Dom/Sub how too??

[Oldenburg]

Firstly hi I'm new ( I'm more ways than one and quite frankly shitting my self)
I have a few questions really, how did you get into it? Current boyfriend/Girlfriend? I find ' normal ' sex very very boring.. Just want a little info on it as this sound like something I could really get into...

Sorry if these are silly questions..

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[MaryanneB]

I don't have any ideas except to say that you're going about this the right way. I just heard from a friend who's an EMT that people are doing really dumb stuff since Fifty Shades came out. I was an OR nurse for a lot of years and all I can say is don't try to put something somewhere that it's not designed to be........Just listen to advice from people who know.

 

[Oldenburg]

I don't have any ideas except to say that you're going about this the right way. I just heard from a friend who's an EMT that people are doing really dumb stuff since Fifty Shades came out. I was an OR nurse for a lot of years and all I can say is don't try to put something somewhere that it's not designed to be........Just listen to advice from people who know.

Thank you for your reply, I've just turned 30 I would like to think I'm past sticking things where they are not designed to go .. Just like some advice on where to start..

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[midwestyankee]

Thank you for your reply, I've just turned 30 I would like to think I'm past sticking things where they are not designed to go .. Just like some advice on where to start..

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If you look at the top of the main BDSM Forum page you'll see a thread labeled "Library." Go there and wander around to see all the different topics that have been archived there. Chances are, you'll find more than a few on how to get started and in those places you'll find contributions from very serious long-time BDSMers who are no longer active here. In other words, there's lots of wisdom already in place for you to browse at your leisure.

That said, be sure to look for discussions about books on BDSM because there are some excellent books to be had. And, since Amazon is your friend, you won't have to buy them under the watchful eye of that prudish bookseller in your town.

Enjoy. Join in the conversations here and get to know folks. The room is warm, the people are friendly, and the drinks are free.

 

[Oldenburg]

If you look at the top of the main BDSM Forum page you'll see a thread labeled "Library." Go there and wander around to see all the different topics that have been archived there. Chances are, you'll find more than a few on how to get started and in those places you'll find contributions from very serious long-time BDSMers who are no longer active here. In other words, there's lots of wisdom already in place for you to browse at your leisure.

That said, be sure to look for discussions about books on BDSM because there are some excellent books to be had. And, since Amazon is your friend, you won't have to buy them under the watchful eye of that prudish bookseller in your town.

Enjoy. Join in the conversations here and get to know folks. The room is warm, the people are friendly, and the drinks are free.

Thank you I shall have a look now..

G x