How To Get Pregnant

[Tigersman]

For some couples getting pregnant is easy, but for others it can be quite frustrating if not almost impossible. The first thing that a couple should do is throw out the jockey style underwear as they are keeping the testes close to the body. The heat from the body injurys or kills the sperm in effect lowering the sperm count. Heat also can cause mutation of the sperm.
Other factors that impede pregnancy are:
Low sperm count- after age 39 sperm count drops from 60 to 50 percent
Stress - both emotional and mental. Alot of times the woman feels pressure from friends and
relatives asking her when she is going to get pregnant. This simple question places the
woman under ever increasing stress which in turn prevents her from becoming pregnant. A
simple but effective response to this question is "As soon as you have your next baby."
Issues with sexual intercourse or techniques
Nutrition - weight especially obesity can prevent pregnancy and also can cause a miscarriage. If a
woman is within normal perimeters for her height then she should only gain 15-20 lbs
during the entire pregnancy unless she is diabetic. Also decreased intake of zinc, vit c
and selenium.
Lubricants - lubricants such as vasoline, oils etc.
Overheating of testicles - high heat from hot tubs and saunas, fever and wearing jockey briefs
Substances - marijuana, cocaine and cigarette use lowers the sex drive
Bicycles - the regular use of bicycles has a tendency to damage nerves and blood vessels in the groin

 

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[Bramblethorn]

Bicycles - the regular use of bicycles has a tendency to damage nerves and blood vessels in the groin

This one's debated. For example:

http://www.webmd.com/men/news/20140709/cycling-male-infertility "There was no link between infertility or erectile dysfunction and many miles of cycling a week, even for more than 8-and-a-half hours."

http://www.livestrong.com/article/514548-can-cycling-decrease-fertility-in-men/ "Road cyclists who travel short distances may not be at great risk for the sterility problems linked to bike riding. It may only be those elite cyclists who ride more than 180 miles per week that are at most risk for developing infertility, according to the BBC... Researchers who conducted the study believe the main reason for the apparent connection between cycling and infertility is temperature elevation due to tight clothing... Although casual cyclists may not need to worry as much about biking and infertility, serious riders who regularly travel long distances or ride on rough terrain can take precautions against developing infertility by changing out bicycle saddles, including getting a wider seat or a specially designed bike seat, such as one with a groove down the center."

Another major cause of infertility is infectious disease. Mumps can cause male infertility but is easily preventable by vaccination, despite what a certain fraudulent quack might say. Female infertility is often caused by pelvic inflammatory disease due to STIs such as chlamydia or gonorrhea. These can be prevented by using condoms, but otherwise should be treated ASAP - get over the embarrassment and go to a doctor.

(And in general, if infertility persists, see a doctor.)

 

[Privates1stClass]

How To Get Pregnant

I thought unprotected fucking was the primary cause. There are others, I suppose.

 

[DesEsseintes]

I thought unprotected fucking was the primary cause. There are others, I suppose.

Yep - as with so many other sexually transmitted diseases. Though pregnancy, if not caught early, is particularly pernicious and life-affecting.

 

[SweetSam42]

Huh. I'm trying to decide whether the OP meant to be insulting, or whether he was just unintentially insulting.

 

[Christopher2012]

*slow clap*

Best. Advice. Ever.

10 out of 10

 

[Que]

SweetSam42, As someone who's been through IVF, two miscarriages, and buried our first child, I decided to decide that the OP is just a dickhead, and pretty much everything else in this thread is not worth the investment.

I am sorry for your angst and your losses. I remember us finally deciding to go ahead and add to the one child she came equipped with and then, nothing happened. The longer nothing happened the more concerned we grew.

In our case having me checked out revealed I was overheating them and a relatively simple (but scary as a dude) procedure took care of that.

I can't imagine the roller-coaster of emotion and disappointment and expense and hope and then not with what you have gone through.

As to the pain of miscarriages and then losing a child, I have no words.

 

[jomar]

I always thought sex leads to pregnancy. I mean the "how to" here is pretty clear-cut, right?

And alcohol.

 

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[Lord Pmann]

I don't do any of those bad things and my wife has never gotten pregnant. Perhaps it's the vasectomy?

 

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[stickygirl]

Thanks query and J.

I guess I'm just not built for this place.

No, it's not you, but random dickhead posts have an accumulative effect. I saw this yesterday, found myself frowning and thought pfft 'nah - walk on by'.

Now and again you do finds posts that are worth the effort - this one wasn't. Shall we talk about cats or food or summinck instead?

 

[Tigersman]

Healthcare professional

As a healthcare professional my original post was meant to be informative. It appears that some people took it personally. As to the mention of obesity and miscarriages my ex-wife worked for a GYN who had a patient who was obese, became pregnant and then proceeded to gain all of the weight that any normal person was limited to for a healthy pregnancy within the first trimester. This patient miscarried all three times. When she became pregnant the fourth time the GYN asked her if she was trying to cause another miscarriage. She left the office in tears. Upon her next doctors appointment she had not gained any additional nor did she gain any more during the rest of the pregnancy. She did deliver a healthy baby. She told the doctor and his staff that had the doctor not gotten nasty with her she most likely would not have her bundle of joy.

Miscarriages usually are not due to anything the woman is doing or done. In some cases it occurs due not following doctors orders for bed rest or trying to continue strenuous exercising such as training for a marathon. Other times it is the body's way of dealing with a defective fetus or it can be the result of a medical condition that only develops during pregnancy such as pre eclampsia. Another factor that can cause a miscarriage is the site at which the egg has implanted inside the uterus. While the vast majority of implantations occur in the middle and upper regions of the uterus some implantations occur in the lower region sometimes near the cervical opening. These implantations are normally discovered during an ultrasound done around the 16th week of pregnancy. Upon discovery the OB/GYN will closely monitor the pregnancy giving the patient instructions as to help maintain the pregnancy.

In some cases the woman may not know she was ever pregnant. She will most likely experience a period that is heavy that normal.

In regard to stress, my ex- wife experienced this. My ex-wife after having two bad pap smears within one year was told that if she wanted to get pregnant that she best do it within the next 90 days. Her OB/GYN told her that at the end of 90 days he was going to do another pap smear and if it came back bad thenhe was going to do a complete hysterectomy. At the end of 30 days, no pregnancy even making sure to have sex starting 2-3 days before ovulation. The same results at the end of 60 days. I threw up my hands and said "Oh well." Sometime within the next 2-3 weeks my wife announced she was pregnant. I asked how she knew. She said "I am experiencing all the signs and symptoms from my first pregnancy now." This was long before store pregnancy tests. My wife gave birth to a healthy baby girl.

 

[SCcouple1990]

SweetSam42, As someone who's been through IVF, two miscarriages, and buried our first child, I decided to decide that the OP is just a dickhead, and pretty much everything else in this thread is not worth the investment.

We've been through the IVF process, failed cycles, and lost twins, and it sucks.

Sorry for everything you ahve been through.

 

[stickygirl]

As a healthcare professional ... My wife gave birth to a healthy baby girl.

I'm not sure if you're intentionally trolling, but professional or otherwise, you should show a little more consideration splurging random obstetrics details. What are you trying to achieve? Any of this information can be Googled if people want to find out. Just because you find it professionally validating doesn't mean other people won't find it triggering or just plain insensitive.

 

[Garnate]

Is it just me or is everything in the OP covered in 8th grade health class? Sorry, but this shit seems pointless.

Maybe your next thread can be a how-to on breathing in and out? I'd read the shit out of that.

 

[Que]

Geeze, dude.

Way to double down. I am not going to quote that or point out to you the passages that would be hurtful to those struggling with fertility.

Your first post, I wouldn't have foreseen as purposefully insensitive. But when people say "ouch' it's time to re-evaluate. Good intentions or no.

Had you initial post been about "Keeping your sperm count high and healthy" I suspect it would have been better received. Essentially, it had no useful information for the "couple" anyway as things like stress cannot be wished away.

 

[Eilan]

An unwritten rule of the HT is that threads telling people how to do something generally aren't looked upon too kindly. Sorry you had to find out the hard way.

 

[Sandman63]

Damn walked in here and didn't realize I should have put on a lab coat.
And I do agree with most of the opinions. So much more involved and personal than what some have observed in a petri dish.
Sympathies for those who have suffered the loss of a child.

 

[SweetSam42]

I'm pretty new around the HT, but I thought that people asked questions, and then folks chimed in with advice. Throwing random information out there from webMD or some place that no one asked for just seems odd.

And to post something that you of all people, OP, should know is a sensitive topic (based on your career as a health professional and as the husband of a woman who has had scares about having a child), makes this all the more strange. As Sticky said, the topic of infertility is triggering for many of us. I could follow your "advice" to a T (and have, countless times), and would never be able to carry a child to term. If you don't know how damaging and painful that feels, please don't post about fertility.

However well meaning you say you were, your post presented a sensitive topic in an insensitive manner.

 

[NippleMuncher]

I'm pretty new around the HT, but I thought that people asked questions, and then folks chimed in with advice. Throwing random information out there from webMD or some place that no one asked for just seems odd.

That is generally how it works, unless a "how-to" has been specifically requested by several members. Sad thing is, there is always some hosebag that thinks they're being helpful by posting unsolicited advice. Sadder still, is that most of these hosebags wouldn't know their ass from a hole in the ground about the "information" they're providing, as evidenced by the OP here.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

Dear Op,

As a healthcare professional, I am surprised that such blanket statements are listed as actual advice. My only peace comes from knowing that you are probably not responsible for providing much patient education in your daily practice. I hope that you are able to use grace in your work that may not be clear in this forum - because it is a true blessing to be able to provide care.

Regarding pregnancy and loss, it is something that touches my family very closely because of a medical reason that is not listed as a part of the original post. In my generation, nearly half of our children have been lost to either miscarriage or infant death and I know what a hole that leaves in a heart. Peace, if only for a moment, to those who have shared.

And just in case Garnate wasn't joking..

Maybe your next thread can be a how-to on breathing in and out? I'd read the shit out of that.

Don't make fun of breathing.. it's one of my favorite things

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ehhzQq7cIuc

(with love)