Is this a douchebag move, or a brilliant compromise?

[GimpyIntellect]

So, I know this guy, right? Well, I don't really know him, but I know about him.

Anyway, he's married, and wanted to swing with his wife. She said no.

He then suggested that they use a webcam in their bedroom, allowing the world to see them during their most intimate times. She again said no.

So, what does the guy eventually do?

He secretly hides a webcam in their bedroom and gives the world glimpses of he and his wife. She has no idea. She strips in front of viewers, she gives her husband head in front of viewers, she has sex with her husband in front of viewers. Meanwhile, countless people are watching and she has no knowledge.

Is he a scumbag, or a well thought-out man of compromise?

 

[yossi]

He's a scumbag.

 

[phrodeau]

Only if he buys her some diamonds with the profits.

 

[parodyluvr75]

That's not compromise, that's going behind her back after she said no.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Scumbag.

Also, what's the cam site link? Need to see this for myself to...uh...give a more measured disapproval.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Is he a scumbag, or a well thought-out man of compromise?

It's a CAMpromise.

 

[Mr_Jon_Thon]

It's the guy losing all his shit in the divorce.

 

[Never]

She should ask him if he'd like his testicles removed, and when he says 'no,' she could compromise by drugging him and sawing them off while he's passed out.

 

[1sickbastard]

So, I know this guy, right? Well, I don't really know him, but I know about him.

Anyway, he's married, and wanted to swing with his wife. She said no.

He then suggested that they use a webcam in their bedroom, allowing the world to see them during their most intimate times. She again said no.

So, what does the guy eventually do?

He secretly hides a webcam in their bedroom and gives the world glimpses of he and his wife. She has no idea. She strips in front of viewers, she gives her husband head in front of viewers, she has sex with her husband in front of viewers. Meanwhile, countless people are watching and she has no knowledge.

Is he a scumbag, or a well thought-out man of compromise?

He's a well thought-out scumbag. I hope his wife divorces his sorry ass & presses criminal charges.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Douchebag. Felon. About to give his wife everything he owns in the divorce.

 

[Paendragon]

He's a scumbag.

I agree with Yossi's cleavage. He's a scumbag.

 

[Pookie]

The guy is a piece of shit. Hopefully for her sake no one is capturing the video and posts it to any of the many free video websites for people in their community to find.

 

[missgreekgeek]

Should have tried to get her drunk enough to consider swinging.
Keep her self-respect in tact, without millions watching.

Otherwise, have fun losing all your shit.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Can you see her face in the video? If not, I think it was a good compromise which may have turned out to be erotic for her in the end too. If you can see her face that He is a shit head.

 

[missgreekgeek]

Yeah because getting someone drunk is a stellar way of getting what you want.

Depends on the girl.
I don't know her life story other than she's humiliated.
And if he was the one making all these "attempts" to spice their sex life up and she declined, she either should have been making some sort of counter...like "I'll do this for you...if"

Or leave his ass for being pushy.

 

[Pookie]

Depends on the girl.
I don't know her life story other than she's humiliated.
And if he was the one making all these "attempts" to spice their sex life up and she declined, she either should have been making some sort of counter...like "I'll do this for you...if"

Or leave his ass for being pushy.

If you can't go into swinging with a clear head and honest communication, you don't need to be swinging.

 

[missgreekgeek]

If you can't go into swinging with a clear head and honest communication, you don't need to be swinging.

I've never done it, but I've looked at it with that mind-frame.
Otherwise, jealousy gets in the way right?

 

[Pookie]

I've never done it, but I've looked at it with that mind-frame.
Otherwise, jealousy gets in the way right?

That and a lot of hurt feelings. If you have to push someone into it, it's likely going to end badly. Swinging takes a lot of trust between the couple to work. Any deception, real or perceived, will very likely cause things to eventually end with a broken relationship. .

 

[missgreekgeek]

Nowhere does it say he made "all these attempts to spice up their sex life." It says he made two suggestions to SHARE it, both of which she declined. Getting her drunk is a douchebag suggestion as is doing the webcam broadcasts behind her back.

Some people value a relationship more than the need to get off or live a fantasy. Rare on Lit, but true nonetheless. Suggesting she should have left because of one aspect of their sex life is insane. Suggesting she should leave because he betrayed her and seems to have zero respect for his wife? Now that I could get onboard with.

I don't see it like that. I see it as it could be one of many attempts. We just see a glimpse of 2.
The recorded ones. Nowhere does it indicate, but a guy out of nowhere isn't going to go from swinging to sex cam... and then do it.
There has to be more to it...

I think's a dick move on his part. Yes. She should leave because her self-respect is mutilated as a result of betrayal and lack of communication. And really, if you're not into it, you're not into it.
He should have respected her 100% and men should know when their wife says no...It means no.

However, getting her drunk was just me saying...it might have worked better for him than recording her. I dunno women are a lot different than men when drunk. Then again he should know his wife when she's drunk. And if the answer's still no...then leave it be.

 

[tedsbeds]

So, I know this guy, right? Well, I don't really know him, but I know about him.

Anyway, he's married, and wanted to swing with his wife. She said no.

He then suggested that they use a webcam in their bedroom, allowing the world to see them during their most intimate times. She again said no.

So, what does the guy eventually do?

He secretly hides a webcam in their bedroom and gives the world glimpses of he and his wife. She has no idea. She strips in front of viewers, she gives her husband head in front of viewers, she has sex with her husband in front of viewers. Meanwhile, countless people are watching and she has no knowledge.

Is he a scumbag, or a well thought-out man of compromise?

No excuse, Scumbag.

 

[GimpyIntellect]

Can you see her face in the video? If not, I think it was a good compromise which may have turned out to be erotic for her in the end too. If you can see her face that He is a shit head.

Yeah.

The more devious thing is, he lays in bed where his face isn't showing. And he leaves the camera on the entire time she's wandering around the room, changing her clothes, etc. You can see her face, but it's off in the distance. I doubt I'd be able to identify her in a lineup.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

Yeah.

The more devious thing is, he lays in bed where his face isn't showing. And he leaves the camera on the entire time she's wandering around the room, changing her clothes, etc. You can see her face, but it's off in the distance. I doubt I'd be able to identify her in a lineup.

Too bad, that is pretty shitty. So when he showed you the video did you watch the whole thing? How long is it?

 

[Saint Peter]

Too bad, that is pretty shitty. So when he showed you the video did you watch the whole thing? How long is it?

Twelve times.

 

[GimpyIntellect]

Too bad, that is pretty shitty. So when he showed you the video did you watch the whole thing? How long is it?

It wasn't a video. It was a live cam session. One that he's done several times, maybe countless times, I'm not even sure.

 

[LadyFunkenstein]

It wasn't a video. It was a live cam session. One that he's done several times, maybe countless times, I'm not even sure.

So when you were sitting there with him watching cam sessions, did you get hard? Did he?