im a married woman, and I started off by reading the stories.....now chatting with various emmbers here, my question is how can you take the next step and be dicreet?? I am not in an unhappy marriage. Just like the thrill and excitement of dating/meeting others. Anyone have any tips or similar feelings??
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Keep_Us_Secret
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I am a 47 year old, happily married man with the same question. I am looking forward to this thread. Thank you for posting it.
I am a 47 year old, happily married man with the same question. I am looking forward to this thread. Thank you for posting it.
I'm not sure about the discreet part. I'm a terrible liar. Even keeping a minor thing from my husband makes me queasy. But I've been reading a lot about the hot wife lifestyle (woman is open to date/sleep with others with support and knowledge of spouse). Everything I've read is about communicating between all parties and then at some point just making the choice to do it. If you think either of you will regret it then pull the plug and claim it a failed experiment. I don't think I'd personally say the same thing about out right cheating. That said, I have played with married men online whose wives weren't aware and feel like they have to make the decisions with their lives and their wives that aren't my responsibility.
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Depends a lot on what you think the "next step" is, with naughty online chat at one end of the spectrum, and meeting and starting an affair at the other.
What appeals to you? Are you looking for excitement? Physical fulfillment? Danger?
What appeals to you? Are you looking for excitement? Physical fulfillment? Danger?
andy505050
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So, all of the above...lol
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have you done cybersex and found you wanted more than that?
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Knew this would be interesting
Thanks for the input everyone. I think as a guy the most difficult part is finding a like minded lady to chat with in the first place.
Thanks for the input everyone. I think as a guy the most difficult part is finding a like minded lady to chat with in the first place.
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Yeah,
My wife knows that I chat here, but doesn't know what I do here. As long as your spouse is not using lit, you are ok.
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Being discrete
I'm not the best to answer this but I have found a lot of enjoyment from my contacts at Lit. The "next step" is always yours to make. My bestie advised be careful and have fun. I think if it makes you uncomfortable just back off or nix it. Otherwise, you can find a lot of fulfillment like I have even though I am happy in my marriage. Hope that helps. Pm me if you'd like to talk more.
I'm not the best to answer this but I have found a lot of enjoyment from my contacts at Lit. The "next step" is always yours to make. My bestie advised be careful and have fun. I think if it makes you uncomfortable just back off or nix it. Otherwise, you can find a lot of fulfillment like I have even though I am happy in my marriage. Hope that helps. Pm me if you'd like to talk more.
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On the fence
Always a precarious position, not knowing when or how far to leap. I have in the past felt that the anticipation was more thrilling than the consummation.
Always a precarious position, not knowing when or how far to leap. I have in the past felt that the anticipation was more thrilling than the consummation.
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It seems to be the term for it, also known as an affair.
I joined an affair website and met a few guys. Some were great, others were awful and a couple of special ones got to have some fun ;-)
I think it really depends on yourself, what you are looking for and the boundaries to put in place. Generally with affair websites the guys are married so also want discretion. Though there are a singles who just want NSA as they don't want an actual relationship.
I've found I don't want NSA sex but don't want to ruin my marriage either. I need to connect with a person, get to know them.
Like others, I have joined the forum after reading stories. I enjoy chatting about sex but do find that I want to put it into practice so to speak. I'd be happy to meet up for fun if I got on well enough with someone.
It seems to be the term for it, also known as an affair.
I joined an affair website and met a few guys. Some were great, others were awful and a couple of special ones got to have some fun ;-)
I think it really depends on yourself, what you are looking for and the boundaries to put in place. Generally with affair websites the guys are married so also want discretion. Though there are a singles who just want NSA as they don't want an actual relationship.
I've found I don't want NSA sex but don't want to ruin my marriage either. I need to connect with a person, get to know them.
Like others, I have joined the forum after reading stories. I enjoy chatting about sex but do find that I want to put it into practice so to speak. I'd be happy to meet up for fun if I got on well enough with someone.
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I would say it might help if you gave a clue where you are...nothing on your profile to let potential suitors know?
Also say what you are into...vanilla, or BDSM, or something niche, perhaps?
Hope this helps...
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I'm married and have enjoyed three very rewarding/intense cyber relationships that started on Lit. These typically progressed in the same manner as a RL relationship -- from chatting to friendship to romance and cyber-sex. The cyber also grew organically from text, to voice to cam.
The best of those relationships resulted in a RL encounter. After more than two years of cyber connection my partner and I discovered we would be in the same town on business during the same week. We spent an amazing evening together. We were remarkably comfortable because we knew so much about each other and were even familiar with each other's body and turn-ons.
While the sexual aspect of our relationship has since ended, we remain online friends.
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Have Fun But Be Very Careful
I totally understand the desire to date and meet others so you can experiment with different types of sexual situations than you might find in your marriage. I've been down that road myself and enjoyed it beyond what words could describe but please be very careful.
I would suggest that you first try to get your husband involved in some of these new fantasies you are adding to your list. He just might surprise you and enjoy that sense of danger and excitement that pulls on some of us. If he is not up to taking those steps with you then the two of you need to have a serious talk and discuss what other options might work for BOTH of you. Some husbands enjoy seeing their wife with another man so that might be an option if the two of you agree. It also provides a much safer environment than meeting a stranger at a hotel. No matter how charming he is or how much his words and thoughts turn you on you really know little to nothing about him so there is a very real element of danger. Then there is also the issue of STD's that might be unknowingly shared.
If your only option is cheating then you need to ask yourself what is going to happen if you get caught, because no matter how discreet you think you are being there is always a chance that you will get caught and your marriage might be ruined beyond repair. You also need to be able to emotionally handle the guilt that cheating might bring.
If you are still determined to move ahead and pursue your desires in real life then I would offer the following advice.
If you find someone close enough to meet and the two of you have the right chemistry then perhaps you could meet to have coffee and talk face to face. Being discreet takes some very careful planning to try and avoid areas where someone you know might see you. Meeting in another town where you don't know anyone will provide less risk.
If you you decide to take that final step and have sex then find a place that will be reasonably safe to meet. If he isn't single than don't use your house or his. Find a motel in another city and discuss whether it's safer for you or him to rent the room because they will ask for identification at the front desk. Whenever possible pay cash so there is no charge card bill that might be a problem later for you or him.
If you have any specific questions please feel free to send me a message and I will go into more detail about what has worked for me.
I totally understand the desire to date and meet others so you can experiment with different types of sexual situations than you might find in your marriage. I've been down that road myself and enjoyed it beyond what words could describe but please be very careful.
I would suggest that you first try to get your husband involved in some of these new fantasies you are adding to your list. He just might surprise you and enjoy that sense of danger and excitement that pulls on some of us. If he is not up to taking those steps with you then the two of you need to have a serious talk and discuss what other options might work for BOTH of you. Some husbands enjoy seeing their wife with another man so that might be an option if the two of you agree. It also provides a much safer environment than meeting a stranger at a hotel. No matter how charming he is or how much his words and thoughts turn you on you really know little to nothing about him so there is a very real element of danger. Then there is also the issue of STD's that might be unknowingly shared.
If your only option is cheating then you need to ask yourself what is going to happen if you get caught, because no matter how discreet you think you are being there is always a chance that you will get caught and your marriage might be ruined beyond repair. You also need to be able to emotionally handle the guilt that cheating might bring.
If you are still determined to move ahead and pursue your desires in real life then I would offer the following advice.
If you find someone close enough to meet and the two of you have the right chemistry then perhaps you could meet to have coffee and talk face to face. Being discreet takes some very careful planning to try and avoid areas where someone you know might see you. Meeting in another town where you don't know anyone will provide less risk.
If you you decide to take that final step and have sex then find a place that will be reasonably safe to meet. If he isn't single than don't use your house or his. Find a motel in another city and discuss whether it's safer for you or him to rent the room because they will ask for identification at the front desk. Whenever possible pay cash so there is no charge card bill that might be a problem later for you or him.
If you have any specific questions please feel free to send me a message and I will go into more detail about what has worked for me.
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Do what your heart desires, but remember desires can change, and past desires can make new ones unattainable.
You may want the thrill of the prefect affair today, but one day you may long for complete honesty and devotion to your marriage. You'll only feel like a fraud looking across the table telling your husband/wife they know everything about you.
If that won't torment your soul, then fuck away. If you think it will, reassess your choices.
You may want the thrill of the prefect affair today, but one day you may long for complete honesty and devotion to your marriage. You'll only feel like a fraud looking across the table telling your husband/wife they know everything about you.
If that won't torment your soul, then fuck away. If you think it will, reassess your choices.
Every FWBs I Have Found..
I found here on Lit. Set a date to meet the person you might be interested in, in I would suggest a public place. Check out the vibs you get and go from there. I have had first time meetings in a number of public places, as well as in hotels and private homes. Nothing better than finding a FWBs that you an spend a few hours with every week or so, for pure hot, wet, o strings attached S--E-X.
I found here on Lit. Set a date to meet the person you might be interested in, in I would suggest a public place. Check out the vibs you get and go from there. I have had first time meetings in a number of public places, as well as in hotels and private homes. Nothing better than finding a FWBs that you an spend a few hours with every week or so, for pure hot, wet, o strings attached S--E-X.
