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Darknesswoman
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Why is the age of consent in UK only 16. And in USA a supposedley advance contry it is 18. What's up don't you trust your kids
suckonsimon
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One of my sons lost his virginity with his virgin girlfriend here in the UK at the British age of consent. They were deeply in love and had been a while. They have both moved on long since, but remain friends. I am so glad for them both that it was not illegal, that they had the safety and privacy and comfort of my son's bedroom, and we had the security of knowing that there were always condoms in the house and he had free access to them until he had the courage to go buy his own.
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you're asking the USA - as a whole - that question?
it's quite idiotic to ask in the first place.
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Darknesswoman
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That about sums it up and the rest of us are expected to trust the USA. If you don't trust your kids you don't trust us
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This sounds like a child molester complaint.
And also, knowing when/if your kids are having sex is kind of gross.
Its one thing to let it be known there is condoms available but its a whole 'nother thing to know when a kid loses their virginity.
And also, knowing when/if your kids are having sex is kind of gross.
Its one thing to let it be known there is condoms available but its a whole 'nother thing to know when a kid loses their virginity.
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I can't compute that. I deeply care about every aspect of my children's well-being and happiness, even now when they're in their 30s. They know that. And because they know that they feel they can share anything they want to with us. Including intimate stuff if they so choose which just occasionally they do. And that's "kind of gross"? Perhaps we live on different planets.
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Darknesswoman
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And why do you bring this matter into the thread. The question of age of consent is a reasonable one to ask. In your profile you say you spend your day watching tv or a computor. May I suggere is more to life and you need to get out more
This comment relates to the individual who wishes to bring up the subject of molesting
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The proper age of consent varies with the age of the oldest party. If one is 16 and the other is 36, that is too young. Give the kid a chance to grow up.
Two teenagers fooling around in the moonlight? Different story.
Two teenagers fooling around in the moonlight? Different story.
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My take on it is that it's different in many different countries and cultures, I think the US has a lot more issues around the expression of sexuality than their age of consent and that it is more often in place to protect what are essentially children from exploitation by those older than them, not about trust at all. Would there be less child brides married off to much older men if there was the protection of an age of consent and prosecution accordingly? I don't know, but it's worth contemplation don't you think?
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Wow, that is a lot of hostility with a huge side of judgmental.
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Thirty years ago kids fucked, no problem, except their moms called the cops every 15 minutes to raise hell about the tramp her sonny was screwing, or vice versa. So now you gotta be an adult.
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Whatever the age of consent is in any country, on Literotica it is NOT BEFORE 18.
The age of consent has varied across the US. I remember the furore with Jerry Lee Lewis and his 13-year-old bride (who said she was 15).
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbi...ewis-marriage-13-year-old-wrecked-career.html
Whether 16 or 18 is old enough? That depends on the person. A consent age of 21 might be better looking back from my vast age.
Whatever the age of consent is, trusting your kids on sexual matters ignores the pressures of nature. If they get the urge, stopping them requires more than a scrambled teenage brain. 'It's against the law' might help. Parental and peer pressure might be more effective.
In the UK I have no problem with two 16-year-olds having a kiss and cuddle and sometimes even getting engaged and married. I would be doubtful about how long such a marriage would last, but any marriage at a young age has to overcome difficulties.
I have a problem with a man in his 30s wanting a 16-year-old bride. That seems unfair to her and unbalanced. A 21-year-old man and a 17-year-old woman? She could be more mature than he is.
Whatever the figure is for an age of consent, that is for the legislators and the law enforcement agencies.
Love laughs at laws.
Age of consent varies by state in the US, the majority of which have it at 16. Age of consent laws are for protecting kids, rather than showing a mistrust of them. Compare the UK to Mexico, which can be as low as 12, and they could ask the same of you.
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People love to make a 36/18 romance "dirty" , but if they are digging it, why is it a topic at all in a Free Society?
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Well I think we have got it right in the UK. I don't aree with anyone saying it should be less than 16. Most kids these days are a lot more developed and mature than 40yrs ago. Now at 16 they are young adults. In UK the Labour party wish to bring in voteing at 16
So you can vote at 16. Fight for your country at 18 and die if that is included. Kids are not kids anymore. I wouldn't dream of trying to treat 16 year olds as kids I have too much respect
So you can vote at 16. Fight for your country at 18 and die if that is included. Kids are not kids anymore. I wouldn't dream of trying to treat 16 year olds as kids I have too much respect
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Why is a white/black relationship a topic?
If we are all equally human, colour of skin shouldn't be an issue. Cultural differences might make relationships more difficult but they can be overcome by tolerance in your relations.
Your relations can be a problem with any partnership or marriage. One of my daughter's friends is gay. Whenever she visits her parents, her partner has to stay with our daughter (or us) because she isn't allowed across the parental threshold.
Our daughters' friends come from a wide variety of countries, races, religions. Whatever they are, whatever they look like, they are welcome in our house but they have to accept that we live our way. We will accommodate dietary concerns within reason but we won't go out of the way to hide bacon or other foods they see as forbidden.
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What has this got to do with Age of Consent. Got lost somewhere
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In many states, the age of consent is 16 in the US. Laws like these, by the way, are to protect adolescents from adults, not an indicator that we don't trust "our kids." Your question is really quite ridiculous, well supposedley, anyway.
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That happens to all threads.
But your statement at the beginning was in fact WRONG. The age of consent is NOT 18 across the whole US.
State laws
From here:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_North_America
Each U.S. state (and the District of Columbia) has its own age of consent. Currently state laws set the age of consent at 16, 17, or 18. The most common age is 16.[62]
age of consent 16 (31): Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas, Connecticut, District of Columbia, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nebraska, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania[a], Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Vermont, Washington, West Virginia
age of consent 17 (8): Colorado, Illinois, Louisiana, Missouri, New Mexico, New York, Texas, Wyoming
age of consent 18 (11): Arizona, California, Delaware, Florida, Idaho, North Dakota, Oregon, Tennessee, Utah, Virginia, Wisconsin
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I am not v.familiar with these things, but I got curious & found this webpage. It's not entirely related to the topic at hand, but it points to some interesting facts.
So I'm wondering : while most lawmakers are focusing on cognitive maturity, are the '18- cutoff' ones taking a more rounded approach?
- Aka one's ability to think rationally drops when one gets emotional? Or if someone has poor impulse control, she/he might get herself in questionable situations despite knowing better?
http://news.uci.edu/features/studying-teens-emotional-maturity-gap/
"Researchers found that certain cognitive abilities reach adult levels by the age of 16, while emotional maturity isn’t attained till after 22.
The study shows that teens often lack the social and emotional maturity to control impulses. In contrast, intellectual abilities such as logical reasoning reach adult levels long before psychosocial maturity is achieved."
So I'm wondering : while most lawmakers are focusing on cognitive maturity, are the '18- cutoff' ones taking a more rounded approach?
- Aka one's ability to think rationally drops when one gets emotional? Or if someone has poor impulse control, she/he might get herself in questionable situations despite knowing better?
http://news.uci.edu/features/studying-teens-emotional-maturity-gap/
"Researchers found that certain cognitive abilities reach adult levels by the age of 16, while emotional maturity isn’t attained till after 22.
The study shows that teens often lack the social and emotional maturity to control impulses. In contrast, intellectual abilities such as logical reasoning reach adult levels long before psychosocial maturity is achieved."
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geronimo_appleby
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go back to Elizabethan times and see how mature 'kids' were. plus, look up jason burt, ian scrivens, and neil grose - although neil was 18, just, when he died.
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With predators out there like Recidiva the sex offender it is only warranted to monitor your children online.
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In addition, in many states it is legal for teens to have consensual sex with other teens who are close in age
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age of consent is only one part of it. see pennsylvania. the age of consent is 16 there, but if you or i were to actually sleep with someone under the age of 18 we'd be charged anyway just not with statutory rape. i believe it's corruption of a minor or some shit. in my state (michigan) that wouldn't happen unless you were their boss, stepparent or the theoretical 16 year old was unable to consent for some other reason.
and there's spain where you can freely hump 13 year olds as long as you don't lie to them.
the world is a weird, creepy place.
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Yay for grrls with underveloped impulse controls!
