Online BDSM

[xxxSubSamxxx]

I am single and would really like to be someone's sub. I would love to have a close bond and trust with my Dom.

Can you really accomplish this in an online relationship? Have you? What's your experience?

Sam xx

 

[desertslave]

Master and I met online. In a lot of ways I think beginning online has some advantages. You are virtually compelled to excel at written communications, and that communication can allow the growth of a much more intense relationship that your average "dinner and a movie" courtship.

That is predicated, of course, on both parties being truthful with each other. Unfortunately, the potential for misrepresentation or outright lying is huge. (That's not to say the same can't happen r/l...my ex turned out to be a compulsive liar and we never had any sort of online situation.) Either way, try to trust, but verify is a good way to thing about things.

And, of course, one or both parties can simply play out fantasies without any other expectations.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Thank you desertslave for your experience. I like the part about excelling at written communication and getting a deeper connection. I find online you can weed out the shallow ones who just want a quick peek at some free nudity lol xx

 

[TheSilverLining]

Once upon a time, I found this thread made for interesting reading on the subject.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Once upon a time, I found this thread made for interesting reading on the subject.

Wow 300 pages some light reading lol xx

 

[Tech_Director]

A Reasonable question.

I am single and would really like to be someone's sub. I would love to have a close bond and trust with my Dom.

Can you really accomplish this in an online relationship? Have you? What's your experience?

Sam xx

There are two elements, D/s and BDSM. A D/s relationship is easily accomplished online because the basis for one is communication and when you're dealing in an environment where ALL you have is communication via email, chat, or enhanced chat, learning more about each other is natural. However, there's a caveat here...*******, nobody ever burps, farts or makes an inappropriate comment so everything looks like puppies and rainbows.

BDSM online? So much harder, as I just said to someone, I can use a virtual crop all day long on your ass and you won't feel even a tenth of what you would if I gave you ONE stroke of a real one on the flesh of your ass. That applies even to those that are smacking their ass at the behest of the Dom/mes, trust Me, you will NOT strike as hard or soft as I want at any particular time and it definitely will NOT feel the same.

DAMN, sorry, I don't think I really answered that question for you.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Tech Director you answered me perfectly......it was what I thought also xx

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Well I have had some very nice chats with some really nice guys online. And have also had many guys try to dominate me by asking the following when they hardly know me........

What are you wearing?

And underneath?

Now take off your knickers.

Now pinch your nipples.

Now rub your clit.

Show me.

I do not consider this BDSM it's just boring unfulfilling cyber sex. I am not interested in doing this with a complete stranger.

Sam xx

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

A Great online experience

Last night for the first time I had a great online BDSM experience with a caring Dom who wanted to give me instructions purely to please me.

I would like to relay the experience for you guys and you can give your opinions as to whether or not you think it was BDSM.

We were only texting through kik. It was about 1am UK time and 6pm US time we had a little chat for a while about general things and my Dom instructed me to drink plenty of water. He told me to get a bottle and drink when I felt like it and when he told me to also.

He was telling me to get together some materials I needed and asking me what I had to hand. He told me to drink water and not pee unless I asked him permission. I drank three full bottles while we were chatting. I was naked as it was bedtime for me. He asked what I was wearing but did not ask for any pics. He made sure it was about my pleasure.

I could feel my stomach being really full about an hour later. My Dom at this point told me to bind my hands with tape. So I did as I was told like a good girl. I needed to pee, but I wasn't desperate at this point so I continued to follow direction. My wrists were stinging form the binds and going red. But I kept them on like a good girl.

My Dom then instructed me to roll up a pillow on the bed and straddle across it. The pillow was between my legs now and I could feel the pressure in my bladder. But I didn't ask to pee. He then told me to rock my hips backward and forwards so my pussy was rubbing against the pillow. I rocked gently and the sensation on my clit was amazing it felt so good like nothing I had ever experienced before, but I needed a pee, a little dribble came out but I controlled the urge to pee.

I continued to rock as I was told then all of a sudden out of nowhere I came......it was overwhelming I couldn't control myself. It was the best orgasm I have had in ages. My Dom rebuked me for not controlling it and told me to rock again to stimulate my clit once more. I was so ashamed I came so quickly. I carried on rocking, but I really needed to pee. I asked permission and was told to hold it in and rock on the pillow. My knees were hurting and so were my wrists, I was all sweaty and really needed to pee. But I was obedient and rocked as I was told.

A few minutes later my Dom asked me how close I was to orgasm on a scale of 1-10, I said 2 because I need to pee. He told me to hold it in and keep rocking. I did as I was told but I was really desperate at this point to pee and didn't want to pee on the pillow. Holding in my urge to pee was making it difficult for me to get aroused again. But I continued as I was told.

A few more minutes went by and I asked again if I could pee and said I was now at a 1 on the scale of being close to orgasm. This time my Dom gave me permission to pee and to rub my clit while I peed to see if I could orgasm at the same time.

With my urgency to pee my wrist came out my bind but I didn't get there in time to rub my clit, a huge gush of pee came flooding out with immense pressure the release was so satisfying. My Dom asked me how I was and I said I was fully satisfied. But he wanted me to come again and I said to please him I would to as he instructed.

He told me to bind up my hands again and lie on the bed on my back with my legs spread and my knees bent. I did as I was told like a good girl. He then told me to get my hairbrush and rub the ridges of the handle against my clit. It immediately got stimulated again and I was at 6 on the scale of near to orgasm. He told me to insert the handle into my pussy and slide in and out for him. I was obedient and did as I was told.

It felt really good and after a few minutes I came again. It was such a wonderful experience. I truly felt this was a BDSM experience and he really was a very good Dom and told me to do all the right things that turned me on. I hope next time I don't come as quickly.

What did you think? Was this BDSM?

Sam xx

 

[skinnysinner]

Hi Sam
I am not sure it matters if it were online bdsm, what matters is that it clearly did something for you and he focussed on that. For what it's worth, and it's a continuum anyway, it errs on the D/s and control but that is still good!

Well done, if ever you need a UK time zone chat let me know!

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Hi Sam
I am not sure it matters if it were online bdsm, what matters is that it clearly did something for you and he focussed on that. For what it's worth, and it's a continuum anyway, it errs on the D/s and control but that is still good!

Well done, if ever you need a UK time zone chat let me know!

Thanks I would like a UK chat. thanks for the pm and nice experience

Sam xx

 

[kittiGoddess]

I have done both online and real life, online atm and the online connection is definitely the most intense and rewarding.I have a wonderful connection with him.I think it takes a really strong Dom to be able to do this effectively but it can happen and it is worth it.

 

[sandysub]

hi

I agree with you kitti

 

[ShyGuy1855]

I'm sure it's not the same as a physical relationship but I think you can feel some of the same feelings. Mind games, obedience and modern technology

 

[bondagebunnies]

Online relationship are difficult to maintain. I think nothing beats the real thing. I recently hooked up with one of the founders of this site called Bondage Bunnies and tried the online thing. He never wanted to meet up so I dropped him like a stone.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

Online relationship are difficult to maintain. I think nothing beats the real thing. I recently hooked up with one of the founders of this site called Bondage Bunnies and tried the online thing. He never wanted to meet up so I dropped him like a stone.

Yes after a couple of months I would agree with this. I much prefer RL relationships vanilla or BDSM. I am seeing a Dom in RL right now and he is very forceful and dominant it's going good right now.
Sam xx

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Online relationship are difficult to maintain. I think nothing beats the real thing. I recently hooked up with one of the founders of this site called Bondage Bunnies and tried the online thing. He never wanted to meet up so I dropped him like a stone.

So you created an account here with that site as your username? Interesting.

 

[RawHumor]

So you created an account here with that site as your username? Interesting.

And as her (?) home page.

I reported the spammer.

 

[BucksMaster]

I think this can be great fun for both the Dominant and the submissive.I had an on-line relationship with a submissive girl for two years and it was very powerful and very erotic.

 

[thelaughingcat]

Doesn't do a huge amount for me really - I've given it a go online...I actually met my OH on there but it was on a D/s dating site so we met up pretty quickly and didn't scene until after we met in real life. While it can get super intense, super fast, it just doesn't feel...real, in a way. The pragmatic part of me just thinks 'Is this it?', and that's no fun!

 

[BucksMaster]

Doesn't do a huge amount for me really - I've given it a go online...I actually met my OH on there but it was on a D/s dating site so we met up pretty quickly and didn't scene until after we met in real life. While it can get super intense, super fast, it just doesn't feel...real, in a way. The pragmatic part of me just thinks 'Is this it?', and that's no fun!

I guess it's horses for courses.Like most things in life,you got out of it what you put into it.My two year relationship with my sub was both very erotic and very satisfying for both us.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

I guess it's horses for courses.Like most things in life,you got out of it what you put into it.My two year relationship with my sub was both very erotic and very satisfying for both us.

Were you exclusive for two years? If so did you desire more physical contact during you're sessions?

I seem to always feel unfinished if I don't get some contact too. I have a RL Dom now and if we mess about online there has been an occasion when he has come over and finished the session in person. It feels much more satisfying for me.

Sam xx

 

[honeybee_345]

Well I have had some very nice chats with some really nice guys online. And have also had many guys try to dominate me by asking the following when they hardly know me........

What are you wearing?

And underneath?

Now take off your knickers.

Now pinch your nipples.

Now rub your clit.

Show me.

I do not consider this BDSM it's just boring unfulfilling cyber sex. I am not interested in doing this with a complete stranger.

Sam xx

OHMYGODDDDD.
HOW many times have I read the same F*^@%@$# mesages. Whenever I've met people for online D/s they almost routinely start with this exact script. Who do they think they are 1. Telling me what to do without knowing me or getting consent 2. Asking me to send pictures of my body- in a delicate, sexual and personal light- after just meeting.
I mean really.....

 

[YoungToy]

OHMYGODDDDD.
HOW many times have I read the same F*^@%@$# mesages. Whenever I've met people for online D/s they almost routinely start with this exact script. Who do they think they are 1. Telling me what to do without knowing me or getting consent 2. Asking me to send pictures of my body- in a delicate, sexual and personal light- after just meeting.
I mean really.....

For some reason, reading this gave me deja vu. Some people are just impatient and forget that this website contains human beings, not just sexual machines (unless they're into that, I guess).