Help- advice for threesome

[star792]

Husband knows I want to experiment more. He's all about the idea of a ffm one but the idea of a mmf really bothers him. I want to try both kinds.
I think it's because it's another guy and he's worried I'll like him more or something and not be satisfied. I had also told him I wanted to try new dick since I've had his for so long(15 yrs).. I wanted to try a nice big one and could we get a dildo one to play with and he really didn't like that idea either.. He got almost jealous that I might only want that and his isn't enough. Is this an alpha type thing? Anyone have any advice to ease his mind? I love his cock and cum everytime so it's not like I'm not satisfied with what he is giving me.

 

[Love2look51]

I think lots of people struggle with insecurities so you have to do a good job of communicating with each other and taking time to address each other's concerns. If you can understand why he feels the way he does than you can talk about it and do what you need to do to set his mind at ease. Also remember that change takes time. Most people would rather did than make a significant change in their lives. So be patient and communicate well with him. Not sure if that helps but it's my perspective. Good luck.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

with the issues going on ... don't bother with it.

 

[rhod101]

Husband knows I want to experiment more. He's all about the idea of a ffm one but the idea of a mmf really bothers him. I want to try both kinds.
I think it's because it's another guy and he's worried I'll like him more or something and not be satisfied. I had also told him I wanted to try new dick since I've had his for so long(15 yrs).. I wanted to try a nice big one and could we get a dildo one to play with and he really didn't like that idea either.. He got almost jealous that I might only want that and his isn't enough. Is this an alpha type thing? Anyone have any advice to ease his mind? I love his cock and cum everytime so it's not like I'm not satisfied with what he is giving me.

I dont think that I can provide much advice about what to say to him as I'd be cock a hoop if my wife said what you just have! As far as I'm concerned, if he wants a FFM so badly, he should be willing to give you the MFM that you want. It's only fair.

 

[LizVegas79]

Husband knows I want to experiment more. He's all about the idea of a ffm one but the idea of a mmf really bothers him. I want to try both kinds.
I think it's because it's another guy and he's worried I'll like him more or something and not be satisfied. I had also told him I wanted to try new dick since I've had his for so long(15 yrs).. I wanted to try a nice big one and could we get a dildo one to play with and he really didn't like that idea either.. He got almost jealous that I might only want that and his isn't enough. Is this an alpha type thing? Anyone have any advice to ease his mind? I love his cock and cum everytime so it's not like I'm not satisfied with what he is giving me.

I'm kind of in the same boat. I'm new here. (a friend at work told me about Literotica after a few drinks and some heart to heart a few weeks ago) I didn't think I'd post anything right away but it's funny this thread appears brand new and is one of the first I found. So here goes. Like I said, I'm sort of in the same boat. Except, I have tried "both kinds" but my husband hasn't. He thinks my wilder days are behind me. I did too until recently. He knows I love him. I cum almost every time my husband fucks me too, so it's not that. But I've sort of ramped up the dirty talk in the bedroom lately and he generally plays along but then afterwards always says something like, "So you weren't really serious about all that, right?"

I can tell he's getting a little suspicious. More and more he puts the brakes on my dirty talk. He reminds me we have two kids and jobs and a mortgage and bills. Actually, I shouldn't be complaining though. So far, it has worked out quite well for me because instead of fucking in bed like we always use to, now he usually takes me hard and fast in the bathroom or in the kitchen or right before we have to be somewhere. We even did it in a restaurant bathroom a few weeks ago! One of the first fantasies I laid on him was running off with a band and being a fuck toy in the back of their tour bus so maybe it's my fault he's scared I might run off if we get "too wild with other people" in the bedroom. I don't know. Men are so fragile sometimes. You have to be careful.

But anyway, what I wanted to say was I recently bought a lifelike but modest sized dildo and have let him catch me playing with it a few times. Like this past Saturday when he got home from dropping the kids off on a playdate he "caught" me in bed wearing a new, skimpy red silk teddy with the dildo purring at full blast deep inside me. I think it was just about the best sex we've had in two years! Anyway, my plan is to let him catch me playing with bigger and bigger dildos, maybe even a black one. Then one day I'll either try slipping one in the hole he isn't fucking to get that DP feeling (for him and me!), or, I'll let him catch me in bed with one of my horny divorced gf's who I know he likes.

Whatever he does after that will be up to him.

I'm certainly not giving any advice. I'm just throwing my plan out there to see if anyone with more experience has any suggestions for both of us.

(wow, this anonymous discussion board idea is more fun than I thought!)

 

[star792]

Funny! I played with my rabbit in front of him yesterday and it turned him on and we had great sex. He's still texting me about it. I guess it is the size issue.. Maybe I'll order a bigger one and increase like you said. Thank you for sharing. I do think I'll try for a ffm one first then the mmf. I think he also isn't into guys so he wouldn't get anything out of the mmf vs getting super turned on by the ffm scenerio.

 

[dade37]

Like most people said, talk about it. Also just slowly increase the size of the toys. but reassure him if he doesn't want guy on guy you don't either. this maybe a way to eliminate the size issue without having to ask him

 

[JayDee1353]

I'd say give him a mind blowing ffm threesome. Make him beg for another one and tell him you will after you get your threesome with two guys. He might be more inclined to agree once he knows what he's missing.

 

[DarkPleasures]

with the issues going on ... don't bother with it.

Exactly.

 

[bibethhotwet]

If you have an otherwise solid marriage my advice is don't push it. Nothing can destroy a marriage faster than one spouse being pushed to do what they really don't want to do sexually. Husband and I are swingers and we have enjoyed about every sexual situation possible almost since day one. It works for us and many people we know but we have known many more it didn't. At one point we served as counselors as sort for new beginners or those curious in swinging at a club we were members of. More often than not our loving advice was for the couple not to pursue it. If one or the is other continually pushing it on their spouse that can be symptomatic of other underlying marital issues that need to be resolved. Sometimes things are best kept to fantasy. That being said, if there are situations such as a MFF both are comfortable with that could be a springboard to further exploration. We were married several years and had enjoyed a few threesomes with other women before a 2nd male was introduced into the bedroom.

 

[Ezpickins]

Swinging

My wife and I have been swinging for seven years and it's been a truly great experience. With the issues of late of course we're in an indefinite holding pattern.

We've participated in both mmf and ffm and personally for the ffm I was a bit overwelmed. This was a case were the female wasn't bi (my wife is) so she wasn't into any contact with my wife at all. It wasn't necessarily required for my pleasure however it took constant effort to make sure no one was feeling left out.

The MMF I was kind of bored. I wasn't concerned at all about his size etc etc. I sincerely wanted my wife to enjoy this experience. This hung young stud pounded her, tied her in knots in various positions for the better part of an hour while I kissed her and played with her tits and whispered dirty talk in her ear. She thoroughly enjoyed it but hasn't requested another.

He did kind of monopolize the opportunity, I could of fucked her myself but by the time he was finished she was so sated and worn out I kind of felt like it would've been selfish overkill.

The key to everything is communication. have those conversations that seem uncomfortable at first. They can reveal so many fantasies and feelings that you both will enjoy together as a couple with no apprehension or regrets because you two as a team are on the same page.

 

[star792]

Thank you all!