How to Block?

[Nicebignips]

I highlighted the relevant part. why would anyone go to the gb for friendly advice? there's a how to board here. it's moderated. why the gb??

Again, my error.

 

[dolf]

Damn. Guess my pm request for nipple pics will go unanswered now.

Thanks a lot dolf.



You can whine and wear out your keyboard all you want. You girls were rude, and not at all helpful and you know it, I know it and thats it.

Done.

scum.

 

[dolf]

Again, my error.

my advice would be to always read before you post.

the sticky gives a few hefty hints, but five minutes' reading will save you a lot of grief.

 

[Super-Surprise]

Does anyone here know how to block a person, and I do not mean the Ignore feature?

I mean, a way of blocking someone from posting on your threads, PMing you or seeing anything that you post, just as you would do on Facebook.

I'd appreciate any help in this area.

Plenty of options here.

Simply out the fucker and shame them into stopping. Or create an ALT and repay every bothersome intrusion twice over. Use your imagination and make them feel like the dick they are.

 

[unregistered]

 

[Que]

The bulk of the regulars on the GB pride themselves on snark. Being able to "take it" is more important than the ability to dish it out, but the bulk of them assume that their snark is as clever and interesting as those who can actually do it with humor and skill.

Dealing with a stalker leaves you two options. Complete ignore, no matter how offensive they get and wait for them to finally ramp it up to the point they are banned, or make it more trouble for them then it is worth.

The former is almost always the better choice but harder to do. It is the only option, really, if the poster has no other interaction other than their trolling behavior.

The latter works only on those posters that have an actual social life here, and stalk on a part-time basis. Those can sometimes be dissuaded.

 

[dolf]

Complete ignore, no matter how offensive they get...

kicking a tree is boring, because it never reacts. only the mouth frothiest of loonies are still following people after a few months of that.

 

[bg23]

Does anyone here know how to block a person, and I do not mean the Ignore feature?

I mean, a way of blocking someone from posting on your threads, PMing you or seeing anything that you post, just as you would do on Facebook.

I'd appreciate any help in this area.

Here's how you stop someone from posting on your threads:

1. Stop posting threads.

2. Slap yourself

3. Go back to facebook where you can be as much of a whiny bitch as you like


You're welcome!

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

The bulk of the regulars on the GB pride themselves on snark. Being able to "take it" is more important than the ability to dish it out, but the bulk of them assume that their snark is as clever and interesting as those who can actually do it with humor and skill.

Yeah but most - as evidenced on this thread - wait for the weakest person possible to pounce on, such as an unknown person asking an innocent question. It;s their chance to be the cool kid without destroying their "rep" among their regular posting friends. It's bullshit, total coward move. They are basically bullying the new kid at school.

I agree with Killswitch on this thread.

 

[Que]

Plenty of options here.

Simply out the fucker and shame them into stopping. Or create an ALT and repay every bothersome intrusion twice over. Use your imagination and make them feel like the dick they are.

"Out the fucker" is barely an option in the culture of the site and not at all an option on the GB. Here, being "butthurt" is a far more egregious offense, worthy of universal derision, than anal rape. The anal rapist is using "just words," you see.

kicking a tree is boring, because it never reacts. only the mouth frothiest of loonies are still following people after a few months of that.

This is sage advice but difficult for most people to follow. You are quite correct in your estimate of "months." and most people do not have the interest in the positive interactions to put up with being harassed for months.

The easiest and most practical solution is to simply start over. The troll just picked you at random, more likely than not, because that is how they get through life, abusing others to make themselves feel like more than they have ever been viewed by society. Odds are the troll will move on to someone else, and not even notice the new you.

It does get slightly better before they finally give up though. The collective tests your mettle and when you are actually ignoring and not responding, eventually the herd quits also giving them attention. In the initial ignoring phase though, people quote the person, people give negative attention, and some even pile on with the person. That is the period where most people lose their resolve.

There is a line somewhere that needs to be drawn. Not every personality conflict needs to be resolved with a ban. On the other hand, it seems to me we already have a probationary period of 100 posts. Anyone that cannot get to 100 posts without picking a fight is probably a trolling alt. Legitimate newbies during that time are feeling their way around the site, finding out what interests them, trying to make friends with people they find interesting.

I rather like how Funk shuts them down. She simply says something like, "If you haven't the courage to attack me under your own handle, I have no interest in engaging you."

 

[bg23]

It's a dumb question. If you have someone on ignore, they can't PM you and you can't see anything they post. Why would you be bothered by them any longer?

Expecting to be able to restrict what and where someone posts on a public board that's clearly about freedom of speech is childish in the extreme.

If you're SO butthurt that someone you dislike is posting on your threads despite them being on ignore then a PUBLIC FORUM is not the place to be.

 

[missgreekgeek]

Man and I thought the whines coming from 5 year olds arguing about "Who's not coming to their birthday party" was painful.


I think Dolf, eloquently put it, in rather simple terms.
And couldn't agree more.

 

[butters]

It's a dumb question. If you have someone on ignore, they can't PM you and you can't see anything they post. Why would you be bothered by them any longer?

Expecting to be able to restrict what and where someone posts on a public board that's clearly about freedom of speech is childish in the extreme.

If you're SO butthurt that someone you dislike is posting on your threads despite them being on ignore then a PUBLIC FORUM is not the place to be.

precisely

 

[Que]

Yeah but most - as evidenced on this thread - wait for the weakest person possible to pounce on, such as an unknown person asking an innocent question. It;s their chance to be the cool kid without destroying their "rep" among their regular posting friends. It's bullshit, total coward move. They are basically bullying the new kid at school.

I agree with Killswitch on this thread.

Uh, oh. You just touched the third rail. You said "cool kids." Whenever I use that term, the "cool kids" dash over to the blurt thread and say things like, "Is he STILL going on with that?? I just wish he would SHUT THE FUCK UP!!"

I have said it before, there is nothing different here than high school. In some cases junior high.

Some of the "cool kids" actually are kinda cool. JAJ even does , cool. The reason it looks like high school is because at high school you are basically differentiated from your parents and you are, for all practical purposes, and adult. You learn to interact with others, form (healthy) alliances, get caught up in planned mob activities like pep rallies and games, and unplanned ones like bullying.

Every bullying incident you ever observed had onlookers. You were one of them since you observed it. Maybe you spoke up, maybe you turned away, embarrassed, maybe you joined in. The type of person you were then, has a lot to do with who you are now.

Humans are mammals. A lot of mammals form herds. Herds ostracize those that seem weak or different. Herds reward conformity an homogeneity. Big difference between types of hers though. Most humans imagine they are running with mustangs when in actuality the are lowing with cattle.

 

[GuiltyPleasure]

Why is anyone taking this seriously - if the person is on the ignore list he/she is out of sight - unless you've been stupid enough (and this seems quite probable) to give out your e-mail address.

 

[butters]

you can't change how others post here, for the most part; you CAN change your own experiences by using the tools provided and by not expecting to be able to affect how others post.

 

[Nicebignips]

Yeah but most - as evidenced on this thread - wait for the weakest person possible to pounce on, such as an unknown person asking an innocent question. It;s their chance to be the cool kid without destroying their "rep" among their regular posting friends. It's bullshit, total coward move. They are basically bullying the new kid at school.

I agree with Killswitch on this thread.

Yes, agreed. Well said.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Uh, oh. You just touched the third rail. You said "cool kids." Whenever I use that term, the "cool kids" dash over to the blurt thread and say things like, "Is he STILL going on with that?? I just wish he would SHUT THE FUCK UP!!"

I have said it before, there is nothing different here than high school. In some cases junior high.

Some of the "cool kids" actually are kinda cool. JAJ even does , cool. The reason it looks like high school is because at high school you are basically differentiated from your parents and you are, for all practical purposes, and adult. You learn to interact with others, form (healthy) alliances, get caught up in planned mob activities like pep rallies and games, and unplanned ones like bullying.

Every bullying incident you ever observed had onlookers. You were one of them since you observed it. Maybe you spoke up, maybe you turned away, embarrassed, maybe you joined in. The type of person you were then, has a lot to do with who you are now.

Humans are mammals. A lot of mammals form herds. Herds ostracize those that seem weak or different. Herds reward conformity an homogeneity. Big difference between types of hers though. Most humans imagine they are running with mustangs when in actuality the are lowing with cattle.

I was the one who was bullied in high school. In fact I dropped out of sports and stuck with band in order to avoid the perpetrators. And then one fateful day I took my father's advice and fought back, beat the shit out of someone.

 

[Nicebignips]

precisely

Thanks.

 

[lovetoread]

I call bullshit.

No one is cool on this board.

Except for Laurel.

Maybe Manu, but he hasn't posted in years.

 

[Nicebignips]

Damn. Guess my pm request for nipple pics will go unanswered now.

Thanks a lot dolf.



You can whine and wear out your keyboard all you want. You girls were rude, and not at all helpful and you know it, I know it and thats it.

Done.

I second THAT emotion.

 

[lovetoread]

Thanks.

Nice edit. Don't want to look like you are anything but an injured party, right?

 

[Nicebignips]

Here's how you stop someone from posting on your threads:

1. Stop posting threads.

2. Slap yourself

3. Go back to facebook where you can be as much of a whiny bitch as you like


You're welcome!

Thanks. Now, GFY.

 

[Que]

It's a dumb question. If you have someone on ignore, they can't PM you and you can't see anything they post. Why would you be bothered by them any longer?

Expecting to be able to restrict what and where someone posts on a public board that's clearly about freedom of speech is childish in the extreme.

If you're SO butthurt that someone you dislike is posting on your threads despite them being on ignore then a PUBLIC FORUM is not the place to be.

..and there we have it. The person being offended is much more worthy of scorn than the one doing the offending. Always.

Why is anyone taking this seriously - if the person is on the ignore list he/she is out of sight - unless you've been stupid enough (and this seems quite probable) to give out your e-mail address.

The concept of "ignore" on this particular platform is imperfect and requires some willpower to use. One cannot see the content of what the ignored person has to say in their post, but you can always tell by when they post what they are responding to, and it grates. Also, there is no way to block seeing when the blocked post is quoted. It takes discipline to decide not to click "view post."

Imagine you like your home and your neighborhood. You have one neighbor who is an asshole and you have decided to have nothing to do with him. He serves on the homeowners committee, so every time he wants to say something about your yard, home, kids, dogs, or cars he sends you a note. You don't have to open the envelope, you can resign it to the trash. Official notices have to be sent certified. Do you look at what the asshole is carping about or not? You shouldn't. It only afflicts your peace. Most likely you do.

What about when you observe him talking to neighbors and pointing at your weeds? Do you ask the neighbors what the asshole is up to now? Or do you hum a tune and assume that despite the finger pointing not only is he not talking about you he is also not having any success enlisting the neighbor to his cause?

Funk and Killswitch are right.

The correct answer is:

Sorry to hear you have a stalker. It is sad that so many people here, and in life get their kicks being ugly to other people. Unfortunately, the ignore feature only works if you have the self discipline to not click "view post' and you can scan past the incidences when people make the mistake of quoting them. Hope you find enough enjoyment with the positive interactions you have to make co-existing with trolls worth the trouble.​

This is more or less the actual sort of verbiage that I have seen Laurelle employ. I have never seen her say, "Get over yourself, pull your big-girl panties up!" She shows some actual sympathy while allowing for the free-speech we are all otherwise in favor of.

One of the reasons that trolls are so plentiful and happy here is because whenever anyone does the emotionally healthy thing and says "ouch" when someone is being ugly, the answer from the peanut gallery is always, "Don't be butthurt!!"

 

[Killswitch]

I've never seen such a gaggle of fucking bitches in my life.

I'm makin a fuckin list.