How do you know....

[smallpieceofbliss]

How do you know if you are good at what you do in the bedroom? I think I am fairly good at sucking cock but I don't know if I just think that or if I actually am good at it. I often wonder what the recipient thinks....

 

[lustingmoment]

well I think you are good in the bedroom if you both are aroused and excited happy and both orgasm and wanting another round of sex after..

 

[jonosmith]

How do you know if you are good at what you do in the bedroom? I think I am fairly good at sucking cock but I don't know if I just think that or if I actually am good at it. I often wonder what the recipient thinks....

Have you never asked them? I've asked girls if they have enjoyed it when I've eaten their pussy and ass. If it's more than a one night stand obviously.

If it's a one night stand I like the girl to enjoy it but at the end of the day I'm there to get my rocks off.

 

[smallpieceofbliss]

Have you never asked them? I've asked girls if they have enjoyed it when I've eaten their pussy and ass. If it's more than a one night stand obviously.

If it's a one night stand I like the girl to enjoy it but at the end of the day I'm there to get my rocks off.

I have asked a few times but I never know whether to believe them or not. God knows that I have lied about it when asked myself! I was just kind of curious about how others know if they are good or not....

 

[klippert]

Over thinking...is an accurate shot to performance anxiety. Especially for Men.

With that said...I have an unstoppable oral sex fetish. so, my enthusiasm is my signal to whom i'm with

 

[smallpieceofbliss]

Over thinking...is an accurate shot to performance anxiety. Especially for Men.

With that said...I have an unstoppable oral sex fetish. so, my enthusiasm is my signal to whom i'm with

I definitely over think things!

 

[suckonsimon]

Here's my take on your question, smallpieceofbliss, from the perspective of a long-term loving relationship where for each of us we are our one and only:

While we were engaged my woman suggested to me that we make a deal that we would never fake, and never overdo our praise of each other's expertise. We made it a deal. And so it has been.

As the man in that context, boy do I know! Not only from her orgasmic joy and the intensity of it in the build and the climax and the follow on, but also more generally in her responsive movements and expressions to what I do in every stage of our intimacy.

For her to know, I delight in giving her feedback sometimes during, quite often some other time when the mood is right.

Another way for me to know is from her telling me about conversations with her girlfriends and what they say about their men. That has worked both ways: new ideas and possibilities, and a sort of measure of the beauty and excellence of what we have.

Exchanging on Lit helps me know, once I learnt to distinguish between the fantasy posters and the rl experience stuff!

 

[jonosmith]

I have asked a few times but I never know whether to believe them or not. God knows that I have lied about it when asked myself! I was just kind of curious about how others know if they are good or not....

For me a good bj lasts long enough for me to really enjoy the feel of her tongue working the head, her lips working the shaft and sucking my ball into her mouth while wanking. A good one is the feel of her lips as she lets them slowly part moving over the head and then teasing my pee hole with the tip of her tongue. Closing her teeth over the head and pulling slightly. If she is cool with it a little finger in the ass can make the whole world explode. I like to finish in her mouth and then let her kiss me ( Yes I am a little bit kinky. Don't judge me.)

 

[kevin8r]

Not everyone has the same likes sexually, and some people are better at some acts than others. I used to not care for blowjobs until my current partner. Some women are better at it than others. I have had partners that didn't care for oral because they had not had good experience with it previously. If your partner isn't enjoying what is happening, they will more than likely suggest another act, or position... Find what you enjoy, and what your strong point is, and have fun... Oh, and don't over think it

 

[twister947]

From my perspective, no more than 1 in 10 women really know what they are doing when giving head, and it's complicated by the fact that men are individuals with differing likes and dislikes. One size does not fit all.

There is no substitute for communication, and the giver must be accepting of constructive criticism.

We are not born being good lovers, we have to learn, and the learning never stops.

 

[bigredker]

In my humble opinion the best way to know is to ask. Of course, to be comfortable enough to be so direct usually requires a depth of understanding that comes from solid relationships. My wife and I do a pretty good job of letting the other know what we like and what we prefer less of. If the cocks you suck are not just one night stands than you'll have time to develop the rapport needed to both open up to such a personal exchange of your feelings.

 

[Apisto42]

I was just talking to a friend of mine earlier today about this. She was worried that her technique wasn't good enough (long distance friend, never experienced her technique).

What I told her I think holds up for most of sex: enthusiasm (real) and communication lead to the best long term sex partners. I love eating pussy and I'm perfectly willing for the woman to grab me by the ears, hold me where she wants me, move me around or yell out instructions. I give good head because I listen to what her body is telling me. Communication being 90% body language and all.

If you're enthusiastic about sucking cock and do what makes him moan, then you're doing a good job.

 

[SexyAlison]

You're usually told if you did a good job

 

[Calliesdad2010]

I understand the posters question because no male will complain about a BJ

even if its bad or painful,

but really all u need to give a good BJ is enthusiasm for the task,

as for knowing if your good in bed..... i once had a fwb say during an argument to me,.... too bad were fighting your great in bed.

also if sex partners come back for more its a good sign

 

[legally_non_blonde]

someone can fake through sounds but the body don't lie

 

[climber11]

Find a guy that enjoys sharing fantasies and ideas. If he likes to talk like that he will probably like to talk about what you do well or what turns him on about you. If talking can be a form of foreplay, use it to your advantage.

 

[subwannabe]

There are so many women that don't give BJ's or don't swallow that my take on it is that if you can get the guy to cum and you swallow then there is no way in hell he didn't like it.

 

[smallpieceofbliss]

Thanks for all your thoughts, suggestions and answers. I really appreciate it

 

[RaynieJ]

I can't say if I've ever asked a person if they liked it or not...I tend to rely on nonverbal hints that show me theyre having a great time, as well as actual compliments. I'm sure I'm not the best out there, but I think I do alright. Plus I think you have to really enjoy something to be good at it. And boy, do I love sex.

 

[nevergetenough]

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[Blase]

I think I am fairly good at sucking cock but I don't know if I just think that or if I actually am good at it. I often wonder what the recipient thinks....

If he's thinking

Ooh, yeah
Kickstart my heart
Hope it never stops!

you're probably on the right track...

 

[magicalmoments]

When it comes down to it you can only rely on feedback to judge if your performance is any good.

I started believing i was good at giving oral sex to women when a fuck buddy started recommending me to her friends.

 

[Sheana_V]

You can only know by communicating with your partners. There is no other way. So the first part here is "am I good" and you can't rally tell unless you're getting feedback - which consequently is how you get good at it in the first place. Honestly every basic bitch thinks she knows how to suck dick - but when you can someone you can communicate and experiment with, and when your empathic to your individual partners needs. Then you'll get really good.

 

[RossieOregon]

I can tell whether I'm doing a good job through his verbal responses, grunts/moans, and body motions. I believe most guys enjoy getting blowjobs; if the recipient lacks reaction while you're sucking him, he might only be too nervous to show it. If this happens, you can ask him afterwards.

 

[bunny4med]

ask him. see what he likes and dislikes about a session. grunts and moans don't always tell you everything. then when he says he can't wait for your mouth on his cock, you know. don't be afraid to try something new. he might not even realize that he likes that. my hubby was that way with ass play and fingering.