Men, mostly: I need help with how it feels...

[legerdemer]

From the standpoint of research: Could you point me to one or two stories in which you feel you, or another author, have been particularly successful at describing in detail how an orgasm feels from the male POV? For obvious reasons, I really would prefer male authors answering this. I could go look through all your lovely stories, but I'd much prefer if you pointed me to ones that, in your opinion, answer my question best.

(And I am curious as hell to see the range of answers I get to this one...)

 

[AirRichard101]

I have written little about the 15-30 seconds of numbing convulsions of the actual orgasm. I doubt that many have. We write about what we see/feel/smell that brings it on. I could perhaps compose something to send you.

ETA: It's not crossing the finish line, it's the race we remember.

 

[JKendallDane]

It's gay male, but I will offer this one up anyway. It is one of my more intense and in depth descriptions of orgasmic release and relief.

http://www.literotica.com/s/pizza-boy-at-the-door-ch-13-1

You can read all three pages or skip to near the end of page two and start with the last two paragraphs and just go from there.

Plus, look at it this way: you get two views of male Mt. Saint Helens eruptions for the price of one.

 

[RunningJib]

Begins

It begins in the prostate behind the shaft of my penis. As an example, put two of your fingers firmly between the opening of your anus and vaginal

when I'm close, I feel a knot in my prostate. (Think of an acorn) Like all things, it begins small, but as I edge closer, the pressure increases within my prostate and the knot is more pronounced.

The pressure continues and the size of my knot increases and I can begin to notice against my thighs. (Think walnut size)

As the size increases, my cock will harden and grow thicker at the base. (I've never notice this, but a few lovers have mentioned)

Now my breathing has changed to short panting, my eyes are fully open (and very intense) and my hips have a mind of their own (Forward, forward, forward . . . ) now what was walnut in size is the size of an egg. further, I can sense the heat in the base of my shaft. My belly reacts with spasms and my body is leaping forward. Suddenly, there's the explosion. Hot thick semen expanding in my urethra, my back arches forcing my member upwards, pulsating-- my shaft reacts my seed seeks a rapid exit

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I described the feeling in some detail in The Baller and the Nurse. There are, I believe, three instances with the last being the most descriptive.

 

[shutterpsb]

I haven't written it very well myself. I once told my wife it was like having to sneeze, but not being able to then suddenly sneezing. Of course the next time we got it on when we were done she said, "God bless you." Haven't mentioned it since.

 

[litmlove]

Imagine you are at your computer and you see a sexy picture. Your curiousity is aroused and you keep looking at the picture thinking of all the sexy things you could do with the sexy person in the sexy picture. WOW that is sexy.

While you are looking at the picture you kinda notice, but you aren't paying attention, that blood is accumulating in your non-writing arm. It's not a big problem that your arm is swelling, it may be a little awkward typing and focusing on your work because, you know, your arm is swelling. So your arm is slowly straightening out as it swells and getting stiffer and inflexible. It's OK, you arm has done this strange thing before and this swelling doesn't hurt.

With your arm almost fully extended you touch your swollen arm to feel its situation - it feels nice to touch. Your hand brushes along your swollen arm and it feels sorta good. You brush your arm again... and again, and you keep rubbing your arm so you can get more of those pleasurable feelings. Until all of a sudden your muscles sorta tense and you feel the blood rushing out of your arm then waves of pure pleasure as all the stored tension in your arm disappates in seconds.

Sweet relief!

You are panting for breathe, your arm is returning to normal as you bask in the bliss of all the tension in your whole body is gone. But you feel a bit tired, like you have just been to the gym a while ago, but rubbing your swollen arm wasn't strenuous, you just feel tired because you do. So you slouch back into your chair and keep basking in the fading bliss. And you sit there in your chair until you recover your strength until you don't feel so tired.

 

[AirRichard101]

Your PM persuaded me to elaborate since I don’t have a written example to reference. Other men might have the exact same experience as me but describe it in different words. Also, just as women differ in what gets them off, how fast, how often, and probably even their body’s physical changes, men will differ. What follows are my choice of descriptive words and my interpretation of physiological knowledge. I may appear to express something as fact when it’s really my opinion; gentlemen don’t flame me on that.

Men are sensory orientated when it comes to sex. What we see, feel, smell, hear, and taste is what registers in our brain and forms memories. An internal hormonal reaction forms the essence of the orgasm itself but its physical effects disappear quickly and we don’t remember the spasms. We can replay a memory and generate a new orgasm from it. Our stories tend to be real or imagined memories to generate orgasms for readers. Men don’t want to know my orgasmic warm-fuzzy, they want to read the sensual inputs to produce their own orgasm. A woman’s reaction to orgasmic hormone release extends to an afterglow that DOES imprint in her memory. She’ll remember her emotional attachment to her partner.

I think there are functional as well as physical similarities between male and female sex organs. The penis is a man’s clitoris, the glans having the most sensitivity. The penis and testicles are juxtaposed like the uterus and ovaries. A man’s prostrate is his G-spot, located similarly to a woman’s. I’ve read there may be a female gland in her G-spot and there are similar tactile nerve endings there in both genders.

Comparing descriptions of the sensations with Sandy, I think the spasms and warm feelings are quite similar. A building internal urge (pressure as RunningJib described) is the start. Tactile sensitivity, particularly in my glans increases until it drowns out awareness of other things. I sometimes notice a feeling of my penis stretching - swelling RunningJib as mentioned - as it reaches maximum hardness. An orgasm can be stopped until a critical mass (amount of hormone release?) is surpassed.

A warm feeling spreads throughout my body from the groin, accompanied by a tingly sensation similar to a shiver. Muscles tense and make involuntary movements such as hip thrusting to force my penis in deep for seed deposit. I feel the need to arch my back. My breathing rate increases but is it a reaction to exertion and oxygen replenishment needs or similar to adrenalin reactions?

During ejaculation, the warmth approaches a burning sensation. I feel the sharpest muscle spasms and can feel the actual passage of semen through my penis. Often, I am compelled to close my eyes and make groaning noises.

As my orgasmic sensations end sharply, there is a euphoric feeling. If I lie down serenely afterward, the feeling lasts longer but activity dissipates the effects quickly.

I think I’ve done a fair job describing my orgasm.

 

[awired50]

An internal prostate orgasm is 10 X as powerful as a normal ejaculation. Usually there is no cum released during this type of orgasm. Read lots of detail on our blog below. Very descriptive.

 

[robertreams]

The assumption that the ale orgasm must, by nature last 15-30 sedconds, is false. Ihave ad orgasms that lasted as long as 10 minutes. Now that I am older I have less control, but till manage 1-2 minutes. There are lots of good physical descriptions of the male orgasm; the good ones talk about the prostate gland. But I like to describe orgasms in terms of "loss of self" The French call orgasm "La petite mort" (the little death). My best orgasms are those in which normal sight, sound,smell, feeling disappear to be replace by visual explosions behind my eyes tingling of my skin,, a complete and total release, a letting go, a total surrender.

excerpt from "Sailing Away" by Robert Reams (it's m2m, but still

Again and again he penetrated, lanced, pieerced down relentlessly. He levered himself further up and began to drive down into my prostate. I returned to consciousness. As his penetrations became more and more forceful, I finally felt all resistance leave me, body, mind and soul. My ass opened to his penetrations. My mind surrendered to his will. I became totally his. My head swarmed with pleasure. I felt my ass go wide, my body go limp. Lance fucked me harder than ever. I wanted to thrust my ass back up to meet him, but that would take an effort of will. My will was gone. My being was suffused with the ultimate joy and pleasure of total surrender. Now I understood, what my body had been trying to tell me all along. I wanted to be taken, used, penetrated, filled, owned. This was the loss of personality that was to define my ultimate orgasm forever after, the loss of being I had feared more than pain, but now welcomed as my ultimate pleasure.

Above me Lance chanted, "Yes! Yes! Yes!

The pounding of his huge iron hard cock on my prostate finally took its toll and opened the floodgates to release streams of fluids from my cock, not so much a pulsing, a pumping as in previous orgasms, as it was an opening, an outflowing, draining me completely, an orgasm that struck my entire body, starting in my aching ass and moving out to my cock and balls, my arms and legs and fingertips and toes and nose and mouth and brain.*

And then I felt Lance unload his hot sweet cum deep inside me, telling me forcefully, "Take my cum Neal! Take it deep in you!" And I was off again, losing control completely, my mind and heart, my soul, going away to some distant unknown plain, stars and meteors and comets colliding behind my eyes, going, fading, losing consciousness...........

 

[AirRichard101]

An internal prostate orgasm is 10 X as powerful as a normal ejaculation. Usually there is no cum released during this type of orgasm. Read lots of detail on our blog below. Very descriptive.

That is not my experience but mine is limited to a half-dozen times and her strap-on doesn't vibrate. Just as women differ in reaction levels to clitoral and G-spot stimulations, men must also.

 

[awired50]

my prostate finally took its toll and opened the floodgates to release streams of fluids from my cock, not so much a pulsing, a pumping as in previous orgasms, as it was an opening, an outflowing, draining me completely, an orgasm that struck my entire body, starting in my aching ass and moving out to my cock and balls, my arms and legs and fingertips and toes and nose and mouth and brain.*

Great description of a prostate orgasm !

 

[AirRichard101]

The assumption that the ale orgasm must, by nature last 15-30 sedconds, is false. Ihave ad orgasms that lasted as long as 10 minutes. Now that I am older I have less control, but till manage 1-2 minutes. ...

I never said they MUST. I said the mind-numbing convulsion part of MY orgasm is that short. I also mentioned a euphoric state afterward. What YOU measure as part of the orgasm may vary.

 

[awired50]

That is not my experience but mine is limited to a half-dozen times and her strap-on doesn't vibrate. Just as women differ in reaction levels to clitoral and G-spot stimulations, men must also.

My best success came from vibrating massagers (Aneros Vice or the Rocks Off Naughty Boy) But everyone is different. It takes time for the P orgasm to build up.

 

[AirRichard101]

my prostate finally took its toll and opened the floodgates to release streams of fluids from my cock, not so much a pulsing, a pumping as in previous orgasms, as it was an opening, an outflowing, draining me completely, an orgasm that struck my entire body, starting in my aching ass and moving out to my cock and balls, my arms and legs and fingertips and toes and nose and mouth and brain.*

Great description of a prostate orgasm !

Agree

 

[awired50]

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Originally Posted by awired50 View Post
my prostate finally took its toll and opened the floodgates to release streams of fluids from my cock, not so much a pulsing, a pumping as in previous orgasms, as it was an opening, an outflowing, draining me completely, an orgasm that struck my entire body, starting in my aching ass and moving out to my cock and balls, my arms and legs and fingertips and toes and nose and mouth and brain.*

Great description of a prostate orgasm !
Agreed

Growling even !

 

[legerdemer]

Thank you, gentlemen, and keep it coming

I appreciate the descriptions so far - I can see similarities and differences.

(And, parenthetically, I'd love to be able to "give" a good prostate orgasm - an unfulfilled goal, so far. And now, back to the AH aspect, veering away from PG. )

 

[awired50]

I appreciate the descriptions so far - I can see similarities and differences.

(And, parenthetically, I'd love to be able to "give" a good prostate orgasm - an unfulfilled goal, so far. And now, back to the AH aspect, veering away from PG. )

It is interesting you are doing this research on this subject. You will know how to be the best lover n the end.
Cheers !

 

[suckonsimon]

no story to quote but ...

For me a full-on, total satisfaction orgasm has only ever happened in the context of my woman's orgasm. My pleasure in watching her gradual build from sensual pleasure into involuntary movement, incoherence, then the outburst of sounds which accompany her release; and then my pride in keeping her 'in orbit' for what seems like ages but I guess is in fact a minute or two maximum - all that will 'stack up' what happens in my whole body and mind and soul as an eruption of semen begins and continues in glorious spurts into her depths as she writhes on me.

There are my own involuntary sounds which are either sighs or ... growls? ... groans? - which are an expression of overwhelming pleasure, release, and satisfaction about my sexual prowess in overwhelming my woman with joy.

There is the 'rush' of energy from my groin to the extremities of fingers and toes and I experience what seems like fireworks emanating from my finger ends and my toes twitching and curling.

There is the delightful change in the feel of my skin: a sheen of sweat, so slight as compared with the sweating which in some conditions happens from aerobic exercise; and an increased sensitivity which feels like it is designed for the appreciative caressing which will probably follow the orgasmic climax for both of us.

The pleasure of the ejaculations themselves I struggle to articulate. But it is a totally different experience from 'mere' ejaculation in the context of masturbation or even of a 'quickie' with my woman: it's ejaculation into an orgasmic woman which evokes a primal sense of 'this is what I am for' and a buzz about myself which is intoxicatingly joyous and fulfilling in what I can only describe as 'my soul'. So yes, it is a 'spiritual experience' for me.

The sensation of being at more than full erection - the 'heft' of my penis in the period of my woman's orgasm, my own ejaculation, and then for a glorious few moments of rest before I begin to soften - that sense of fullness, is strangely calming because in those moments it is all that matters and satisfies me in the extreme.

The desire then to embrace, to entwine, to caress, to be caressed - and then to rest - is for me an integral part of the experience of orgasm and if it does not happen there is a sense of loss for me - back to where I started: a truly fulfilling orgasm for me as a male lover has to be a shared orgasm.

I hope this all feeds in to your 'research' somehow!

Simon

 

[legerdemer]

Thank you

Lovely description, Simon, thank you for taking the time. It does indeed feed into my research.

no story to quote but ...

For me a full-on, total satisfaction orgasm has only ever happened in the context of my woman's orgasm. My pleasure in watching her gradual build from sensual pleasure into involuntary movement, incoherence, then the outburst of sounds which accompany her release; and then my pride in keeping her 'in orbit' for what seems like ages but I guess is in fact a minute or two maximum - all that will 'stack up' what happens in my whole body and mind and soul as an eruption of semen begins and continues in glorious spurts into her depths as she writhes on me.

There are my own involuntary sounds which are either sighs or ... growls? ... groans? - which are an expression of overwhelming pleasure, release, and satisfaction about my sexual prowess in overwhelming my woman with joy.

There is the 'rush' of energy from my groin to the extremities of fingers and toes and I experience what seems like fireworks emanating from my finger ends and my toes twitching and curling.

There is the delightful change in the feel of my skin: a sheen of sweat, so slight as compared with the sweating which in some conditions happens from aerobic exercise; and an increased sensitivity which feels like it is designed for the appreciative caressing which will probably follow the orgasmic climax for both of us.

The pleasure of the ejaculations themselves I struggle to articulate. But it is a totally different experience from 'mere' ejaculation in the context of masturbation or even of a 'quickie' with my woman: it's ejaculation into an orgasmic woman which evokes a primal sense of 'this is what I am for' and a buzz about myself which is intoxicatingly joyous and fulfilling in what I can only describe as 'my soul'. So yes, it is a 'spiritual experience' for me.

The sensation of being at more than full erection - the 'heft' of my penis in the period of my woman's orgasm, my own ejaculation, and then for a glorious few moments of rest before I begin to soften - that sense of fullness, is strangely calming because in those moments it is all that matters and satisfies me in the extreme.

The desire then to embrace, to entwine, to caress, to be caressed - and then to rest - is for me an integral part of the experience of orgasm and if it does not happen there is a sense of loss for me - back to where I started: a truly fulfilling orgasm for me as a male lover has to be a shared orgasm.

I hope this all feeds in to your 'research' somehow!

Simon

 

[DreamCloud]

It was perfected in music: Stairway to Heaven - the long trip up through desire, to the crescendo of final release, with a prefect amount of edging along the way.

 

[masterandmargarita]

AirRichard101's response was fascinating. To add to his comments about how we form memories and the differences between men and women, I'll throw this out there: I don't much care how it *feels*. Yes, there are good and great feeling orgasms and great is better, but myself ( and maybe others from the internet porn generation of instant visual gratification) care more about how it looks than how it feels. Did a huge load come out? Is there somebody waiting enthusiastically to receive it, or are you squirting into a towel or something? Maybe I'm just weird, but the visual aspects are so much more important to me. While physically satisfying, I would still consider it a huge disappointment to get a blindfolded blowjob, for example. If you're writing about men, don't forget the visuals

 

[legerdemer]

huh, I never would have guessed...

Huh! I am floored, I would have never guessed that how it felt would be secondary to how it looked! Not meaning to be snarky here at all, but your comment reminds me of that Billy Crystal quote "It's more important to look good than to feel good."

One reason how it looks might be more important (or "influential"?) than how it feels, at least to you, is that there isn't very much difference in how different ones feel, but they do differ more in how they look. Is that right?

AirRichard101's response was fascinating. To add to his comments about how we form memories and the differences between men and women, I'll throw this out there: I don't much care how it *feels*. Yes, there are good and great feeling orgasms and great is better, but myself ( and maybe others from the internet porn generation of instant visual gratification) care more about how it looks than how it feels. Did a huge load come out? Is there somebody waiting enthusiastically to receive it, or are you squirting into a towel or something? Maybe I'm just weird, but the visual aspects are so much more important to me. While physically satisfying, I would still consider it a huge disappointment to get a blindfolded blowjob, for example. If you're writing about men, don't forget the visuals

 

[masterandmargarita]

Yes, but I don't speak for everyone. Just consider the cumshot media that we live with - women say that every porn scene ends the same way and it's boring, men like me would say that every cumshot is like a magicial snowflake, they're all so unique. This convo is more a psycho-analysis of me than a perspective of all men but hopefully the visual angle is helpful to you.

 

[sr71plt]

I can see that the sex scenes in Lit. stories are going to become much longer and more descriptive now.