rules??

[kitten2929]

My Dom wants me to come up with rules and said if i couldn't think of any to look some up?? what are your rules i need some tips!! thankz again!!

 

[subwannabe]

If he's really a dom and you're really a sub then he shouldn't be asking you to come up with rules, other than what your limits are. In my opinion he's just being lazy. It's like a warden asking a prisoner to come up with prison rules.

 

[MeekMe]

My Dom wants me to come up with rules and said if i couldn't think of any to look some up?? what are your rules i need some tips!! thankz again!!

Well, this is really something you should probably be discussing with each other. Negotiate the terms of these rules and how they should be implemented. I found a thread on this topic, it should provide some info.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1028962&highlight=Protocol


Is this an online relationship or is it in real life? The "rules" would probably look different depending on that answer. Here's another thread I found. It seems that sometimes life can get in the way and inconsistencies can happen.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=874525&highlight=Protocol

If your dom wants to have rules, he should probably have a list of ideas of his own that he can discuss with you. Rules that he actually cares to implement and consistently check (because I hear it's exhausting).

 

[CutieMouse]

The only "rule" I usually bother with is "no drama"; I expect us to use our grown up words and discuss anything else.

Is it possible he's using the word "rule" in place of the word "limits"?

 

[midwestyankee]

I think we need to know a whole lot more information before we can be even remotely helpful. In a relationship in which rules are a distinct feature, usually the dominant partner determines those rules. Why are you being tasked with this in the first place? Are these rules supposed to govern the relationship as a whole or a subset of it, like Rules for When the Submissive eats Shredded Wheat? Are you supposed to also determine appropriate punishments in the event of infractions? Does he do anything in this relationship besides demand that you suck his cock at every opportunity?

 

[gorgeous_grl]

I'm also curious of what some ppl may have as limits. My husband/Dom are just starting to explore and we've decided to come to with limits, rules, and rituals together. I understand its an intimate curiosity and frankly none of my business, and each relationship will have different limits, but it's a curiosity none the less. Hope I don't offend.

 

[subwannabe]

gorgeous: You should probably start your own thread on this subject. You'll probably get more insightful responses than tagging on the end of another thread which many may not even click on to even see your post. While the general consensus would be that there are no set rules and everyone is different it would actually be interesting to find out what rules particular people have. It probably starts off with limits and expands from that, including punishments for breaking the rules or rewards for obedience.