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Bramblethorn
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This is not something you're obliged to do. If it's important to him and you're willing to push your comfort zone a bit, that's fine, but if you're deeply uncomfortable with the idea you have every right to say "no" or "not yet". It's okay for him to express an interest in this but he shouldn't be pressuring you.
If it is something that you're willing to try, might want to get more info about what sort of situation he's thinking of. Nonmonogamy can be anything from one-off sex with somebody whose name you don't know, to a lasting emotional relationship like marriage, with lots of other scenarios in between; you'll need to figure out something that works for both of you (and for Hypothetical Other Guy). If you can get a better idea of what sort of arrangement you're looking at, people here might be able to give more specific advice.
GiggLeGasm
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my only confusion is that your profile says you're posting as a couple. It would stand to reason that he is able to see that you're not sure how you feel about this.. so..
before you find the best way to make this happen, you need to discuss if it should even happen at all.
play with it as fantasy while it's just the two of you. If it develops into an actual fantasy that you both want to come true, then you could work on the how.
NightL
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then don't - don't do anything you don't want. Anything from hating the idea through to "maybe" should be a very definite "No".
