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[SweetSam42]

I'm a lady! Well, I'm a woman anyway. Whether I am a "lady" is probably up for debate...

There are a few users here who claim to be lesbian or bisexual women who I'm very suspect of. But, none have ever done me any harm.

I did get a message once from a user posing as a hetero woman who straight up told me he was a guy. I couldn't let it go without at least querying him about why he did it. He basically said that he liked being able to be a perfect fantasy woman for other men, and he swore up and down he was straight himself. He never really gave me a good answer as to why it excited him to flirt and play with other men when he was so "straight." I sort of think it's akin to men who fetishize transsexual people - they don't exactly want to admit they like cock.

If no one is getting hurt, I don't see the problem with presenting yourself any way you'd like, any gender/sexual identity you'd like. If you're into getting dudes off by posing as a woman, so be it. If you are trying to get someone to fall in love with you or meet up under false pretenses, then that's just flat out mean.

Maybe I'm wrong, but if no one is getting hurt, I just don't see that there's any harm done.

 

[Thandi]

I'm a lady! Well, I'm a woman anyway. Whether I am a "lady" is probably up for debate...

There are a few users here who claim to be lesbian or bisexual women who I'm very suspect of. But, none have ever done me any harm.

I did get a message once from a user posing as a hetero woman who straight up told me he was a guy. I couldn't let it go without at least querying him about why he did it. He basically said that he liked being able to be a perfect fantasy woman for other men, and he swore up and down he was straight himself. He never really gave me a good answer as to why it excited him to flirt and play with other men when he was so "straight." I sort of think it's akin to men who fetishize transsexual people - they don't exactly want to admit they like cock.

If no one is getting hurt, I don't see the problem with presenting yourself any way you'd like, any gender/sexual identity you'd like. If you're into getting dudes off by posing as a woman, so be it. If you are trying to get someone to fall in love with you or meet up under false pretenses, then that's just flat out mean.

Maybe I'm wrong, but if no one is getting hurt, I just don't see that there's any harm done.

But two people (that we know of) did get hurt. One was duped for a whole year by him. That's not fucking cool.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Thank you Dutch, for posting a question. I was super busy this weekend and I had no time to post a question. I'm happy for others to post questions. I mean, it's not really my thread anyway. I just sort of elected myself king when Papa Chained left.

I don't quite understand the reasoning behind why a guy would pose as a girl to chat. I mean, I guess maybe their thing is hearing about girl on girl action. I didn't read the thread yet, but I'll have a look.

I think people here often forget that there are real people behind the screens with actual hearts and actual feelings. It's tough to open up and be vulnerable and then it sucks when someone gets screwed over like that. The situations here are often difficult and it sucks when people get hurt.

If no one is getting hurt and needs are met and fun was had then no harm no foul.

But if you're hurting people? Fuck you. You're lower than low and have no place being around.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

If no one is getting hurt and needs are met and fun was had then no harm no foul.

But if you're hurting people? Fuck you. You're lower than low and have no place being around.

My problem with that response, and I think that it's the general opinion, is that you rarely know that you're hurting someone on the internet until after it's happened. It can be difficult to realize how much of what a person states is fantasy and how much of it is meant to impact daily living.
I'm a fan of "be yourself" and if you're going to be someone else, let me in on it.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

My problem with that response, and I think that it's the general opinion, is that you rarely know that you're hurting someone on the internet until after it's happened. It can be difficult to realize how much of what a person states is fantasy and how much of it is meant to impact daily living.
I'm a fan of "be yourself" and if you're going to be someone else, let me in on it.

Yeah I'm definitely a "be yourself" kind of guy.

But yeah things depend entirely on the situation, of course.

 

[SweetSam42]

Ok I just read through that thread, and that fucking stinks. My post above still holds true: if you're going to put up that type of a front, don't get others involved like that. It's mean and hurtful.

A "writing exercise"?? Wtf??

 

[Lord Pmann]

So it seems like things are pretty serious and intense here. Perhaps we should lighten it up with a discussion on abortion or gay marriage rights? I kid, I kid.

In the spirit of the discussion from yesterday, how many people are surprised how real their feelings could be here? I mean, my guess would be that most of us came here just interested in the Literature aspect of it (okay, the porn aspect of it) and stuck around and made really good friends or maybe those that are even more. How shocking was that to you? Did you expect to meet and genuinely care for those on this site? Or do you not care at all? Do you keep it totally separate?

While there are some bad apples here, indeed, there are some lovely individuals. I've truly made some wonderful friends and met some really interesting people.

 

[Thandi]

So it seems like things are pretty serious and intense here. Perhaps we should lighten it up with a discussion on abortion or gay marriage rights? I kid, I kid.

In the spirit of the discussion from yesterday, how many people are surprised how real their feelings could be here? I mean, my guess would be that most of us came here just interested in the Literature aspect of it (okay, the porn aspect of it) and stuck around and made really good friends or maybe those that are even more. How shocking was that to you? Did you expect to meet and genuinely care for those on this site? Or do you not care at all? Do you keep it totally separate?

While there are some bad apples here, indeed, there are some lovely individuals. I've truly made some wonderful friends and met some really interesting people.

I for one never ever expected the strong friendships that I have made. I genuinely care for a number of people here, and have found myself "mama bearing" some.
It's the only reason I stay these days.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

So it seems like things are pretty serious and intense here. Perhaps we should lighten it up with a discussion on abortion or gay marriage rights? I kid, I kid.

In the spirit of the discussion from yesterday, how many people are surprised how real their feelings could be here? I mean, my guess would be that most of us came here just interested in the Literature aspect of it (okay, the porn aspect of it) and stuck around and made really good friends or maybe those that are even more. How shocking was that to you? Did you expect to meet and genuinely care for those on this site? Or do you not care at all? Do you keep it totally separate?

While there are some bad apples here, indeed, there are some lovely individuals. I've truly made some wonderful friends and met some really interesting people.

I'm definitely glad for the friends I've made here for sure. People, for the most part are cool and it's easy to have a laugh or two.

I had a situation here recently that taught me a pretty harsh lesson about trust. It doesn't necessarily apply to LIT per se, as stuff like that could happen in any social circle. But it's good to keep your guard up too.

 

[Paul_Chance]

For me, that was part of the expectation - when I become part of an online community, I find there are always people I like (and people I don't), and those I connect with, on whatever level, I start to care about them. I think that is why most people who join online are drawn to online communities. There is plenty of "free range porn" for those who prefer not to connect.

As the moderating force though, I've been around the internet long enough to know that many online communities are ultimately very transitory - a constant flow of people, good and bad, coming and going. (LOL - sometimes literally on Lit).

 

[SmileyGirl]

So it seems like things are pretty serious and intense here. Perhaps we should lighten it up with a discussion on abortion or gay marriage rights? I kid, I kid.

In the spirit of the discussion from yesterday, how many people are surprised how real their feelings could be here? I mean, my guess would be that most of us came here just interested in the Literature aspect of it (okay, the porn aspect of it) and stuck around and made really good friends or maybe those that are even more. How shocking was that to you? Did you expect to meet and genuinely care for those on this site? Or do you not care at all? Do you keep it totally separate?

While there are some bad apples here, indeed, there are some lovely individuals. I've truly made some wonderful friends and met some really interesting people.

I have made some amazing friends here and I feel very lucky and grateful. Feelings and emotions run high as we have no physical contact from online. So emotional attachment can be very strong and if the other person is genuine and feels the same it can be magical.

I learnt my lesson early on at Lit. Even after a long time of thinking you know someone, sharing your life, sharing yourself and trusting them, they can turn out not to be what they portray. It hurts and it's sad but maybe it says more about that person's morals and values.

But the good eggs make up for the bad

 

[BlueEyedGent]

I have made some amazing friends here and I feel very lucky and grateful. Feelings and emotions run high as we have no physical contact from online. So emotional attachment can be very strong and if the other person is genuine and feels the same it can be magical.

I learnt my lesson early on at Lit. Even after a long time of thinking you know someone, sharing your life, sharing yourself and trusting them, they can turn out not to be what they portray. It hurts and it's sad but maybe it says more about that person's morals and values.

But the good eggs make up for the bad

Not only is FakeaSmile a beautiful gal, but she has common sense and brains too..
I second everything she has stated...

 

[dutchrain]

Oh yes, the good eggs absolutely make up for the bad!

Since I had some experience in pen-friendships (yes, it is snail post I am talking about) I wasn't too surprised when I came online and discovered it really wasn't that much different from that in this world. You get (or send) a mail, you respond (or not), you get another mail and as you get to know each other a friendship may build. It takes the same amount of time, it takes the same willingness to invest some of yourself hand it is a lot cheaper since you don't have to pay for stamps.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I have made some truly wonderful friends here. I have a few that are very near and dear to my heart. They have been hugely supportive in shitty times.

The rest of you can fuck off. Hehe. I kid. I enjoy all of my peasants.

I truly didn't expect to meet people that I trust so much and care about so deeply. You have genuine concern and empathy with them.

And when you all mention the "good eggs", I all know you mean me. Thank you for the kind words.

 

[BradBigBrain]

I have made some amazing friends here and I feel very lucky and grateful. Feelings and emotions run high as we have no physical contact from online. So emotional attachment can be very strong and if the other person is genuine and feels the same it can be magical.

I learnt my lesson early on at Lit. Even after a long time of thinking you know someone, sharing your life, sharing yourself and trusting them, they can turn out not to be what they portray. It hurts and it's sad but maybe it says more about that person's morals and values.

But the good eggs make up for the bad

Me = http://img1.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20111130083330/shrek/images/thumb/5/56/Humpty_Dumpty.png/500px-Humpty_Dumpty.png

 

[AbsintheFather]

Me =

Those are some funky socks and shoes you're wearing Buddy . . .

 

[dutchrain]

Me = http://img1.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20111130083330/shrek/images/thumb/5/56/Humpty_Dumpty.png/500px-Humpty_Dumpty.png

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall, / Humpty Dumpty had a great fall; / All the king's horses and all the king's men / Couldn't put Humpty together again ...

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall, / Humpty Dumpty had a great fall; / All the king's horses and all the king's men / Couldn't put Humpty together again ...

And let's not forget....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&persist_app=1&v=cj9_yW8tZxs

 

[Lord Pmann]

The spirit of Papa Chained is saying something to me.

"People are having fun. Call the police."

What does he mean?!?

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

The spirit of Papa Chained is saying something to me.

"People are having fun. Call the police."

What does he mean?!?

I think he means that people are having fun and you should call the police.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I don't know what it means.. but I'm willing to suffer through these momentary detours..
https://hilarywgraham.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/polls_stripper_cop_550_4235_730595_answer_7_xlarge.jpg

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

I don't know what it means.. but I'm willing to suffer through these momentary detours..
https://hilarywgraham.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/polls_stripper_cop_550_4235_730595_answer_7_xlarge.jpg

Damn. I mean you could Titty fuck those abs.

 

[Lord Pmann]

So yesterday was a much lighter tone, which was nice to see. Although, I did really enjoy Dutch's question from the other day.

I assume Lit has broadened most people's horizons. How comfortable are you with your new found kinks and deviant behaviour? Is it surprising? Do some of them still weird you out? Or have you accepted your behaviour, you sick fuckers?

 

[dutchrain]

So yesterday was a much lighter tone, which was nice to see. Although, I did really enjoy Dutch's question from the other day.

I assume Lit has broadened most people's horizons. How comfortable are you with your new found kinks and deviant behaviour? Is it surprising? Do some of them still weird you out? Or have you accepted your behaviour, you sick fuckers?

Yes, Lit and the internet have broadened my horizon quite a lot. It is an ongoing process though. I am surprisingly comfortable with it. With the process, and the things I discovered, about myself also. Some things still weird me out. They have a kind of Train-wreck attraction to me. Can't look at it, but can't look away either.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I have had a few kinks come out since I came here. I mean, when I first got here, I was kind of shocked. Girl on top?!? Are you fucking kidding me!!! And then someone posted about fucking a girl from behind?!! I'm still kind of interested in how that works logistically, but let's just say I am thinking about it a bit more than I used to. So yeah, I'm pretty comfy with some pretty freaky stuff.