The Isolated Blurt Thread IX: Insurrection

[Amy_K]

you make the move yourself. the look in their eyes is one you'll never forget.

I am just about at that point. Just blow his mind (and other things) and send him home to think about it.

 

[dolf]

Thanks. I have been seeing him for three weeks and have made several moves of my own, and he has been receptive, but the next time we get together, it's as if we are back to the starting line. I have been with two other guys, and had them ready from day one. We talk about friendships and relationships and I have flat out told him that I want to be with him and spend time with him. His shyness and lack of aggressiveness is going to be a deal breaker.

my serious, serious response:

i'd persist if I were you. some of the least assertive and slowest guys I've dated have turned out to be the best, most assertive lovers once they find their feet. some people just need a little time and reassurance before they feel ok with letting go.

patience and understanding can work wonders.

 

[Amy_K]

It's time for more proactive tactics.

Undo another button and lean in more over the wine glass as he's talking.

Just ask him what's up. As a man who is completely inept at reading signals, i can relate to his dumbassery. Just ask him if he's into you. If not then move on.

Sometimes we need a brick in the face.

Perfect advice, thanks you two. I am going to just lay it all out there, and if he balks, I will just friendzone him.

 

[dolf]

words, words, words. actions speak louder.

you've not even tried kissing him? just do it!

 

[spacekowboy]

my serious, serious response:

i'd persist if I were you. some of the least assertive and slowest guys I've dated have turned out to be the best, most assertive lovers once they find their feet. some people just need a little time and reassurance before they feel ok with letting go.

patience and understanding can work wonders.

This as well. Perfect lovers are not born, they are made.

 

[1HF]

Perfect advice, thanks you two. I am going to just lay it all out there, and if he balks, I will just friendzone him.

Wishing you the best of luck. I've been there and know how confusing/frustrating this can be.
Hopefully he will get the hint and ravish you.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Thanks. I have been seeing him for three weeks and have made several moves of my own, and he has been receptive, but the next time we get together, it's as if we are back to the starting line. I have been with two other guys, and had them ready from day one. We talk about friendships and relationships and I have flat out told him that I want to be with him and spend time with him. His shyness and lack of aggressiveness is going to be a deal breaker.

Whoa. That's a lot further along the pipeline than I thought.

Three weeks? Okay, being nice has its limits. If he ain't got the message by now...tell him that you're driving the car, he's in the passenger seat. The next double ramp on the highway has a sign that says, "Just Friends: turn left. Hot Lovers: turn right."

He's got five minutes to choose which ramp to get off on. Hit the stopwatch app on your smartphone and set it down in front of him.

 

[dolf]

This as well. Perfect lovers are not born, they are made.

I think far too much pressure is put on men, to make the first move, to be a fabulous lover. and women just have to look perfect and wait for the diamond. like guys aren't allowed anxieties, or time to figure a woman's needs out.

blah!

 

[spacekowboy]

I will not partake in these playground shenanigans.

 

[JohnnySavage]

This as well. Perfect lovers are not born, they are made.

That's damned profound.

 

[evesdream]

Whoa. That's a lot further along the pipeline than I thought.

Three weeks? Okay, being nice has its limits. If he ain't got the message by now...tell him that you're driving the car, he's in the passenger seat. The next double ramp on the highway has a sign that says, "Just Friends: turn left. Hot Lovers: turn right."

He's got five minutes to choose which ramp to get off on. Hit the stopwatch app on your smartphone and set it down in front of him.

YES. DO THIS.

 

[spacekowboy]

I think far too much pressure is put on men, to make the first move, to be a fabulous lover. and women just have to look perfect and wait for the diamond. like guys aren't allowed anxieties, or time to figure a woman's needs out.

blah!

You are preaching to the choir. If I had a nickel for every time those anxieties blocked me up in my youth... I would have a pocket full of nickels.

 

[Mr_Jon_Thon]

You are preaching to the choir. If I had a nickel for every time those anxieties blocked me up in my youth... I would have a pocket full of nickels.

A roll of quarters would have gotten you more action.

 

[Amy_K]

my serious, serious response:

i'd persist if I were you. some of the least assertive and slowest guys I've dated have turned out to be the best, most assertive lovers once they find their feet. some people just need a little time and reassurance before they feel ok with letting go.

patience and understanding can work wonders.

That's what I'm thinking too. He's probably just afraid that once he lets loose, that I won't see him as a "nice" guy any longer. Maybe I'm reading too much into things. But I am sure that he's just needing to get into the groove (no pun.)

 

[dolf]

You are preaching to the choir. If I had a nickel for every time those anxieties blocked me up in my youth... I would have a pocket full of nickels.

I hate the double standards.

if I don't have the balls to make the first move, I've nobody to blame but myself. and, yes, with this guy I did make the first move (if drunken, late night messages telling him i've always liked him and he should come fuck me count as the first move), and it was a fantastic idea!

 

[Amy_K]

Whoa. That's a lot further along the pipeline than I thought.

Three weeks? Okay, being nice has its limits. If he ain't got the message by now...tell him that you're driving the car, he's in the passenger seat. The next double ramp on the highway has a sign that says, "Just Friends: turn left. Hot Lovers: turn right."

He's got five minutes to choose which ramp to get off on. Hit the stopwatch app on your smartphone and set it down in front of him.

OMG! That just made me laugh and smile. Maybe make some actual signs, and hang them up in my dining room, an exit sign that says "Friendzone" that points to the living room, and a sign that says "Fuckville" pointing to my room.

 

[Amy_K]

Wishing you the best of luck. I've been there and know how confusing/frustrating this can be.
Hopefully he will get the hint and ravish you.

Thanks hon! I hope so too!

A really big thanks to everyone. I was just blurting, but all of this advice really does make me feel better.

 

[spacekowboy]

A roll of quarters would have gotten you more action.

I agree.

Alas, nudie-booths are illegal in California.

 

[Mr_Jon_Thon]

I agree.

Alas, nudie-booths are illegal in California.

That hurts my heart.

 

[Amy_K]

I hate the double standards.

if I don't have the balls to make the first move, I've nobody to blame but myself. and, yes, with this guy I did make the first move (if drunken, late night messages telling him i've always liked him and he should come fuck me count as the first move), and it was a fantastic idea!

Yeah, that's quite a move. A big mistake if he didn't take you up on that. He was probably afraid you'd wear him out.

I've been meaning to ask how you got that black eye. If it's a bad thing, I'll shut up.

 

[butters]

''science and reason . . . these are the flames we, as humans, must use to make visible the darkness''

dr brian cox

 

[dolf]

Yeah, that's quite a move. A big mistake if he didn't take you up on that. He was probably afraid you'd wear him out.

I've been meaning to ask how you got that black eye. If it's a bad thing, I'll shut up.

I've made WAY bolder moves than that

it's photoshop. bob made it for me, because i'm always posting about my love of ace slapping & bruised bits. it's bloody convincing!

 

[spacekowboy]

That hurts my heart.

You? Try living here, bub.

 

[Wings]

I just said...dude, if we are going to be more than fucking then you should tell me, otherwise I have other offers.


He moved in not long after. *shrug*

 

[Noor]

Unexpected oral surgery is always fun, want to watch 24 all day with the slug

Think I will watch Downtown abbey, homeland, blacklist and white collar instead, or something. Maybe a Diladid would be nice