Get on your knees (please?)

[CeasarBoobage]

When you are on your knees pleasuring your SO, are you the one in power or the submissive one? I recently heard (again), that a woman on her knees giving oral to her hubby/BF is demeaning to her because it means he has power over her. I totally don't agree, so I have a few examples.

1: With your face at crotch height, you have some of the most delicate parts of your partner between your teeth, and you have the power to make them scream in pain or pleasue, it's all up to you. Is this the most powerful position a person can assume?

2: While in the standard position of supplication, you forego your own pleasure in an effort to bring pleasure to them. On your knees focusing on the other, you are showing them that their pleasure is more important than your own. A person only kneels in front of one superior to them.

I know, I know, giving pleasure is a pleasure in and of itself, and I can't bring myself to read #2 without rolling my eyes. Have you heard this type of stuff before? What are your views?

 

[besty95]

pm me

I would happily get on my knees anytime...

 

[tmmmbrrr]

you know... a SO could be so masterful on their knees that they held all the power in every other aspect of the relationship.

what you're asking probably isn't an either/or type of question. the answer is whatever you or your partner bring to it when you assume the position

 

[irishblade]

I would happily get on my knees anytime...

In control or complete submission?

 

[hilton1958]

When I am on my knees with my face in my wifes sex, I am enjoying it too much to worry about whether it is submissive, controlling, demeaning etc. If she does it for me, it is her own choice, and not because she is forced in any way, so why should it be demeaning.
Having said that, I understand there can be situations where those terms would apply, and then again, some people get turned on by being demeaned and submissive, as long as it is consensual, it's all good.

 

[gsmith2011]

I enjoy being on my knees behind her...cheeks spread wide...tongue wandering, exploring , tasting...deep

 

[SexyAlison]

I think it's submissive

 

[gsmith2011]

I think it's submissive

Why is it submissive?

 

[Verycurious18]

I think it really depends on your frame of mind because it can go both ways really.

Just because you are on your knees servicing someone, that doesn't necessarily mean you are the submissive one or that its an act of submission. For all we know the man or woman could be bound in front of a crowd and being forced not to come while they recieve pleasure. To me that would show that the person providing the pleasure has all the power and control.


If i'm in a state of mind where i know i am to serve and be submissive to someone, then obviously it would be an act of submission.

For me it would most likely be an act of submission.

Honestly if both parties are enjoying it, does it really matter if it's submissive or not? If you really think about it, both parties could be considered slightly submissive, one is allowing someone to give their body an abundance of pleasure whole the other if using their body to provide it. Both parties are giving something.

 

[gsmith2011]

when a woman has me in her mouth...I am now the submissive one!

 

[SexyAlison]

Why is it submissive?

a man standing over you as you take him in your mouth. he's receicing all the pleasure as he towers over you. seems submissive to me.

 

[dannyb57]

a man standing over you as you take him in your mouth. he's receicing all the pleasure as he towers over you. seems submissive to me.

I would suggest that your mouth full of teeth, keeps you in the dominant role...

 

[may_I_please]

When I'm on my knees I'm submissive

When he's on his knees, holding me firmly in place, I'm submissive

It's not the position, it's the mental attitude

 

[bluesky496]

When you are on your knees pleasuring your SO, are you the one in power or the submissive one? I recently heard (again), that a woman on her knees giving oral to her hubby/BF is demeaning to her because it means he has power over her. I totally don't agree, so I have a few examples.

1: With your face at crotch height, you have some of the most delicate parts of your partner between your teeth, and you have the power to make them scream in pain or pleasue, it's all up to you. Is this the most powerful position a person can assume?

2: While in the standard position of supplication, you forego your own pleasure in an effort to bring pleasure to them. On your knees focusing on the other, you are showing them that their pleasure is more important than your own. A person only kneels in front of one superior to them.

I know, I know, giving pleasure is a pleasure in and of itself, and I can't bring myself to read #2 without rolling my eyes. Have you heard this type of stuff before? What are your views?

i have heard all the arguments and i personally think of myself as being in the 2nd category ,well being a submissive i would but surely option 1 has value but isnt it about a loving act between two people .

 

[Aconitum19]

I don't see it as either really. I like sucking my partners cock, whatever position he is in, as I know how it makes him feel, and it turns me on just thinking about doing it to him.

 

[besty95]

Wanna have steamy raunchy sex pm me?

 

[Carnevil9]

It's both, all at once. That's what makes it so sexy.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Number two only. Of coarse I have no desire to dominate anyone so that could be part of my submission but be it man or woman I am kneeling before, the though of them over me is my universe. Of coarse I do feel warm and fuzzy there. So hell I don't know can't we just do what makes us feel right

 

[akarst]

I am in the number category. Kind of. He thinks I am kneeling for his pleasure only, and that turns him on. But really, the fact that he thinks that, turns me on? Got it?

 

[alexx_is]

When you are on your knees pleasuring your SO, are you the one in power or the submissive one? I recently heard (again), that a woman on her knees giving oral to her hubby/BF is demeaning to her because it means he has power over her. I totally don't agree, so I have a few examples.

1: With your face at crotch height, you have some of the most delicate parts of your partner between your teeth, and you have the power to make them scream in pain or pleasue, it's all up to you. Is this the most powerful position a person can assume?

2: While in the standard position of supplication, you forego your own pleasure in an effort to bring pleasure to them. On your knees focusing on the other, you are showing them that their pleasure is more important than your own. A person only kneels in front of one superior to them.

I know, I know, giving pleasure is a pleasure in and of itself, and I can't bring myself to read #2 without rolling my eyes. Have you heard this type of stuff before? What are your views?

I agree with most of the others that whether it's submissive or not depends mostly on the relationship/state of mind. Either way, I don't see it as demeaning. Him having power over me is extremely arousing and most certainly not demeaning.

As for #1, yes, having my teeth around his most sensitive parts surely gives me some power but, as I've mentioned on another thread, I love it when he grabs my hair when I'm down there so he can control how things go.

And for #2, like you said - giving pleasure is a pleasure of itself.

But basically, what I wanted to say is - I don't think it's demeaning for a woman, unless she thinks it is. The only thing I don't like about it is that it's not so comfortable for a long time (unless you're on a really fluffy carpet which is rarely the case )

 

[literalwife]

I don't find it demeaning at all.

 

[master77a]

Submissive, but not neccessarily demeaning

 

[earth7913]

When I'm on my knees I'm submissive

When he's on his knees, holding me firmly in place, I'm submissive

It's not the position, it's the mental attitude

I agree with this, I think its the mental attitude.

When she is on her knees sucking on me, she is being submissive but then she also holds some power and therefore I do treat her with respect

When I am between her legs I am not there being submissive but it is the same position.

See, mental attitude.

 

[literalwife]

My mistake. I actually feel like I have the power in that position. I control all of his sensations and thoughts at that moment. The position I am in as irrelevant.

 

[Samsacks]

I love giving head to both women and men. Trust me - I'm getting as much, if not more, pleasure from pleasuring them.

a man standing over you as you take him in your mouth. he's receicing all the pleasure as he towers over you. seems submissive to me.