'Rules if Engagement' in your relationship

[naughtoldperv]

After surviving a near break-up with my beautiful wife, where I was the guilty one for 'butterflying' outside our marriage but she forgave me to keep our otherwise healthy and happy relationship together. I wrote my infidelity up to a mid life crisis and we put all the cards on the table and decided to make 'new rules' in order to save our marriage.
1] we're both free to play with anyone outside our marriage, but only if the both of us are present and in agreement.
2] no fucking friends, relatives, or people we know or have business with.
3] No fucking at home or where we could be caught by people we know.
4] Always use protection unless the new person can prove or convince us that he/she is safe and clean.
5] no forcing/pain/anal/or risky situations.
6] If either one of us 'slips' or cheats, then we owe it to the other to confess in intimate detail all that occurred and a 'punishment' will be applied to the cheater where the guilty will have to be a slave for a week.

We shook hands and swore on our marriage that we would follow our rules

That's all and so far/so good after 5 years. using the above rules has allowed us to have a few 'adventures' together with strangers and I think has strengthened our relationship.

Just wondering if others have a similar agreement between each other??

 

[tishadomina]

Me and my other half personally aren't, but those are very sensible rules It is good to see that it strengthened your marriage and you both came to a mutual agreemeent.

 

[MissJW]

Well our marriage is also a D/s relationship so we've got a big pile of rules. Even though I have the last (or only) say in everything sexual, I take pride in always being fully aware of my husband's current needs/fears/feelings/etc and knowing if and when they should be taken into consideration. No harm or non-consensual hurt is to ever come on the person I love the most.

Few of the most important ones:

• Anything sexual outside our marriage is forbidden. All decisions concerning this issue are mine to make. Flirting is of course ok, as that's usually spontaneous and sort of "accidental", hardly meaning anything.
  
• If we go out to play in public, I have the final say on how far we'll allow people to watch our "scene".
  
• He will never ejaculate without my consent. He may have dry orgasms unless I've specifically called them off.
  
• I will never do or order anything that will affect his performance as a dad.
  
• Every other month (or more often if need be) we will both fill out and talk through a BDSM checklist.
  
• We aren't sexually equal. He is of course fully entitled to receive plenty of sexual pleasure, but it will always happen on my terms.

And so on and so on....

 

[legally_non_blonde]

i have realized its not us uncommon as one would think.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

We swing. Our one rule is that that we do everything together after first talking together. Both of us have to be on board. No taking.one for the team.

There are two exceptions to the first rule. One is she is free to fuck an old acquaintance -- the husband in the first couple we ever swapped with (the other wife and I didn't really hit it off, but she and him got along great).

The other exception is that I am free to fuck any black women. We get propositioned by black couple s all the time but she's just not into it. She knows that I have enjoyed the company of many black women, so she told me any time as long as she doesn't have to be there.

 

[Sheana_V]

My girlfriend and I are in a polyamorous relationship. Our rules involve "Always use protection", people can be placed off limits, and we want to know who the other person is seeing. For the most part we just talk through any troubles we're having.

 

[davenjenn]

I have been in an open relationship with my husband for a decade. Our rule has been that we have to tell the other when we have fucked someone else. We have a month to confess

Recently we relaxed the rule and we can do stuff without telling. It's been really fun having lots of little secrets

 

[switchersm]

orgasmn control

my beloved wife and I have the following rules:

she has the absolut control about my orgasms. So I have to wear a cock cage permanent. we have different types that we often change to prevent pressure marks. For night sleep I have a very small one with less weight. It allows undisturbed sleeping. Opening is only every morning when I shower while she is drying her hair. This year I only had two orgasmns, may next year will be only one, may be the last of my life.

Every sunday my ass gets a very rough spanking with her riding crop, a cane and a thick wooden stick to remember me who is the boss in our relationship.

I have to pamper her in every erotic way she wants with hands lips and tongue, that means for example feet or full body massages, pussy and asshole licking,drinking her piss.

I have to pamper every other woman,that she chooses, in the same way. At present there is a very dominant 68 years old chubby lady,that I have to serve every wendnesday when my wife is out with her friends. this lady always beats my ass very painful with a leather belt in memoriam of her husband whom she belted in the same way. after that I have to lick her grey bushed cunt to minimum two orgasmns. And there is the best friend of my wife, a very fat woman,that I have to serve about once a month . She is very nice, no spanking or other pain for me, but it is very difficult to bring her to orgasmn, because she is so thick and so bushy between her legs, that the black hair even comes out between her buttocks.

 

[naughtoldperv]

my beloved wife and I have the following rules:

she has the absolut control about my orgasms. So I have to wear a cock cage permanent. we have different types that we often change to prevent pressure marks. For night sleep I have a very small one with less weight. It allows undisturbed sleeping. Opening is only every morning when I shower while she is drying her hair. This year I only had two orgasmns, may next year will be only one, may be the last of my life.

Every sunday my ass gets a very rough spanking with her riding crop, a cane and a thick wooden stick to remember me who is the boss in our relationship.

I have to pamper her in every erotic way she wants with hands lips and tongue, that means for example feet or full body massages, pussy and asshole licking,drinking her piss.

I have to pamper every other woman,that she chooses, in the same way. At present there is a very dominant 68 years old chubby lady,that I have to serve every wendnesday when my wife is out with her friends. this lady always beats my ass very painful with a leather belt in memoriam of her husband whom she belted in the same way. after that I have to lick her grey bushed cunt to minimum two orgasmns. And there is the best friend of my wife, a very fat woman,that I have to serve about once a month . She is very nice, no spanking or other pain for me, but it is very difficult to bring her to orgasmn, because she is so thick and so bushy between her legs, that the black hair even comes out between her buttocks.

not my cup of tea, but whatever flips your switch as long as everyone is happy and no one gets hurt [unless that's what they want]

 

[naughtoldperv]

I have been in an open relationship with my husband for a decade. Our rule has been that we have to tell the other when we have fucked someone else. We have a month to confess

Recently we relaxed the rule and we can do stuff without telling. It's been really fun having lots of little secrets

Again, not my cup of tea but as long as you are both happy.........I prefer 100% honesty and the few times that I did try to hide, I got caught and it almost destroyed our relationship and I value that more than a 'quicky'.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Not sure if or when I get into another relationship, but if I do, I will want an open/poly/swinging deal. Not cuckold, either, though I don't judge those into that scene. It's just not for me, just as the monogamy thing isn't for me. I've learned that for sure by now. Been there, done that.

I think that whatever rules two or more consenting adults find useful and mutually agreeable are fine with me.