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[xxxLunaxxx]

I understand the flawed point Mr. Lewis is making though. Because normally I'd say hell no, I wouldn't give up the connection just for 48 hours together. That follows along with the whole "it's better to have loved and lost than never loved at all" theory. And I'm still not sure I buy into that one. But if I gave up that 48 hours of ecstasy only to lose the online friendship a week or even a month later, I'd be kicking myself in the ass for turning down the opportunity. So I guess in this fantasy we'd have to say the online friendship continues forever if we turn down the 48 hours. Then I'd definitely turn down the 48 hours. Because the few men on here that I'd jump at the chance for 48 hours with would be the ones I'd be devastated to lose. And yes, as James points, I might lose them anyways. But I think losing them would be that much harder if I had time with them in the flesh.

 

[All_4_Love]

Because the few men on here that I'd jump at the chance for 48 hours with would be the ones I'd be devastated to lose. And yes, as James points, I might lose them anyways. But I think losing them would be that much harder if I had time with them in the flesh.

This is so very well said. It touched my heart. I couldn't agree more.

 

[Aquagal]

Time to lighten things a little bit. No sense always being so serious, after all, I'm a fun guy!

Jewelry. What's your favorite to wear, what do you like to see most on your partner. Give it up, Christmas is right around the corner and you just may give your special someone an idea on what to get you.

Guys can wear a ring or a watch, more than that I find unappealing.

On a daily basis I wear zero amount of jewelry. Nada, nil, zilch. Dressing up would be putting on a ring and earrings.

I don't know if losing a good friend for 48 hours is worth it. But there is something to be said for a personal touch.

I only wear a watch. No other jewelry.



You're in rare form, huh?!? No, it was not! But I did work at Disney and I got locked in Space Mountain at night and I had to pee in there.

Duh, that's why I brought up your little slumber party in Space Mountain.

 

[stickygirl]

I understand the flawed point Mr. Lewis is making though.... And yes, as James points, I might lose them anyways. But I think losing them would be that much harder if I had time with them in the flesh.

I can see that pov, but why, by having 48 hrs with them does it doom your online friendship forever? Can't good friendships survive a benefit session?

My own experience was that the person moved on from Lit anyway, having told me not to pin too many hopes on him. People move out of your real life too, but if you make the move, take the chance, then who knows how things might turn out.
Nope, I'm taking my fling and if I have to repent at leisure it won't be for want of trying. I don't want to be kicking myself for not taking a chance ( because it's happened before ) .

 

[xxxLunaxxx]

I can see that pov, but why, by having 48 hrs with them does it doom your online friendship forever? Can't good friendships survive a benefit session?

Because that is the original question that was put up for discussion....would you take 48 hours with someone if it meant after that you could no longer have any contact whatsoever with them.

 

[All_4_Love]

Hmm.

If the mental and emotional connection is there, and then the physical connection is made, do you really think you could just leave it at that and just stay friends? I don't. At some point someone is going to desire more. If the physical connection isn't there, in other words, the chemistry, do you really feel that the friendship could continue?

This reminds me of a song by John Mayer called Friends, Lovers, or Nothing. Real stuff. Human emotions are amplified by a physical connection. That's deep.

If you know going into the situation beforehand not to expect anything more, that's different, I would assume. The friendship is set not to last.

I understood the scenario to be more along, would you take the 48 hours over remaining just friends?

 

[stickygirl]

I can see that pov, but why, by having 48 hrs with them does it doom your online friendship forever? Can't good friendships survive a benefit session?

Because that is the original question that was put up for discussion....would you take 48 hours with someone if it meant after that you could no longer have any contact whatsoever with them.

Yea, sorry, I was going beyond the brief and I appreciate what you said.

 

[Thesexypen]

Hmm.

If the mental and emotional connection is there, and then the physical connection is made, do you really think you could just leave it at that and just stay friends? I don't. At some point someone is going to desire more. If the physical connection isn't there, in other words, the chemistry, do you really feel that the friendship could continue?

This reminds me of a song by John Mayer called Friends, Lovers, or Nothing. Real stuff. Human emotions are amplified by a physical connection. That's deep.

If you know going into the situation beforehand not to expect anything more, that's different, I would assume. The friendship is set not to last.

I understood the scenario to be more along, would you take the 48 hours over remaining just friends?

I have been living with this complicated cycle for going on a year now, with someone in this very thread..

It is confusing, painful, and very difficult to navigate and understand.

 

[sweetsophie512]

NEW TOPIC ALERT!!!

So, I had this question pop into my head and I thought it was so good it couldn't wait until later.

[...]

The person would simply vanish from your online life and every way you had to connect with them would be severed. Both of you know what you're getting into and know the price of this one time togetherness.

Would you do it?

I'll answer. We all know that online rarely lasts. Hell, 6months seems like a long time. So on one hand if you play the odds, it won't last and you can have this time together. But, having them just vanish from your life would be hard.

My vote. I wouldn't take the 48 hr pass. If what I have online is special, and while it might not last forever, I wouldn't be willing to toss it aside.

I had to think about this question for a couple of days. My vote would be no. If I had spent the time to allow this person in my life, letting them go wouldn't be easy. I don't distinguish between online and real. My friends are my friends. Online is just the medium in which we communicate and relate to one another.

I agree that relationships that are forged in this medium do not last forever, but most relationships that start in *real life* do not last forever either, so I fail to see the difference. I wouldn't easily give up my friends and/or significant other for any reason not unless I absolutely have to, why would I do it simply because it started here?

Time to lighten things a little bit. No sense always being so serious, after all, I'm a fun guy!

Jewelry. What's your favorite to wear, what do you like to see most on your partner. Give it up, Christmas is right around the corner and you just may give your special someone an idea on what to get you.

I don't like gaudy jewelry and so I don't like men who wear them either. I wear a cross that my mother gave me and a heart that someone special gave me once upon a time. I wear simple earrings and a bracelet. I do wear a watch everyday just because it has become a habit and I feel naked without one.

For a man, I'd like to see them wear a watch and if they're married a wedding band. Other than that - not much else.

 

[All_4_Love]

I have been living with this complicated cycle for going on a year now, with someone in this very thread..

It is confusing, painful, and very difficult to navigate and understand.

Yes, it is.

{{{Big hug}}}

 

[ChainedUp]

As we stroll through life we see lots of people doing lots of things. In their cars, on their bikes, walking, running, people out and about, going places and getting things done. But along with that we see people at their best, their worst, when they think they're alone, when they know we are watching. And sometimes we see people do things that we just don't like. For whatever the reason it doesn't sit well with us. For me, it's seeing someone spit in public. Coughing, hacking, making that disgusting nasal throat sound when they're digging deep to bring up some phlegm. Disgusting, I say.

What act do you witness people doing that turns your stomach, infuriates, or is something you'd rather not have to witness?

 

[rubydlite]

As we stroll through life we see lots of people doing lots of things. In their cars, on their bikes, walking, running, people out and about, going places and getting things done. But along with that we see people at their best, their worst, when they think they're alone, when they know we are watching. And sometimes we see people do things that we just don't like. For whatever the reason it doesn't sit well with us. For me, it's seeing someone spit in public. Coughing, hacking, making that disgusting nasal throat sound when they're digging deep to bring up some phlegm. Disgusting, I say.

What act do you witness people doing that turns your stomach, infuriates, or is something you'd rather not have to witness?

Face noises are gross! Nuff 'said.

Something that infuriates me the most are my Facebook 'friends' who post government, racist,or just plain wrong propaganda. I'm not a big 'liker ' of things and really only have fb for my family to see kid stuff. One day though, someone posted a bunch of 'stats' as to why we should close our doors to immigrants. (Hello....She's third generation german!?) So i commented and posted correct facts...she was so angryvwith me. (Clearly I was devastated... ) People are entitled to their opinions buy it makes me so made when no one fact checks anything and then posts a ton of shit that gets taken for truth.

Also, people....I can see when you pick your nose in your car.....ewwwww.
...and loud, mouth open, eating...
...and spouses yelling at their s/o in public...

 

[Lord Pmann]

I've got loads of them.

1. People wearing TOMS. It's rude subjecting my eyes to such awfulness.
2. People listening to Nickelback within earshot.
3. Rude drivers. I hate seeing people who won't let someone in another lane when they are driving, for fear someone gets one car in front of them.
4. Smoking.
5. People who talk through movies, concerts or anything else that's distracting.
6. People cheering tobacco or dip and spitting it into a cup or water bottle.
7. Seeing people reveal too much information on Facebook or other social media. Keep your shit and grievances to yourselves.
8. This is one that will probably get me smacked by a lot of women. But, I fucking HATE hearing from a pregnant woman how much she is dialated. Because, first off, the word is DILATED. Stop saying diAlated. Secondly, I'd rather you give me a time frame rather than the number of centimeters your cervix is open. Or even worse is when they give that measurement in terms of fingers. Fuckin' gross, ladies. Just say, "It will be soon." That's sufficient.

I've got more, but that's it for now. My dick is one meter enlarged and I need to go relieve it.

 

[All_4_Love]

When people are cruel to children in any way. When they speak to them disrespectfully, shout at them, spank them, anything that is hurtful to a child.

Second on my list is when people are cruel and disrespectful to each other.

And, yes, sadly we see this almost everyday.

 

[Lord Pmann]

^^^^
Some kids are so bad though!

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I've got loads of them.

1. People wearing TOMS. It's rude subjecting my eyes to such awfulness...

seriously? all the stupid things people do.. and this is #1 on your list? lol..

http://cdn1.milled.com/contents/2014-05-23/WafCR8RYGdrrKY4T/TUeaHfYb_bkNphvq.jpg

 

[Endless_Night]

Spitting in public. Just. Gross.

Pmann's list: 3-6

Add to that:
- People who fill a sidewalk or aisle and don't get out of the way for others to pass.
- People without rudimentary manners: please, thank you, excuse me.
- People who let their children act like wild animals. Poorly behaved wild animals.

If I can figure out how to work this v into a conversation I am so stealing it. With a little pronoun shuffling, of course.

My dick is one meter enlarged and I need to go relieve it.

 

[Lord Pmann]

seriously? all the stupid things people do.. and this is #1 on your list? lol..

http://cdn1.milled.com/contents/2014-05-23/WafCR8RYGdrrKY4T/TUeaHfYb_bkNphvq.jpg

Actually, it's #1-5 on my list. But the ones you posted there aren't too bad. The ones I'm talking about are the hideous ones that look like they took some rope and made a shitty sole and then wrapped some tissue on top.

See these monstrosities, for example. It's like terrorism for the eyes and feet.

http://media03.toms.com/static/www/images/product/product_image_218x153_Side/10004930-FA15Cognac_Leather_Womens_Classics-S-218x153-RETOUCHED-NEW.jpg

And those are probably made of some vegan leather or something. Leather from a soy bean or cauliflower or something.

On top of their hideous appearance, they're worn by hipsters who, next to terrorists and child molesters, are the worst people on this earth. Their ironically rugged beards with their Care Bare t-shirts and their "I don't have a dick" skinny jeans, topped off with their fedora and patchouli scent makes those shoes even worse. Oh, let's not forget them and their MacBooks. God forbid the hipster be unavailable to check out the tour schedule for Arcade Fire or not have access to check his microbrewery inventory for more than an hour.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Spitting in public. Just. Gross.

Pmann's list: 3-6

Add to that:
- People who fill a sidewalk or aisle and don't get out of the way for others to pass.
- People without rudimentary manners: please, thank you, excuse me.
- People who let their children act like wild animals. Poorly behaved wild animals.

If I can figure out how to work this v into a conversation I am so stealing it. With a little pronoun shuffling, of course.

Not #2?!? Are you admitting to liking Nickelback? That's worse than being in ISIS.

 

[Endless_Night]

Not #2?!? Are you admitting to liking Nickelback? That's worse than being in ISIS.

LOL! I only have the vaguest notion who Nickelback is. Not musically oriented.

I will, however, jump on board with hipster beards. I'm not really a beard fan, but hipster beards are...yuck.

No way, no how, does anything like that get close to my lips. *shudder*

 

[Lord Pmann]

LOL! I only have the vaguest notion who Nickelback is. Not musically oriented.

Neither are Nickelback.

 

[Endless_Night]

Neither are Nickelback.

Well! There you go!

 

[All_4_Love]

^^^^
Some kids are so bad though!

Yeah right. *rolls eyes* You're like having my very own big brother at Lit, pmann. You almost flipped my switch. That was close! I was winding up for a sucker punch.

You don't believe that for a second. Let's just join forces and adopt them, as many as we can, save them from their hellish parents. We can move to Montana, buy a farm, beat the heck out of each other, drink homemade beer. Ya' know, the good life.

 

[TheSilverLining]

Yeah right. *rolls eyes* You're like having my very own big brother at Lit, pmann. You almost flipped my switch. That was close! I was winding up for a sucker punch.

You don't believe that for a second. Let's just join forces and adopt them, as many as we can, save them from their hellish parents. We can move to Montana, buy a farm, beat the heck out of each other, drink homemade beer. Ya' know, the good life.

See, I'm probably talking at cross-purposes here, but if I could find a bloke who'd beat me and then sit and drink homemade beer with me, I'd be kinda happy.

<shrug>

 

[All_4_Love]

See, I'm probably talking at cross-purposes here, but if I could find a bloke who'd beat me and then sit and drink homemade beer with me, I'd be kinda happy.

<shrug>

You and I both, love. *wink*

Except I don't really like beer. (Yuck)