'why i stopped watching porn'

[dolf]

it's only 16 minutes.

what do you think of his reasoning? his point of view?

 

[HeatherH4ever]

it's only 16 minutes.

what do you think of his reasoning? his point of view?

I love that Ted Talk and I think he is makes some important points. Watching too much sex violence interferes with romance and intimacy.

 

[dolf]

the hands free sex thing he talked about? porn sex, as though it's experienced by the man as his perception of how he looks while doing it? I've experienced that with guys who watched a lot of porn before they had any experience of women in the flesh. i think i may have started a thread on it at some point. once the excitement of a new partner wore off, the sex started to irk and soured the whole relationship.

 

[HeatherH4ever]

the hands free sex thing he talked about? porn sex, as though it's experienced by the man as his perception of how he looks while doing it? I've experienced that with guys who watched a lot of porn before they had any experience of women in the flesh. i think i may have started a thread on it at some point. once the excitement of a new partner wore off, the sex started to irk and soured the whole relationship.

It's difficult to find a kind and giving partner but it can be done.

I love the part in the video where he reflects on "what is he going to say to her," as something that excites and frightens him.

 

[dolf]

I love the part in the video where he reflects on "what is he going to say to her," as something that excites and frightens him.

between that and his accent, i was more than a little turned on.

sometimes my set up to the fantasy is so elaborate that i fall asleep before i get around to wanking. it's nice to hear a guy talking about building a scene the same way... minus the falling asleep part.

 

[CandiCame]

I'm watching the wrong porn.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

I could have sworn the answer was going to be:

Because the camera made me look fat!

 

[Lancecastor]

I've never been a porn-watcher; same with strip clubs.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

I've never been a porn-watcher; same with strip clubs.

They paid me well. The latter...

Almost as much as the gay clubs.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Cum on my face.

 

[dolf]

I've never been a porn-watcher; same with strip clubs.

is this your way of telling me you'd be amazing in bed?

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

Cum on my face.

Volume or quality?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Volume or quality?

Accuracy.

 

[MikeD93]

Interesting and really speaks on basic philosophical and moral questions.

First question: Are we born with a blank mind?
Aristotle argued that we didn't with his Theory Of Recollection. Stating that we have everything in us but rather it was just a matter of recollecting it. Which is why people naturally are good at certain things because they can just recollect it quicker and don't need to be taught. While John Locke on the other hand said "tabular rossa" meaning blank slate. essentially we are born blank and need to poured into. So when he says, "porn brought out things that weren't there" it all depends on which side of the fence you stand.

Second question: how strong is your mind?
It is all entertainment. to entertain not to be a moral compass. so if you are looking at it give you guidance in how to live your life then maybe you should reconsider things. If you cant separate fiction from reality then perhaps porn is not a good idea. The notion that it is all about male domince is fallacy because look at all the women dominant sub categories. or lesbian porn. It is too broad to make such definite statements.

Good for this guy for recognizing his struggles though

 

[dolf]

look at all the women dominant sub categories. or lesbian porn.

the thing i noticed a lot on pervert sites is that sub guys are often... not what you imagine they would be. it's all about them, them getting their jollies. male doms in porn are usually dressed fairly tamely, with fairly average bodies. dommes, on the other hand, are in uncomfortable heels & corsets with plastic enhanced titties exposed. the woman is still always the one being objectified.
lesbian porn? very little of it is aimed at lesbians. it's mostly about how the industry thinks men want to imagine lesbians.

 

[MikeD93]

the thing i noticed a lot on pervert sites is that sub guys are often... not what you imagine they would be. it's all about them, them getting their jollies. male doms in porn are usually dressed fairly tamely, with fairly average bodies. dommes, on the other hand, are in uncomfortable heels & corsets with plastic enhanced titties exposed. the woman is still always the one being objectified.
lesbian porn? very little of it is aimed at lesbians. it's mostly about how the industry thinks men want to imagine lesbians.

then what about cougar videos? or adult nursing? there are plenty of sub genres. its tooo broad of a statement.

 

[dolf]

then what about cougar videos? or adult nursing? there are plenty of sub genres. its tooo broad of a statement.

go find a few now and watch them with what i said in mind.

 

[MikeD93]

go find a few now and watch them with what i said in mind.

seeing that im at work, I cannot. Look at Lisa Ann or Julia Ann and how they live their lives outside of porn and you cannot tell me they are being objectified and mistreated. They enjoy it and the lifestyle it brings. is this true for everyone? no. but still some really do enjoy it and the life it brings. One of the more famous ones has a sex addiction where she needs to have it everyday and she ended up making a life out of it.

 

[lovetoread]

seeing that im at work, I cannot. Look at Lisa Ann or Julia Ann and how they live their lives outside of porn and you cannot tell me they are being objectified and mistreated. They enjoy it and the lifestyle it brings. is this true for everyone? no. but still some really do enjoy it and the life it brings. One of the more famous ones has a sex addiction where she needs to have it everyday and she ended up making a life out of it.

Yea, go ask them after the money runs out.

 

[MikeD93]

Yea, go ask them after the money runs out.

ok so then do we objectify athletes? or rather that case anyone who performs and puts their body on the line? When the money runs out im sure they will feel the same way.

 

[dolf]

One of the more famous ones has a sex addiction where she needs to have it everyday and she ended up making a life out of it.

marketing genius!

 

[stickygirl]

it's only 16 minutes.

what do you think of his reasoning? his point of view?

I agree with him.
I used to watch it, but the drip-drip of violence in porn finally pissed me off. It just leaves me angry now, but it does worry me that so many men ( and some women to be fair ) are addicted to it. Steubenville...
thanks for posting


he is also quite hot

 

[MikeD93]

Btw I don't even watch porn lol.....im just playing devils advocate.

 

[Laurel]

Interesting and really speaks on basic philosophical and moral questions.

First question: Are we born with a blank mind?
Aristotle argued that we didn't with his Theory Of Recollection. Stating that we have everything in us but rather it was just a matter of recollecting it. Which is why people naturally are good at certain things because they can just recollect it quicker and don't need to be taught. While John Locke on the other hand said "tabular rossa" meaning blank slate. essentially we are born blank and need to poured into. So when he says, "porn brought out things that weren't there" it all depends on which side of the fence you stand.

Second question: how strong is your mind?
It is all entertainment. to entertain not to be a moral compass. so if you are looking at it give you guidance in how to live your life then maybe you should reconsider things. If you cant separate fiction from reality then perhaps porn is not a good idea. The notion that it is all about male domince is fallacy because look at all the women dominant sub categories. or lesbian porn. It is too broad to make such definite statements.

Good for this guy for recognizing his struggles though

Good response.

Interesting video. But I think the problem with the discussion always the same: people believe "porn" to mean different things from what it actually means, often very silly things. If you read the comments on the video, you'll see people saying things like "I'm against porn because women shouldn't be beaten and put in cages before being murdered to make a snuff film" If you upfront define porn to mean the explicit visual portrayal of sex - everything from explicit displays of romantic sex to homemade videos of you and your gf/bf to rough bdsm-type roleplay - I don't think most people would have a problem with that concept.

"Watching people have sex with each other is encouraging violence." Agree or disagree? I would disagree.

Porn is a spectrum, just like mainstream movies. Saying, "I don't like porn because of the violence" is like saying "I don't read books because of the violence" or "I don't watch movies because of the violence". Not all books and movies have violence, nor does all porn.

IMO I agree that there is anti-social self-gratification pro-ego and often misogynist component to mainstream porn - a component that is mirrored in our popular culture. Porn didn't invent it - it's just reflected there, like it is in pop music, movies, advertising.

It's like alcohol. Some people can have a drink every now and then and be fine, while others can't drink without having it ruin their lives. Some happily integrate porn into their lives - watching with a partner, or alone, or both. Other people can't. It's about you, not the thing - be it porn, alcohol, food, exercise, or any of the myriad of things people abuse.

Media is a mirror. What we find it in says more about us than it does about it.

 

[Lancecastor]

is this your way of telling me you'd be amazing in bed?

Yes, it is.