smoothg103rd
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The best sex you ever had, do you love the person that gave it to you?
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I did at the time. She doesn't exist as that person anymore.
It is kind of the reverse. Love made the sex better. Sex is always best when it is very connected. Problem is, you can't fake connection. It is there, or it isn't.
I had two experiences that were basically same day pick-up. That is not my preference. The first time, we were headed to a hotel within 15 minutes of meeting. On the way there, I was thinking about all the other times where the connection was off, and the sex suffered. Without meaning to, we connected on an intimate level. She was a nurse, that led to talking about my brother and the virtual ICU we had in our home, and something just clicked. The sex was very good.
The other time, I had the same concerns but there was this warmth, I thought she was feeling me more than she probably was, and it seemed like it was a good opportunity. It was a now or never situation so I flipped a coin and went. It just wasn't great. She got off, but I dunno, it was mechanical, and unfulfilling for me. I realize I over think it, but I know how my mind, body and heart seem to work, and it is foolish to go against that.
If I was younger and could just get off at a hint of a suggestion, I wouldn't worry about it any.
It is kind of the reverse. Love made the sex better. Sex is always best when it is very connected. Problem is, you can't fake connection. It is there, or it isn't.
I had two experiences that were basically same day pick-up. That is not my preference. The first time, we were headed to a hotel within 15 minutes of meeting. On the way there, I was thinking about all the other times where the connection was off, and the sex suffered. Without meaning to, we connected on an intimate level. She was a nurse, that led to talking about my brother and the virtual ICU we had in our home, and something just clicked. The sex was very good.
The other time, I had the same concerns but there was this warmth, I thought she was feeling me more than she probably was, and it seemed like it was a good opportunity. It was a now or never situation so I flipped a coin and went. It just wasn't great. She got off, but I dunno, it was mechanical, and unfulfilling for me. I realize I over think it, but I know how my mind, body and heart seem to work, and it is foolish to go against that.
If I was younger and could just get off at a hint of a suggestion, I wouldn't worry about it any.
Person that? Ugh. Try "person who" next time to earn the thoughtful discussion that is sure to ensue from such a well thought out, but poorly worded, question.
The answer is yes, BTW.
smoothg103rd
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Yeah I see what you are saying, the chemistry has to be there right? Only girl I could say that I loved was Shay. But I was young and don't really think that was love. So intimacy isn't something I really felt. Maybe love do make the sex better. But could I get credit for just loving their sex?
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Not exactly love, I was very fond of him, still am.
It was more that we care a lot about each other and we were a good match. It was more love making than sex, I suppose. We made love for hours. A year before he was my perfect first kiss. First kisses are always perfect but ours was.
It was so amazing I kept thinking about it and feeling it.
It was more that we care a lot about each other and we were a good match. It was more love making than sex, I suppose. We made love for hours. A year before he was my perfect first kiss. First kisses are always perfect but ours was.
It was so amazing I kept thinking about it and feeling it.
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That's because you go both ways. So it's apples and oranges with you.
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No. It was lust combined with complimentary preferences. When we weren't having sex we could barely tolerate one another.
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There are different levels of sex, before the guy above I really had great sex, but sex with him was mind blowing, beyond the physical act of excitement and coming, hard to describe. I was 27, and afterwards I never wanted any other kind of sex.
I think I wrote about it in my sexual journey thread.
There are many types of great sex, there is the sex where it is like you are both dancing in spacer in unison, where you no longer are individuals but merge as one. It's not about coming although eventually you do come, it's more about being in the space together, the oneness.
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smoothg103rd
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That does sound mind blowing. Never felt like that yet. I don't think I have. Something like that sounds like it deserve to come with a wedding.
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The best sex I had was about seven to eight months removed from the last sex I had had, so I think there were some hormonal circumstances involved that left true intimacy gasping in the dust.
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I had the opposite experience. The bad sex mentioned above was breaking a dry spell of about 6 months. Which was part of why I went for it. I don't do casual sex well.
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I will always have love for the person that helped me understand what true intimacy is.
So much so, I have a tattoo that represents our time together.
Sadly, as with many things in life, our growth and change was in different directions....
So much so, I have a tattoo that represents our time together.
Sadly, as with many things in life, our growth and change was in different directions....
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I could certainly see how that could happen.
I don't do long term sex well, but that's a personal baggage issue rather than a true sexual problem.
smoothg103rd
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My answer to the question is obviously no.
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It's more like peaches and bananas.
smoothg103rd
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I could dig it. To each it's own.
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Now, that's funny.
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I need trust for good sex, more than love. I don't like the slow, intimate lovemaking, but I need somebody I can trust not to let me hurt myself. So it's not exactly love in the romantic sense that I crave. That's why I didn't know how to answer it and nosomuch the gender thing. It's kind of the same emotion but kind of not.
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Every so often the stars align and I get a good one.
smoothg103rd
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Not to let you hurt yourself doing sex??? What you want a partner that will say no when you ask to jump off the dresser and make a splash entrance? I'm confused, how could one hurt their self during sex?
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The sex I remember best has always been with someone I love and it was the best sex. A deeper connection is formed and even mediocre sex can be good when you're in love.
smoothg103rd
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I'm still young so hopefully one day I'll get the opportunity to test this theory. Love just haven't happen for me yet.
