Why do men act like dicks?

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

She's collecting stinky brown stamps to redeem for a black baby and welfare.

 

[lovetoread]

City folks just don't get it. *shakes head*

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[OjosMojo]

When the inevitability of because we can and because we are intersects, why anyone would even wonder such a thing should be the real issue to ponder.

 

[Aella_]

Why do men act like dicks?...

Because they have a dick?

 

[Boxlicker101]

Men and women communicate differently.

IMO after 2 marriages you kinda need to figure out how to communicate with each other.

Men seem to like the direct approach instead of hints.

That's true with most men. Not all but most. They take people at their word and don't look for hidden meanings.

Of course some women are like that too.

 

[Aella_]

Men are afraid to talk about or focus on their feelings. They worry that this might emasculate them.
I can't figure out whether that's a good thing (that, in doing that, they avoid the endless cycle of dwelling on and ruminations that women sometimes do) or a bad thing (that they keep things suppressed and bottled inside).

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Men are afraid to talk about or focus on their feelings. They worry that this might emasculate them.

That's because women emasculate them when they do.

 

[Conager]

Why do women always generalize?

 

[Aella_]

That's because women emasculate them when they do.

Maybe it also relates to culture, to how they were brought up.
Because I noticed that too, in some english-speaking countries.
Whereas my people seem (to me) to be more in touch with their feelings, male or female, and there's no shame with that.

In saying that, I think that culture and upbringing just magnify the natural differences, because biology does come into play, too. (men are from Mars, women are from Venus).

 

[MaryanneB]

If they didn't have a dick, there would be a bounty on them......lol

 

[bronzeage]

You dont have to be lonely.....

Must have tractor.

 

[lovecraft68]

I asked for help, and all I got was jammering about why I wanted to, why I couldn't, he knew better...
So I gave up and did an hour of research on the computer and reasoned out how to do it myself.
If you don't want to help just say so.
And if you're not a help to me in my life, then I don't need you in my life.
Moron. Now he wonders why I'm not talking to him.
This is after explaining to him (between numerous interruptions) that every time someone speaks to him he makes it into an argument or a contest.
He has NO friends and now I'm outta his life too.
And he still doesn't understand...

Most aren't acting, especially here.

 

[bronzeage]

Maybe it also relates to culture, to how they were brought up.
Because I noticed that too, in some english-speaking countries.
Whereas my people seem (to me) to be more in touch with their feelings, male or female, and there's no shame with that.

In saying that, I think that culture and upbringing just magnify the natural differences, because biology does come into play, too. (men are from Mars, women are from Venus).

Men will talk about their feelings when they think it will help them get what they want.

 

[BotanyBoy]

Men are afraid to talk about or focus on their feelings. They worry that this might emasculate them.

I think most just find it a pointless fuckin' waste of problem solving time.

Emasculation is a respect issue not a feelings issue. People who emasculate a man don't respect that man and the man that doesn't so something about it one way or another doesn't respect himself.

 

[Aella_]

I think most just find it a pointless fuckin' waste of problem solving time.

Emasculation is a respect issue not a feelings issue.

speaking like a man…(joking)
But I think you are also right, in a way, because of R versus L brain differences perhaps men tend to be a wee bit more pragmatic?

 

[girlsmiley]

Why do women always generalize?

I see what you did there.

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[LJ_Reloaded]

Maybe it also relates to culture, to how they were brought up.
Because I noticed that too, in some english-speaking countries.
Whereas my people seem (to me) to be more in touch with their feelings, male or female, and there's no shame with that.

In saying that, I think that culture and upbringing just magnify the natural differences, because biology does come into play, too. (men are from Mars, women are from Venus).

Biology is at the core of it.

Males are deemed expendable in every animal species on Earth. Humans are animals. So we inherited that shit. In fact, the Patriarchy is nothing more than oppressing women to make up for the expendability of men. A bad thing on top of a bad thing, basically. Think of Patriarchy as sprinkling high fructose corn syrup on top of the cow dung of male expendability and you now understand all of modern gender politics.

The problem is we've got this thing called a neo cortex that enables us to think our way past our animal limitations. We should try using it more often for actual solutions. (And Patriarchy is not a good one.)

 

[BotanyBoy]

speaking like a man…(joking)
But I think you are also right, in a way, because of R versus L brain differences perhaps men tend to be a wee bit more pragmatic?

No.....

Seen plenty of men and women alike that function just fine without having to talk about feelings...they handle life and all the shit storms in it like fucking troopers without polluting the world around them with their emotional fucking baggage and they don't expect their s/o to be their emotional tampon in the process. They go hire a therapist for that shit if they really need it.

It's not L v R called putting your big kid pants on aka growing the fuck up.

 

[Aella_]

No.....

Seen plenty of men and women alike that function just fine without having to talk about feelings...they handle life and all the shit storms in it like fucking troopers without polluting the world around them with their emotional fucking baggage and they don't expect their s/o to be their emotional tampon in the process. They go hire a therapist for that shit if they really need it.

It's not L v R called putting your big kid pants on aka growing the fuck up.

so I guess I'll take therapist or counsellor out from the list of your potential occupations…

 

[BoyNextDoor]

No.....

Seen plenty of men and women alike that function just fine without having to talk about feelings...they handle life and all the shit storms in it like fucking troopers without polluting the world around them with their emotional fucking baggage and they don't expect their s/o to be their emotional tampon in the process. They go hire a therapist for that shit if they really need it.

It's not L v R called putting your big kid pants on aka growing the fuck up.

That pretty much sums it up for me as well, although maybe there is a nicer way to say it. Except I'll add that seeing a therapist is a great choice for people to make if that is what they need. And that if there were some way for the people that "handle life and all the shit storms" and the people that "expect their s/o to be their emotional tampon" to get along better then the world would be a better place.

There ought to be a pill for that, or maybe that is why there is weed.

 

[Aella_]

So that also means that from now on I can call you two whatever names I want, and you won't take offence.
Good to know, I'm already updating my 'swear words' list.

 

[girlsmiley]

So that also means that from now on I can call you two whatever names I want, and you won't take offence.
Good to know, I'm already updating my 'swear words' list.

I didn't really read the thread, but cunt is a good swear word.

 

[BoyNextDoor]

So that also means that from now on I can call you two whatever names I want, and you won't take offence.
Good to know, I'm already updating my 'swear words' list.

What it means to me is that if you find yourself wanting to call me names and swear at me because you perceive that I am unable to be empathetic with your emotional state you might consider that it is just not something I am wired for and give me the benefit of the doubt while you seek out people who can. And I will do the same, when I find myself unable to understand your emotional states and try to be more empathetic.

But in the meanwhile, why fight about it?

 

[BotanyBoy]

so I guess I'll take therapist or counsellor out from the list of your potential occupations…

It was never in the running.

Everyone might need one at some point and there is no shame but you can't expect your SO to be yours. To do so is to set yourself up for disappointment and someone else you allegedly care about to fail trying. It's the crazy makers formula for bullshit drama.

On the flip side it's the SO's responsibility to let their partner know that the issues at hand are beyond their ability to support/help and that they need to go seek professional help. If they don't then well...lol they deserve each other.

So that also means that from now on I can call you two whatever names I want, and you won't take offence.
Good to know, I'm already updating my 'swear words' list.

LOL....update all you want cupcake you ain't calling me nothing new.

 

[Que]

It was never in the running.

Everyone might need one at some point and there is no shame but you can't expect your SO to be yours. To do so is to set yourself up for disappointment and someone else you allegedly care about to fail trying. It's the crazy makers formula for bullshit drama.

On the flip side it's the SO's responsibility to let their partner know that the issues at hand are beyond their ability to support/help and that they need to go seek professional help. If they don't then well...lol they deserve each other.



LOL....update all you want cupcake you ain't calling me nothing new.

Lol. You Bell-end.