You’ve broken my heart for the last time

[Rufus_the_Lame]

One of my therapists said while trying to sympathise with me “How many times can you get knocked down and be expected to get back up?” Referring to the number of times my heart has been broken by unfulfilled wishes, rejections and no response at all. It may be paranoia, but I wonder if there is a universal female conspiracy of silence against me.

If I’m being honest I’m actually a little angry, but I don’t know who to be angry at because it’s like staring into a dark abyss. It’s seems so unfair that when I try and put myself out there I am not rewarded for my efforts with even a simple hello. I know it’s a privilege and not a right, but surely I am entitled to some love, affection and closeness without having to pay for it.

So here it is my anti-personal ad. I’m sick of putting myself out there, just for absolutely nobody to take any notice. Ladies I’m here if you want me, and believe me when I say you could do worse.

I am looking for: a genetic female with a pulse between the ages of 22 and 39, for a chatting, dating and sex.

I am: a genetic male with fully functioning average male parts. I have a steady life and a job which I love; my job also gives me great flexibility to work on my passions. Yeah, there are things that are seriously wrong with me but if I can work around them I’m sure we can too.

I can offer: intelligent conversation, a listening ear, compliments, effort and enthusiasm.

Ps I will bump this as often as needs be.

 

[naughtyjosh]

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[JudasIscariot]

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[Rufus_the_Lame]

Dude, you have made 3 or 4 threads this past week. Just be patient, browse around lit more instead of just the Personals, mingle on other threads and meeting people will become easy. Then you just wait to find someone you click with.
Making all these threads comes off as desperate.

Hi Josh thanks for your wise words, to be honest I didn't think anyone was really paying close attention. Yeah, wow it does come off a little desperate doesn't it, oops! However, please don't misinterpret my rant to be about Literotica. It is about my general perception of dating websites, a whole raft of social media and my inept experience at asking women out. I'm just using the Literoitca forum as sounding board for my frustration and as another avenue to put myself out there.

I pinky swear that I will not post another personal ad, and hope that the forums will forgive me. I really love this place! there are so many good, interesting people on here

 

[Rufus_the_Lame]

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Shaun I am intrigued by your avatar, could you please tell me who it is? He looks so cool, but I'm guessing it's someone like Fidel Castro. OR perhaps it's Che Guevara, God bless Google Image search!

 

[angelicecstasy]

Well I think you sound like a sweetheart. Though I do fall outside of your range by a year.

 

[Rufus_the_Lame]

Well I think you sound like a sweetheart. Though I do fall outside of your range by a year.

Thank you, and my age range isn't absolute

 

[angelicecstasy]

Thank you, and my age range isn't absolute

Terribly sorry about that! My inbox is cleared out now.

 

[mike_confident]

One of my therapists said while trying to sympathise with me “How many times can you get knocked down and be expected to get back up?” Referring to the number of times my heart has been broken by unfulfilled wishes, rejections and no response at all. It may be paranoia, but I wonder if there is a universal female conspiracy of silence against me.

If I’m being honest I’m actually a little angry, but I don’t know who to be angry at because it’s like staring into a dark abyss. It’s seems so unfair that when I try and put myself out there I am not rewarded for my efforts with even a simple hello. I know it’s a privilege and not a right, but surely I am entitled to some love, affection and closeness without having to pay for it.

So here it is my anti-personal ad. I’m sick of putting myself out there, just for absolutely nobody to take any notice. Ladies I’m here if you want me, and believe me when I say you could do worse.

I am looking for: a genetic female with a pulse between the ages of 22 and 39, for a chatting, dating and sex.

I am: a genetic male with fully functioning average male parts. I have a steady life and a job which I love; my job also gives me great flexibility to work on my passions. Yeah, there are things that are seriously wrong with me but if I can work around them I’m sure we can too.

I can offer: intelligent conversation, a listening ear, compliments, effort and enthusiasm.

Ps I will bump this as often as needs be.

cheer up things will get better

 

[Rufus_the_Lame]

Rufus your only problem is the fact that you think you have a problem.

So you've put yourself out there multiple times and got repeatedly shut down. Boohoo. We've all been there. Some of the best players are men who couldn't get pussy if their lives depended on it in highschool.

Stop putting yourself out there and start looking for girls who are putting themselves out there. You're trying too hard and scaring away any potential women.

Hi Mike, thanks for sharing your opinion. However, I think we have differing approaches to life. I would never describe myself as a 'player' and I want a relationship rather than 'pussy'. I went to comprehensive school not a high school but those are just semantics.

I'm not into playing games when it comes to love, for me it is not about numbers or positions. It's about finding that one person at that one time who makes your life better, even if it is already pretty good. Hopefully the right person won't be intimidated.

 

[MasterEnna]

your problem is that you had to google fucking Ernesto Guevara de la Serna...

 

[Rufus_the_Lame]

your problem is that you had to google fucking Ernesto Guevara de la Serna...

I know, it's truly shocking but I blame it on my youth. I had a rather sheltered upbringing in the countryside so I tend to be a bit of rube about some things. Plus I was born in 1984 and Guevara died in 1967. Pathetic excuses, I know.

 

[MasterEnna]

I know, it's truly shocking but I blame it on my youth. I had a rather sheltered upbringing in the countryside so I tend to be a bit of rube about some things. Plus I was born in 1984 and Guevara died in 1967. Pathetic excuses, I know.

the year you were born is not an excuse. i know who Picasso was. But that does not make me an elder. But follow the advice from the others dont dwell too much on things and take it easy. And go read about El Capitano Guevara.

 

[mike_confident]

Hi Mike, thanks for sharing your opinion. However, I think we have differing approaches to life. I would never describe myself as a 'player' and I want a relationship rather than 'pussy'. I went to comprehensive school not a high school but those are just semantics.

I'm not into playing games when it comes to love, for me it is not about numbers or positions. It's about finding that one person at that one time who makes your life better, even if it is already pretty good. Hopefully the right person won't be intimidated.

Rufus you completely misunderstood the point i was trying to make.

 

[Rufus_the_Lame]

Rufus you completely misunderstood the point i was trying to make.

Oops, sorry Mike.

the year you were born is not an excuse. i know who Picasso was. But that does not make me an elder. But follow the advice from the others dont dwell too much on things and take it easy. And go read about El Capitano Guevara.

Point taken Master Enna, I do know who Che Guevara was just not exactly what he looked like apart from that really famous photo of him in the beret.

It probably comes across that I am protesting too much, but I honestly try not to worry about these things. If it is meant to be it will be, but there is that small voice in the back of my head that says "but if you don't try at all then nothing will happen". So I try to strike a causal balance which at the moment may be rather skewed by my usual enthusiasm for starting a new venture.

 

[beingtrue2me]

You replied earlier that you are looking for a relationship. On lit? Not sure if this is the best spot. Women outnumber men but not here. Not by a long way. Go somewhere that put the odds more in your favor. Dating sites. Most women on here, like guys, are married anyway and simply looking to spice up their fantasies or kill time. Besides that most women on here........aren't.

 

[MortalKombatKitteh]

Yeah, it comes across as pretty desperate. Post all over the place. Interact. Put yourself out there to get involved with others.

 

[i_steal_books]

Do you chat with BBWs?

 

[Arielsdream]

Being an actual genetic woman on here, you are trying waaaay too hard. Play some word games, post in threads, read stories. Things happen when you aren't trying to force them. And dude, categorizing yourself as lame won't get any pussy. Trust me. Gotta change that.
Oh and I'm happy with my current group of male lit friends.....and too old for you.

 

[MortalKombatKitteh]

Being an actual genetic woman on here, you are trying waaaay too hard. Play some word games, post in threads, read stories. Things happen when you aren't trying to force them. And dude, categorizing yourself as lame won't get any pussy. Trust me. Gotta change that.
Oh and I'm happy with my current group of male lit friends.....and too old for you.

I'm an actual genetic woman...

I agree though. Especially with the lame part.

 

[greengamegirl]

One of my therapists said while trying to sympathise with me “How many times can you get knocked down and be expected to get back up?” Referring to the number of times my heart has been broken by unfulfilled wishes, rejections and no response at all. It may be paranoia, but I wonder if there is a universal female conspiracy of silence against me.

If I’m being honest I’m actually a little angry, but I don’t know who to be angry at because it’s like staring into a dark abyss. It’s seems so unfair that when I try and put myself out there I am not rewarded for my efforts with even a simple hello. I know it’s a privilege and not a right, but surely I am entitled to some love, affection and closeness without having to pay for it.

So here it is my anti-personal ad. I’m sick of putting myself out there, just for absolutely nobody to take any notice. Ladies I’m here if you want me, and believe me when I say you could do worse.

I am looking for: a genetic female with a pulse between the ages of 22 and 39, for a chatting, dating and sex.

I am: a genetic male with fully functioning average male parts. I have a steady life and a job which I love; my job also gives me great flexibility to work on my passions. Yeah, there are things that are seriously wrong with me but if I can work around them I’m sure we can too.

I can offer: intelligent conversation, a listening ear, compliments, effort and enthusiasm.

Ps I will bump this as often as needs be.

You sound open minded and interesting.

 

[Rufus_the_Lame]

Firstly I lost internet connection about 9pm GMT last night, and went to bed to listen to Absolute 80's and fell asleep. So I will answer these thoughts in one batch.

You sound open minded and interesting.

Thank you, Green Game Girl.

Being an actual genetic woman on here, you are trying waaaay too hard. Play some word games, post in threads, read stories. Things happen when you aren't trying to force them. And dude, categorizing yourself as lame won't get any pussy. Trust me. Gotta change that.
Oh and I'm happy with my current group of male lit friends.....and too old for you.

Hi Ariels Dream, I have been reading stories on Literotica for about ten years. This is simply a new profile I have set up, I'm not meaning for it to seem like I'm trying really hard. I'm not trying to force anything. As for the user name, I didn't want to use my real name and I wanted something to accurately reflect who I am. So my user name reflects my two biggest physical characteristics: Rufus refers to my red hair, see William II of England for example. Lame refers to my neurological condition which mostly affects my legs, I have chronically weak ankles, my feet slap and point in when I walk and I have the aid of splints to help me walk. If you think this sounds rather negative, I actually celebrate my difference and don't let my condition hold me back.

Do you chat with BBWs?

I wouldn't know, because I don't actually question people about their physical appearance. However, I would be more than willing to chat to anyone. P.s. thanks to all those who have sent me PM's off this post. It seems to have generated more response than I could ever have hoped for.

Yeah, it comes across as pretty desperate. Post all over the place. Interact. Put yourself out there to get involved with others.

It is my intention to do so and I have responded to other posts. It's only been a week since I set up this username, and this is going to be my last personal ad post for the foreseeable future.

You replied earlier that you are looking for a relationship. On lit? Not sure if this is the best spot. Women outnumber men but not here. Not by a long way. Go somewhere that put the odds more in your favor. Dating sites. Most women on here, like guys, are married anyway and simply looking to spice up their fantasies or kill time. Besides that most women on here........aren't.

Yes, I have been and I am on dating websites. This forum post was actually about blowing off some steam about my experiences on dating websites. Now fun fact, on most dating websites men out number women by a significant margin. So you have to do something to make yourself stand out from the crowd. I placed this post and anti-personal ad a bit tongue in cheek, based on my past experiences on other websites. I didn't want to lie about myself, so I highlighted what seems normal and obvious as if it is the best thing ever.

However, as I said earlier despite it seeming desperate and needy. I have genuinely been overwhelmed by the response thank you so much. Now, today is Sunday which means it is the Lord's day for me. So I won't be active on here now until Monday morning.

Take Care

 

[1sickbastard]

One of my therapists said while trying to sympathise with me “How many times can you get knocked down and be expected to get back up?” Referring to the number of times my heart has been broken by unfulfilled wishes, rejections and no response at all. It may be paranoia, but I wonder if there is a universal female conspiracy of silence against me.

Yes. All women talk and have world wide votes on which guys get ignored.

Don't fear the sarcasm...

If I’m being honest I’m actually a little angry, but I don’t know who to be angry at because it’s like staring into a dark abyss. It’s seems so unfair that when I try and put myself out there I am not rewarded for my efforts with even a simple hello. I know it’s a privilege and not a right, but surely I am entitled to some love, affection and closeness without having to pay for it.

You are entitled to exactly sweet fuck all except dying. I know that sounds harsh and more than a little cynical, and it is.
But the truth is that if you want emotional connection with a woman, you have to earn it in the perception of the woman in which you are interested.

First step, imo, is to get to a place where you are happy and comfortable being yourself, being single, and not worrying about getting laid.

So here it is my anti-personal ad. I’m sick of putting myself out there, just for absolutely nobody to take any notice. Ladies I’m here if you want me, and believe me when I say you could do worse.

Way to put yourself out there. I'm guessing sales isn't your gig, is it?

I am looking for: a genetic female with a pulse between the ages of 22 and 39, for a chatting, dating and sex.

I am: a genetic male with fully functioning average male parts. I have a steady life and a job which I love; my job also gives me great flexibility to work on my passions. Yeah, there are things that are seriously wrong with me but if I can work around them I’m sure we can too.

I can offer: intelligent conversation, a listening ear, compliments, effort and enthusiasm.

Ps I will bump this as often as needs be.

Screw this personal ad shit.
You want positive attention?
Get yer butt onto the boards and inter-fucking-act with people. Demonstrate your intelligence, wit and humor.
Here the women are attracted to guys who are smart, funny, fun and confident. Be that and they will respond in a positive manner.

Just like real life, you gotta put in the time and energy if you want to make a connection, and you're NOT going to do that with just 33 posts and a personal ad.

I'm not trying to be an asshole (it comes natural), I'm giving you a perspective in a blunt, straightforward manner. It's free advice so you'll get your money's worth.

Relax, interact lots, flirt shamelessly and enjoy yourself.
After all, enjoying yourself is the only thing over which you may exert any control.
Everything else is gravy.

 

[UnknownPath]

Hey Rufus,

Did you still want to chat? Generally someone blocking all private messages makes the message clear that they aren't curious about chatting anymore, but I wanted to ask since you left the ball in my court...and now I can't reply back to you. So, if you want to still chat maybe we can trade emails.