My wife wants to be with a woman.

[Ferdiar]

How does one make this happen? Lots of women that want to be with both of us and I'm down, but how does a couple approach this?

 

[Sigmund7]

Are you looking for a friend or a stranger? Either way, if someone seems accommodating, just ask politely. Many will say no, some will say yes.

 

[blowit]

How does one make this happen? Lots of women that want to be with both of us and I'm down, but how does a couple approach this?

My wife is the same and has my consent. She is however to shy/scared to initiate anything. I would love to know how to go about making it happen for her.

 

[vizio]

How does one make this happen? Lots of women that want to be with both of us and I'm down, but how does a couple approach this?

Well you can always visit Las Vages if you're close. It is very easy to procure the services of an escort.

 

[Whiskey1965]

How does one make this happen? Lots of women that want to be with both of us and I'm down, but how does a couple approach this?

Let your wife do the leg work and maybe they will invite you to play with them.

 

[policywank]

How does one make this happen? Lots of women that want to be with both of us and I'm down, but how does a couple approach this?

Let her approach it herself the same as any bi or lesbian woman would find a mate. Any involvement from you is a completely separate matter. Most women who want to be with another woman just want to be with her. They aren't inherently interested in you any more than a guy is interested in his date bringing her boyfriend along. There is a time and place for that but it isn't a natural extension of the one to one connection.

 

[babydoll235]

I hear that swingers clubs might be a good place to start.

 

[AnnieBonneau]

How does one make this happen? Lots of women that want to be with both of us and I'm down, but how does a couple approach this?

Has she indicated that she wants you to participate?

 

[Ishkar]

She may want you to help her find someone [as in, someone you approve of] but that does not necessarily mean she wants you to watch or join in.

 

[NickCarraway12]

I think it's pretty common. My wife has a very good female friend who I suspect that they've at least thought of it with each other. If it was what she wanted, it would be ok.

 

[PegMeKatePlease]

Adding my two cents.

If my wife wanted to enjoy the curves of another woman...

...the tastes and warmth of a woman's skin..

...the special bond she'd get from another of her own gender...

...I'd say yes.

 

[Glycerinelimits]

My wife and I experienced another woman somewhat accidentally in las vegas. My wife is very busty and another very busty gal sat down next to her at the slot machines and we all started chatting. The short version of the story is we ended up in our room as she wanted to compare our suite to what she had across the street. Then her and my wife started talking about what a pain it is to have large breasts, finding clothing, bras that fit right, uninvited stares and comments etc., but then they started talking about how sexy they are and how as they've gotten older that they enjoy their breasts so much more....then all of sudden they were kissing and then I found myself laying on the bed with my wife perched on my reverse cowgirl as she and this woman made out and played with each other's breasts for what seemed like forever. They then got in the tub and things got even hotter.....long night......next day I couldn't believe what happened. It felt like a dream. My wife and I talked about it and we both weren't sure we would do it again as there were some feelings we were having about having another in our bed that we didn't like but on the other hand it was incredibly erotic. It is very intense to watch two woman continue when you need a moment to recover.....it speeds the recovery process that is for sure lol.......yes, we had been drinking

 

[beingtrue2me]

Has she indicated that she wants you to participate?

This is, to me, the first and biggest question to be asked. I am speaking from experience. My ex claimed he didn't really have an issue with me wanting to be with a woman. Then he did. Also it isn't the same. When I've been with a woman the last thing in the world I want is for a man to join. Not even to sit and watch. So before you and your erection jump into that idea I'd make sure you are both on the same page. If so, then enjoy. Cause I'm pretty sure you will.

 

[EquinoxRising]

How does one make this happen? Lots of women that want to be with both of us and I'm down, but how does a couple approach this?

Does your wife want you there? Typically starting online is the best move. (Unless you want to risk asking friends, getting them mad, and estranging them/you.)

 

[AnnieBonneau]

This is, to me, the first and biggest question to be asked. I am speaking from experience. My ex claimed he didn't really have an issue with me wanting to be with a woman. Then he did. Also it isn't the same. When I've been with a woman the last thing in the world I want is for a man to join. Not even to sit and watch. So before you and your erection jump into that idea I'd make sure you are both on the same page. If so, then enjoy. Cause I'm pretty sure you will.

I fantasize about being with other gals all the time and my husband is never in my fantasies.

 

[Nastygirl23]

Exactly.

Let her approach it herself the same as any bi or lesbian woman would find a mate. Any involvement from you is a completely separate matter. Most women who want to be with another woman just want to be with her. They aren't inherently interested in you any more than a guy is interested in his date bringing her boyfriend along. There is a time and place for that but it isn't a natural extension of the one to one connection.

 

[justherhusband]

Wow! That's just plain hot. Makes me want to book a trip to Vegas!

 

[Rockwell12]

I wish mine did

 

[bunny4med]

I have recently had my first lesbian experience in a 3some with my hubby. I initiated it with a friend who was bi-curious too. if it is with someone you know, it turns out to be a fantastic experience. she should see if any of her friends are curious.

 

[EquinoxRising]

she should see if any of her friends are curious.

And if they're not, but she asked, she could ruin friendships and alienate people.

 

[bunny4med]

And if they're not, but she asked, she could ruin friendships and alienate people.

I agree you don't just cold ask. you to have an intuition that that person is interested. neither myself nor my girlfriend were lesbians, but we flirted with each other and through conversations found out we were both bi-curious.

 

[EquinoxRising]

That's cool.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Mine too. That is why she has me as I love being in a lesbian relationship She is the top and I go where she takes me.

 

[Deleted member 1655181]

I fantasize about being with other gals all the time and my husband is never in my fantasies.

This is probably closer to how the real world works. IF she's fantasizing about and lusting for pussy, it's not about you. The "however" is some gals want to please her guy so much that she'll go through with requests for a 3some. But hey, what the hell do I know.

 

[Deleted member 1655181]

This thread needs resurrecting from the dead. Found this bit on AskMen. It puts a twist on meaning of "bi-curios". It's an interesting thought.

http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_200/200_dating_girl.html