Open relationship

[flyandy]

Sorry if this is in the wrong place.

Long story short my wife has given me permission to have sex with other women, Im seriously excited about the prospect of this happening.

Has anyone got any experience with this kind of situation? Have you done it yourself?

How would I go about finding a girl/woman whos willing to have NSA sex with a married man. :S

 

[RawHumor]

I don't know if there's a one-stop shop. Fetlife.com has some swinger type groups or poly type groups, depending upon what sorta thing you're looking for. In those, you might find play parties where things are a bit more open. Otherwise, the old fashioned way... bars or networking or just hope you run into someone. Just be honest about your relationship status with anyone you meet.

 

[SCcouple1990]

Some other sites you may want to look at are Swing Lifestyle, Swingers Date Club, and Ashley Madison.

As a single guy, you are a rather common commodity, so you need to present yourself well.

 

[itsallgood2000]

Curious has she already given herself permission?

 

[littlecordelera]

Some other sites you may want to look at are Swing Lifestyle, Swingers Date Club, and Ashley Madison.

As a single guy, you are a rather common commodity, so you need to present yourself well.

True dat.

I particularly like Swing Lifestyle, although your best bet is to join a swing club that will allow single males. Finding good Internet matches is really difficult, or maybe I'm just too picky. Either way, it is much, much easier when you are reciprocating eye contact.

Also, in some cities, Craigslist is the predominant swing site and a very good one. You can pretty much tell the quality by reading the ads.

Good luck!

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Sorry if this is in the wrong place.

Long story short my wife has given me permission to have sex with other women, Im seriously excited about the prospect of this happening.

Has anyone got any experience with this kind of situation? Have you done it yourself?

How would I go about finding a girl/woman whos willing to have NSA sex with a married man. :S

Isn't that what Tinder is for?

 

[littlecordelera]

Isn't that what Tinder is for?

It's good for quickies!

 

[subwannabe]

Does "open relationship" mean she gets to have some fun of her own?

 

[Tricktroll]

The bad news is that your wife is probably already getting dicked by a bunch of other dudes. If she's not (which I doubt) don't take the bait. 93% of open marriages fail within the first 2 years. Im sure you aren't going to listen, so at least take my advice and start socking money away. Divorce is expensive.

 

[bobbyinhouston]

Open

Both my wife and I have an open dance card. She can play with who she desires and so can I. We have been this way for almost six years.

To be honest she has never played with anyone without me being in the room or club, just being safe I guess.

 

[Cobra6813]

My wife and I have given one another hall passes. We just have to make sure the other knows when we are going to play. For us, it is a progression from swinging. We found that swinging was fun but proved difficult for all to click when meeting other couples. Usually one person wasn't into it and we don't take one for the team. The bottom line is trust. You have to trust each other

So far this seems to have worked out.

As the male half, it is more difficult to find partners.

 

[policywank]

You don't need to make negative assumptions about her motivation or whether she is already seeing other men. But you do need to accept that she will enjoy other men.

Not only will she be fucking other guys but she will almost certainly be more able to find casual sex partners than you. And some of them will offer something you don't - not necessarily better or worse but sufficiently unique to be appealing.

It is unrealistic to expect her to hold back for you. An open relationship means you have equal opportunity to fuck around but there is no guarantee of equal outcomes. It isn't her responsibility to get you laid or refrain from getting herself laid.

If you can't accept all that wholeheartedly she won't be able to be honest with you and the whole thing gets into a troubled area.

A lot of guys are conditioned to accept a whole bunch of mistruths about female sexuality and uncovering them can be harsh reality. We do like sex. We don't need to be in love with a man to enjoy it. We are enticed by the possibility of multiple partners - separately or all at once. You may not be the best ever (I personally don't have a best ever - its more like food where I like a lot of dishes equally well). You can't easily distinguish a sexually active woman from all the others. We do lust after specific physical as well as emotional and psychological that you may not possess.

Prepare yourself for a heavy does of truth.

 

[magicalmoments]

You don't need to make negative assumptions about her motivation or whether she is already seeing other men. But you do need to accept that she will enjoy other men.

Not only will she be fucking other guys but she will almost certainly be more able to find casual sex partners than you. And some of them will offer something you don't - not necessarily better or worse but sufficiently unique to be appealing.

It is unrealistic to expect her to hold back for you. An open relationship means you have equal opportunity to fuck around but there is no guarantee of equal outcomes. It isn't her responsibility to get you laid or refrain from getting herself laid.

If you can't accept all that wholeheartedly she won't be able to be honest with you and the whole thing gets into a troubled area.

A lot of guys are conditioned to accept a whole bunch of mistruths about female sexuality and uncovering them can be harsh reality. We do like sex. We don't need to be in love with a man to enjoy it. We are enticed by the possibility of multiple partners - separately or all at once. You may not be the best ever (I personally don't have a best ever - its more like food where I like a lot of dishes equally well). You can't easily distinguish a sexually active woman from all the others. We do lust after specific physical as well as emotional and psychological that you may not possess.

Prepare yourself for a heavy does of truth.

Never have truer words been spoken.

Listen to this woman, she knows what she is talking about.

 

[ghyeedog]

93% of open marriages fail within the first 2 years.

That sounds awful high. Not saying I don't believe it, it's just higher than I would have expected. Do you have a source?

 

[MyRubiLips]

To be honest she has never played with anyone without me being in the room or club, just being safe I guess.

That you know of.

 

[Misshotndeep]

I have kinda always wanted one. I just fear that once I gave my heart I would be to possessive to do it. Hell, the whole site knows how well I play with others.

 

[MyRubiLips]

You don't need to make negative assumptions about her motivation or whether she is already seeing other men. But you do need to accept that she will enjoy other men.

Not only will she be fucking other guys but she will almost certainly be more able to find casual sex partners than you. And some of them will offer something you don't - not necessarily better or worse but sufficiently unique to be appealing.

It is unrealistic to expect her to hold back for you. An open relationship means you have equal opportunity to fuck around but there is no guarantee of equal outcomes. It isn't her responsibility to get you laid or refrain from getting herself laid.

If you can't accept all that wholeheartedly she won't be able to be honest with you and the whole thing gets into a troubled area.

A lot of guys are conditioned to accept a whole bunch of mistruths about female sexuality and uncovering them can be harsh reality. We do like sex. We don't need to be in love with a man to enjoy it. We are enticed by the possibility of multiple partners - separately or all at once. You may not be the best ever (I personally don't have a best ever - its more like food where I like a lot of dishes equally well). You can't easily distinguish a sexually active woman from all the others. We do lust after specific physical as well as emotional and psychological that you may not possess.

Prepare yourself for a heavy does of truth.

This is a beautiful statement and if it doesn't prepare a man for truth, nothing will.

 

[subwannabe]

I always find it interesting when someone starts a thread such as this and then doesn't even come back to read even one response, unless they didn't sign in.