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Actually....since she's really attractive and takes off her clothes in public, I'm sure she'll be fine in Doncaster.

Not the most glamorous of UK cities it has to be said, not one I'd visit by choice. South Yorkshire always seems to me the least appealing of the four counties.

For the benefit of Brad, Yorkshire is so big (by UK standards) it is divided into four cardinal sub-counties, formerly known as 'Ridings'. East Yorkshire still has signposts that say Welcome to the East Riding of Yorkshire but the others have dropped that word.
 
Partner and I caught up with a couple of her friends from uni recently. They were a couple, got engaged, E got pregnant, J couldn't deal with it and they broke up, E had the baby, J did some growing up and decided to be a responsible parent, now they're back together and happy. So lovely to see people working their shit out.

Only... part of the "growing up" was J coming out as transgender, and starting the transition process. While J's still legally male, they can marry - but as soon as J puts through the paperwork to legally transition, that marriage will be dissolved.

I really wish Australia would get on with catching up to the rest of the world on this crap.

So long as you've got that man in charge, nothing will change. It'll happen but not soon enough and I'm sorry Oz is dragging its knuckles over this :rose:
 
There's no same-sex marriage in Oz? Blimey! It's bizarre that countries as conservative as Ireland are ahead on that.

Yep. 70% of the Australian public support equal marriage, but the major political parties are still struggling with it. Our bad joke of a Prime Minister is doing his best to fight it; the one consolation is that this may be the final nail in his political coffin.

(To be fair, with the exception of marriage, Australia is pretty good on LGBTI rights, but it's a big "except".)
 
One year old

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I'm just over a year old, or rather a certain part of me is! Time flies but I wouldn't want to re-run the last year as it was a long haul. Medically everything is as it should be and things have settled down - I even pee in the right direction now :)
 
Status update!
I'm just over a year old, or rather a certain part of me is! Time flies but I wouldn't want to re-run the last year as it was a long haul. Medically everything is as it should be and things have settled down - I even pee in the right direction now :)
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Status update!
I'm just over a year old, or rather a certain part of me is! Time flies but I wouldn't want to re-run the last year as it was a long haul. Medically everything is as it should be and things have settled down - I even pee in the right direction now :)

Hooray!
 
Another question....

When you went through your surgery, did you also have surgery on your adam's apple to make it less prominent?
 
Big flying kisses to my favorite chickie sticky!😘😘😘😘🇬🇧🇬🇧

I'm jumping across the pond next year and we're going to party! ✈️😁😈
 
Status update!
I'm just over a year old, or rather a certain part of me is! Time flies but I wouldn't want to re-run the last year as it was a long haul. Medically everything is as it should be and things have settled down - I even pee in the right direction now :)

I'm so happy the physical healing has gone so well. I was going to ask now I have no need. More importantly I wanted to know hows your life, the important issues. Have you found a job? Are you back in university? Have you found an interesting group of friends? Any love interest? Most of all are you happy?
 
My third question - Do you consider yourself pretty? How did you feel about your attractiveness before you had your surgery?

Another question....

When you went through your surgery, did you also have surgery on your adam's apple to make it less prominent?


I don't want to pick on you Brad, you seem to be a nice man, try not to take what I'm about to write to personally, but why is it important to you if StickyGirl is attractive or no? What your really asking her is does she pass! Why should it even matter if she passes or not, other than passing makes her life much safer? What about the many transwomen who don't pass, does not passing make them less woman? What about the many women, both cisgender and transgender, who aren't attractive?

My cisgendered body fits the objectified version of beauty, other than my skin, which has more melanin than the ideal, not my ideal mind you, but one forced on us by the white male patriarchal society we live in. Because many men(all races) ogle me, make inappropriate comments, spend more time looking at and talking to my parts than looking into my eyes, does that make me more of a woman than someone else?

I guess my point is not all women are pretty or even attractive based on an arbitrary vision of what beauty actually is, a standard by the way we rarely hold men to. More importantly not all transwomen pass, which in our society is life threatening, especially if you happen to be of color. It shouldn't be this way!

If you'd have been honest you'd have just asked Sticky if she passes because that's really what you want to know. I'm not even saying it's an inappropriate question, that would be up to Sticky to answer. It would not be a question I'd ask because frankly I don't care, I'm fond of Sticky, I'm fond of who she is, the person I've gotten to know while participating on the boards here.

You might like to read this 5 Ways to Support Trans People Who Don’t “Pass” for Cis, maybe next time you'll think about what you're really asking.
 
I'm here because it's fun. I'm here for lovely men like Brad, who'll now being feeling awful for saying something that might have embarrassed me

I don't feel awful because of that. I didn't think that what I said might have embarrassed you at all because it wasn't meant in the way that some people assumed it was. You know that and I know that. And that's what matters to me.

Anyway...

I just read an interesting article and since it is about a couple who live in the same area that I live in and George Takei posted it on FB, I thought I'd post it here and ask you a question.

Their Baby Was Born With Male & Female Parts. Here’s Why They’re Suing the State

Here's my question -- to which there is no meaning at all behind, it's pure and simple (probably because White Patricians like me are very simple), I have no hidden agenda and it's only to ask my friend, Sticky -- What do you think of the people who are suing the state over this?
 
I don't feel awful because of that. I didn't think that what I said might have embarrassed you at all because it wasn't meant in the way that some people assumed it was. You know that and I know that. And that's what matters to me.

Anyway...

I just read an interesting article and since it is about a couple who live in the same area that I live in and George Takei posted it on FB, I thought I'd post it here and ask you a question.

Their Baby Was Born With Male & Female Parts. Here’s Why They’re Suing the State

Here's my question -- to which there is no meaning at all behind, it's pure and simple (probably because White Patricians like me are very simple), I have no hidden agenda and it's only to ask my friend, Sticky -- What do you think of the people who are suing the state over this?

(Not Sticky but I'm going to jump in anyway)

"MSN reports that this case is the first of its kind in the nation" - I presume they mean the first time somebody sued for it, because I've heard way too many stories about stuff like this happening to intersex kids :-/

This used to be standard procedure (the mantra was "easier to dig a hole than build a pole") and it's still done today, and seems like a lot of cases turn out like this one did. Hope they win their suit, and that this discourages doctors from "normalising" surgery before the kid's old enough to have a say in it.
 
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