Rape fantasy

[BlackPartridge]

Is it weird. My wife enjoys and have that fantasy. I wonder if its weird or really kinky and wild.

 

[Halan1969]

Well as long as you are informed, involved, and enjoying the fun what is the problem. Happy wife Happy life. surprise the shit out of her someday. Bag her head cutoff her clothes. You get the picture..

 

[Carnevil9]

I've read that rape fantasies come from a desire to not feel guilty. If for some reason you feel that sex is dirty or wrong, then voluntarily doing it comes with baggage and guilt. But.... if you are taken against your will, you are free of guilt, because it is not your choice. So you are free to enjoy it.

I'm not claiming this is what is going on with your wife; just pointing out a theory that is out there, for what it's worth.

 

[Halan1969]

whereas I say it could be a fun game where she lets go of all inhibition and has the time of your lives.

 

[DisreputableDan]

Is it weird. My wife enjoys and have that fantasy. I wonder if its weird or really kinky and wild.

Not only is it not weird, it's far more common than you think.

"From 1973 through 2008, nine surveys of women's rape fantasies have been published. They show that about four in 10 women admit having them (31 to 57 percent) with a median frequency of about once a month. Actual prevalence of rape fantasies is probably higher because women may not feel comfortable admitting them."

Source: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...s-rape-fantasies-how-common-what-do-they-mean

 

[Kalamain]

Many women have those fantasies.

One of my ex's had it. Nothing wrong with it at all.
In fact it says a lot about her trust in you that she shares it.

The simple fact is that its not 'Rape' she wants.... She wants to be totally taken with no regard to her own wants and desires... To be used.

BUT!... (And its a huge 'but')

There is no real risk to life or limb. If it gets too much for her for whatever reason abd she says 'stop' she knows you *will* stop.

Its only a fantasy after all.

 

[Bunnylily]

Many women have those fantasies.

One of my ex's had it. Nothing wrong with it at all.
In fact it says a lot about her trust in you that she shares it.

The simple fact is that its not 'Rape' she wants.... She wants to be totally taken with no regard to her own wants and desires... To be used.

BUT!... (And its a huge 'but')

There is no real risk to life or limb. If it gets too much for her for whatever reason abd she says 'stop' she knows you *will* stop.

Its only a fantasy after all.

This.

 

[bi_sub_lady_doc]

I've read that rape fantasies come from a desire to not feel guilty. If for some reason you feel that sex is dirty or wrong, then voluntarily doing it comes with baggage and guilt. But.... if you are taken against your will, you are free of guilt, because it is not your choice. So you are free to enjoy it.

I'm not claiming this is what is going on with your wife; just pointing out a theory that is out there, for what it's worth.

thought provoking explanation, I must say..

 

[SashaGaga999]

Is it weird. My wife enjoys and have that fantasy. I wonder if its weird or really kinky and wild.

Yeah, I'd argue not weird at all, although certainly still considered somewhat taboo in our culture. There are several threads here on the boards devoted to this subject--but I'd venture from the responses here on Lit that a significant percentage of the female population has some kind of rape, or at least non-con, fantasies going through their heads....

 

[bill3901]

I always love blackmail fantasies, so you have a rape without any kind of violence...but it's all fantasy, of course

 

[SashaGaga999]

I always love blackmail fantasies, so you have a rape without any kind of violence...but it's all fantasy, of course

ditto, i've had a story in the works FOREVER that has me getting blackmailed into participating in a gangbang....

you kind of get the best of both worlds with blackmail--you get the obligation and possible non-consent, without any actual physical forcing into the sexual act.

 

[bill3901]

ditto, i've had a story in the works FOREVER that has me getting blackmailed into participating in a gangbang....

you kind of get the best of both worlds with blackmail--you get the obligation and possible non-consent, without any actual physical forcing into the sexual act.

exactly, love blackmail, I just love fantasies and for that matter clips to be slow and subtle

 

[HeavenlyT]

Ask a lot of women how they develope a rape fantasy. A lot of it will stem from probably actually being raped at some point in their life. May not be an extreme rape but something minor. I on the other hand want to be blind folded by my partner and then he brings someone in that I don't know who has their way with me and then leaves before I deblindfold never knowing who he was.

 

[bi_sub_lady_doc]

Ask a lot of women how they develope a rape fantasy. A lot of it will stem from probably actually being raped at some point in their life. May not be an extreme rape but something minor. I on the other hand want to be blind folded by my partner and then he brings someone in that I don't know who has their way with me and then leaves before I deblindfold never knowing who he was.

It actually holds true in all sorts of weird fantasies, at least for me..

 

[subwannabe]

Most women have a rape fantasy but to them rape is more of a sexual thing but to a rapist it is more of a control/violence thing. Women want to be raped the way they want to be raped (generally speaking) while a real rapist has completely different thoughts on the subject. Most women would not want to be raped in the way that a real rapist would want to rape them.

 

[screwher]

Is it weird. My wife enjoys and have that fantasy. I wonder if its weird or really kinky and wild.

The rape fantasy is probably very common among women. I remember when my wife confessed to me she fantasized about being raped by another man. Talking about it was such a turn on we began fucking like wild animals. At one point I held her arms down above her head and she went the good kind of crazy. Since then I have fantasized myself about my wife getting raped.

 

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[nycgirl3234]

I fantasize about this often. It usually involves my car breaking down in a black neighborhood and being violently raped by about a dozen black men.

 

[xhellblazerx]

ditto, i've had a story in the works FOREVER that has me getting blackmailed into participating in a gangbang....

you kind of get the best of both worlds with blackmail--you get the obligation and possible non-consent, without any actual physical forcing into the sexual act.

Prefacing this by saying I am not looking to get into an argument, debate or step on anyone's opinions or ideas, just expressing my own.

For me these blackmail stories and fantasies are still rape.

The reasoning is this.

You said gangbang so let's go with that. If you are being blackmailed into doing something it means you do not want to do it.

So if you are being told to fuck five guys or else then the that means you are doing so against your will, on your knees cringing as one guy after another takes you...

That is still non consent, its not what you want, you have to.

I understand the popular theory is as you say it takes the "edge" off the rape. You have a choice, freedom of will so to speak, you can choose to say "Hell no" but then if its blackmail there are consequences, you have a proverbial gun held to your head.

having said that as a fantasy its still a great fantasy, but it is a rape fantasy.

 

[xhellblazerx]

To the OP I agree with others, nothing weird about it and if she trusts you with it it can be something you can both really enjoy. She can be "taken" you can "take" her and enjoy all the while knowing there is love and trust behind the fantasy

 

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