For the men who into wife sharing, or cheating wives...WHY?

[Queen_Vicki]

Why are you into such a thing? I would imagine any logical thinking sane man worth their salt would be extremely pissed at the thought of their wives with another man, but as I look more into weird sexual fantasies ,cuckhold and wife-sharing seems like it's a popular fantasy among men. I even heard some men in the Marine's, and military are into it too.

 

[ConflictedOne]

For me it's a fantasy to see my very timid wife behave in a way she does not with me. I'm not sure how I would react if it happened for real, probably mad and turned on at the same time...

 

[tjernst]

Pride

For me, I am so proud seeing her in action. I mean this is my wife making another man cum. What a compliment to her and me.

 

[Black_and_White_Writer]

For me, I am so proud seeing her in action. I mean this is my wife making another man cum. What a compliment to her and me.

That's how most people in the swinging scene feel of it, both men and women. For them sharing their sexuality with others is a bonding experience that brings them closer together and transcends often archaic and restrictive social norms that aren't actually natural to the human experience.

 

[twister947]

No stranger, really, than wanting to be pissed on, or whipped, or.........

 

[Samisstout]

Let start off by saying we have never done it . But the thought of her and another man excites me . I don't know why but it does . It may never happen for me but the fantasy is still there.

 

[localsub1]

For me its the role reversal that turns me on. I'm a big guy and executive at work. The thought of being submissive and watching another man please my wife while she tells me he is doing it in ways I never could... or even having her tell me to perfom on him while she laughs at me and call me names, just drives me crazy. Of course I'm too chicken shit to bring up the subject because she has told me how turned on I make her by being such an alpha male type. I don't think she would be very receptive.

 

[Queen_Vicki]

For me its the role reversal that turns me on. I'm a big guy and executive at work. The thought of being submissive and watching another man please my wife while she tells me he is doing it in ways I never could... or even having her tell me to perfom on him while she laughs at me and call me names, just drives me crazy. Of course I'm too chicken shit to bring up the subject because she has told me how turned on I make her by being such an alpha male type. I don't think she would be very receptive.

Yeah. From the looks of it, she will probably look at you in a whole another light if you told her. Do you think she will divorce you, or stop having sex with you, if you told her how you feel?

 

[localsub1]

Yeah. From the looks of it, she will probably look at you in a whole another light if you told her. Do you think she will divorce you, or stop having sex with you, if you told her how you feel?

I think either one of those are a good possibility. If it was divorce, I couldn't handle her telling people the reason why. Well, in theory it would play right into my kinks, but it would ruin me professionally.

 

[screwher]

My wife

I'll admit it as well. I have no idea why the idea of another man having sex with my wife is so appealing. But I do know it's so fucking hot and I want another man between her legs ASAP.

 

[Aglaopheme]

As a wife......

I think the idea is hot. We've never done it, but has discussed it. I think it is exact the opposite of how you feel about it. He's got to be very secure, not only in himself, but in our relationship as well to even consider such a thing.

I feel these fellas are looking to enhance their wives sexuality.

 

[olaway]

I think either one of those are a good possibility. If it was divorce, I couldn't handle her telling people the reason why. Well, in theory it would play right into my kinks, but it would ruin me professionally.

I think that's a shame and maybe not true. Divorce is pretty extreme. You have a very established picture of your wife and are very uneasy with testing it. But if you cant explore fantasies with your spouse what kind of sex life are both of you having? I mean, it could be fine, could be great even so. But still, fear of even bringing up an idea? Say, theorerically, even? Without that, your sex life in general isnt as good as it could be. Plus, there may be a lot more to her you'll never know, just like there's this about you that she doesn't get to find out. Nothing is as sexy to me as a wife as finding out new things about my husband.

 

[magicalmoments]

Why are you into such a thing? I would imagine any logical thinking sane man worth their salt would be extremely pissed at the thought of their wives with another man, but as I look more into weird sexual fantasies ,cuckhold and wife-sharing seems like it's a popular fantasy among men. I even heard some men in the Marine's, and military are into it too.

Is your query an honest attempt to understand or just an opportunity to abuse those who have this fetish?

There are plenty of fantasies and fetishes that I do not understand and I often wonder how or why they developed. But the fact remains, whatever the cause it makes them happy, makes them feel sexually fulfilled, and that can only be good.

It's certainly not my role to judge them. Live and let live.

 

[maxwellq]

Let start off by saying we have never done it . But the thought of her and another man excites me . I don't know why but it does . It may never happen for me but the fantasy is still there.

Same here. The fantasy of sharing my wife with another man is incredibly exciting to me too. I encourage her to fantasize about someone else while we are having sex. Knowing that she is imagining someone else making love to her in our bed makes it extremely intense and thrilling. I don't think it will ever happen in real life, but the fantasy is so hot.

 

[SlutAddicted]

I think the idea is hot. We've never done it, but has discussed it. I think it is exact the opposite of how you feel about it. He's got to be very secure, not only in himself, but in our relationship as well to even consider such a thing.

I feel these fellas are looking to enhance their wives sexuality.

Agreed. Before one attempts to understand the fetish side of wife sharing one needs to reconsider baseline assumptions about sexuality and monogamy.

The OPs question strongly suggests that she takes societal conditioning as a universal truth. But it is nothing of the kind. It is a demonstrable fact of life that not everyone feels that monogamy is the default position and/or that a woman being with more than one man is automatically a source of shame or humiliation to the man. Yes, a majority of guys may feel this way but that does not equal unanimity.

Every man in the world can relate to the reality of being attracted to and wanting to have sex with more than one woman yet somehow want to believe women don't have similar urges. Or that if the man is enough of a stud that she wouldn't want anyone else. Nonsense. Even if you are the world's greatest stud......your wife or gf may still wonder what it is like to be with the world's 2nd greatest stud. 99% of guys who need to believe they occupy some exclusive or exalted status in their SOs spectrum of sexual desire are fooling themselves in order to fit into the accepted order of confirm their own status and security. It is indicative of how strong this pressure is that some men will choose to try to beat a woman into submission rather than accept her for what she is.

Once you comprehend the legitimate difference in view it becomes apparent that those of us who get a thrill from seeing our wife or gf with another man are just indulging in a garden variety fetish.

 

[screwher]

Agreed. Before one attempts to understand the fetish side of wife sharing one needs to reconsider baseline assumptions about sexuality and monogamy.

The OPs question strongly suggests that she takes societal conditioning as a universal truth. But it is nothing of the kind. It is a demonstrable fact of life that not everyone feels that monogamy is the default position and/or that a woman being with more than one man is automatically a source of shame or humiliation to the man. Yes, a majority of guys may feel this way but that does not equal unanimity.

Every man in the world can relate to the reality of being attracted to and wanting to have sex with more than one woman yet somehow want to believe women don't have similar urges. Or that if the man is enough of a stud that she wouldn't want anyone else. Nonsense. Even if you are the world's greatest stud......your wife or gf may still wonder what it is like to be with the world's 2nd greatest stud. 99% of guys who need to believe they occupy some exclusive or exalted status in their SOs spectrum of sexual desire are fooling themselves in order to fit into the accepted order of confirm their own status and security. It is indicative of how strong this pressure is that some men will choose to try to beat a woman into submission rather than accept her for what she is.

Once you comprehend the legitimate difference in view it becomes apparent that those of us who get a thrill from seeing our wife or gf with another man are just indulging in a garden variety fetish.

I agree totally. For over twenty five years my wife has been bat shit crazy about me. I am and will always be the love (and stud) of her life. But that didn't stop her from going to a hotel with another guy and I know she does find other men attractive. I think it's a matter of time before another man relieves her of her panties again. I can't wait for that time. It's going to ad extra spice to our marriage and keep the home fires burning.

 

[donalphamale777]

Is there and females that want to talk about exibitionism?

I am from Indiana and wounder if any females would like to talk about the exibitionism experiences they have had in the past. For example, have you ever committed sin in a public bathroom? Was it better than doing it in private?

 

[policywank]

What does this have to do with sanity or being in the military?

In my experience there are two prerequisites to healthy enjoyment of this lifestyle: a) a legitimately open-minded view about sex and personal sexuality; and b) enough personal strength not to be intimidated by the judgment of other people (i.e. like those who say such a libertine must not be worth his salt).

 

[HoldYouDown]

It's a dopamine rush for the cuckold because of the risk involved.

 

[jedclampet69]

Why are you into such a thing? I would imagine any logical thinking sane man worth their salt would be extremely pissed at the thought of their wives with another man, but as I look more into weird sexual fantasies ,cuckhold and wife-sharing seems like it's a popular fantasy among men. I even heard some men in the Marine's, and military are into it too.

ha.. it started for me when I was very young.. my g/f at the time was unfaithful.. the usual sad cranky etc but the biggest erection I had ever at that time.. Well that was the start of me encouraging all next g/f's then even wife to enjoy the company of other men.. and I just don't cum as hard if not in a pussy that has been used by another before me

 

[Queen_Vicki]

What does this have to do with sanity or being in the military?

In my experience there are two prerequisites to healthy enjoyment of this lifestyle: a) a legitimately open-minded view about sex and personal sexuality; and b) enough personal strength not to be intimidated by the judgment of other people (i.e. like those who say such a libertine must not be worth his salt).

The reason why I brought up sanity, and men in the military because, it's a huge disrespect for a man that is serving his country to have his wife cheat on him. But it's even odder for a man in uniform wants that disrespect. Especially since military men are very alpha like in very way imaginable.

I just think that maybe men who like being disrespected in such a way might need to go see a professional, and get help, and self-esteem, and self-worth.

 

[screwher]

The reason why I brought up sanity, and men in the military because, it's a huge disrespect for a man that is serving his country to have his wife cheat on him. But it's even odder for a man in uniform wants that disrespect. Especially since military men are very alpha like in very way imaginable.

I just think that maybe men who like being disrespected in such a way might need to go see a professional, and get help, and self-esteem, and self-worth.

This is a situation where the definition of "cuckold" walks that fine line. With traditional cuckolding there is that disrespect, humiliation, and feminization aspect to it. But for guys like me , and certainly those in the military, this isn't part and parcel with wanting your wife to have sex with other men. I can't go into my personal life because a have unique hobby that puts me in the public eye and definitely give me that "alpha male" status. I just enjoy the idea of other men screwing my wife and I want her to do it again.

But fair warning to that lucky guy - you better "respect me in the morning" as well.

 

[bill3901]

The reason why I brought up sanity, and men in the military because, it's a huge disrespect for a man that is serving his country to have his wife cheat on him. But it's even odder for a man in uniform wants that disrespect. Especially since military men are very alpha like in very way imaginable.

I just think that maybe men who like being disrespected in such a way might need to go see a professional, and get help, and self-esteem, and self-worth.

It's not "cheating" though...

 

[localsub1]

The reason why I brought up sanity, and men in the military because, it's a huge disrespect for a man that is serving his country to have his wife cheat on him. But it's even odder for a man in uniform wants that disrespect. Especially since military men are very alpha like in very way imaginable.

I just think that maybe men who like being disrespected in such a way might need to go see a professional, and get help, and self-esteem, and self-worth.

I don't think "getting help" is needed. If they are taking care of their day to day business, who gives a shit what gets their rocks off behind closed doors.

 

[localsub1]

This is a situation where the definition of "cuckold" walks that fine line. With traditional cuckolding there is that disrespect, humiliation, and feminization aspect to it. But for guys like me , and certainly those in the military, this isn't part and parcel with wanting your wife to have sex with other men. I can't go into my personal life because a have unique hobby that puts me in the public eye and definitely give me that "alpha male" status. I just enjoy the idea of other men screwing my wife and I want her to do it again.

But fair warning to that lucky guy - you better "respect me in the morning" as well.

I know what you mean. I do love the humiliation/disrespect aspect of it, but from my wife. There will definitely be problems if disrespect came from the guy. I guess for me he is nothing more than an instrument for my wife.