How do I

[Emma14]

Keep my bf from coming too quickly?

 

[midwestyankee]

Here's a thread from several years ago that provides some excellent information on this subject.

Even before you go there to read, so understand that what you two are experiencing is quite common and also usually fixed pretty easily.

 

[stickygirl]

There are various condoms with a form of local anaesthetic included in the lubricant but take care if you use another version that his skin doesn't react adversely to it ( so you gonna have to tell him! )
Let him come once but go for seconds: men can usually last much longer second time around.
I'm told that if you squeeze the shaft just below his head then the sensation of coming will recede - guys may have some insight on that.
( Don't mixed up premature ejaculation with simply coming too fast. PE occurs before the full orgasm sensation. If it's PE then I think a doctor can help )

Nice link MWY

You'll probably get a load of asshat trolls responding to this: just ignore them

 

[tiny_tits]

Let him come once but go for seconds: men can usually last much longer second time around.

^This^

Usually not a problem that a quick blowjob won't fix.

 

[mark_j]

{Snark Mode ON}

You could just stop fucking him... that'd solve the problem..

{Snark Mode OFF}

 

[silverwhisper]

there's an option to turn snark off here?! why did no one tell me this?!

and yes, go for seconds and/or check out the link yank provided.

ed

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

think

First, think about whose problem this is. Second, be mindful that some of us feel that the two, or more Big Os for partners having sex is a cooperative effort with joint responsibility. My suggestion is that he needs to realize the problem and be willing to solve it together. All hints above may be things to try.
There is also a technique where he pauses his thrusting when he feels close then continues, repeating as needed. The idea is that his body recedes from the orgasm faster than does yours and when he picks up the action, you continue on your journey to the promised land and the two finish together with spectacular results. That has worked for some but you both need to be able to communicate where you are in your journey. For some folks, that kills the mood. Good luck and I wish you many happy outcomes.

 

[Hypoxia]

Eat first.
Eat twice.
Fuck later.

 

[Eilan]

there's an option to turn snark off here?! why did no one tell me this?!

I know, right?

 

[Cumference]

Keep my bf from coming too quickly?

Why did you not put the entire question in the headline?

You will save a lot of time for a lot of people if you do, and you are more likely to get more and better answers.

You can use the "edit" button on your posts to change them.

 

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[Eilan]

Why did you not put the entire question in the headline?

I'm on my desktop, so I can mouse-over the title and see the rest of the post. But I know that a lot of people Lit from mobile devices these days and probably don't have that option.

 

[CWatson]

Keep my bf from coming too quickly?

Whose definition of "too quickly" are we using, his or yours? Maybe he's happy with the duration of the sex. This is not to say that he should not be cognizant or respectful of your needs; merely that if HE doesn't find it a problem, he might be less inclined to fix it.

Try changing positions. The break in activity as you sort out your limbs will help cool him down. The change in the "flavor" of stimulation might also help--I personally find that I need a lot of the same thing over and over to climax, so if my girlfriend and I switch up the position, the sensations change and I have to start essentially from scratch. Your Mileage May Vary (or rather HIS might), though, on whether that has any effect, since different strokes for different folks.

 

[Que]

there's an option to turn snark off here?! why did no one tell me this?!

and yes, go for seconds and/or check out the link yank provided.

ed

The snark on/off toggle is unavailable on the GB.

 

[buckboy]

Tuning

Get your BF something like a fleshlight and inform him to use it 2-3 times a day for a couple of weeks as extraciricular sex, that it turns you on and will reward him for the commitment. See how that goes.

 

[littlecordelera]

Keep my bf from coming too quickly?

Let me know if you find a method.

If my husband cums, he loses interest, so a "second cumming" is usually a less-than-exciting event for both of us.

One thing that does work, if you can catch it just right...if he lets himself get right up to the point, right to the very edge, and then stops, so that he cums just a little bit and then let it subside, after that, he can last a fairly normal duration.

We've been married for 15 years and I came to accept it a long time ago. If you are inventive, you can have fun with it.

Good luck!

 

[RightFootFrwrd]

If my husband cums, he loses interest, so a "second cumming" is usually a less-than-exciting event for both of us.

I'm like this guy in the sense that once I cum I pretty much lose interest in having sex until later on that day, but this isn't really an issue if you use more than just your dick in the bedroom.

The best sex that I have with my gf usually starts in the shower and then moves to the bedroom; I kiss her body lots and eat her out before I even think about going inside her and by the time I do she's so turned on that it's way faster to make her cum than it would've been if I had just started fucking her right off the bat. Anyway, it's hard to give you good advice without more details but if he's not spending much time pleasuring you with his hands/mouth before he starts to fuck you, that could be a big reason why he's coming 'too fast'. You probably won't care (or even notice) how long the session is if you're cumming the whole time.... although I guess that's kind of an obvious statement.

Hope that helps.