Is this bad?

[cumcumcum555]

Xxxxxxxx

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[NippleMuncher]

As long as neither of you are in a relationship, then where's the harm, this isn't much different than flirting with someone at the bar that you don't intend to leave with or see again.

As for becoming emotionally attached, every person is an individual, if you are prone to attaching yourself to others, then this is NOT something you should be doing. If you take this interaction for what it is and keep it compartmentalized as just that, then you'll do fine.

 

[Eilan]

What raises a bit of a red flag here is that you say you find yourself thinking about this guy all the time. If, as NippleMuncher says, you can compartmentalize, then rock on.

I don't play around that much online or IRL. When I do, I can compartmentalize most of the time because my marriage dynamics (nothing is hidden from my husband) require that I do so. Notice, however, that I said "most of the time."

 

[cumcumcum555]

xxxxxxx

 

[imready2]

To clarify...Its not him per say I am thinking about all the time. I don't even really know him. It is the personal chatting with him, the sexual feelings, etc. I can't think about him all day I don't even know what he looks like.

You have to decide, why you are here. For many, it is just as you say, "...It is the personal chatting with him, the sexual feelings, etc. ..." Enjoy yourself!

 

[Cumference]

Bad!

Cold showers and prayer is your only hope!

 

[Hypoxia]

Are you in a personal physical relationship with someone or is this online thing all you have?

A good friend long ago in a primitive online world met a partner half a continent away. They have been married for 25 years now. Sometimes online hookups work.

 

[sexnovella]

Sounds like a fun kink

As long as it does not give you problems or takes all your time.

 

[subwannabe]

Women have a hard time separating love and emotions from instances like these. It is unhealthy to become obsessed with an imaginary friend and it could easily be detrimental to your real life. If you can keep emotions separate and not obsess over this imaginary friend then you can enjoy it for what it is and not expect anything more than what it is. Even guys can hurt their real lives by obsessing with porn and these types of relationships and become content with the status quo instead of searching out a relationship with a real life person.

 

[rainbowdash30]

Yes, it's terrible.

How did you find a decent guy on here?

 

[sweetsophie512]

Yes, it's terrible.

How did you find a decent guy on here?

*snicker*

Oops, that's not fair. There are some decent men here. The trick is just finding one.

 

[Kinky_babygirl]

*snicker*

Oops, that's not fair. There are some decent men here. The trick is just finding one.

Lol...

 

[SweetSam42]

I tend to think this sort of "relationship" is primarily escapism and fantasy. I think it's natural and exciting to find yourself with a secret sexy friend, so of course he is on your mind. I don't really see the harm, unless you think you're feeling too involved. If that becomes the case, pull back. I suspect he would do the same.

I don't think emotional attachments to online relationships can be split down gender lines. I've seen both men and women get too involved, and both men and women stay relatively detached.

My suggestion: keep the chatter light, fun, sexy, at least for the most part. Don't go professing love and devotion.