Altering your appearance for your S/O?

MissAnon

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I was wondering if you or your partner have ever asked each other to change/alter your appearance in any way- from something like dying your hair or shaving to something more elaborate like losing weight or perhaps to change the way you dress.. what's the biggest change that has been requested/suggested between you both?

How did you/they feel and react?
 
I shaved once for an ex-partner who's father molested her (he had a beard).

Needless to say, that relationship didn't last.
 
I shaved something once for an ex. it didn't last but I liked it so much I keep doing it! :D

Though in all seriousness. If they can't accept you for you.. then fuck em! You should be their dream, not some bimbo on a tv or in a magazine. True love isn't superficial.
 
I shaved something once for an ex. it didn't last but I liked it so much I keep doing it! :D

Though in all seriousness. If they can't accept you for you.. then fuck em! You should be their dream, not some bimbo on a tv or in a magazine. True love isn't superficial.

I totally agree :). Have you ever asked someone you were involved with to change something?
 
When I met my current wife, she said she thought a thick rug of silver chest hair was really hot. I told her I would see what I could do for her.
 
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I'll be honest, parents did a mind job on me in this department. I like my appearance the way I have it and if I were to alter it I would grow resentful and I can't not. So it's just a no.

On the flip side I am sensitive to the issue and fully support my s/o dressing/grooming/making up however the fuck she wants as long as it makes her comfy/happy or cause trouble....
 
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I change my hair color every 6 months but my body will never change. I wouldn't be with someone who wanted to change that. Just as I would never want to drastically change anyone I loved.

I remove my body hair and my SO would like me to leave some, I am complying with that request within reason.
 
I can't remember a single relationship that didn't begin because the other person liked the way I looked. I date really, really shallow people. I've been told I don't need to change, which isn't exactly the same thing. I have a really bad oral fixation, which is why I chain smoke, and chew on EVERYTHING (all my pens, my stluses, etc.) and if there's food in front of me, I will eat it. I haven't been exercising much in the past... year or so. And I was complaining about being fat, because I kind of am, and I was like, "I don't get why I'm so fucking fat," And my boyfriend, whom I had been staying with for the weekend was like, "Because you just ate a sheet-cake's worth of cupcake and you've been sitting on the couch smoking my weed and eating my food for 48 hours strait. The fuck you mean you 'don't know'." And I was like, "huh. Fair enough. I should lose weight."
"Then get off your ass."
"..."
"That's what I thought."

That's probably the closest I've ever come. But that wasn't a "You should lose weight" talk asmuchas it was a "You're a fucking dumbass stop being a dumbass" talk. Because he gets really annoyed when I act stupider than he thinks I should be. And he thinks that I should be a LOT smarter than I am. I don't know why. But I think he'd like it if I lost weight. I think my gf would too, honestly, but she never says anything about it because her ass likes to eat and she knows I would cook less. I guarantee that's the reason.

But if I DID lose weight, it wouldn't be for them. It's be because I'm really vain. Because I'm really vain. Which I think might be one of the reasons that I've never been told to alter my appearance. When you look at me, it's extremely obvious that everything about me is deliberate, is an artistic choice. So if you tell me to alter it, it's an insult. It's meant as an insult because you're going against my wishes. And I'm going to respond to it like it's an insult because you meant is as an insult. So if anyone DID tell me to change my appearance for them, it'd be a huge fight, and I wouldn't be dating anyone who knew so little about me that they wouldn't know it was a huge fight.

I've had lovers pick out hair colors for me, but I didn't change FOR them. I was gonna do it anyway and I'd say something like, "So I've decided on purple or blue. You think I should go Trunks or James?" And that's why I had purple hair for like 2 years.

wow that was rambly. I'm kinda high right now. Sorry.
 
I've expressed a preference as far as body hair goes, but that's it. within reason, i'll humour a guy with the same and if he likes me in a particular item o my clothing then i'll wear it more often. but i won't radically alter my style, and i wouldn't want a partner to alter theirs to suit me.
as far as weight & shape goes, only if i had serious concern for their health. and if they had an issue with my body then i'd request they go find themselves a female body they do like.
 
When I met my current wife, she said she thought a thick rug of silver chest hair was really hot. I told her I would see what I could do for her.

Oh, this reminds me- I have had a lover change their appearance for me! Several times. But it's always the same. I'm not gonna get hair in my mouth. I fucking hate it, it's a weird texture, it's a weird feeling. So if you want my mouth on or near your genitals, you gotta get the body hair thing under control. It's nothing to do with looks but I swear to god if I get even one pube in my mouth I get nauseated. Because of the texture. It activates my gag reflux. I'm sure it's clean, that's not the issue. It's just the texture. So pretty much everybody I'm with shaves. When I was dating my ex he went and shaved RIGHT THEN because I was pretty much like, "Nah, I'll suck it no problem. But get the hair off." And he was like, "I heard, 'I'll suck it'." So. I'm a horrible hypocrite.
 
I've asked a handful of women to shave their bits for me, and promised them I'd make it totally worth their while to do so. Win win!!


Other than that, no.. but I would be insistent on the shaving thing and it'd most likely be a deal breaker for me.
 
I have asked lovers to change soap, laundry detergent and dryer sheets if I am allergic to them but otherwise nothing that alters their appearance.
If they give me stubble burn, that has to stop, but I am fine not kissing ;)

I had someone ask me not to wear funky hats, I said no.
 
That's not me, btw. To be clear.

Not that there's anything wrong with that! Not judging!
 
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