Need Advice: Creampie

[newcouple1128]

Well, I made the mistake of posting this in the "general" section and absolutely got trolled to hell and back; hoping for better results here.

I'm fairly new, some of you may have seen me around the last few days. I was wondering if you all could give me some feedback, advice, or just general comments on the subject of creampies.

My wife and I are newlyweds and the topic is extremely exciting to me. I can't think of a better way to feel more intimate and closer to one another than finishing inside her. She has been on the pill ever since she was in her early teens but she is still worried about getting pregnant if I was to finish inside her, as a result she doesn't let me.

The thought of finishing inside her, and even going down on her post orgasm, is a huge turn on to me. How many people do this? Is it common for couples who are on the pill to do this? Has anyone been in my situation before and how did you get through it? Thank you all for the advice and being easy on me.

 

[stiv837]

creampie

I have done it many times, the more you do it the more you will like it.

 

[NorCalCumCannon]

Any woman who is on the pill, or the one who couldn't have kids, usually let me cum in them

 

[newcouple1128]

Thank you all for the responses. I am wondering what a female perspective on this would be, other than my wifes that is.

 

[JulieAnn42]

When I have sex, I want him to finish in me. She has no idea what she is missing if she has never let a guy come in her.

 

[newcouple1128]

When I have sex, I want him to finish in me. She has no idea what she is missing if she has never let a guy come in her.

If you don't mind me asking, if you remember the first time you let a guy finish inside you, were you worried? Did it get easier over time? I think it's just her being young and never really having experienced it before so she isn't sure how to feel.

 

[horny243]

In my situation I cum in side my wife's pussy almost every time we have sex and I do love it but so does she.

Now I have also had a vasectomy and my wife got her tubes tie many years ago so we are pretty safe in not getting pregnant.

Me being a man know what I feel like when I cum inside her pussy but from what I have been told by the women I have been with they say it feels absolutely amazing.
Because a big part of a woman cuming is the feeling of you inside her and I have been told that the fuller they feel the better it feels for them and as you get closer to cuming your cock gets bigger and makes them feel fuller which makes them cum then you as you cum and your cock twitches you could make them cum again.

You could try wearing a condom and cuming inside her pussy that way at first.

Or I did have an ex once that would figure out when she was ovulating and when she was I would cum on her or in her mouth but when she wasn't then I would cum in her pussy

 

[newcouple1128]

In my situation I cum in side my wife's pussy almost every time we have sex and I do love it but so does she.

Now I have also had a vasectomy and my wife got her tubes tie many years ago so we are pretty safe in not getting pregnant.

Me being a man know what I feel like when I cum inside her pussy but from what I have been told by the women I have been with they say it feels absolutely amazing.
Because a big part of a woman cuming is the feeling of you inside her and I have been told that the fuller they feel the better it feels for them and as you get closer to cuming your cock gets bigger and makes them feel fuller which makes them cum then you as you cum and your cock twitches you could make them cum again.

You could try wearing a condom and cuming inside her pussy that way at first.

Or I did have an ex once that would figure out when she was ovulating and when she was I would cum on her or in her mouth but when she wasn't then I would cum in her pussy

We used to use condoms, and from time to time still do just so I can get the feeling of cumming inside her but it's never the same as it would feel without it.

 

[horny243]

We used to use condoms, and from time to time still do just so I can get the feeling of cumming inside her but it's never the same as it would feel without it.

No you are right it does feel amazing for you and her when you get so worked up and so horny and you get your self so built up and then you cum inside her pussy and you will want to do it again and again... And she will most likely want you to cum in her pussy again and again too

 

[newcouple1128]

No you are right it does feel amazing for you and her when you get so worked up and so horny and you get your self so built up and then you cum inside her pussy and you will want to do it again and again... And she will most likely want you to cum in her pussy again and again too

I hope so, I just want her to be able to enjoy the intimacy of it and now be worried.

 

[pplwatching]

This is a very complicated question. My wife had a hysterectomy a few years ago, but before that we used several different forms of birth control. As a couple, it has always been more intimate having sex without a condom.

During the times when we weren't trying to get pregnant, my wife and I discussed the failure rates of each kind of birth control. We also knew that we were more fortunate than many couples in that an unplanned pregnancy would not be a catastrophe. We could financially afford a baby and we would both welcome and accept and love it unconditionally. We could afford more risk than other couples using the same forms of birth control. When she got pregnant while using an IUD, that mutual understanding and resolution to see the pregnancy through was the true measure of our intimacy.

It sounds to me like you and your wife are not on the same page with respect to the amount of risk that you are willing to accept, or how you will deal with an unplanned pregnancy. In your situation, no form of birth control is infallible. It seems like your wife is unwilling to accept a pregnancy under any circumstances, and condoms are her way of managing her risk. You are more open to the idea.

Giving my wife oral after orgasm is incredibly erotic and intimate for me, but less so for my wife. It seems like those of us who are turned on by it are very turned on by it. The way that you phrased your subject line and original question leads me to ask if it's possible that the fantasy of eating her after orgasm may be confusing the issue? Are you confusing the intimacy of having sex without a condom and the excitement of a powerful fantasy?

Ether way, your wife isn't looking at this from the perspective of intimacy the way that you are. To her, this is about family planning. That's a pretty big disconnect. Family planning decisions are extremely personal; one of many things in life where what other people do, think, or consider normal doesn't really matter. You can't cajole your wife into giving up the condoms, but you can discuss her concerns. What are her reasons for an abundance of caution about pregnancy? Do you agree with her reasons? Do you you both eventually want kids? Never want kids?

Have you discussed compromises, like cumming on her tummy, on her breasts, or in her mouth and then sharing it with you? There are many paths to sexual intimacy in a love relationship. Communicating is one of the most powerful.

Best of luck to you both

 

[Liz_UK]

I do this with my husband occasionally.
We both really enjoy it and it leads to some interesting kisses afterward haha.

 

[NorCalCumCannon]

Thinking back, I don't think I've ever given a proper creampie since I always cum deep and hold my cock in for a few seconds to a few minutes

 

[Learin]

Taking precautions is a great thing. Unwanted pregnancies are a royal pain in the arse and your wife is well-aware of it.

The best times to have a creampie are the days immediately after a period. There's almost no chances of pregnancy at all. Or your wife could go on the pill, but it's not something I'd suggest to anyone (I hate that myself). Other contraceptives are diaphragm along with a spermicidic cream, which is a hell of a lot effective and convenient for some couples. Also see Copper-T, if you're interested.

The best thing to do would be to contact a gyeno and see all the solutions for yourself. Except condoms (provided it doesn't break during intercourse), no contraception is 100% effective.

Good luck.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

Pplwatching.. that was a great post

 

[newcouple1128]

Thanks for all of the responses, I will try my best to respond to them.

So, I'm sorry, I might have made it a bit confusing so let me explain better. She is on the pill, and has been for many years. As a result, we do not use condoms, I just pull out.

Her fear is getting pregnant while on the pill, because of it failing for some reason. We all know someone who has gotten pregnant while using birth control so I understand where she is coming from.

As for us wanting kids, correct, she doesn't currently want kids and I would be okay with it. Shes younger than I am so I understand and respect why she doesn't want kids right now. We are financially stable and able to raise a child if the situation happened so I am not as worried as she may be.

As for the fantasy of going down on her being more exciting than the situation itself, I disagree. I just want to feel intimate and hold her as I finish inside her. I don't think there is a closer feeling in the world than that.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

If she's worried about getting pregnant while on the pill, she should want you to wear a condom all the time. Sperm make their way in throughout intercourse, not only during ejaculation.

 

[pplwatching]

I empathize with both of you. I commend both you and your wife for realizing that she's not ready to be a parent yet. I also empathize with the natural desire to finish inside of her.

Between the subject of this thread and what you wrote, as a complete stranger knowing nothing more than what you've written in a few brief posts, the oral sex issue muddies the water. It's difficult to see the heart of the matter. Thank you for clarifying.

One of my (many) opinions about marriage is that there is a fine line between communicating our needs and desires to our spouses, and trying to change their minds. While it's good that you are financially able to support a family, your wife isn't ready to welcome a new life yet. While some couples are willing to accept the failure rate of the pill, your wife isn't and is abundantly cautious. Once each of you understands the other's point of view, the question would seem to be "where is the middle ground"?

Learin suggested using a second form of birth control to help minimize the chances of pregnancy, such as a barrier or spermacide. Are you willing to wear a condom so that you can orgasm inside of her while you embrace her? Your wife may find that a diaphragm gives her enough peace of mind to allow you to ejaculate inside of her. Insurance probably won't cover two forms of birth control, but the peace of mind may be worth the cost.

If your wife isn't willing to entertain the idea of having you cum inside of her at all, then you may need to explore the possibility that an event in her past is affecting your marriage now.

Best,

 

[newcouple1128]

I know, logically it doesn't make much sense.

 

[newcouple1128]

I empathize with both of you. I commend both you and your wife for realizing that she's not ready to be a parent yet. I also empathize with the natural desire to finish inside of her.

Between the subject of this thread and what you wrote, as a complete stranger knowing nothing more than what you've written in a few brief posts, the oral sex issue muddies the water. It's difficult to see the heart of the matter. Thank you for clarifying.

One of my (many) opinions about marriage is that there is a fine line between communicating our needs and desires to our spouses, and trying to change their minds. While it's good that you are financially able to support a family, your wife isn't ready to welcome a new life yet. While some couples are willing to accept the failure rate of the pill, your wife isn't and is abundantly cautious. Once each of you understands the other's point of view, the question would seem to be "where is the middle ground"?

Learin suggested using a second form of birth control to help minimize the chances of pregnancy, such as a barrier or spermacide. Are you willing to wear a condom so that you can orgasm inside of her while you embrace her? Your wife may find that a diaphragm gives her enough peace of mind to allow you to ejaculate inside of her. Insurance probably won't cover two forms of birth control, but the peace of mind may be worth the cost.

If your wife isn't willing to entertain the idea of having you cum inside of her at all, then you may need to explore the possibility that an event in her past is affecting your marriage now.

Best,

Thanks for the great post! I agree with a lot of points. I think its just a mixture of her being young and it never happening before so she is hesitant. I don't think there is anything in the past that has happened, more so a lack of stuff happening in the past.

Either way, I can't force it on her and I need to find a middle ground that works for the both of us. She has mentioned getting on a different birth control, the one that goes in your arm, and talking to her doctor to see what he thinks of it all. I honestly just think she doesn't fully understand the pill and how effective it can be and that this is exactly what it is meant for. Shes a very naive, inexperienced woman. Super intelligent, and the love of my life, but just naive.

 

[pplwatching]

If she's worried about getting pregnant while on the pill, she should want you to wear a condom all the time. Sperm make their way in throughout intercourse, not only during ejaculation.

While true, statistically speaking the failure rates are multiplied. The failure rate of withdrawl alone is 4% per year. The pill has a perfect-use failure rate of 0.3% Combined, .04 * 0.003 = .00012. Still not perfect, but she appears to be happy with that amount of risk. Diaphragms seem to be in the 6-7% range, which is comparable to withdrawl so that might be worth suggesting to set her mind at ease.

 

[newcouple1128]

While true, statistically speaking the failure rates are multiplied. The failure rate of withdrawl alone is 4% per year. The pill has a perfect-use failure rate of 0.3% Combined, .04 * 0.003 = .00012. Still not perfect, but she appears to be happy with that amount of risk. Diaphragms seem to be in the 6-7% range, which is comparable to withdrawl so that might be worth suggesting to set her mind at ease.

Agreed. Hopefully, once she goes to her doctor and discusses things with him, and gets a different method of birth control, she will feel better.

 

[bunny4med]

there are various methods to avoid a baby. birth control aside, you should communicate to your partner what you like and don't like and vice versa. a lot of inhibition is basically lack of experience or body shyness. learn to please your partner and teach them what you want. explore and experiment. you will both enjoy yourselves and sex better.

 

[lynn-23]

I agree with bunny. I know it can be awkward to have those talks. Even though you are in love and extremely close, it can see awkward to talk about those things (perhaps nervous or embarrassed that the spouse will think you are weird.) However, my experience is that once you force yourself to have a very frank open conversation about sex, you will amazed at how relieved you will feel and how open your conversations will be from then on. Don't be afraid to offer to your wife to go to her next doc appointment if she is comfortable with that. And don't be afraid to ask questions. B/C pills are very effective but there are other medications etc that can interfere. A woman I used to work with was on the pill, her and her husband did not want kids. She got sick and went on antibiotics. Guess what, yep, interfered with the B/C, she got pregnant. That is not mean to scare, but to show that there are real concerns she may have and understanding them, and how to avoid those problems (thru education) can help find away around the problem. I hope you two can work this out. I think having your lover ejaculate inside you is the most amazing and loving feeling in the world as well as being unbelievably sexy.

 

[JulieAnn42]

If you don't mind me asking, if you remember the first time you let a guy finish inside you, were you worried? Did it get easier over time? I think it's just her being young and never really having experienced it before so she isn't sure how to feel.

I remember it very well it was after I got engaged. Yes, I was worried, I was 21, had not completed college, nor taken the CPA exam.