Why is it so hard

[RiverKnight]

why is it so hard to connect with someone who wants the same as you?

Granted, I am married and want a woman who is also married, but does that preclude happiness?

I could expound on my virtues and what I think is my ideal woman, but I won't.

It is quite simple really....I am looking for a long term relationship with a real woman who is not afraid of allowing love to happen naturally....slowly...as we get to know each other.

Pm me my lady

 

[ForeverDreaming]

I guess it really depends on what you want. Sometimes it's the looking that becomes the problem. I've heard many say that when they stopped looking, things happened naturally. Kind of like the woman who's trying so hard to have a baby and can't get pregnant. But as soon as she stops trying, because there is so much less stress. She gets pregnant. Sometimes it really is just the person trying too hard thats not finding what they're looking for. I came to this site just to talk and make new friends and ended up finding somebody that I fell in love with. I was not looking for that in any way, shape, or form. It just happened. I cannot imagine my life without him now.

 

[RiverKnight]

I guess it really depends on what you want. Sometimes it's the looking that becomes the problem. I've heard many say that when they stopped looking, things happened naturally. Kind of like the woman who's trying so hard to have a baby and can't get pregnant. But as soon as she stops trying, because there is so much less stress. She gets pregnant. Sometimes it really is just the person trying too hard thats not finding what they're looking for. I came to this site just to talk and make new friends and ended up finding somebody that I fell in love with. I was not looking for that in any way, shape, or form. It just happened. I cannot imagine my life without him now.

Maybe that is the key that unlocks the door...I have had more than a few relationships on lit, but they never seem to work out for one reason or another. My first real lit love that turned serious was a combination of my comments on her thread and a few emails. It was pure magic....that ended...

There have been others, but they never captured that same feeling except one lady who fealt that it was wrong after we started getting serious.

I would love to find love...all encompassing, butterflies...all of the joy and pain it brings...and the woman who wants it as much as I do.

 

[RiverKnight]

Thanks to all the well wishers who pm'd me. Hopefully, I will find her one day

 

[malefica]

So, you want to cheat on your spouse and also find someone willing to do so? That isn't love, that's thinking with your dick first and common sense last.

 

[RiverKnight]

After you have lived for a few more years, you may actually understand that not everything is so black and white....

 

[jezzilee]

I know what a great guy you are RK, I hope you find someone that will bring mutual happiness.

 

[RiverKnight]

(Blushing) Thank you my lady, I hope so also.

Hoping things are working out in your world

 

[Iceprincess12]

I think if you don't touch it as much then it won't be so hard

 

[RiverKnight]

I think if you don't touch it as much then it won't be so hard

Lol....always to the point...how are you Ice

 

[Iceprincess12]

Lol....always to the point...how are you Ice

I am pretty literal and you did ask a question

Very good! Power is back, wifi is up and posts are very exciting today!

 

[RiverKnight]

Lol....I know you are.


Anytime you get on lit it gets exciting

 

[Iceprincess12]

Lol....I know you are.


Anytime you get on lit it gets exciting

I miss the fun playful playground, so I go to extremes! Gossip totally encouraged

 

[RiverKnight]

The playground can be fun....seems like too many of the new people like to banter, but keep their distance....


Pm me about extremes...curious

 

[beingtrue2me]

The playground can be fun....seems like too many of the new people like to banter, but keep their distance....


Pm me about extremes...curious

Lit IS a playground. It is an escape. Cum here and say what your inner you wants to say. Be who your inner you wants to be and then go back to who you really are. That's how I look at it anyway. When you make a personal connection with someone that blurs the line. Sometimes our mind isn't ready or even willing to make the full transition from our inner self to how the world views us. I really want to meet more people from here than I do but I've yet to find someone that irl is any where near the same as their Lit persona.

 

[RiverKnight]

We all have our inner self, and for many, lit lets them get out and be themselves. Yes, our outward personna gives rise to the ego of how we want to be perceived. I do it, you do it, we all do it to some extent. We also have "who we are"

Lit can be more than just a playground if given half a chance and you willingness to let it be what it is

 

[Iceprincess12]

Pm sent


That's for those who love seeing those words in a thread.

Gif, hard g, just for fun

 

[LadyVer]

Good luck, Knight. Hang in there.

 

[jezzilee]

(Blushing) Thank you my lady, I hope so also.

Hoping things are working out in your world

A little yes, a little no... But I keep on smiling.

 

[lacandy]

why is it so hard to connect with someone who wants the same as you?

Granted, I am married and want a woman who is also married, but does that preclude happiness?

I could expound on my virtues and what I think is my ideal woman, but I won't.

It is quite simple really....I am looking for a long term relationship with a real woman who is not afraid of allowing love to happen naturally....slowly...as we get to know each other.

Pm me my lady

I think that it is too easy to just disappear in this virtual world. That's what makes it so much more difficult to truly connect and maybe find that person who can be the "one" that you are looking for.

I have heard lots of stories about people (married ones in particular) get scared of their own feelings and then run...it's hard when you are married to allow yourself to believe that you could find something else with someone other than the one you are married to. I get it...doesn't make it hurt any less when it happens (and it happens on both sides of the aisle - men and women).

I wish you much luck in finding that one who makes you smile at just seeing their name pop up on your screen, the one that you want to tell good news to first, and you know will understand when you have something bad in your life happen. I am sure that they are out there.

 

[RiverKnight]

Good luck, Knight. Hang in there.

Thank you my lady

 

[RiverKnight]

A little yes, a little no... But I keep on smiling.

As you should....you are an amazing woman

 

[jezzilee]

As you should....you are an amazing woman

Now I am blushing.

 

[RiverKnight]

I think that it is too easy to just disappear in this virtual world. That's what makes it so much more difficult to truly connect and maybe find that person who can be the "one" that you are looking for.

I have heard lots of stories about people (married ones in particular) get scared of their own feelings and then run...it's hard when you are married to allow yourself to believe that you could find something else with someone other than the one you are married to. I get it...doesn't make it hurt any less when it happens (and it happens on both sides of the aisle - men and women).

I wish you much luck in finding that one who makes you smile at just seeing their name pop up on your screen, the one that you want to tell good news to first, and you know will understand when you have something bad in your life happen. I am sure that they are out there.

You are so very right. It is very easy to just disappear on line. It takes a spark...a connection to make it work for real. How do we know if they are the "one" we want to share our every day lives with? Time, feelings, a connection beyond mere words tell us.

Thank you, my lady, for your kind words

 

[dontfallforme]

After you have lived for a few more years, you may actually understand that not everything is so black and white....

so true.