Get my wife to swallow.

[RyanBooks]

So, you can say that we are vanilla. And it would not go over well if my wife even knew I was a member here (but that is another story for another post for another time)....

While she has more frequently been willing to give a bj, she will move to a handjob when I am about to explode. I so want her to accept me all into her mouth. But I don't want to trick her and not warn her. And I realize that I should be able to bring it up to her, I really can't guess how she would react and I don't want to lose the frequency of the blow jobs.

Any suggestions, tips?

 

[Eilan]

What did she say when you talked to her about it?

 

[RyanBooks]

Sorry, maybe wasn't clear enough... I didn't bring it up.. I suppose I am looking for a full proof method of bringing it up...

 

[yvcam]

There is absolutely no better way than being straight and honest. But kind and loving at the same time.
Reasure her that you love her and that "That" will mean a lot to you.

see where things go from there.

Of course, make sure your diet is very healthy. Otherwise she may lot like it. But that's another topic all together.

 

[bogusguy]

Make her hot for it. Start with going down on her, tell her how much you want her, how you love her taste and how much her pussy excites you! Tell her how much you want her to cum in your mouth..how hot it makes you when your sucking her cum out of her juicy pussy. When she sees how hot it is for you, she can think how hot it can be for her performing on you. Sixty-nineing could help this along. Mainly eroticize her mind to it.

 

[RyanBooks]

There is absolutely no better way than being straight and honest. But kind and loving at the same time.
Reasure her that you love her and that "That" will mean a lot to you.

see where things go from there.

Of course, make sure your diet is very healthy. Otherwise she may lot like it. But that's another topic all together.

What would you suggest being a healthy diet? I think it actually applies here. Especially if I could tell her that I am making sure it will taste good.

Are there certain foods to totally avoid and how long does it take to either cleanse the flavor or add to the flavor?

 

[GiggLeGasm]

start with.. what sexual things CAN the two of you discuss? maybe you're presuming that she does/doesn't enjoy some things based on what you observe.. but we already know that women give subtle hints that aren't always read clearly.

 

[twister947]

Lead by example: show her it's not toxic. Don't expect her to swallow anything you won't.

And this: eroticize the act. It's all about the idea.

 

[SunDevilGirl]

I think you have to make it clear how much you love what she's doing and how much you'd love it even MORE if she let you finish in her mouth. Do not in any way criticize how she's doing it currently. Just be very clear how much it would turn you on.
Maybe when you're close just tell her..."I want to cum in your mouth."
She might just say no. She might get really turned on by it. But you won't know unless you try.

 

[Iceprincess12]

Coat it with chocolate, whip cream, peanut butter, something that can make it fun and enjoyable. I know that semen can taste different depending on what you eat, she may have had an experience where she didn't like the taste. I know when it tastes bitter, it gives me a stomach ache, so taste it to check. You could also taste some and kiss her, see how she reacts to that. Let her see you put some in her mouth so she knows of course.

 

[bogusguy]

Coat it with chocolate, whip cream, peanut butter, something that can make it fun and enjoyable. I know that semen can taste different depending on what you eat, she may have had an experience where she didn't like the taste. I know when it tastes bitter, it gives me a stomach ache, so taste it to check. You could also taste some and kiss her, see how she reacts to that. Let her see you put some in her mouth so she knows of course.

Ha! It was getting real interesting at 90 on Friday fun lol

 

[moocha01]

I think you have to make it clear how much you love what she's doing and how much you'd love it even MORE if she let you finish in her mouth. Do not in any way criticize how she's doing it currently. Just be very clear how much it would turn you on.
Maybe when you're close just tell her..."I want to cum in your mouth."
She might just say no. She might get really turned on by it. But you won't know unless you try.

I agree, say it when you are both excited. She may surprise you

 

[Iceprincess12]

Ha! It was getting real interesting at 90 on Friday fun lol

Don't distract! He has a legit problem

One last thing. When your desire to come in her mouth outweighs your fear of hearing no, you will ask her and get your answer. That could be a great starting point to move beyond vanilla.

 

[bogusguy]

Excite the mind, the body follows

 

[robertreams]

It is pretty simple. Do you let her cum in your face, swallow her ejaculate? If so, fairs fair. If not, learn.

My motto is love me, love my cum.

 

[RyanBooks]

Thank you for all the wonderful suggestions. I will let you know how it turns out, once my wife isn't sick and feels better

 

[CountryGuy2]

Lead by example: show her it's not toxic. Don't expect her to swallow anything you won't.

And this: eroticize the act. It's all about the idea.

Show her it's not toxic....Lets see how could you do that. Probably the easiest way would be to cum on her boobs and lick it off. I can think of other ideas but she probably wouldn't go for them. Mine wouldn't either.

 

[Harold_Hill]

So, you can say that we are vanilla. And it would not go over well if my wife even knew I was a member here (but that is another story for another post for another time)....

While she has more frequently been willing to give a bj, she will move to a handjob when I am about to explode. I so want her to accept me all into her mouth. But I don't want to trick her and not warn her. And I realize that I should be able to bring it up to her, I really can't guess how she would react and I don't want to lose the frequency of the blow jobs.

Any suggestions, tips?

I would suggest 69 with her, and bring her near orgasm when you are ready to cum. When she is having an orgasm, she is less likely to back away from taking your cum in her mouth. Getting her to swallow by giving her an orgasm isn't tricking her into anything; it's giving her a mind-blowing orgasm and letting her decide. If you want something, you have to give something, so give her a mind-blowing orgasm.

Yvcam's suggestion of good diet is valid. No women wants to swallow cum that tastes like rotting onions. What you eat affects the smell and taste of your body fluids, and being the case, stay away from strong foods and spices. Avoiding spicy foods and sauces and eating vegetables and fruits will improve the taste of cum. If a food is known to affect the way your sweat smells, (body odor), it will also have the same affect on cum. Cum is a body fluid.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Sorry, maybe wasn't clear enough... I didn't bring it up.. I suppose I am looking for a full proof method of bringing it up...

What do you mean by foolproof?

If you want a foolproof method of letting her know that you'd like her to swallow, that's easy. Just say "Hey darling, I get really excited by the thought of you swallowing during a blowjob, is that something you'd consider?"

If you want a foolproof method of getting her to say yes... ain't no such thing. Some people are fine about swallowing, some might do it as a favour to a partner, for some it's just not going to happen and no amount of sweet-talking is going to make it happen. In that case you'd be better off devoting your mental energies to figuring out some other pathway to pleasure than trying to work out the secret Blowjob Mode Unlock cheat code.

But if it's not a hard "no", then first step is letting her know that you're interested. That way, at least she can tell you if she's willing to negotiate.

(BTW, being able to have straightforward conversations about issues where your desires might not be 100% compatible? Useful relationship skill, will come in handy for far more important things than blowjobs.)

 

[seamus221]

First just tell her you want her to try to swallow your cum just one time.
Drink Pineapple juice for a weak and then have her try to swallow your first load.

 

[pfflyerhot]

I'm confused now. Do you want her to swallow or let you come in her mouth?
I know. I know. Ideally, both... I got it. But, what I'm also hearing you say is you'd rather she not switch to the handjob right before you come. Coming in her mouth and swallowing are two different things. Perhaps start by clarifying what "finish in her mouth" means.
I don't always swallow (rarely, actually), but I always finish him up in my mouth. I don't run and spit, either... more like I ooze and drip it down his spent, flaciding shaft...

 

[FUBARd1]

It sounds like the real issue is that communication is being hindered by the fear of being told no. You will have to ask for what you want, ultimately, however you get there. The direct approach is easiest.

If she objects, find out why, without being a dick about it. My last girlfriend didn't like the texture, so she thought, and it made her gag. Deeper discussion led to the discovery that she just had negative thoughts about it - who knows where they came from - but she was open to some experimentation. For example, she was willing to taste a small amount on my finger, and taste it secondhand in a kiss, when I went down on her after cumming inside her.

Long story short, with patience and a willingness to experiment, she was able to change how she felt about it, and become more comfortable with the whole idea.

It's all about communication and respect, though. Good luck!

PS - pfflyerhot made an important distinction. Her finishing you in her mouth feels different than finishing with her hand, while her swallowing is mostly a mental turn-on. You should know your own mind when you discuss it with her.

Just talk with her. That's most important.

 

[yvcam]

Well, i try it to make it a constant diet. I mean, not just before you get a BJ... nothing works that way.

I drink plenty of water during the day, A LOT. If you are urinating yellowish, you are not hydrated and need more water.

No sodas, no fish, no onions, no garlic. easy on the sugars. A Zinc supplement helps creates a lot of pre-cum, MACA, L'arginine and Vitamin D helps having a stronger erection and ejaculations.

Lots of fruits and veggies, avoid asparagus and broccoli. Eat A LOT of pineapple and Celery.

coffee has a huge impact on the smell and test of cum too...

the more you exercise and sweat, the more toxins are you going to get off your body... You see where am going with this?

Let's put it this way:

If you are asking her to eat it, to need to prepare that dish like you were a chef. She deserves nothing but the best...

Good luck!

What would you suggest being a healthy diet? I think it actually applies here. Especially if I could tell her that I am making sure it will taste good.

Are there certain foods to totally avoid and how long does it take to either cleanse the flavor or add to the flavor?

 

[RyanBooks]

Again, Thank you for all the wonderful suggestions and advice. Seems like I have some cleansing to do first. Sadly, I eat a lot of spicy foods (I like to cook Indian dishes)... however, this might just be the motivation I have been needing to make some changes in my diet anyways. So, potentially a win-win-win all around...

 

[Harold_Hill]

Again, Thank you for all the wonderful suggestions and advice. Seems like I have some cleansing to do first. Sadly, I eat a lot of spicy foods (I like to cook Indian dishes)... however, this might just be the motivation I have been needing to make some changes in my diet anyways. So, potentially a win-win-win all around...

I know that's a rotten choice, but that's really the case: good food or good sex.

As far as giving her oral sex, (and a great orgasm), while she is sucking your cock, there was never a woman who wanted to stop in the middle of an orgasm. If she is in the middle of an orgasm, she probably won't even think about it, she will just swallow. That's the way it has always worked for me. And if it doesn't taste bad, she will likely do it again.

It's possible that she has had a bad experience with giving oral in the past, (even though she may never tell you), and doesn't want to try again, so you need to give her good experiences.