Guys, what makes a girl a good lay?

[MaddysSecret]

I was having drinks with a few girlfriends last night. All of us have been told we're great lays, and we ended up talking about what guys like best about each of us and what we think they mean by us being great lays. So I thought I would see what people say here. What makes a girl a great lay in your opinion?

 

[Hipshot1554]

enthusiasm!

 

[Anomaly1964]

enthusiasm!

EXACTLY!

I want a woman who CRAVES sex, not one that just goes through the motions...

 

[NightOfPassion2]

Desire for her lover
Enthusiasm
Able to elicit her lover for more...(thats a real art)

 

[KinkyGAGuy]

Have to agree with Hipshot on enthuiasm!

However would like to add, imagination, willingness to explore, passionate about the act.

I have had women just lay there, and have others that would move there hips with me, grind against me, move to different positions for the purpose of getting off.

I am sometimes the type of guy that, if you do not show enthusiam, or willingness to participate, then I can walk away. Or I will just get off and leave you hanging, but if you show me that you so want to get off, I will gladly get you off!
If you are feeling unpleasured in the act, speak up!

 

[adguy]

Exactly and...

All of the above AND the desire to take some initiative! A combination of dominance and yet submissiveness….imagination and giving and receiving pleasure!

 

[TwoShades]

Enthusiasm. Imagination. And knowing what she wants and how she likes it. I love watching and feeling her ride my cock just the way she loves it. Letting herself go. Watching her face and her hips move on me. Fuck. I better stop...

 

[Ramone45]

Lack of inhibition. Self confidence. Sense of humor.

 

[KinkyGAGuy]

Lack of inhibition. Self confidence. Sense of humor.

Amen to all of those!

 

[englishgent73]

Yep, all of the above

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Effort and enthusiasm

 

[30bandits]

all of the above, adding good hygiene. no stubble on her legs, pits, or thighs. I want her to smell good and taste great.

 

[panty_aussie]

willing to sleep with me

 

[thinkmanthink]

Enthusiasm intersecting with a lack of inhibition makes for good times in bed every time. Communication is vital too though. The best girls told me exactly when I was getting it right, and encouraged me to continue. They would tell me how much they were enjoying something i was doing.

That all being said, there was one girl I will always remember. She was a dancer, and she did things with her hips while riding me that I've never had done to me since, and that was the hands-down best lay I ever got. It was a combination of twerking, rocking and hula moves. Oh man, wish I could give her a call!

 

[kcwordsmith]

all of this

Something not mentioned yet is being vocal...talking dirty and telling you what she likes. That along with being uninhibited is very hot.

 

[blkjames]

for me it's simple,a woman that enjoys herself and loves what she does.I dont hit it off with women that takes themselves to serious.love when they let themselves go and try anything they have a mind too.dont hurt that their willing to swallow lol

 

[WhenInDoubtFuck]

Rarely an issue, but enthusiasm as well. She's got to have at least some little bit of kink in her. If I can't at least spank her ass or pull her hair or bite her neck, then I would never consider her a good lay. Bonus points for a girl with some special skill...a way she rides or grinds or gives head, just one or more impressive skills that she knows how to use.

 

[ShyGuy1855]

I'd say one of two:

1) A spontaneous, adventurous and completely inhibited wild side. Usually the type of person who is not shy (opposites attract, right?) and truly living every moment of life.

2) The irresistibly cute and adorable girl, who has natural stunning beauty and is a hopeless romantic.

But I suppose I'm describing what I find attractive and not necessarily the good lay

 

[jason28053]

enthusiasm, tons of foreplay, being vocal and talking dirty,

 

[StrongMaster7]

1. Energy 2. Enthusiasm 3. Good Hygiene 4. Some Skill 5. Open mind

These are essential. It's also good to have:

6. Some kink 7. A favorite thing 8. ability to express herself verbally

And ideally you have:

9. desire to learn 10. willingness to not always get her way 11. passion

 

[Rozalin_0123]

I work in a factory of mostly men and this subject has come up several times. While all men have different things that turn them on, one thing seemed to be universal between them: they want a woman who embraces her sexuality, a woman who knows what she likes and isn't ashamed about it. And if she doesn't know what she likes, she isn't afraid to try new things.

Basically a man doesn't want to do any guesswork. If you communicate your desires to your partner, you'll find the sex to be much hotter. Most men are afraid to spontaneously try new things that may make their partner uncomfortable in the heat of the moment and they sure as hell don't want to ask first for fear of spoiling the mood.

As a woman, if you want to be a good lay, tell your man, in plain English, how you want them to fuck you. And yes, use the word "fuck", they like that

 

[KinkyGAGuy]

I work in a factory of mostly men and this subject has come up several times. While all men have different things that turn them on, one thing seemed to be universal between them: they want a woman who embraces her sexuality, a woman who knows what she likes and isn't ashamed about it. And if she doesn't know what she likes, she isn't afraid to try new things.

Basically a man doesn't want to do any guesswork. If you communicate your desires to your partner, you'll find the sex to be much hotter. Most men are afraid to spontaneously try new things that may make their partner uncomfortable in the heat of the moment and they sure as hell don't want to ask first for fear of spoiling the mood.

As a woman, if you want to be a good lay, tell your man, in plain English, how you want them to fuck you. And yes, use the word "fuck", they like that

Cannot disagree!

Yes, yes, please use the word FUCK!

 

[CyberRain]

in one word : passion! Being flexible doesn't hurt either

 

[peelover8686]

Not sure what I can add to this.....I'll just say all the above. My biggest ones though are a woman being vocal about what she likes and doesn't like, and being an active participant.... if a woman just lies there and doesn't say anything, i feel like she really doesn't wanna be there with me, doing what were doing and that's a huge turn off for me. And good hygiene is definitely a must.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

Am I the only one who finds the number of times "good hygiene" has been mentioned here to be unsettling? Shouldn't that be common knowledge to all?

I'm sure a man doesn't want a woman who smells like a shithouse on a tuna boat much the same as a woman doesn't want a man who smells like crusty sunbaked asshole.