is a happy ending cheating?

[jstar6999]

Ladies, would you be cool if your husband or boyfriend got a happy ending during a massage? My husband recently brought up the question about what if it happened and I don't really care that much if it happened as long as it didn't become a "thing" that he did.

Fellas, ever gotten one?

 

[hilton1958]

For the sake of being real here, lets admit that it isn't something that could happen by accident, whatever led up to the happy ending was intentional and intimate, so bearing that in mind, yes it is cheating.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

never

Never had one but whether it would be cheating or not if I did would depend entirely on whether my wife decided.

 

[DarkPleasures]

If one is in a "committed" relationship and thehey do that then yes that's cheating.

 

[policywank]

It is cheating if it is contrary to the "terms" of your relationship. The two of you collectively define those terms. I would say that if you are monogamous (or hot wife where he is not permitted other partners) it would be cheating unless you give him permission. If you give him permission - voila no cheating.

Personally, yes I would permit it if he asks on a case by case basis.

 

[CindyCD478]

Unprotected vaginal sex is the only thing that is cheating, and then only without spousal consent.

 

[MrRandyWatson]

Never had one but whether it would be cheating or not if I did would depend entirely on whether my wife decided.

Of course, if your wife decides that having female friends is cheating, then so you agree and dump all female friends or let her dig deeper into Overly Attached Wife territory? At what point does it stop being cheating and start being the wife being unreasonable?

 

[akarst]

If another women's hand is on his penis, he is cheating. Sorry guys.

 

[irishblade]

Yes..

 

[larrycando]

If she is just jacking him off... she is just providing relief to a pressure point. If she is sucking his cock, that is the same thing, just providing pressure relief. Now, if she swallows his cum, that is cheating.

I asked Bill Clinton to clarify this for me. He was very sure in his facts. Blow jobs, hand jobs are not sex. Merely pressure relief. So, if you are not having sex with the woman, you are not cheating.

Hillary, is going to run for president. She is married to a man who was president. That would make the first time in history that we had a married couple where both served as president. So that qualified Bill and Hillary to determine this and he said,

"I did not have sex with that woman." We know he did not as the evidence on Monika's dress proves that she did not swallow. She let it fly.

 

[KinkyGAGuy]

I have to say yes it is, unless consent was given by you for him to allow a massage therapist to get him off.

Only you and he can determine the boundaries in your relationship. I have been in committed relationships where any interaction that was deemed sexual or affectionate was off limits. Also have been in open relationships where it was don't ask don't tell. Been in a relationship where I was given permission to pursue other sexual conquests, as it seemed to sexually excite her to know that I just had sex with another woman. However this eroded her self esteem and the relationship fell apart.

 

[CindyCD478]

If another women's hand is on his penis, he is cheating. Sorry guys.

What about another mans hand?

 

[DarkPleasures]

Depends on the "terms" of the relationship. For some, same sex relations are "more offensive" than hetero.

 

[CindyCD478]

Depends on the "terms" of the relationship. For some, same sex relations are "more offensive" than hetero.

Well, I don't consider a handjob a relationship, but I guess some might.

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

What if the woman is holding her hand stationary while the man thrusts. Still cheating?

 

[akarst]

What about another mans hand?

Hands off Cindy!

 

[hardcollege4]

If she is just jacking him off... she is just providing relief to a pressure point. If she is sucking his cock, that is the same thing, just providing pressure relief. Now, if she swallows his cum, that is cheating.

I asked Bill Clinton to clarify this for me. He was very sure in his facts. Blow jobs, hand jobs are not sex. Merely pressure relief. So, if you are not having sex with the woman, you are not cheating.

Hillary, is going to run for president. She is married to a man who was president. That would make the first time in history that we had a married couple where both served as president. So that qualified Bill and Hillary to determine this and he said,

"I did not have sex with that woman." We know he did not as the evidence on Monika's dress proves that she did not swallow. She let it fly.

This is a rock solid scientific analysis right here

 

[NCopenMIND]

I personally would not consider it cheating, just as if my wife was to receive the same treatment and have an orgasm. I'm sure my wife would consider it cheating though

 

[DarkPleasures]

Well, I don't consider a handjob a relationship, but I guess some might.

As in husband/wife or a "committed" dating couple. Those are relationships. Unless your wife is "only a hand job to you".

 

[DarkPleasures]

What if the woman is holding her hand stationary while the man thrusts. Still cheating?

Very much so because he is actively fucking. He's initiating it knowing he's in a relationship.

 

[screwher]

While it may be considered cheating I would actually encourage my wife getting off on the massage table. My wife's masseuse is an older lady. Personally I'd prefer her to get her massages from a young stud that finishes up by fingering her pussy. Even better he strips down and fucks her.

 

[basic_desires]

The point is 'massage'

Ladies, would you be cool if your husband or boyfriend got a happy ending during a massage? My husband recently brought up the question about what if it happened and I don't really care that much if it happened as long as it didn't become a "thing" that he did.

Fellas, ever gotten one?

The OP asked whether its cheating if or when this happens during massage. There doesn't have to be any touching of the genitalia involved; the complete relaxation achieved during a non-sexual massage may very well trigger an erection and even 'happy ending' for some men. I can't see how that is cheating if the masseur, be that person male or female, conducted themselves professionally...

Hell I once came when a nurse gave me my first full sponge bath after I came out of a prolonged stint in intensive care. Granted I was younger then, but it just happened and I couldn't have cheated at that time even if I'd wanted to...

 

[HoldYouDown]

Depends on whom you ask. Most women I know would be more upset that it were kept secret. They would, however be less upset by a paid hand job than by an emotionally-charged affair.

 

[SandraMustard]

Ladies, would you be cool if your husband or boyfriend got a happy ending during a massage? My husband recently brought up the question about what if it happened and I don't really care that much if it happened as long as it didn't become a "thing" that he did.

Fellas, ever gotten one?

The OP doesn't ask about 'cheating' yet most of the responses have tried to define their interpretation of cheating as it pertains to massage/sex. Except as clearly presented as a reason for 'not being cool' about happy endings, such opinions don't answer jstar's questions. [Edited to amend my statement]: She did ask whether it was cheating - in the thread title. However, ask 100 people about what is cheating will bring 90+ variations of opinion. The concept is open to too broad of a response range for me to cast my opinion.

We (husband and I) were cool with handjobs/fingering and even oral sex BEFORE our marriage became open to full sex with other partners. His first happy ending occurred in Korea before we were married. Even though he declined her offer, she teased him into ejaculating during the massage (no real handjob). He didn't get another massage or HE for 40 years.

I was offered 'special relaxation therapy' by a female masseuse during my first massage 13 years ago. I didn't know what she meant but accepted. It turned out to be clitoral/G-spot stimulation that produced a powerful orgasm.

In recent years, we started getting massages again and it has become 'a thing'. Currently, both of us are having intercourse and group sex with our therapists (threesomes with mine and his.)

 

[Aphro]

I was offered 'special relaxation therapy' by a female masseuse during my first massage 13 years ago. I didn't know what she meant but accepted. It turned out to be clitoral/G-spot stimulation that produced a powerful orgasm.

I need some "special relaxation therapy"...I'd pay extra.