Looking for advice for sex toys

[Wien]

Hi everyone,

I am sorry if I am posting this inquiry on the wrong forum. If so, please accept my apologies.

My girlfriend and I (heterosexual male) have been living together for about a bit more than 2 years and we would like to explore further our sexuality by means of using some toys in bed. She is 26 and I am 30. We have discussed about buying something to get started with; hence nothing very wild and rather a bit more "standard like". We have had a few things, namely: a bullet vibrator, massage kit, cuffs, and some role-playing clothing (mainly for her).

In this sense, we would like to explore a bit further and I would like to ask you which toys/items do you recommend for a couple (better if enjoyable by both, but ok if only can be used by one of us). We are open also to a bit of anal play (both of us), in case that is of any help.

Looking forward to receiving some feedback and thanks a lot in advance!

 

[Daddysbadgirl69]

Hi everyone,

I am sorry if I am posting this inquiry on the wrong forum. If so, please accept my apologies.

My girlfriend and I (heterosexual male) have been living together for about a bit more than 2 years and we would like to explore further our sexuality by means of using some toys in bed. She is 26 and I am 30. We have discussed about buying something to get started with; hence nothing very wild and rather a bit more "standard like". We have had a few things, namely: a bullet vibrator, massage kit, cuffs, and some role-playing clothing (mainly for her).

In this sense, we would like to explore a bit further and I would like to ask you which toys/items do you recommend for a couple (better if enjoyable by both, but ok if only can be used by one of us). We are open also to a bit of anal play (both of us), in case that is of any help.

Looking forward to receiving some feedback and thanks a lot in advance!

I 100% recommend the new WeVibe 4 plus. It's SO much fun And can be used together or separately..... It's suggested you play a bit by yourself first.... It's waterproof so I've had it with me in the shower a couple times...

It has quite a few different rhythms which is nice and the newest one has an app which you can create custom rhythms and your partner can control it from anywhere!! It's a bit pricy but worth it!

Our next purchase is some anal beads as we are open to exploring that more also.... One lady at the love shop suggested one that starts with smaller beads and slowly get bigger as you move up.....

Let me know how it goes!!

 

[Wien]

Thanks a lot for the very helpful reply Daddysbadgirl69!

We have in the past read the reviews of the WeVibe 4 (and 3 as well) and found it to be a very interesting gadget but were unsure on how well it really works. Good to know first hand that it performs quite well

The anal beads do sound interesting. Somewhat related, my gf wanted also to try the vaginal ones (Ben Wa balls). Have you ever tried those? I will probably get a small set of these ones to start with and then, if she likes and agrees, move to the anal ones.

Lastly, awesome avatar btw, seems you like anime

 

[Wien]

Bump for further suggestions

 

[subwannabe]

I don't think you are getting many responses because you seem to be knowledgeable and on the right track already. It's mostly about experimentation and desire, not sexual desire, but the desire to actually do something to add more pleasure to your lives. Since you both have the will and are heading in the right direction already I say, "Go have some fun!". There are lots of options but, in the end, it's all about which roads you want to turn down and only the two of you can figure that out. My best advice is don't forget that the mind is the biggest sex organ in your body, not physical things you can touch.

 

[Wien]

I don't think you are getting many responses because you seem to be knowledgeable and on the right track already. It's mostly about experimentation and desire, not sexual desire, but the desire to actually do something to add more pleasure to your lives. Since you both have the will and are heading in the right direction already I say, "Go have some fun!". There are lots of options but, in the end, it's all about which roads you want to turn down and only the two of you can figure that out. My best advice is don't forget that the mind is the biggest sex organ in your body, not physical things you can touch.

Many thanks for your kind help subwannabe! I very much appreciate it.

I fully concur with your views on desire for experimenting, spicing things up and making life different than anything else. We will do our best to try as long as we both are fully confortable with it

Not sure on whether we are knowledgeable (you are far too kind) but I have done my homework and did some research on options If anyone has some further suggestions, feel free to let us know!

Happy 2015!

 

[Kalamain]

For you... I cannot suggest a p-spot vibe strongly enough.
Maybe something like a fleshlight too.

I would also suggest a simple and cheap restraining kit... Something to tie you to the bed. I say cheap because if neither of you likes it you haven't wasted any cash.

I know this is going to sound daft if you already know it... But don't share vibes if you are doing anal play. Each of you should keep your own.
And if you do anal play.... Use lube... Lots of it!

And that brings me to another one... Different types of lube.
Some have a chilling effect.. Some give heat... Some just taste different! Give them a go too.

Good luck and have fun!

 

[Wien]

For you... I cannot suggest a p-spot vibe strongly enough.
Maybe something like a fleshlight too.

I would also suggest a simple and cheap restraining kit... Something to tie you to the bed. I say cheap because if neither of you likes it you haven't wasted any cash.

I know this is going to sound daft if you already know it... But don't share vibes if you are doing anal play. Each of you should keep your own.
And if you do anal play.... Use lube... Lots of it!

And that brings me to another one... Different types of lube.
Some have a chilling effect.. Some give heat... Some just taste different! Give them a go too.

Good luck and have fun!

Thanks a lot for the excellent advice. I will take it into account. My girlfriend and I tried doing some sort of restraining but she did not find it interesting/confortable. Hence, I will skip it for now.

Also, thanks a lot fot the lube tip, I was not aware of the wide variety! Will do a bit of research on the matter.

Thanks!

 

[Kalamain]

Thanks a lot for the excellent advice. I will take it into account. My girlfriend and I tried doing some sort of restraining but she did not find it interesting/confortable. Hence, I will skip it for now.

Also, thanks a lot fot the lube tip, I was not aware of the wide variety! Will do a bit of research on the matter.

Thanks!

Not everyone likes restraining... And thats fine... Thats why I suggested the cheaper option so you can at least have a go and find out!

And don't forget that lube is for both of you.

Also.. Sometimes don't tell the other person just what lube you are using... Let it be a small surprise.