Do you think about other men or women when having sex with your partner?

[SusanJillParker]

My ex-husband told me something that I've never forgotten. He told me something that has always stayed with me. He told me something that was as complimentary as it was disturbing. He told me that I was the first woman he had ever been with that didn't make him think of someone else when having sex with me. He told me, for him to become aroused enough to cum, he always had to think about someone's wife, girlfriend, or a celebrity.

Wow! How's that for a convoluted confession? Only a man would admit to something like that.

"Um, gee thanks, I think."

Now, I wonder if all men are like that?

Except for sometimes thinking of Brad Pitt, I don't recall thinking about anyone else, especially when having sex with my man. I always think about the one I'm with in the way that I dance with the man who brought me to the dance.

What about you? Have you thought of others when having sex with your partner?

Maybe you think of a celebrity. Maybe you think of a friend, a neighbor, a co-worker, or a relative. It's as normal as it is healthy to have sexual fantasies, even while having sex.

"Here, wear this black wig, stuff these facecloths down the front of your nightgown, put this pillow up the back of your nightgown, and talk stupid in the way that Kim Kardashian does." said Frank.

Donna looked at her husband of 18-years as if he was drunk, crazy, or both.

"In your dreams," said Donna. "When you earn as much as Kanye West is when I'll try and look more like Kim Kardashian asshole."

Maybe you're so happy to be with the one that you're with that you don't think of anyone but him or her.

Yet, if you do think of someone else, who do you think about when having sex with your special someone?

 

[slutindianwife]

Yes I do

 

[lovecraft68]

Well we role play a lot so we think of whatever characters we're playing not so much a real person. You know, sometimes she's the slutty intern, naughty coed, other times the hot milf who picked me up at a bar etc...

So I guess the answer is yes, but they're not real people, just the part we play.

If the direct question is do we envision specific people, like Celebs then for the most part no.

Except for Halloween when she dressed as Abby from NCIS with her hair died black, pulled into pig tails and a dog collar, so at that point hard not to think of the 'real' Abby, but in that instance it was pretty much the point.

 

[DwellerDark]

I never have. I just enjoy being with her.

 

[GoldenCojones]

My ex-husband told me something that I've never forgotten. He told me something that has always stayed with me. He told me something that was as complimentary as it was disturbing. He told me that I was the first woman he had ever been with that didn't make him think of someone else when having sex with me. He told me, for him to become aroused enough to cum, he always had to think about someone's wife, girlfriend, or a celebrity.

Wow! How's that for a convoluted confession? Only a man would admit to something like that.

"Um, gee thanks, I think."

Now, I wonder if all men are like that?

Except for sometimes thinking of Brad Pitt, I don't recall thinking about anyone else, especially when having sex with my man. I always think about the one I'm with in the way that I dance with the man who brought me to the dance.

What about you? Have you thought of others when having sex with your partner?

Maybe you think of a celebrity. Maybe you think of a friend, a neighbor, a co-worker, or a relative. It's as normal as it is healthy to have sexual fantasies, even while having sex.

"Here, wear this black wig, stuff these facecloths down the front of your nightgown, put this pillow up the back of your nightgown, and talk stupid in the way that Kim Kardashian does." said Frank.

Donna looked at her husband of 18-years as if he was drunk, crazy, or both.

"In your dreams," said Donna. "When you earn as much as Kanye West is when I'll try and look more like Kim Kardashian asshole."

Maybe you're so happy to be with the one that you're with that you don't think of anyone but him or her.

Yet, if you do think of someone else, who do you think about when having sex with your special someone?

The only time I think of someone else while I'm having sex is when I'm getting close and I need a little help with the control. Then I think of Nancy Pelosi and Wham! I'm no longer near cumming. I'd think of Dianne Feinstein but then I'd lose my erection and become impotent for a week.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

I never think of others when I'm with you. I go for whats special about you and anchor there.

 

[Setanta84]

The kind of guy who says that is probably also the kind of guy who finds pleasing a woman an esoteric art.

If you aren't focused on the person you're having sex with, you're basically treating another human being as a sentient masturbation aid, which makes you an asshole.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

The kind of guy who says that is probably also the kind of guy who finds pleasing a woman an esoteric art.

If you aren't focused on the person you're having sex with, you're basically treating another human being as a sentient masturbation aid, which makes you an asshole.

I'm no prince but my wife of 42 years keeps me around. At Christmas dinner she told the gang, IT WAS ALWAYS ABOUT ME, AND HE SEEMED TO KNOW WHAT I WANTED.

WHAT DOES SHE REALLY WANT? is always my priority. You cant be with her if youre with another.

 

[FantasyXY]

Nope not me...

I always think about my wife when I'm with someone else.

 

[49greg]

When I'm making love with my wife, that's who I'm thinking of. However, when I'm having sex by myself, I generally think of generic other women, no-one specifically, well except that one time I had that day-dream about Miss O'Donnell, my seventh grade home room teacher, but that was before I was married.

 

[Nathan_Brazil]

Never.

 

[SusanJillParker]

The only time I think of someone else while I'm having sex is when I'm getting close and I need a little help with the control. Then I think of Nancy Pelosi and Wham! I'm no longer near cumming. I'd think of Dianne Feinstein but then I'd lose my erection and become impotent for a week.

That's funny but for me it would be Mitch McConnell, Boehner, and Ryan.

 

[SusanJillParker]

When I'm making love with my wife, that's who I'm thinking of. However, when I'm having sex by myself, I generally think of generic other women, no-one specifically, well except that one time I had that day-dream about Miss O'Donnell, my seventh grade home room teacher, but that was before I was married.

Ever since I saw him in Thelma and Louise, Brad Pitt does it for me.

 

[SusanJillParker]

The kind of guy who says that is probably also the kind of guy who finds pleasing a woman an esoteric art.

If you aren't focused on the person you're having sex with, you're basically treating another human being as a sentient masturbation aid, which makes you an asshole.

I definitely agree with you. Why bother being with the one you're with if you're thinking of someone else.

"Susan, honey? You just called me...Brad."

"Um, sorry John. I, um, guess I said that because you look so much like Brad Pitt."

"Thank you but we both know that I don't look anything like Brad Pitt...Angelina."