suck at roleplaying. I'll start chatting with someone, hit it off, things seem fun and flirty, and then they start roleplaying and I choke. I get flustered and tend to either disappear to let them down nicely.
I'm literate and educated and can write pretty well if I tried hard enough sure. But for some reason, when proposed with the idea of roleplaying with someone, I feel like I lose all intelligence and I just can't think of a coherent thing to say that wouldn't just kill the mood. =/

Uhm, you know you don't have to roleplay if you don't like it, right? It's also not the only way to have an orgasm together with someone.

So I've heard.

 

[Penuche]

I have found that it has to be something that I really enjoy and I have to "get into" the scene by placing myself there...visualizing what is going on. <snip>

Mostly this.^ When it works, it should flow, without you being that aware that you're dragging out the next line.

Where it starts to unravel is when somebody else in the RP tells you that they push you to the bed or against the wall without saying which way you're facing. Similarly if you're blindfolded or tied and then three replies later (without mentioning any untying) they say that you can see their face or move your hands.

Continuity matters, and I get the feeling that some people are just not concentrating if they can't even remember where they're penetrating.

 

[tustin92614]

I double suck at RP

I, too, sometimes get into a fun chat, and the woman wants to RP. I try and try and try, and it just won't work for me. I also won't dress up for Halloween, and only read non-fiction. Ha ha. Guess i am stuck in reality. And that really does suck.

 

[malefica]

I don't do sexual RP (only implied/fade to black) but instead RP high fantasy, sci-fi and horror. Perhaps that is why I have never had that problem?

 

[OTCurve]

Yeah, roleplaying used to be the domain of awkward nerdy people (like me!) but you'd be surprised who roleplays these days. Vin Diesel taught Judi Dench to roleplay when they were filming "Riddick" together, and I hear after that she started roleplaying with her granddaughters. I like Pathfinder myself but whether your preferences are for freeform or dice-heavy tactical stuff -

- oh, THAT kind of roleplaying. As you were.

My thought was "bedroom or orc battle?"

Nice to know I wasn't the only one...

 

[monanympho]

I would like feedback from lit members who have rp with me. Do send me a pm. I think I am rather good at it.

 

[ChibiFangirl]

Maybe it is because I don't take myself very seriously, but I suck at roleplaying. I'll start chatting with someone, hit it off, things seem fun and flirty, and then they start roleplaying and I choke. I get flustered and tend to either disappear to let them down nicely.
I'm literate and educated and can write pretty well if I tried hard enough sure. But for some reason, when proposed with the idea of roleplaying with someone, I feel like I lose all intelligence and I just can't think of a coherent thing to say that wouldn't just kill the mood. =/

I know how you feel. I used to do (non sexual) forum roleplaying when I was a preteen, but I stopped doing it and now it kinda feels like an adult playing pretend with a kid. But I've gotten used to it, because reality is overrated.

 

[RedSilk69]

Actually, in my experience the opposite is more likely true.

Somewhere along Junior High, being cool becomes a lot more important than having fun. I've been there. I've had kids there. I've had grandkids there. I've been mentor to kids that age. And right about 12-14 is when we typically get so damn worried about what other people think that we forget how to play. We become afraid of judgement, of looking stupid.

Back it up and think about what you said at the end. "I just can't think of a coherent thing to say that wouldn't just kill the mood."

Why does it have to be coherent? Why are you so worried about "killing the mood"? What does that even mean to you?

See? You are still taking play too serious and making it work. If you didn't jump up to do a cheer and accidentally step on his dick, more than likely you didn't kill the mood.

And if you did, it's no big thing. It won't take hardly any effort to get things rolling again. Let yourself remember what it was like to be just a kid and not give a shit what anyone thought as long as you were having fun.

And fuck 'em if they can't take the heat, they need to get their ass out of the kitchen instead of messing with the hot cook.

Well said! I have the same issues as dirtynaughtygirl, not only with roleplaying but also with seeing myself as sexually attractive - but roleplaying is *play,* and sex is *fun,* and I need to stop being serious and just *go.* Thanks!

 

[Cupcake5]

Being someone else

I think the reason I enjoy RP is because you get to be someone completely different. People have asked me to do it as me / in a similar life situation as me and, like you, I choked. I know everyone has already said it but distance yourself from the role, do not use your own name and just think "what would X say / do here?".

Although, if you don't like it, don't do it. No one ever had to give me advice on how to enjoy chocolate!