starting to think about sharing wife

[dirty_sumbit]

So I'm a married man. My wife and I have a pretty simple sex life. Most of the time its the
same old same old. A year or so ago she/we bought her first dildo. lately during 69 I would use the pink vib on her while I am licking her and sometimes while doggy style I will reach out and put the dildo in her mouth. Its crazy hot to me to see her bent over taken two.. Now the problems are as followed
I don't think she would go for it
I don't think I could go through with it
who and how could we pick someone

I had to get this off my chest. It's been building.
thanks for any comments or advice
Although there isn't a question above.
so
anybody dealing with the same wants
like I just want to show her some videos or stories or articles
but I don't want to scare her..

 

[TadbitOkink]

So I'm a married man. My wife and I have a pretty simple sex life. Most of the time its the
same old same old. A year or so ago she/we bought her first dildo. lately during 69 I would use the pink vib on her while I am licking her and sometimes while doggy style I will reach out and put the dildo in her mouth. Its crazy hot to me to see her bent over taken two.. Now the problems are as followed
I don't think she would go for it
I don't think I could go through with it
who and how could we pick someone

I had to get this off my chest. It's been building.
thanks for any comments or advice
Although there isn't a question above.
so
anybody dealing with the same wants
like I just want to show her some videos or stories or articles
but I don't want to scare her..

Without a few details advice is difficult. Long term marriage? Do you play around with fantasies in bed discussing in depth? Are you able to watch porn depicting the things you would like to experience with your wife with her watching along side of you? If so, any dirty talk at the time on the subject? As for wondering how far one would go, including yourself, perhaps the fantasy talk and play would be a good place to start and would add a little spice. As a loooong time married woman, I believe clear and honest communication is the key to stave off monotony in a marriage and the marital bed. Good luck!

 

[ADIDAS00]

So I'm a married man. My wife and I have a pretty simple sex life. Most of the time its the
same old same old. A year or so ago she/we bought her first dildo. lately during 69 I would use the pink vib on her while I am licking her and sometimes while doggy style I will reach out and put the dildo in her mouth. Its crazy hot to me to see her bent over taken two.. Now the problems are as followed
I don't think she would go for it
I don't think I could go through with it
who and how could we pick someone

I had to get this off my chest. It's been building.
thanks for any comments or advice
Although there isn't a question above.
so
anybody dealing with the same wants
like I just want to show her some videos or stories or articles
but I don't want to scare her..

This is all totally normal stuff. Most women fantasize about erotic scenarios with multiple men. I'm sure she is loving that you're branching out and trying new things with her. Me and my wife have been doing the same thing for the past few years. We even named her dildo wich adds some kinkiness to the whole fantasy. Just have fun with it and explore what you both like.

And there are tons of guys just like you that have fantasies of sharing their wife(me included). It's taboo and erotic and it gets our juices flowing......enjoy the naughty side you have and don't shy away from it. Your wife will love that you like the thought of her being a hot temptress. Even if you never go through with it, it will still spice up your sex life and bring you both closer.

 

[LauraWilling]

Without a few details advice is difficult. Long term marriage? Do you play around with fantasies in bed discussing in depth? Are you able to watch porn depicting the things you would like to experience with your wife with her watching along side of you? If so, any dirty talk at the time on the subject? As for wondering how far one would go, including yourself, perhaps the fantasy talk and play would be a good place to start and would add a little spice. As a loooong time married woman, I believe clear and honest communication is the key to stave off monotony in a marriage and the marital bed. Good luck!

I have been a shared wife for many years, but my situation is very different than most. In fact about 90% of women's situations. I was married 36 years! I won't go into everything here on my situation.

TadbitOkink is absolutely 100% correct in what she said. Clear honest communication is an absolute requirement. I would also add NO SECRETS when it comes to lovers, past present or future. Full disclosure. Jealousy cannot be allowed to enter the relationship without dealing with it immediately. I was fortunate in that jealousy never entered the picture. That is not the case in most shared wife situations, especially at the beginning.

Note I placed the "honest communication first. It is ALWAYS first! It also includes discussing fantasies, watching porn with scenes similar to what both of you enjoy and maybe desire and have fantasies about. Share these with your wife. Use fantasies when you have sex, but talk about sex and what you like over coffee, not in bed before, during or after sex in bed or wherever.

TadbitOkink has made some good tips for introducing the subject and enjoying time with her also. Remember one thing though. If your wife is dead set against this and does not ever respond positively any time the subject comes up, drop it. Make it your fantasy only Don't turn her off with it. Trust me, It can happen.

 

[dirty_sumbit]

wow

Ok really I wasn't sure the response I would get when posting it. I really thought I would get a few rp people looking to talk dirty for a min then move on.
I really appreciate the help and the fact that advice came from both sides of the picture is really helpful and great thank you all.

Ok I do feel that if my wife were to go through with it that would be a long build up.
We are both pretty vanilla type people (I being the rotten one, which I guess is common)
I also forgot so I have a extender (not sure the name) It's a dildo I can wear to add 2 in and thicken me up which we have name that, well not a persons name. We just kind of roleplay I'm another guy.

Which brings me to another she is not big on talking about all this out in the open. Maybe I bring it up a lot or because we never really use to talk about all this.

Oh we've been together 10 years married almost 8

We have tried different things
She has been so helpful and willing to try things with me

I bough her a strap on which she tried twice. both times not great success for her. No matter how much I said it was hot she didn't believe me. She wasn't comfortable. So I dropped that for now.

But since the first dildo I bought and used on her as we had sex or I licked her ive thought about it
Then I got the condom/dildo I wore and acting like I was her other man. I've thought about her with another man. kind of cuckolding just not a nasty as the ones you find on the internet..


anyways again thanks for the feedback I really am surprised in a good way

 

[dirty_sumbit]

how did you bring it up

Where if I may ask did everyone start.
Like did you bring it up slowly?
Role play at first?

 

[ADIDAS00]

Where if I may ask did everyone start.
Like did you bring it up slowly?
Role play at first?

Me and my wife made a long slow progression. A few years back we would text each other while at work. That turned into naughty texts to each other. We became more and more kinky each week. Then we purchased a lifelike dildo together and started experimenting with it.....that lead to us imagining it was another guy. Then we began texting each other kinky porn pics. That lead to tumblr and now we have our own tumblr page that we post on and we've progressively explored more and more subjects. It's now become a part of every day life. We're always connected through this kinky secret fantasy we both have that no one knows about.

I think some people feel guilty or ashamed of their kinky thoughts. Like how could I like that....or what would so and so think. We accept our weird and kinky sex life and it's been the best thing for us. I hope your journey will be as good as ours has been.

 

[BATEMAN_PATRICK]

That's a great idea. Get the divorce papers read... Most marriages don't survive partner sharing. These deviants here will tell you how great it is, but most of their marriages will eventually end too. Once the toothpaste is out of the tube, it's almost impossible to get back in.

 

[RideOmylife]

My wife and I have both had these fantasies for some time now and have shared them in the bedroom. We have never actually gone through with it but have been discussing a possible swap/swing scenario. We have decided to go to a life style club out of town in a couple of months to check things out but have decided to only be with each other. The thought of being exibitionists is quite a turn on for both of us. That being said, we have discussed this at great length and set boundaries and assured each other that if either of us can't go through with something that's the end of it. Communication is key and you should only move at the pace of the slowest partner. Don't push the issue, just have fun with it and see where it leads.Even if it never goes any further than fantasy, being able to share openly with one another will enhance your sex life tremendously.

 

[ReadingExcitesMe]

I've tried (unsuccessfully) for an arrangement like this. I think it's worth a shot. Just be honest and don't try to push her into it. She may like the idea.

 

[dirty_sumbit]

Again thanks

Even to captain bring down (I'm kidding) Your right its something I and any/everybody has to consider. Once you go down a road no matter the road, sometimes its tuff or impossible to come back.
I get that I really really do. Right now it's just something that we role play around about. And like I said in the first one or at least I think I did. I don't think I could fully go through with it.
And I really don't think my wife would. And there are a lot of fantasies I would love to do but I won't force on her. Girl girl is a main one.


I do have to say I do think if my wife and I choose to or really any part of our sex life that we do if anyone in our day to day life found out they wouldn't believe it. And for me again is a turn on

 

[ukcouple4play]

This has been a fantasy of mine for years. I was I guess pretty ashamed of it, or at least found it very hard to confess to my fiance. I was amazed when I finally did that she said it was her horniest fantasy too, I don't know what I expected but not that!

This was about 18 months ago. Since then we have done all sorts of roleplay imagining the scenario, talked in depth about it to the point of tentatively agreeing to think about making it happen. We even joined a swingers site at her suggestion. But that's where the communication stopped, she quickly realised she didn't get much out of talking to leery guys on line, I kept doing it expecting something to just 'happen'. Not surprisingly, it hasn't. We've talked about it and agree our mutual nervousness probably means we're not ready yet. We still love the fantasy and get a lot of pleasure from it, guess we'll see where it leads us.

 

[MysteryMan2014]

Very very hot fantasy we have both talked about. Still seems to be a long way off for us but as long as we get to keep talking about it, it keeps the hope alive.

 

[Cycle Tom]

Very very hot fantasy we have both talked about. Still seems to be a long way off for us but as long as we get to keep talking about it, it keeps the hope alive.

I wish my wife would consider it--or at least the fantasy.

 

[dirty_sumbit]

I understand

In my case I don't know if we are really ready to go all the way and try it out.
As for now every once in a while we use her dildo's and role play there is another guy.
Which so far for us has been hot

But I'm sure there are idea's or wants that are meant to stay fantasy right?

 

[ukcouple4play]

In my case I don't know if we are really ready to go all the way and try it out.
As for now every once in a while we use her dildo's and role play there is another guy.
Which so far for us has been hot

But I'm sure there are idea's or wants that are meant to stay fantasy right?

That's what you have to work out. We're still a way off doing it for real, but such is the nature of the fantasy that we both agree that what makes it hot is the possibility of making it real

 

[dirty_sumbit]

Agreed

Yeah your right. live it up in thought and then when and if it happens it could be close to perfect as possible. We will both understand what each other really enjoys and what we don't

 

[dirty_sumbit]

The other thing

I'm almost torn. To being in the room just watching.
I like the thought of just watching her get pleasured
Also I like the thought of having her doggy style while
she sucks me and I can look in her eyes. or hold her kiss her.

I've also thought about my wife and I being in 69 while she is getting fucked
Which is the thought that makes me say "why am I thinking about that its a little to much"
But it really is seeing her in ecstasy

 

[lovecraft68]

It sounds like you're looking to have your opinion substantiated so I will. If you doubt she will go for it and even you yourself aren't sure-meaning you would be trying to convince yourself as much as her-then why the hell bother?Z

Sometimes its okay for things to stay fantasy. You have nothing to prove as a man or a couple to anyone as far as sex life goes.

My wife will sit there as I play with her and discuss there being several men waiting their turn on her. We'll play and fuck and the entire time say what's 'going on' in the little illusion.

Then we go to sleep and forget it because neither of us would ever want it in reality, but the thought can still be hot and fun...until you cross a line that cannot be uncrossed

 

[dirty_sumbit]

true

I understand that.
Right now it all talk and fantasy.
But the thought is crazy hot.
I could only guess how hot it would be to really do it

 

[russko]

So I'm a married man. My wife and I have a pretty simple sex life. Most of the time its the
same old same old. A year or so ago she/we bought her first dildo. lately during 69 I would use the pink vib on her while I am licking her and sometimes while doggy style I will reach out and put the dildo in her mouth. Its crazy hot to me to see her bent over taken two.. Now the problems are as followed
I don't think she would go for it
I don't think I could go through with it
who and how could we pick someone

I had to get this off my chest. It's been building.
thanks for any comments or advice
Although there isn't a question above.
so
anybody dealing with the same wants
like I just want to show her some videos or stories or articles
but I don't want to scare her..

thought I'd share this with you man

http://www.cnn.com/2015/09/30/us/po..._homepage_deskrecommended_pool&iref=obnetwork

 

[Ahi_Viking]

sure

Good luck with it.

I think a lot of spouses probably fantasize about it and never share the fantasy with each other. Even if that's as far as it goes, that's fine.

Think about saving some porn clips for her to watch. Include a little mfm there. Maybe as you're making love to her say something along the lines of, "That young guy in your office probably wishes he could get you in the stairwell." Just leave it at that and let her mind stew on it. It can be quite nice.

 

[Ahi_Viking]

It sounds like you're looking to have your opinion substantiated so I will. If you doubt she will go for it and even you yourself aren't sure-meaning you would be trying to convince yourself as much as her-then why the hell bother?Z

Sometimes its okay for things to stay fantasy. You have nothing to prove as a man or a couple to anyone as far as sex life goes.

My wife will sit there as I play with her and discuss there being several men waiting their turn on her. We'll play and fuck and the entire time say what's 'going on' in the little illusion.

Then we go to sleep and forget it because neither of us would ever want it in reality, but the thought can still be hot and fun...until you cross a line that cannot be uncrossed

Very good advice.

I know of a guy who's hobby is meeting married couples on craigslist and cuckolding the husband. The guy really enjoys it. The wives go wild with it. Even he admits it's odd to see the husband sitting there all tied in knots and tense while he pounds away. Different realm...

 

[studnextdoor]

So I'm a married man. My wife and I have a pretty simple sex life. Most of the time its the
same old same old. A year or so ago she/we bought her first dildo. lately during 69 I would use the pink vib on her while I am licking her and sometimes while doggy style I will reach out and put the dildo in her mouth. Its crazy hot to me to see her bent over taken two.. Now the problems are as followed
I don't think she would go for it
I don't think I could go through with it
who and how could we pick someone

I had to get this off my chest. It's been building.
thanks for any comments or advice
Although there isn't a question above.
so
anybody dealing with the same wants
like I just want to show her some videos or stories or articles
but I don't want to scare her..

Same here my man, Same here.

 

[dirty_sumbit]

ok then.

That link was something about the flds. Which I am unsure what that has to do with
my random thought.

Well I got to say this is just a random thought that I've had from time to time. The idea of
sharing my wife. I really think its the thought of a women being with 2 guys at a time is hot.
I don't know why, Its crazy because normally when I search porn its femdom. but hardly ever
mfm threesomes. Although as of lately I have more and more. I found a few clips I've enjoyed but really haven't got my wife to watch them.

I think for now it will remain just something we use to get things hotter