sex to help a friend

[kingkoll]

any ladies ever given sex to a friend who was down or something just to help them out?

 

[lvs2lck]

As a guy, I had a female coworker who gave me sex to help deal with the grief of my Dad passing away. She saw how much pain I was in over the course of the following weeks and offered her sympathy over the next few months.

 

[hilton1958]

As a guy, I had a female coworker who gave me sex to help deal with the grief of my Dad passing away. She saw how much pain I was in over the course of the following weeks and offered her sympathy over the next few months.

That was very sweet of her, but what happens when the grief etc. has passed, you're still gonna want the sex, and if that was her only motive, I see things becoming awkward.

 

[mikendel]

Yes I have cheered up some of hubby's friends and a few of my own friends. they were either getting divorced, unhappy in marriage, single shy guys needing to get laid or just real horny.

 

[newhere2learn]

Mutual

any ladies ever given sex to a friend who was down or something just to help them out?

Sort of. My ex cheated, we split. We had mutual friend who I'd always wanted to fuck senseless.

She was having a dry spell. We helped each other out, all summer long.

 

[jedclampet69]

I had my g/f help out a mate when I was 18.. Which I actually found very erotic then I started to be very popular and had heaps of mates.. Things sort of got out of control as we were both to young to work the situation to.. We had friends visiting in number when I got home I use to pick up beer bottles and clean house while the g/f slept and at times there was no sex for me.. Ha one has to have boundaries and decent friends tho I have to admit they were great times and extremely arousing

 

[policywank]

Yes a few times. Usually guys I had dated previously who were in between and lonely. Once a friend of my husband's and once another guy I knew from work.

They were all guys I found attractive anyway but probably wouldn't have fucked if they weren't down or lonely.

The thing to watch for is the lovelorn or guys that are really hurting from a relationship break-up. Much as I would like to help them out there is just too much chance that they will get clingy and direct their affections towards me. That has only happened once and it ended badly and made things worse for him.

Odd as it sounds to say, some guys can't just enjoy a good fuck and leave it at that.

 

[Bigspurt]

Sad but True

"Odd as it sounds to say, some guys can't just enjoy a good fuck and leave it at that."

My wife suggested that she wanted to provide a sympathy fuck to a friend of ours who was dealing with the horrific murder of his then GF. At the time I said no. I think now 30 some years later that I would approve of it. I guess I have no idea if she did it anyway. Maybe.

 

[MilkFountain]

Consoling . . .

Originally Posted by lvs2lck View Post
As a guy, I had a female coworker who gave me sex to help deal with the grief of my Dad passing away. She saw how much pain I was in over the course of the following weeks and offered her sympathy over the next few months.

That was very sweet of her, but what happens when the grief etc. has passed, you're still gonna want the sex, and if that was her only motive, I see things becoming awkward.

Several things, and memories, come to mind: First, here we're not talking about the arrogantly labeled "pity lays". Instead, it's more compassion, right? Although "pity lays" are really compassionate sex. And, it's almost always only once. If lvs2ick and friend continued after once, there must have been need there too by his lady friend. They needed each other.

In answer to the original question . . . yes, several times, both giving and receiving . . . and allowing my wife to console a friend. Once, on my first night out of jail for having sassed a judge (I was very young!), I slept over at a friend's home, on a big bed with his girlfriend sleeping between us. Exhausted, I was just drifting off as my friends whispered to each other. Just as sleep overcame me, I felt her turn toward me. I felt her body over me, and the unmistakable weight and smoothness of a breast against my lips. A firm hand at the back of my head pulled me to her. I'd been aware of how was full busted and beautiful she was, sweet and subtly sexy. She masturbated me against her belly as I sucked, eventually lowering the tip of my cock until she was simultaneously bringing herself off and rubbing me against her. I literally flooded her pubic hair and belly. Much later in the night, as they slept, I gently sucked at her breast, carefully so as not to wake them, bring myself off.

The experience between my wife and our friend was similar in that our friend also experienced a post initial climax surge of need to unburden himself, to get more out. He was going through the first, worst moments of a breakup after 8 years of marriage to a girl who also had become our friend. After dinner, after I'd sent her to the guest room to console him and she'd returned to me, later in the night he woke us, asking if he could sleep with us. During the night he made love to my wife twice more, passionately and needfully, both times shaking the bed with explosive climaxes. In the morning we left him to sleep two more hours while we went about our business of the day. It was beautiful to watch and my wife, who was bouncily happy all day the next day, eventually confessed to me that she felt flattered he needed her so much and -- seeing I was happy with her -- admitted she was proud she could help our friend. It hasn't happen again, although our friend is often at our home.

 

[30bandits]

Yes I have cheered up some of hubby's friends and a few of my own friends. they were either getting divorced, unhappy in marriage, single shy guys needing to get laid or just real horny.

i'm "real horny."......

 

[mrspank30]

Yes I have cheered up some of hubby's friends and a few of my own friends. they were either getting divorced, unhappy in marriage, single shy guys nt laid or just real horny.

I have helped a number of my female friends in similar situations. It is amazing how sometimes just some human interaction can be a huge difference. We all need to feel desired

 

[jehoram]

A lady I knew pity-fucked me after my divorce. Big, big mistake. I fixated on her instead, and I took it hard when she broke up with me. It would have been better for both of us if we'd stayed Platonic.

 

[april6987]

I helped my girlfriends brother after the loss of his wife

 

[CJontherocks]

My mother's best friend, when I was around 19 or 20, lost her husband after a long battle with illness. I offered her a ride home from the bar in the restaurant where we both worked one night shortly after he passed, and she invited me in. It's been so long ago now that I can't remember how we ended up with our mouths on each other, but we did. At the time, I doubt I was thinking compassionately about her. I was more likely thinking, "Oh my gosh, I'm about to fuck my mom's best friend!" But I knew in the back of my head what was happening and why. She was amazing, and I'll never forget her. Such passion on her face as she rode me, head thrown back, mouth open, moaning softly. Wow, that all just came flooding back to me. That mental image is just about the only thing I remember from the night. Her pouty face looking at me, sad eyes pleading as we moved closer and closer. We never did it again, and never talked about it, though we continued to work together. I only knew her as a very nice woman, with an easy laugh and a great personality (and a very nice rack). Kinda straight-laced mom type. Who knew she had all that incredible passion pent up inside her, straining to be released? I used to feel a tinge of guilt about fucking a woman just weeks after she lost her husband. But this thread makes me wonder if our encounter helped her more that I ever knew.

 

[kingkoll]

i could use a female friend that is willing to help me sexually.let me fuck her when needed.any ladies up for it and want to learn more? just hit me up

 

[policywank]

"Odd as it sounds to say, some guys can't just enjoy a good fuck and leave it at that."

My wife suggested that she wanted to provide a sympathy fuck to a friend of ours who was dealing with the horrific murder of his then GF. At the time I said no. I think now 30 some years later that I would approve of it. I guess I have no idea if she did it anyway. Maybe.

I guess every situation is different, but every case for me was one where the man was feeling unappreciated or undesirable. The sex made him feel desirable because it provided evidence of a genuine attraction (if it came across as charitable that might have just made things worse).

For any other kind of grief or trouble I would see companionship and support as more helpful than sex. Although I suppose after losing loved one it is hard to know what emotions are bubbling and the very personal connection of sex might offer real comfort.

 

[MatthewVett]

Never happened to me, but I like the idea.

 

[curiouscait]

A few times although I never really out right said it was for any particular reason but the probably knew. I love to please A turn on even I guess

 

[lvs2lck]

That was very sweet of her, but what happens when the grief etc. has passed, you're still gonna want the sex, and if that was her only motive, I see things becoming awkward.

She had an attraction to me that I didn't have for her, but in my grief was in need of some kind of escape. It continued until it became uncomfortable because she obviously wanted more than I could give her. She did help me get through a tough time though.

 

[Green_Knight]

She had an attraction to me that I didn't have for her, but in my grief was in need of some kind of escape. It continued until it became uncomfortable because she obviously wanted more than I could give her. She did help me get through a tough time though.

Mixed feelings about this. Firstly that you (selfishly?) took advantage of the one way attraction, secondly that she may have been using the situation to try establish a relationship. It wasn't just a pity fuck for her.

 

[policywank]

Mixed feelings about this. Firstly that you (selfishly?) took advantage of the one way attraction, secondly that she may have been using the situation to try establish a relationship. It wasn't just a pity fuck for her.

I think that is a valid point. However, she presumably understood that the situation and should realistically have expected a relationship to come out of fucking someone during a time of emotional turmoil.

Also consider a role reversal to see if our perspective is built on gender assumptions. We might say he was taking advantage of her state of mind. Or we might say that once it is over he has no right to try to force a relationship on her. We probably would not say she shouldn't have been leading him on.

 

[Green_Knight]

...Also consider a role reversal to see if our perspective is built on gender assumptions. We might say he was taking advantage of her state of mind. Or we might say that once it is over he has no right to try to force a relationship on her. We probably would not say she shouldn't have been leading him on.

There's not really anything gender-specific about this situation. It works either way round - one person wanting a quick uncommitted fuck to lift them out of an unhappy place, the other thinking that it would lead to a longer term thing. It strikes me that to get into such a situation the two people would have had to have known each other reasonably well but clearly not well enough to understand each other's feelings.

 

[zoso682001]

I suggested this idea to my wife once before I left town for a week or so . Didn't exactly work out though but a different friend of ours did stop by and he got the benefit of my suggestion to her .

 

[kingkoll]

A few times although I never really out right said it was for any particular reason but the probably knew. I love to please A turn on even I guess

remind me to come visit you

 

[Robum11]

I suggested this idea to my wife once before I left town for a week or so . Didn't exactly work out though but a different friend of ours did stop by and he got the benefit of my suggestion to her .

Sounds like a lucky friend! Can I be your friend as well?