Transgender Females...

[DustyWolfe]

When I say females I mean someone born female. (FtM)

I also don't mean a female that is necessarily going to become a male, but that has the ideation of a male. If this makes sense.

I'm just curious what other people think about this.

Some of my closest friends are Drag Kings... Wait, so am I

When I was little I wanted to be a boy so bad, and I am so boyish. Yeah... I would love to have been born male. But I would never have the surgery for a handful of reasons. The biggest though, is that I would miss out being with my wonderful Mikayla.

Anyone else out there a Tranny Boi, or want to talk about this?

(edited because I'm a chicken nugget short of a happy meal)

 

[naudiz]

I went through some serious gender issues a few years ago. I've never been particularly feminine, even though I look distinctly female. It's gotten to the point where it's a running joke in my circle of friends that I'm such a guy. Even in my heterosexual marriage, I tend to take on the more masculine roles, and my husband is quite comfortable with the feminine ones.

I won't go into nitty gritty details about the gender issues, save to say that there was a point in my life where I was seriously considering FtM surgery. I'm still not always 100% comfortable with this body, but I've become comfortable with my attitude about having it, and I've reached a kind of bi-gender compromise. I go by 'she' but I don't change my natural behavior to fit the roles society has put forth for me.

I know a lot of FtM transgendered people. Some are looking toward surgery, while others are finding other ways of coping with their masculinity without changing their bodies to match. Personally, I try to respect their preferences as to whether they want to go by 'he' or 'she' or something else entirely.

Gender is a funny thing, and science is starting to get a handle on the fact that there are essential differences between men and women, but rather than it being an either/or situation, there is a grey area between, and that there is more to gender and gender identity than a simple X or Y.

But then, I already knew that.

 

[naudiz]

Also, a little off-topic, but not very -- the new Terry Pratchett book, Monstrous Regiment, is a good one. It involves a woman disguising herself as a man to go off to war, in a culture where gender roles are distinctly defined and it's taboo to break them.

It's a hilarious book, poignant in places, and quasi-relevant.

 

[Jessalynvix]

When I say females I mean someone born female. (FtM)

I also don't mean a female that is necessarily going to become a male, but that has the ideation of a male. If this makes sense.

I'm just curious what other people think about this.

Some of my closest friends are Drag Kings... Wait, so am I

When I was little I wanted to be a boy so bad, and I am so boyish. Yeah... I would love to have been born male. But I would never have the surgery for a handful of reasons. The biggest though, is that I would miss out being with my wonderful Mikayla.

Anyone else out there a Tranny Boi, or want to talk about this?

(edited because I'm a chicken nugget short of a happy meal)

You wouldn't miss out on being with me because I love you for who you are inside rather then the package.

 

[Jessalynvix]

Also, a little off-topic, but not very -- the new Terry Pratchett book, Monstrous Regiment, is a good one. It involves a woman disguising herself as a man to go off to war, in a culture where gender roles are distinctly defined and it's taboo to break them.

It's a hilarious book, poignant in places, and quasi-relevant.

There's another book like that Bittersweet by Nevada Barr .

And a great band called Bitch and Animal

 

[DustyWolfe]

I went through some serious gender issues a few years ago. I've never been particularly feminine, even though I look distinctly female. It's gotten to the point where it's a running joke in my circle of friends that I'm such a guy. Even in my heterosexual marriage, I tend to take on the more masculine roles, and my husband is quite comfortable with the feminine ones.

I won't go into nitty gritty details about the gender issues, save to say that there was a point in my life where I was seriously considering FtM surgery. I'm still not always 100% comfortable with this body, but I've become comfortable with my attitude about having it, and I've reached a kind of bi-gender compromise. I go by 'she' but I don't change my natural behavior to fit the roles society has put forth for me.

I know a lot of FtM transgendered people. Some are looking toward surgery, while others are finding other ways of coping with their masculinity without changing their bodies to match. Personally, I try to respect their preferences as to whether they want to go by 'he' or 'she' or something else entirely.

Gender is a funny thing, and science is starting to get a handle on the fact that there are essential differences between men and women, but rather than it being an either/or situation, there is a grey area between, and that there is more to gender and gender identity than a simple X or Y.

But then, I already knew that.

Thanks for responding this. I've always been very boyish, I even went around without a shirt on up until I was like 9 or so. Any time I got away from the house I lost the shirt so I could be like the other boys lol.

I just wanted to be a boy so bad. I still don't feel right being a female but there would be too many problems caused by me becoming fully ftm. My job, my family, etc... At this point I just don't know that it would be worth it.

I act the way I feel, which of course is very masculine, and I dress like a guy. Sometimes I'm even packing

 

[DustyWolfe]

Re: Re: Transgender Females...

You wouldn't miss out on being with me because I love you for who you are inside rather then the package.

You only love me for my package *sniff sniff*

 

[DustyWolfe]

BTW.... Bitch and Animal rock!

 

[naudiz]

Thanks for responding this. I've always been very boyish, I even went around without a shirt on up until I was like 9 or so. Any time I got away from the house I lost the shirt so I could be like the other boys lol.

I just wanted to be a boy so bad. I still don't feel right being a female but there would be too many problems caused by me becoming fully ftm. My job, my family, etc... At this point I just don't know that it would be worth it.

I act the way I feel, which of course is very masculine, and I dress like a guy. Sometimes I'm even packing

I've always had a strong personality, and I take after my father in a lot of ways personality-wise. I dunno if it's a behavior that 'belongs' to men, but it's certainly not very feminine. But I've always looked like a girl. I love drag kings, but man I can't pass to save my life!

I'm in a strange-but-comfortable place where sometimes I feel like it's my damned body, my damned personality, and no one else's damned business, and then some days where I feel like I'm missing some pertinent equipment.

Did I mention I love drag kings? Mrowr.

Ahem.

 

[Jessalynvix]

Re: Re: Re: Transgender Females...

You only love me for my package *sniff sniff*

And what package would that be?

 

[Netzach]

This is kinda weird, but I had a strong male identity purely tied to my identity as a bottom. To me, any hope of a submissive self was male. I have theories about why, but I much prefer to cherish some nice memories than to get overly freudian.

The less I bottomed the more the "boi" in me waned. I have always topped femme, and I live a somewhat hard femme day to day. I haven't bottomed in three years, and recently I've tossed a lot of the phat pants and boy clothes my ass has expanded out of since....it's just not where I'm at these days.

Definitely not a FtM story, but an unusual case of the female maso crossdresser.

 

[DustyWolfe]

This is kinda weird, but I had a strong male identity purely tied to my identity as a bottom. To me, any hope of a submissive self was male. I have theories about why, but I much prefer to cherish some nice memories than to get overly freudian.

The less I bottomed the more the "boi" in me waned. I have always topped femme, and I live a somewhat hard femme day to day. I haven't bottomed in three years, and recently I've tossed a lot of the phat pants and boy clothes my ass has expanded out of since....it's just not where I'm at these days.

Definitely not a FtM story, but an unusual case of the female maso crossdresser.

That's an incredibly interesting story and insight. You know... I remember when I went through a girly phase It was frightening now that I look back and see pictures of it

 

[girls on top]

i'm an executive member of our campus queer group and we get some training on this kind of thing...

i'm also involved with a trans-guy right now (working on it anyways!)

i know he went through a lot to transition to the point he's at now.

if you're questioning, the first thing to do is to find a trans friendly doctor (hard to find, don't let anyone tell you that you're sick or have some rare form of schizophrenia)

you don't have to get surgery ever if you don't want. many people go on Testosterone and are happy enough with the effects (body hair, wider jaw, lower voice, smaller boobs, higher metabolism, harder muscles, etc) that they never get top surgery or hysterectomy (? name escapes me right now)

BUT before they let you do all this, they make you transition on your own for 2 years full time first, at least in Canada but I think it's similar in the states.. unless you find a doctor who thinks this is bs and will write you a prescription for T anyways..

hope that was helpful, sorry bout the long post!

 

[DustyWolfe]

i'm an executive member of our campus queer group and we get some training on this kind of thing...

i'm also involved with a tranny-boi right now (working on it anyways!)

i know he went through a lot to transition to the point he's at now. (mm... tranny-boi's sooo hot..........)

if you're questioning, the first thing to do is to find a trans friendly doctor (hard to find, don't let anyone tell you that you're sick or have some rare form of schizophrenia)

you don't have to get surgery ever if you don't want. many people go on Testosterone and are happy enough with the effects (body hair, wider jaw, lower voice, smaller boobs, higher metabolism, harder muscles, etc) that they never get top surgery or hysterectomy (? name escapes me right now)

BUT before they let you do all this, they make you transition on your own for 2 years full time first, at least in Canada but I think it's similar in the states.. unless you find a doctor who thinks this is bs and will write you a prescription for T anyways..

hope that was helpful, sorry bout the long post!

Good luck with your tranny-boi and thanks for your response

It really does take alot of transition, I started taking DHEA to naturally up my testosterone levels but then I got very sick, and have been since October so I've not gone back to that. I'm hesistant to start taking T till my job gets a little bit more stable. I'd hate to start taking it and then have to stop taking it.

I know that I will likely never go through a full transition including surgery mainly because of the high price and also because of my family. I mean they are finally accepting that I am gay, I dont want to rock the boat lol.

 

[Lingerie_Dreams]

Thanks for responding this. I've always been very boyish, I even went around without a shirt on up until I was like 9 or so. Any time I got away from the house I lost the shirt so I could be like the other boys lol.

I just wanted to be a boy so bad. I still don't feel right being a female but there would be too many problems caused by me becoming fully ftm. My job, my family, etc... At this point I just don't know that it would be worth it.

I act the way I feel, which of course is very masculine, and I dress like a guy. Sometimes I'm even packing

I’m the same but on the opposite side , it’s not easy, if you can find some time to be your true self. Even if it’s alone it can get you through those difficult times. I’ve learnt to live with the fact I will never be the woman I always felt I should be .