Can kinky and normal coexist?

[northerner31]

After spending a bit of time on this site, I think I've come to a bit of an epiphany. The ideal woman is best described as the perfect fusion of kinkyness and normalcy. The only question is, does such a person even exist?

Heretofore, I've encountered the kinky variety, I've encountered the normal variety...but that elusive girl who brings the best of both worlds has been elusive.

The kinky type: at first it seems like that might be all you need. The conversation may start off decent, perhaps even stimulating, but then you start thinking to yourself , "wow ,who is this person? Why do I never meet people in real life like this?" So you make the mistake of asking a few personal questions. What's that you say? You're a "zoftig" gal who is trying hard to quit smoking and move out of the trailer park you're stuck in after your husband left you for the assistant manager at the local Wal-Mart?

And then, just like that, my capacity to imagine is dust in the wind.

Then there's the normal girl: wow, this conversation is lovely, you're so sweet natured. I can't believe it when you say you're single. I try to a subtle shift in conversation toward more illicit conversation topics. What's that you say? You're just here to socialize and chat casually? My apologies, I must have the wrong website. Did you also create an eHarmony profile for the purposes of expanding your job network? <cough>

So that brings me to this posting. Where's the woman that can make your jaw drop with some lurid personal confession of what she gets turned on by, but at the same time is the sort of sweet, intelligent, balanced person that I could see myself being friends with in that other realm we like to call "real life"?

Write to me.

 

[Nastassia4Hire]

Seems like the opportunity for a new word. "Kinmal" or maybe "norky".

 

[northerner31]

I like the cut of your jib, Nastassia.

 

[Nastassia4Hire]

Thank you ~ I think. Is that pirate-talk?

 

[Nastassia4Hire]

Okay, I googled that - thanks!

 

[northerner31]

It's more like east coast yacht club talk.

 

[northerner31]

Swallowing my pride and doing the self bump thing.

 

[DarkPleasures]

"Normal" is relative and in the eye of the beholder.

 

[YAK411976]

What? Kinky isn't normal? WTF all this time I've been unconcerned about my predilection for some light bdsm wasn't out of the ordinary amongst other things. Shit now my world's crumbling.

 

[northerner31]

Another shameless self-bump. Happy Monday all.

 

[SoulWeavinGirl]

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[RuneBlade]

I think I'm vanilla until I tell a lover what I did with my husband the night before and he blows his load just from my description.

Well geeze, now I think we're all curious. I know I am.

 

[SoulWeavinGirl]

.....

 

[troubledone]

*blushing* I knew I shouldn't have opened up that can of worms. *expertly scooping up all worms, shoving them back in the can, and re-sealing it*

After he has blown your load already

 

[TwistedLongings]

I think there are quite a few "normal" women who are kinky but don't open up. I know there are some women leading straight laced lives who were kinky back in the day. I believe there are quite a few who don't want to admit to their kinky side because they were raised in a straight-laced home, married a nice guy and think he's freak if they said they wanted to get really freaky. So it just stays all in their heads.

Hell, I'm positive there are women like that on this site right now and the only difference is they found Lit instead of/in addition to romance novels and the trusty toy they hide in a drawer somewhere.

 

[RuneBlade]

*blushing* I knew I shouldn't have opened up that can of worms. *expertly scooping up all worms, shoving them back in the can, and re-sealing it*

You can never catch them all. Never!

Muahahaha.

Ha.

 

[northerner31]

Interesting dialogue going on, thanks for the input. Just sending this to the top with another bump, wondering who is out there.

 

[fun_size_sub]

On the outside, I appear to be a nice, "normal" (albeit a geekgirl) gal. I've got the innocent face, can hold an intelligent conversation, am a soccer/basketball/Girl Scout mom, and I love to cook. None of my friends or the parents of my kids' friends would ever guess my predilections in the bedroom. As a matter of fact, I would guess that many of them would be shocked and awed. Here I enjoy conversing about everyday stuff, as well as what turns me on and recounting certain encounters with my husband. I am just jumping back into the lit community after a couple months' break to deal with some health issues.

 

[quietlylooking]

I think there are quite a few "normal" women who are kinky but don't open up. I know there are some women leading straight laced lives who were kinky back in the day. I believe there are quite a few who don't want to admit to their kinky side because they were raised in a straight-laced home, married a nice guy and think he's freak if they said they wanted to get really freaky. So it just stays all in their heads.

Hell, I'm positive there are women like that on this site right now and the only difference is they found Lit instead of/in addition to romance novels and the trusty toy they hide in a drawer somewhere.

Yes...

 

[dreamykitten2]

I will.......

Yes...

Reiterate that!!!! Yes!!

 

[mike_confident]

sexuality in general is puzzling

 

[northerner31]

Saturday afternoon bump. Just seeing who is lurking today.

 

[NiceNastyMann]

I am the very model of a kinky normal citizen,
I've information vegetative, animated, and more than a little existential,,,

 

[Wolfias]

Normal and kinky are relative terms depending on ones point of view. What's normal for one person might be for another, what's kinky for one person might not be another. As for the universal ideal women there's no such thing, as nobody is perfect it's absolutely impossible for her to exist.

 

[simpletimes]

After spending a bit of time on this site, I think I've come to a bit of an epiphany. The ideal woman is best described as the perfect fusion of kinkyness and normalcy. The only question is, does such a person even exist?

Heretofore, I've encountered the kinky variety, I've encountered the normal variety...but that elusive girl who brings the best of both worlds has been elusive.

The kinky type: at first it seems like that might be all you need. The conversation may start off decent, perhaps even stimulating, but then you start thinking to yourself , "wow ,who is this person? Why do I never meet people in real life like this?" So you make the mistake of asking a few personal questions. What's that you say? You're a "zoftig" gal who is trying hard to quit smoking and move out of the trailer park you're stuck in after your husband left you for the assistant manager at the local Wal-Mart?

And then, just like that, my capacity to imagine is dust in the wind.

Then there's the normal girl: wow, this conversation is lovely, you're so sweet natured. I can't believe it when you say you're single. I try to a subtle shift in conversation toward more illicit conversation topics. What's that you say? You're just here to socialize and chat casually? My apologies, I must have the wrong website. Did you also create an eHarmony profile for the purposes of expanding your job network? <cough>

So that brings me to this posting. Where's the woman that can make your jaw drop with some lurid personal confession of what she gets turned on by, but at the same time is the sort of sweet, intelligent, balanced person that I could see myself being friends with in that other realm we like to call "real life"?

Write to me.

After reading your opening post, i, as I'm sure others, went immediately to your profile.
My suggestion is to open up a bit, put some info on your profile if you truly seek conversing on any level you have to come out of hiding.
As for finding the kinky/normal girl, sorry but she is already in my arms.