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[warl0ck1]

Oh Brad, you're such a sweetie.... don't you remember I told you this once, but you've forgotten


well my ability to confuse hasn't changed
It's the anonymous PMers that I suspect will drop me now. win:win

I look forward to those pm's. They are by far the most creative and well thought out.

 

[Paradox]

Shall we get back to difficult questions?
Now that I am post-op, am I right to presume that the tranny fans will no longer be interested in me?

I'm pretty sure I've always just been a Stickygirl fan.

And, yes, I read the subsequent discussion on this question before coming back to answer here.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

I am happy

To hear your take on the question. I actually saw it last night but still tear up thinking about it so stayed away.

I have been kind of self destructive on here lately, well OK , for quite a while, and should stick to your thread as it is always so upbeat. Thanks for letting me find peace here out of the storm.

 

[MumSisterTgirlLover]

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[stickygirl]

Not true. I have had the pleasure of being with a pre-op lady and I am also attracted to post-op. But as always it depends on the individual, if there is a mutual attraction.

I just came across this thread and it has already caught my interest.

Hi MSTL
You're quite right of course - it was my dumbass question and I've removed it now because it was causing confusion about where I stood on the matter. I'm always, always happy to discuss matters relating to trans folk.
Thanks for posting

 

[BradBigBrain]

I'll ask the most obvious question...

Are you looking forward to taking your new lady bits out for a spin?

 

[stickygirl]

I'll ask the most obvious question...

Are you looking forward to taking your new lady bits out for a spin?

Ha! Well naturally I am curious about … pretty much everything to do with my bits! Will I be able to orgasm ( not guaranteed )? Will it hurt? Will I see stars / earth move for me?

but of equal importance - how will I meet him? How will he feel about my trans status? Will it mean I've got a social life again ? Will my ass look big in that? Did my shoes go with that dress? Will my friends like him?

and finally
Does he snore?

 

[haurni]

Will I be able to orgasm ( not guaranteed )? Will it hurt?

I suspect that some solo experimentation may go a long way to determining the answers to these questions. No need to wait.

 

[BradBigBrain]

Ha! Well naturally I am curious about … pretty much everything to do with my bits! Will I be able to orgasm ( not guaranteed )? Will it hurt? Will I see stars / earth move for me?

but of equal importance - how will I meet him? How will he feel about my trans status? Will it mean I've got a social life again ? Will my ass look big in that? Did my shoes go with that dress? Will my friends like him?

and finally
Does he snore?

Yes, I do.

 

[Erochic]

Ha! Well naturally I am curious about … pretty much everything to do with my bits! Will I be able to orgasm ( not guaranteed )? Will it hurt? Will I see stars / earth move for me?

but of equal importance - how will I meet him? How will he feel about my trans status? Will it mean I've got a social life again ? Will my ass look big in that? Did my shoes go with that dress? Will my friends like him?

and finally
Does he snore?

I think the answers all to those questions are:
Hopefully
Maybe
It depends
And it's always fun to try
And go slow and don't skimp on the lube

 

[stickygirl]

Yes, I do.

Are you offering?

I suspect that some solo experimentation may go a long way to determining the answers to these questions. No need to wait.

I'll keep y'all posted but don't hold your breath

I think the answers all to those questions are:
Hopefully
Maybe
It depends
And it's always fun to try
And go slow and don't skimp on the lube

Hmm... kinda hoping it works au naturel , but a top up won't do any harm

 

[BradBigBrain]

Are you offering?

If I was....would you take me up on it???

 

[beardedmariner]

Ha! Well naturally I am curious about … pretty much everything to do with my bits! Will I be able to orgasm ( not guaranteed )? Will it hurt? Will I see stars / earth move for me?

but of equal importance - how will I meet him? How will he feel about my trans status? Will it mean I've got a social life again ? Will my ass look big in that? Did my shoes go with that dress? Will my friends like him?

and finally
Does he snore?

Yes I do snore. So we're a no go. how long did the doctors say before you were allowed to do anything?

 

[stickygirl]

Yes I do snore. So we're a no go. how long did the doctors say before you were allowed to do anything?

You could always go sleep in the other room!

How long? The most obvious problem is infection creeping in, where new tissue is healing/growing and that can take three months ( I'm still getting a bit of blood showing ). Beyond that, I'm using successively larger stents ( medical dildos ) to stop inflexible scar tissue forming and to produce micro-tears in the whole shebang and so make it bigger. Natural vaginal tissue is amazingly flexible, but I don't have that advantage. Theoretically, I could produce breaks in the skins during that stretching, which can be a weak point for infection so.... most medics say nine months, by which time the cycle of stretching is pretty much done and I'll only have to continue with stents to maintain shape a couple of times a week ( unless someone is banging me stupid in which case, don't bother ).

If I was....would you take me up on it???

If you're in good physical shape, I'd chance it. How's your resting BP?

 

[beardedmariner]

So you have to wait a while and you'll have to continue to fill yourself weekly! lol forever to keep shape? And I guess I don't
Mind sleeping in the other room
My resting heart rate is 45 btw. Lol

 

[Erochic]

Are you offering?


I'll keep y'all posted but don't hold your breath

Hmm... kinda hoping it works au naturel , but a top up won't do any harm

Oh I wasn't sure how it all works for you in terms of natural moisture ... That's wonderful that it all works

But even for cis women a spot of lube every now and then can help out.

I'm over 40 now and even if I'm very turned on and the juices are flowing, sometimes that bit of lube can make the difference between "this is going to get sore" and "I can fuck all night".

And if you are using condoms then you really should plan on using at least some lube. It slides differently with a condom than bareback ... And that's where soreness or breakages will happen.

Also this is all new for you... So you really want to slip into it slowly.
Dear god I wish I'd used lube when I first had PIV sex ... And done it with someone other than another clumsy 16 year old (on a beach)

 

[stickygirl]

So you have to wait a while and you'll have to continue to fill yourself weekly! lol forever to keep shape? And I guess I don't
Mind sleeping in the other room
My resting heart rate is 45 btw. Lol

4 times a day at the moment, which kinda takes over ones life...

Oh I wasn't sure how it all works for you in terms of natural moisture ... That's wonderful that it all works

But even for cis women a spot of lube every now and then can help out.

I'm over 40 now and even if I'm very turned on and the juices are flowing, sometimes that bit of lube can make the difference between "this is going to get sore" and "I can fuck all night".

And if you are using condoms then you really should plan on using at least some lube. It slides differently with a condom than bareback ... And that's where soreness or breakages will happen.

Also this is all new for you... So you really want to slip into it slowly.
Dear god I wish I'd used lube when I first had PIV sex ... And done it with someone other than another clumsy 16 year old (on a beach)

Hey thanks - that's good to know - I really appreciate that info. How much juice I can produce remains to be seen but if cis gender women benefit from it as well then that's cool.

The main reason I went to Dr Saran in Bangkok, is that he makes use of the existing glands ( Cowper, Littre and of course Prostate ) and they are plumbed into my bits. Not all surgeons do that and the success rate is not guaranteed but the pros outweighed the cons for me. It's all a bit unknown for me right now but it's very early days. Baby steps.

 

[warl0ck1]

As for rocking your world don't worry when you meet the right guy his kiss will do it for you.

Has anyone told you lately how amazing you are.

 

[Erochic]

Hey thanks - that's good to know - I really appreciate that info. How much juice I can produce remains to be seen but if cis gender women benefit from it as well then that's cool

You are very welcome. I'm glad if something I say helps. Erotica is great of course, but I think that realities should be talked about too.

I think it's this myth along the lines of the always hard dick that a woman should always be wet and ready... And if she's not there's something wrong with her or her lover.
Good long foreplay and a skilled lover you are really hot for do get the juices flowing very nicely indeed, but even so other things (mood, physical condition, hormones, having kids, getting older etc etc) can have an effect.

My lover is absolutely amazing and spends a very long time on foreplay because he loves it - and does get me very wet ....so at first I felt awkward having to use any lube - like I was saying he hadn't done enough to turn me on (which was not the case at all). He didn't care at all... If a little lube helps smooth the way (so to speak) a bit more to amazing sex he's all for it.

How long? The most obvious problem is infection creeping in, where new tissue is healing/growing and that can take three months ( I'm still getting a bit of blood showing ). Beyond that, I'm using successively larger stents ( medical dildos ) to stop inflexible scar tissue forming and to produce micro-tears in the whole shebang and so make it bigger. Natural vaginal tissue is amazingly flexible, but I don't have that advantage. Theoretically, I could produce breaks in the skins during that stretching, which can be a weak point for infection so.... most medics say nine months, by which time the cycle of stretching is pretty much done and I'll only have to continue with stents to maintain shape a couple of times a week ( unless someone is banging me stupid in which case, don't bother ).

Natural vaginal tissue is very flexible, but there are things that happen over a Cis woman's life that do test that. Childbirth and associated problems like tearing for one, and hormone fluctuations (the most extreme being menopause).

A couple of years back I had some bad problems with an implant hormonal contraceptive - that led to sensitivity,small tears and tightening. It was very frustrating, but my lover went slowly and used lots of lube and his fingers to slowly open and stretch me during foreplay.
I also found vitamin E oil was really helpful. I read something about it in a forum where older women (or was it women after childbirth) were discussing problems like that.
To be sure it was high grade and fairly sterile I used vitamin E capsules (the ones you can eat) and cut them open and rubbed the oil around and put one inside too.
It soothed and gave moisture and vitamin E is very healing for cuts, abrasions and scar tissue (and improves the elasticity and flexibility of scar tissue).
Thankfully taking the implant out fixed these problems and I'm back to be able to dive right in, but I still use Vitamin E oil afterwards if things have been a little too enthusiastic.

Maybe check if Vitamin E oil would be okay for you to use

The main reason I went to Dr Saran in Bangkok, is that he makes use of the existing glands ( Cowper, Littre and of course Prostate ) and they are plumbed into my bits. Not all surgeons do that and the success rate is not guaranteed but the pros outweighed the cons for me. It's all a bit unknown for me right now but it's very early days. Baby steps.

Oh god yes... Even having the chance of making your own moisture sounds like a definite pro. It may take a bit of experimenting to see what stimulation works best for you for lubrication as well as pleasure.

 

[Paris54]

Dearest Sticky...

So glad you're home and well. Luv ya bunches.

Hugs...

Paris.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Ha! Well naturally I am curious about … pretty much everything to do with my bits! Will I be able to orgasm ( not guaranteed )? Will it hurt? Will I see stars / earth move for me?

but of equal importance - how will I meet him? How will he feel about my trans status? Will it mean I've got a social life again ? Will my ass look big in that? Did my shoes go with that dress? Will my friends like him?

and finally
Does he snore?

Somehow I thought you already had a boy friend. And no your ass will look just fine and don't glisten over the small stuff like shoes. In the Great American South Men sweat and Ladies Glisten so Glisten away Sticky. No I mean don't glisten, I think ?

PS. Find a Southern Gentleman, He will not go to sleep until his Lady is safely asleep in his arms before he closes his eyes as he kisses her forehead good night.

 

[funluvinaj]

After your surgery and you talking about the dilation I went and did a bunch of reading to understand what you are going through and to understand how the procedure works. It's interesting that there isn't one good standard and different tweaks exist.

As far as your question that you didn't like... I'm glad it was there. You made a comment about some being attracted to the flesh and not the person. It was sort of this lightbulb moment for me. I've identified as pan for a couple years now because it is very much the person that attracts me and not the genitals... That's just a part of the process... I do have a stronger pull towards men but its more about wanting that dominant figure than a cock... If that makes sense.

Weighing in on the lube topic... I have an abundance of moisture when with a partner but sometimes after awhile doing the deed I can get drier. Also, sometimes for madturbation I want the pure physical release and not go through the time for fantasy... Lube is great to get me going then.

 

[Erochic]

As far as your question that you didn't like... I'm glad it was there. You made a comment about some being attracted to the flesh and not the person. It was sort of this lightbulb moment for me.

I'm sorry I keep on chiming in all of a sudden , but I've been an admirer for a while.

I too think it's actually a very pertinent question.
It's a question a lot of people struggle with whether cis or trans or gay, straight or bi.
We all want to be loved for ourselves, but we also want to be desired for our bodies.
I mean I like to have my boobs admired (after all they are my avatar) but I'm more than just a walking set of tits ... And I don't particularly want to be around the big tit fetishists.

That's much more simplistic that the situation you face of course, and when you wrote your question I was struck by how difficult it is for you.

There is a lot of fetishizing about trans people - especially what seems to be the "chick with dick" fetish ... And while it's not particularly pleasant tone fetishized, I imagine it would easy to worry if you will still be desired.

If the question made other people uncomfortable then I think that says more about them than you IMO.

 

[Erochic]

.....sorry, mistaken double post......

 

[funluvinaj]

I'm sorry I keep on chiming in all of a sudden , but I've been an admirer for a while.

I too think it's actually a very pertinent question.
It's a question a lot of people struggle with whether cis or trans or gay, straight or bi.
We all want to be loved for ourselves, but we also want to be desired for our bodies.
I mean I like to have my boobs admired (after all they are my avatar) but I'm more than just a walking set of tits ... And I don't particularly want to be around the big tit fetishists.

That's much more simplistic that the situation you face of course, and when you wrote your question I was struck by how difficult it is for you.

There is a lot of fetishizing about trans people - especially what seems to be the "chick with dick" fetish ... And while it's not particularly pleasant tone fetishized, I imagine it would easy to worry if you will still be desired.

If the question made other people uncomfortable then I think that says more about them than you IMO.

I've know Sticky for awhile now and this is what she wants... Good gritty conversation. I LOVED your last statement.

You do have lovely breasts btw.