Length of sex scenes

[Swilly]

How do you decide how long and detailed a sex scene is in your stories, especially in longer stories that aren't just stroke material.

I try to set the tone and give the reader a mental image of what's happening, but I tend to move them along. It seems like describing every single detail might be monotonous. I like to let the reader fill in the blanks, if you will, based upon their own experience and desires.

Am I just being lazy?

 

[lovecraft68]

How do you decide how b long and detailed a sec scene is in your stories, especially in longer stories that aren't just stroke material.

I try to set the tone and give the reader a mental image of what's happening, but I tend to move them along. It seems like describing every single detail might be monotonous. I like to let the reader fill in the blanks, if you will, based upon their own experience and desires.

Am I just being lazy?

It depends on the story and who is involved in the sex scene.

For example in an incest story I had it open with a son having sex with his girlfriend (holy shit imagine that!) and that scene I made on the shorter side because its incest and that is not what they want and the scene didn't go that well(girlfriend is a prude) so it shows the kid is frustrated

When I get to the end of the story and he is being seduced by his mother that one I wrote long because it is what the target audience wants as well as the climax of the story


My sex scenes run long-my major ones-because they never just 'hop on' there is a tease, a build up through dialogue and some hesitation(in the taboo stories, again, what's wrong with me?) so....

I guess what I'm saying is short works as a bone to throw the reader to keep them involved in a long piece, but I never cut corners on the "final round"

A personal pet peeve of mine is stories that have a long very hot build up and the sex is wham bam, that's a let down to me.

 

[JagFarlane]

Like LC said, it depends on the story and the characters. For one of my series the sex scenes are a little less detailed for the two main characters each new chapter and the scenes involving further exploration for the one main character are more detailed. But the details aren't necessarily just the physical action of the sex, but often more of the emotional state of the characters, their feelings, and how they react to those feelings.

 

[lovecraft68]

This thread make me think of something...

We always talk about porn absurdities and tropes and cliches and the same ones get mentioned all the time. The 12" cock 38fff breasts, virgins who gang bamg like Sasha Grey....many others.

But one porn absurdity-or lack of realism if you will-is that climactic first time.

In many stories, its fairly long fantastic experience. Depending on the type of story it could be a long, slow, sweet, love making experience or in others a wild, ride of a life time around the world performance.

But, really is that ever the case in real life?

second third....encounters can be slow, wild, fun amazing....but first times?

The first time with my wife consisted of her skirt over her hips, panties to the side and my pants down around my knees while I fucked her against her living room wall. Lasted a few minutes and was hot for what it was, but certainly nothing like the long romps we all describe.

Later that night? One that could be competitive here, but not that first, "Goddamn I need to fuck you" time.

 

[Hypoxia]

How long? Like a sex toy: As long as necessary, but not much more. Sometimes that means long, slow, loving, intimate detail. Sometimes it's almost perfunctory. Depends on the needs of the story. I *will* confess that I often skim over long, slow, detailed narratives, because yes, they get repetitive and formulaic and bo-ring... especially if they're about mechanics, not minds. I will also confess that many of my sex scenes could use rewriting. Oh bother.

 

[patientlee]

I just hate when you can tell the point in the scene where the author got off. I have read stories that are good and hot, and all of a sudden it's like I stuck my dick in her ass and she came three more times the end.

 

[lovecraft68]

I just hate when you can tell the point in the scene where the author got off. I have read stories that are good and hot, and all of a sudden it's like I stuck my dick in her ass and she came three more times the end.

That's why I wait until the end to go hunt down some relief. When my scenes are long I'm teasing myself as much as the reader.

 

[Swilly]

This thread make me think of something...

We always talk about porn absurdities and tropes and cliches and the same ones get mentioned all the time. The 12" cock 38fff breasts, virgins who gang bamg like Sasha Grey....many others.

But one porn absurdity-or lack of realism if you will-is that climactic first time.

In many stories, its fairly long fantastic experience. Depending on the type of story it could be a long, slow, sweet, love making experience or in others a wild, ride of a life time around the world performance.

But, really is that ever the case in real life?

second third....encounters can be slow, wild, fun amazing....but first times?

The first time with my wife consisted of her skirt over her hips, panties to the side and my pants down around my knees while I fucked her against her living room wall. Lasted a few minutes and was hot for what it was, but certainly nothing like the long romps we all describe.

Later that night? One that could be competitive here, but not that first, "Goddamn I need to fuck you" time.

I'd agree for first time first-timers to a large degree.

For first time with a particular person, anything is possible. My wife and I knew each other for quite some time before we got involved, and we worked together. One evening, she asked if I wanted to meet her for breakfast the next morning before work. I took a ridiculously early train and met her at her apartment holding a bottle of champagne. She answered her door in a short blue silk robe that barely covered her ass, and nothing else. Evidently, we both understood was breakfast was going to be.

I can still remember the smell and coolness of her half damp hair, not fully dry from the shower she'd taken. I remember the taste of her lips on mine. I pushed her against the wall and we kissed, and I slipped my hand down under the robe and between her legs. She came twice before I had removed a stitch of my own clothing. Once I did, there was a lot of naked kissing and touching before I was inside her. I'm not going to lie and say I plowed into her for an hour like a piston in the engine of a muscle car. I came, and I ate her, and we spent several hours getting to know each others bodies.

Damn. She's at work right now. Where was I?

 

[Montanos]

This thread make me think of something...

We always talk about porn absurdities and tropes and cliches and the same ones get mentioned all the time. The 12" cock

I have to agree here.

If you're going to write a penis size, go for the 12" cliche. No one wants to read about the 5" gentleman.

But, perhaps, it might be interesting -not- to give a size at all. Let each reader imagine endowment however they deem fitting? That might be plausible.

Montanos

 

[MSTarot]

I think there should be a lot of heat between the couple in their first scene together in the story, whether it's their first time together or not, but certainly be realistic in the length of time it takes to get to orgasm.

That time varies. And you need to let it do that. If the guy cums in minutes or if he takes forever to get there those are both very much story elements. Exploit them to help deliver the tale.




My first time with my wife began as very heavy necking in the parking lot of a Waffle House, then to the couch in my living room and finally to my bed. I, in fact, didn't cum that night. She did several times.

I must have been doing something right, she moved in a month latter and we've been together 15 years now. We went six years with our biggest argument being over how you fold towels.

 

[Swilly]

I think there should be a lot of heat between the couple in their first scene together in the story, whether it's their first time together or not, but certainly be realistic in the length of time it takes to get to orgasm.

That time varies. And you need to let it do that. If the guy cums in minutes or if he takes forever to get there those are both very much story elements. Exploit them to help deliver the tale.




My first time with my wife began as very heavy necking in the parking lot of a Waffle House, then to the couch in my living room and finally to my bed. I, in fact, didn't cum that night. She did several times.

I must have been doing something right, she moved in a month latter and we've been together 15 years now. We went six years with our biggest argument being over how you fold towels.

At least it wasn't the age old over-under toilet paper thing. That can be death to a relationship!

 

[lovecraft68]

I have to agree here.

If you're going to write a penis size, go for the 12" cliche. No one wants to read about the 5" gentleman.

But, perhaps, it might be interesting -not- to give a size at all. Let each reader imagine endowment however they deem fitting? That might be plausible.

Montanos

That's what I do. I am fond of the word "sizable" or I might say long and thick.

This way the reader can use their guidelines to imagine it. To some women "sizable" could be 8" to a size queen they are thinking 10-12"

Sam for breasts, "smallish, perky, "Impressive" "Not large, but more than a handful"

Let the reader envision their fantasy, don't force yours on them when it comes to those things

 

[patientlee]

At least it wasn't the age old over-under toilet paper thing. That can be death to a relationship!

A refrigerator with an ice maker saved my marriage 16 years ago.

 

[MSTarot]

At least it wasn't the age old over-under toilet paper thing. That can be death to a relationship!

We're both a bit lazy when it comes to that. If it's on the roller and not sitting on top of it it's a major achievement.

 

[lovecraft68]

At least it wasn't the age old over-under toilet paper thing. That can be death to a relationship!

I drink out of the bottles from the fridge. My wife? "Oh, by the way, I'm taking your car"

Translation. "My car was on e again....and now yours will be too!"

 

[sr71plt]

Am I just being lazy?

I think you're being overly analytical.

 

[patientlee]

This thread make me think of something...

We always talk about porn absurdities and tropes and cliches and the same ones get mentioned all the time. The 12" cock 38fff breasts, virgins who gang bamg like Sasha Grey....many others.

But one porn absurdity-or lack of realism if you will-is that climactic first time.

In many stories, its fairly long fantastic experience. Depending on the type of story it could be a long, slow, sweet, love making experience or in others a wild, ride of a life time around the world performance.

But, really is that ever the case in real life?

second third....encounters can be slow, wild, fun amazing....but first times?

The first time with my wife consisted of her skirt over her hips, panties to the side and my pants down around my knees while I fucked her against her living room wall. Lasted a few minutes and was hot for what it was, but certainly nothing like the long romps we all describe.

Later that night? One that could be competitive here, but not that first, "Goddamn I need to fuck you" time.

Hubby is 13 inches taller than I am. Against the wall doesn't work too well.

 

[lovecraft68]

Hubby is 13 inches taller than I am. Against the wall doesn't work too well.

There are ways around logistical disadvantages.

I'm fortunate. I'm on the shorter side, about 5"9 but my wife is only 5'2" so it works out.

 

[patientlee]

I drink out of the bottles from the fridge. My wife? "Oh, by the way, I'm taking your car"

Translation. "My car was on e again....and now yours will be too!"

Again the height difference comes into play. I won't take his truck because I need a ladder to get in and I can't see over the hood. That's a good tactic your wife uses though.

 

[JagFarlane]

Again the height difference comes into play. I won't take his truck because I need a ladder to get in and I can't see over the hood. That's a good tactic your wife uses though.

Funny enough my 5'1" wife prefers to drive the truck. I think she just likes the V8 and being able to easily pass on the back roads.

 

[JKendallDane]

How do you decide how long and detailed a sex scene is in your stories, especially in longer stories that aren't just stroke material.

I try to set the tone and give the reader a mental image of what's happening, but I tend to move them along. It seems like describing every single detail might be monotonous. I like to let the reader fill in the blanks, if you will, based upon their own experience and desires.

Am I just being lazy?

You're not being lazy...just realistic.

There becomes a point in a very long story (say 5-6 pages or more) and in a series where the sex will still be expected, but the readers are probably hooked far more on the characters you have created and the non-sexual part of their experiences. They continue to want the erotic side of things but they don't want it to be the only thing driving the plot.

When I reach that point in a series I tend to tone down the explicit, blow-by-blow, inch-by-inch, thrust-by-thrust details, and instead concentrate on unique locations or the emotional situation that leads up to the sex.

One of my best rated and commented on chapters of my current series 'Pizza Boy at the Door' is a three pager that made it into the GM HOF with nothing more than simple frottage in the final paragraphs. I worked in the sex but worked the readers feelings much harder.

 

[TamLin01]

To quote so many gentleman since time began: "It's more a question of style than length." A fuck scene needs a tangible rise and fall and then a resolution that feels organic for the characters. It doesn't have to be long; it just has to be complete. In fact, I think most writers are more likely to make it too long rather than too brief.

 

[Bramblethorn]

How do you decide how long and detailed a sex scene is in your stories, especially in longer stories that aren't just stroke material.

I try to set the tone and give the reader a mental image of what's happening, but I tend to move them along. It seems like describing every single detail might be monotonous. I like to let the reader fill in the blanks, if you will, based upon their own experience and desires.

Am I just being lazy?

Nah. For me, what matters most is the buildup to physicality. If that's handled well, a story can be sexy as hell even without giving any detail. I've got one story where the totality of the sex scene is two-and-a-half short and vague paragraphs out of 17k words, but I think it works, because a lot of the story is about the emotional journey to that point (and what comes after). In that one I was trying to evoke an old-fashioned style of writing, so explicit "slot A in slot B" writing wouldn't have fit.

But one porn absurdity-or lack of realism if you will-is that climactic first time.

In many stories, its fairly long fantastic experience. Depending on the type of story it could be a long, slow, sweet, love making experience or in others a wild, ride of a life time around the world performance.

But, really is that ever the case in real life?

second third....encounters can be slow, wild, fun amazing....but first times?

That's a really good point. I don't remember much about my first time - I remember being really excited it was going to happen (I had about a month's notice) but when it did... it was fun, I was In Love or at least crushing so hard I couldn't tell the difference, but it wasn't exactly a virtuoso performance.

Not to mention the mishaps that happen during sex. Aside from condom-failure pregnancy fetish stuff, I hardly ever see stuff where things go wrong the way it can IRL. You know, the doorbell rings and you have to get rid of the Jehovah's Witnesses, or you've just tied somebody up from head to foot and they get a massive unsexy cramp. Call me weird, but I like stories with a bit of that "mere mortals" stuff; makes it feel more human.

 

[Mello_SixtyNine]

I'm a fan of scenes that are more descriptive and drawn out. I've read some stories that had sex scenes that were just a paragraph long which isn't enough for me to get invested in it.

For example, I'm currently writing a new story. The first sex scene involves a blowjob. I wrote 869 words just for that.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Based on my experiences unless a female is bipolar her sexual enthusiasm is based in how long since the last time, contagion, and her period. Females are horn-dogs when theyre infected with something (before it erupts).