Lit-Sex vs Real Sex: Which Is Better?

[tristantrotsky]

Sigmund Freud said the great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is 'What does a woman want?' Maybe he should come here? Safely veiled behind pseudonym and alias we’re free to say and express whatever we dare without restraint or false modesty. So please do… In cyber-sex no-one ever gets pregnant, there’s no STDs (only computer-virus!) and no menstruation (yes, I know about sex during menstruation, but that’s another thread), there’s no need to be self-conscious about imagined body-flaws, while guys never suffer erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. We can happily fuck each other’s brains out into a blissfully mindless guilt-free illicit post-orgasmic fug without the messy intrusion of awkward reality… and no pubic hair in your teeth the following morning (actually, I quite enjoy that)… so which works best for you, Lit-Sex or Real Sex…?

 

[lowphat]

Cyber whatever is cool, but it will never replace the feeling of a hug, or the actual look in her/his eyes the morning after, or even during, for that matter. To me, this place is flirt central, and a distraction from some really hard times I'm having in my real life.

 

[sxydiva]

Well in my opinion both are equally good.

Cyber sex is good because you can be as wild as you want and have no regrets later. Nothing is off limits. Knowing you can pound or get pounded as hard as you want. No worries about anyone's girlfriend, boyfriend, or S/O getting miffed or hurt. Knowing that person on the other end is getting off thinking of you while you are thinking of them. And it makes one night stands easier too. Just meet, fuck their virtual brains out, then bam your off to the next one. No one gets hurt.

But with real sex there is the feeling of being close. Of having their body next to yours. Of feeling their mouth suck or lick you to an orgasmic bliss. To look in their eyes and feel their heart beat in time with yours. To not have to guess if they are just faking it for your enjoyment. Learning what they like and always taking a memory of them with you. There truly is nothing like the warmth of breath on your ear and the call from them (or text) the next day wanting to know when you will hook up again.

Personally I love all kinds of sex. I'll take what I can get. Cyber or real life.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Real sex, of course, is much, much better and preferable. But passionate phone or cyber can also be a lot of fun. Whatever allows you to interact and get the fantasies going is fun and feels good.

 

[Calliesdad2010]

I love flirting, naughty talk, cyber- mental foreplay

but please be real

there is no comparison

real sex is the best

 

[julybaby04]

Real...

 

[jasonmason]

Real. But in the absence of real, Lit can be a decent substitution without actually cheating on one's spouse.

 

[Cymru6969]

Real. But in the absence of real, Lit can be a decent substitution without actually cheating on one's spouse.

Define cheating.

 

[jasonmason]

Define cheating.

My definition is actual physical contact. My wife's on the other hand would probably consider Lit sex as cheating.

 

[EclecticRob]

While they both have their seperate, distinct advantages....would anyone really choose Lit over Real?

 

[Hypoxia]

When I saw the thread title I thought of LIT's pr0n and erotica stories, not phone or keyboard-sex exchanges. Fictional sex is often 'better' than physical touching because there are no real-world consequences -- unless your partner finds you reading really kinky shit, or you masturbate yourself bloody.

Cyber-sex can be better than reality too -- if you've only had lousy fucks from lousy fuckers. And of course in the cyber realm nobody can tell you're a poodle.

 

[tristantrotsky]

In Every Orifice By Multiple Lovers…?

Well in my opinion both are equally good.

Cyber sex is good because you can be as wild as you want and have no regrets later. Nothing is off limits. Knowing you can pound or get pounded as hard as you want. No worries about anyone's girlfriend, boyfriend, or S/O getting miffed or hurt. Knowing that person on the other end is getting off thinking of you while you are thinking of them. And it makes one night stands easier too. Just meet, fuck their virtual brains out, then bam your off to the next one. No one gets hurt.

But with real sex there is the feeling of being close. Of having their body next to yours. Of feeling their mouth suck or lick you to an orgasmic bliss. To look in their eyes and feel their heart beat in time with yours. To not have to guess if they are just faking it for your enjoyment. Learning what they like and always taking a memory of them with you. There truly is nothing like the warmth of breath on your ear and the call from them (or text) the next day wanting to know when you will hook up again.

Personally I love all kinds of sex. I'll take what I can get. Cyber or real life.

This is so beautifully phrased it's tactile in its sweet intensity. Cyber sex has definite advantages. You can message from the comfort of your easy-chair in the front-room, and fuck or be deliriously fucked in every orifice by multiple virile lovers while your s/o drowses or watches the ball-game. No-one loses. No-one ever gets hurt. You can message from the kitchen table until you ache deep in your sex-centre. You can lie in bed messaging with one hand, while masturbating in long slow strokes with the other hand. And it's all so deliciously self-indulgent. But no… there's no taste of their bodily fluids lingering on your tongue the following morning when you wake...

 

[suckonsimon]

Perhaps I have no idea what you're all talking about as my pm exchanges can get flirty but no more than that [ok there's been an exception or three]. But here's the thing for me: I bring some more imagination and flare to my real-life sex as a consequence of playing around on Lit, and my woman would vouch for that.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

Real. I don't agree that net sex is without consequence. The rumor mill is filled with stories of people who have been betrayed by online relationships, even here. I also don't think that all people are as free to indulge every sexual fantasy simply because it can be anonymous.
There is nothing like the feeling of a heartbeat.
Nothing will ever replace the electricity that runs through my body when a gentle kiss is placed on my neck.
The feeling that happens when I'm mid-orgasm and he pulls me in to settle the trembling, what is the substitute for that?
What really happens is.. you put yourself in a situation where you actually may be as vulnerable; but you don't get the subtle things that make real contact so special.

 

[EmilyJane]

One can complement the other.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I Can Resist Anything But Temptation...

Perhaps I have no idea what you're all talking about as my pm exchanges can get flirty but no more than that [ok there's been an exception or three]. But here's the thing for me: I bring some more imagination and flare to my real-life sex as a consequence of playing around on Lit, and my woman would vouch for that.

You fake, Simon, we've had enough touchy-feely close encounters in the past for me to know that you're very very tempted...

 

[Asian_Flower]

Oh I dont think there can be a substitute for the real thing, but Lit can be quite an arousing and erotic stimulant at times.

 

[tristantrotsky]

Taking Time Out…

Oh I dont think there can be a substitute for the real thing, but Lit can be quite an arousing and erotic stimulant at times.

Thank you for your kind input, Asian Flower (and may I just point out, I love your profile photo). Lit can indeed be an arousing and erotic stimulant, and it can do that at otherwise inconvenient times - such as, between documents at work when the Line Manager is not looking….

 

[TheSilverLining]

Real. No substitute.

(probably....it's been that long I hardly remember)

 

[1Browneyedguy]

What's better???? The Real thing....

Coming here, flirting is like a gulp of espresso or a ride on a roller coaster.....

There is nothing like a human touch, a kiss, a warm body and more.

 

[PeteHulbert37]

Real. I don't agree that net sex is without consequence. The rumor mill is filled with stories of people who have been betrayed by online relationships, even here. I also don't think that all people are as free to indulge every sexual fantasy simply because it can be anonymous.
There is nothing like the feeling of a heartbeat.
Nothing will ever replace the electricity that runs through my body when a gentle kiss is placed on my neck.
The feeling that happens when I'm mid-orgasm and he pulls me in to settle the trembling, what is the substitute for that?
What really happens is.. you put yourself in a situation where you actually may be as vulnerable; but you don't get the subtle things that make real contact so special.

Very well said.


For many, this is just the internet. It's just words on a screen where an individual can be the internet tough guy, the macho stud or a sexy diva, etc. For me, and others it's just another way to interact with people. For the most part, I do so here as I would anywhere else. I try to be courteous and respectful of others. I am genuine and sincere. Have I made mis-steps and mistakes. Sure, but I've done that in real life as well.

Making a connection and making it real, that's better. I promise you, that is always better.

 

[tnman03]

Interesting question. Pragmatically the reality of an actual sexual partner and shared pleasure is the rewarding pleasure we strive for. As such it will always be the better with Lit being a fun distraction from day to day life as well as a place of tantalizing possibilities. Those possibilities can add a bit of spice to actual 'real world' sex if the fantasy worked on the libido. So in closing real's better...Lits fun...

 

[jameslewis]

Faux fucking's fun. Skin on skin is better.

 

[sweetgypsy]

Mental imagery/fucking can either be awesomely fun or totally mess with your head.

Real sex/physical touch, like said by others in this thread, is much better.

 

[Ginger41]

huh?

Real