Sexsomniac /sleep sex

[HoneyBrunette]

My new partner initiated sex in the middle of the night, twice.
I was happy to go along with it.
He woke me by spooning me and rubbing his hard on against me.Once I was a bit awake I was happy to facilitate...

Turns out he doesn't remember those times. He had told me he has sexsomnia but having never even experienced sleep walking (which he also has) I didn't really believe him.

Now I do!

So, if I have sex with him while he is asleep following his initiation, is it rape?

 

[GimpyIntellect]

Sounds like he's just looking to establish a good excuse for his future cheating.

"Honey, it doesn't count, I was asleep..."

 

[Cumference]

My new partner initiated sex in the middle of the night, twice.
I was happy to go along with it.
He woke me by spooning me and rubbing his hard on against me.Once I was a bit awake I was happy to facilitate...

Turns out he doesn't remember those times. He had told me he has sexsomnia but having never even experienced sleep walking (which he also has) I didn't really believe him.

Now I do!

So, if I have sex with him while he is asleep following his initiation, is it rape?

Well, you did not exactly force it upon him or did it against his will.
But....

Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration perpetrated against a person without that person's consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority or against a person who is incapable of valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, or below the legal age of consent.]

"Valid consent"!
As quickly as possible ask him:
"Honey, is it OK with you, that I screw you in your sleep?"

Then, have all the fun you want.

 

[duranman]

My new partner initiated sex in the middle of the night, twice.
I was happy to go along with it.
He woke me by spooning me and rubbing his hard on against me.Once I was a bit awake I was happy to facilitate...

Turns out he doesn't remember those times. He had told me he has sexsomnia but having never even experienced sleep walking (which he also has) I didn't really believe him.

Now I do!

So, if I have sex with him while he is asleep following his initiation, is it rape?

Yeah. you're a fuckin' rapist and let's call the cops..

 

[Noor]

It's a REM sleep disorder that only happens to males. Since you know about it, I don't think it counts as rape by him since he isn't aware of what he is doing.
You do know what you are doing so unless you have a general agreement with him that this is okay, I would think it was.
If it bothers you and you want to keep him, sleep in separate beds.
One of my friends has it and that seems to work.

 

[parodyluvr75]

Yeah. you're a fuckin' rapist and let's call the cops..

^snerk^

 

[alamars]

I love sex in the night.... but after it i can´t sleep
Sometimes we ear togehter this video and so we can sleep again
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J5nMQ28F7Ag

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

My new partner initiated sex in the middle of the night, twice.
I was happy to go along with it.
He woke me by spooning me and rubbing his hard on against me.Once I was a bit awake I was happy to facilitate...

Turns out he doesn't remember those times. He had told me he has sexsomnia but having never even experienced sleep walking (which he also has) I didn't really believe him.

Now I do!

So, if I have sex with him while he is asleep following his initiation, is it rape?

How old is he?

 

[HoneyBrunette]

He is 40. Just.

I've been talking to him about it, he seems more OK with the whole situation than I am!
He's not too impressed with some of the activities I have described. But he was really coherent and asked for them specifically.

I even joked with him at one point about whether he was asleep or not! only because he had warned me of his sleep walking and being occasionally known to have or try to have sex while sleep...

He is not unhappy with me, or feeling like I took advantage of him - it's me that feels like I failed, I didn't keep him safe!

 

[parodyluvr75]

Didn't keep him safe? What kind of sex were you having?

 

[John Doe]

He is 40. Just.

I've been talking to him about it, he seems more OK with the whole situation than I am!
He's not too impressed with some of the activities I have described. But he was really coherent and asked for them specifically.

I even joked with him at one point about whether he was asleep or not! only because he had warned me of his sleep walking and being occasionally known to have or try to have sex while sleep...

He is not unhappy with me, or feeling like I took advantage of him - it's me that feels like I failed, I didn't keep him safe!

It's good that you're concerned for his safety, but I think you're overreacting.

 

[rosco rathbone]

He just had a wet dream...right up against your cervix.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Erections during sleep...yup, happens alla time.

Fucking during sleep? Where you have ability to put cock in vagina and do the in and out beat with precision until you bust a nut? I don't think so.

If you actually believe that malarkey, then I want the name and number of your twin sister!

 

[dolf]

I sleep fuck. wake up having backed up onto the cock. especially when spooning. it's happened with several partners.

 

[Cumference]

Erections during sleep...yup, happens alla time.

Fucking during sleep? Where you have ability to put cock in vagina and do the in and out beat with precision until you bust a nut? I don't think so.

If you actually believe that malarkey, then I want the name and number of your twin sister!

It is actually pretty well described:

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleep_sex

I'm fully aware, that wikipedia is not a good source, but the references cited are ok.

 

[Que]

My Mother's middle sister used to sleepwalk. She would get up in the night, gather everyone's shoes and place them all in a neat row.

 

[Cumference]

My Mother's middle sister used to sleepwalk. She would get up in the night, gather everyone's shoes and place them all in a neat row.

Sleep-tidiness!
That is praiseworthy!

And certainly more socially acceptable than pissing in the shower stall.

 

[HoneyBrunette]

The keeping him safe comment wasn't very well explained was it!
We were in a strange house, in a strange bed. I knew in theory that the sleep walking was more likely because of those factors, plus he was stressed and had been drinking all night (also factors). So I was supposed to be alert to the fact that these sleep behaviors were more likely to occur.

So I made sure our room had a lock on the door. You know, to keep him safe in a strange place.

It would be polite to say we didn't reach completion either time... and it wasn't active or vigorous just slow and sleepy.

He is not grumpy with me at all which is good, and now I know what he is like when he does this, so it is a lot less likely to happen. It just threw me as I was pretty sure (although half asleep myself) that he was awake!

 

[Garnate]

I had an ex that only initiated sex in his sleep. Only problem was he never finished it, only started. I'd get all worked up and then he was gone; back to a deep sleep. That was annoying as fuck.

 

[thør]

I had an ex that only initiated sex in his sleep. Only problem was he never finished it, only started. I'd get all worked up and then he was gone; back to a deep sleep. That was annoying as fuck.

Hence, ex.......

 

[HoneyBrunette]

I had an ex that only initiated sex in his sleep. Only problem was he never finished it, only started. I'd get all worked up and then he was gone; back to a deep sleep. That was annoying as fuck.

That's pretty much what happened that night... infuriating, but he made up for it later.

When your ex did it, did he remember in the morning?

 

[girlsmiley]

My new partner initiated sex in the middle of the night, twice.
I was happy to go along with it.
He woke me by spooning me and rubbing his hard on against me.Once I was a bit awake I was happy to facilitate...

Turns out he doesn't remember those times. He had told me he has sexsomnia but having never even experienced sleep walking (which he also has) I didn't really believe him.

Now I do!

So, if I have sex with him while he is asleep following his initiation, is it rape?

It sounds like you're taking advantage of him.

It may be fun for you in that moment, but how do you feel about it after?

I don't think it's ok, even if he says it is.

Just let the poor bloke sleep.

 

[girlsmiley]

I didn't mean to kill your thread, honest.

Just making an observation.

Sometimes I wake up and our legs are wrapped around each other and her tits are right there and I get carried away a bit.

But if she's asleep, there's just no way. No matter how bad I want to.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Sometimes I wake up and our legs are wrapped around each other and her tits are right there and I get carried away a bit.

But if she's asleep, there's just no way. No matter how bad I want to.

*sighs* I know how you feel.

And this is why I can't consider it true sex unless we're both coherent. You can rut against the surface of the skin next to you because you're subconsciously horny or whatever, maybe get a nut doing it as well, but to me, sex is coherence and control. I don't see the control or exertions needed for pleasant entry into orifices happening when you're in snoozeville. At least the other person has to be awake and helping you along.

I give all my lovers permission to wake me up if they wanna fuck, though. Unless we're both totally blotto from partying, I usually don't mind rising for the sweet stuff.

 

[girlsmiley]

*sighs* I know how you feel.

And this is why I can't consider it true sex unless we're both coherent. You can rut against the surface of the skin next to you because you're subconsciously horny or whatever, maybe get a nut doing it as well, but to me, sex is coherence and control. I don't see the control or exertions needed for pleasant entry into orifices happening when you're in snoozeville. At least the other person has to be awake and helping you along.

I give all my lovers permission to wake me up if they wanna fuck, though. Unless we're both totally blotto from partying, I usually don't mind rising for the sweet stuff.

Pretty much.

Snuggles doesn't necessarily mean sex. Especially if you're warm and soft and snuggly in the night.

Sometimes it just means I love being with you and the feel of you against me.