Love Doesn't Wait For No One

smoothg103rd

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If you find someone you can't see yourself living without. Be good to them cherish them. Because their is nothing worse than seeing the one you love being loved by someone else. Real men change for their woman. And a real woman change for their man. Don't find yourself in the situation wondering what could've been. Be the one to stand up and let them know what it's going to be.
 
Somebody is smitten.

You talking to her still?
 
Somebody is smitten.

You talking to her still?

I suppose of be taking her on a date later on today. But I seen something that made me second guess that. I seen her and her kids with her bf. Smiling laughing and shit and all I could think about is that supposed of be me. I caught a eye to eye with her. Guess her punk ass bf seen me looking at her cause he kissed her. Later on she texted me I gotta think whats right for my kids. I didn't even text her back.
 
Swear to god I never felt like this b4. Wish I never ran into her. I was so happy to see her now I'm mad than a motherfucker. I think I really feel this way cause I never got the chance to have closure. We never broke up. I always wonder what she was doing but never put to much thought into it. I would be ite tho
 
Swear to god I never felt like this b4. Wish I never ran into her. I was so happy to see her now I'm mad than a motherfucker. I think I really feel this way cause I never got the chance to have closure. We never broke up. I always wonder what she was doing but never put to much thought into it. I would be ite tho

If you never broke up why are you pining? Just go over to her place and fuck her.




LOL!
 
I suppose of be taking her on a date later on today. But I seen something that made me second guess that. I seen her and her kids with her bf. Smiling laughing and shit and all I could think about is that supposed of be me. I caught a eye to eye with her. Guess her punk ass bf seen me looking at her cause he kissed her. Later on she texted me I gotta think whats right for my kids. I didn't even text her back.

Like you said...you aren't sure you want to break up a happy. You dont want to be the guy that just brings them closer. You don't want to be a statistic either. 97% of marriages that start as creepin' end. I realize I'm talking a little middle America here, but people are people and these things translate on some level, right? By the way I didnt make that 97% up. Peopl say the divorce rate is 50%. false. Half of all marriages end in divorce...some of the same people are getting divorced2-3-4 times. I understand that a formality like marriage might not be where you are heading but like I said I am talking what is involved in long-term full-fulled couples. Call it what you like, church city hall or promises in the moonlight. You seem the hopeless romantic type. You don't get there without being "right" on some level.

Creeping or helping someone else do so messes with trust. Because the "this is meant to be" feeling only lasts one year. Science behind that. After that sure there is love, respect, companionship...but when the respect part is questionable, you start having unproductive thoughts...she threw him over for me.... she thinks, he didn't mind breaking up something...on and on. Better to have a more above board genesis.

On the other hand waiting around is death. Not that you cant do the time. But it will kill her attraction to you. You being available, just whenever shes ready, makes you a supplicant and that isn't manly to her. (It aint pimpin') Ha...working on sounding like that old guy trying to be 16 again.

You either want to come on strong, all in now, (you want to, probably you shouldn't) or you have to disappear and keep track from afar. The odds the guy doesn't fuck up are what?
 
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Like you said...you aren't sure you want to break up a happy. You dont want to be the guy that just brings them closer. You don't want to be a statistic either. 97% of marriages that start as creepin' end. I realize I'm talking a little middle America here, but people are people and these things translate on some level, right? By the way I didnt make that 97% up. Peopl say the divorce rate is 50%. false. Half of all marriages end in divorce...some of the same people are getting divorced2-3-4 times. I understand that a formality like marriage might not be where you are heading but like I said I am talking what is involved in long-term full-fulled couples. Call it what you like, church city hall or promises in the moonlight. You seem the hopeless romantic type. You don't get there without being "right" on some level.

Creeping or helping someone else do so messes with trust. Because the "this is meant to be" feeling only lasts one year. Science behind that. After that sure there is love, respect, companionship...but when the respect part is questionable, you start having unproductive thoughts...she threw him over for me.... she thinks, he didn't mind breaking up something...on and on. Better to have a more above board genesis.

On the other hand waiting around is death. Not that you cant do the time. But it will kill her attraction to you. You being available, just whenever shes ready, makes you a supplicant and that isn't manly to her. (It aint pimpin') Ha...working on sounding like that old guy trying to be 16 again.

You either want to come on strong, all in now, (you want to, probably you shouldn't) or you have to disappear and keep track from afar. The odds the guy doesn't fuck up are what?

Honestly I don't even know if I want here now. If it was meant to be she would of waiting for me right? And plus I got a couple of girls in my life right now. And I'm not going to give them up if she don't become mine. And I don't want to treat her like that. I got to much respect for her to be fucking different girls. While I'm fucking around with her. I'll just love her from a distance and if she ever need me I'll be there for her. In a friend way. And who's to say she the same girl she was when I was 16.
 
Honestly I don't even know if I want here now. If it was meant to be she would of waiting for me right? And plus I got a couple of girls in my life right now. And I'm not going to give them up if she don't become mine. And I don't want to treat her like that. I got to much respect for her to be fucking different girls. While I'm fucking around with her. I'll just love her from a distance and if she ever need me I'll be there for her. In a friend way. And who's to say she the same girl she was when I was 16.

Thats sounds smarter. And no she is definately not the same person.

Only thing I take exception is the meant to be thing... I never believed that...then all of a sudden, like 17 years in I believe...this is right, only she and I fit like this...then 18th year it goes to hell...

Im not saying I don't believe cause it went to hell, Im saying maybe we never should have been. I got 5 great kids out of it but we needed vastly different things.


If something was meant to be, who says, how can you tell, and who enforces the meant to be part. When you frame it like that it makes you not think about all your possibilities and the maybes that develop from friendships.
 
Thats sounds smarter. And no she is definately not the same person.

Only thing I take exception is the meant to be thing... I never believed that...then all of a sudden, like 17 years in I believe...this is right, only she and I fit like this...then 18th year it goes to hell...

Im not saying I don't believe cause it went to hell, Im saying maybe we never should have been. I got 5 great kids out of it but we needed vastly different things.


If something was meant to be, who says, how can you tell, and who enforces the meant to be part. When you frame it like that it makes you not think about all your possibilities and the maybes that develop from friendships.

How would u know if it was meant to be if u don't give it a try? My father told me some times u gotta fall on your ass to know how it feels to get up. And when u get up u gotta find out the reason why u fell. So u would never fall like that again. But honestly I think 18 years gotta stand for something. It's no way in hell that in the 17th year u believed. And in the 18th everything went bad. Maybe u didn't fight hard enough maybe u gave up to soon. If a person quit the first day of school and another person quit a day b4 graduation who's the jackass?
 
How would u know if it was meant to be if u don't give it a try? My father told me some times u gotta fall on your ass to know how it feels to get up. And when u get up u gotta find out the reason why u fell. So u would never fall like that again. But honestly I think 18 years gotta stand for something. It's no way in hell that in the 17th year u believed. And in the 28th everything went bad. Maybe u didn't fight hard enough maybe u gave up to soon. If a person quit the first day of school and another person quit a day b4 graduation who's the jackass?

Officially the papers got stamped one week shy of twenty years from our first date. She wouldn't have been sentimental enough to notice that.

It not like 17 years were great, the first year, then bits and pieces, then all of the sudden we were close to the end and we got brutally honest about ourselves and our needs and it all clicked. I honestly thought we had made it. When she hit her mid-life crisis I didn't fight hard, because I figured I'll ride this "phase" of hers out and it will be great again. At some point it was too late, she wasn't big on forgiveness so she assumed I couldn't. But yes, definately on me tha part about not bein direct and telling her this is unacceptable, it stops now. She needed correction, I figured shes a grown woman she ought to be able to make a reasonable assessment of her own behavior. I actually felt a little guilty about being sort of relieved, I sort of let it go. I was exhausted with it. She seems to have her stuff back together these days.

My kids are mostly grown...the only regret is my youngest, she is doing ok, but I dont see her enough, shes only 8.
 
If by "meant to be" you mean, "feels right, worth a lot to find out" I agree.

Ive typed like three long posts in this threads about an impossibly maybe Ive got. I keep erasing it and talking about something else.

I leave in the morning 200 miles to see the kids after I drop them back off sunday, Ill head 100 miles south and see her. I dunno I tried subtle, I tried direct. She introduced me to her her younger sister last trip. We clicked well, so that helped with "My girl" that got a little competitive. I dunno..lots of reasons you wouldn't even believe why that is crazy....I haven't felt chemistry like that in a long long time.
 
Officially the papers got stamped one week shy of twenty years from our first date. She wouldn't have been sentimental enough to notice that.

It not like 17 years were great, the first year, then bits and pieces, then all of the sudden we were close to the end and we got brutally honest about ourselves and our needs and it all clicked. I honestly thought we had made it. When she hit her mid-life crisis I didn't fight hard, because I figured I'll ride this "phase" of hers out and it will be great again. At some point it was too late, she wasn't big on forgiveness so she assumed I couldn't. But yes, definately on me tha part about not bein direct and telling her this is unacceptable, it stops now. She needed correction, I figured shes a grown woman she ought to be able to make a reasonable assessment of her own behavior. I actually felt a little guilty about being sort of relieved, I sort of let it go. I was exhausted with it. She seems to have her stuff back together these days.

My kids are mostly grown...the only regret is my youngest, she is doing ok, but I dont see her enough, shes only 8.

Do u still think about her? Is it still love there?
 
If by "meant to be" you mean, "feels right, worth a lot to find out" I agree.

Ive typed like three long posts in this threads about an impossibly maybe Ive got. I keep erasing it and talking about something else.

I leave in the morning 200 miles to see the kids after I drop them back off sunday, Ill head 100 miles south and see her. I dunno I tried subtle, I tried direct. She introduced me to her her younger sister last trip. We clicked well, so that helped with "My girl" that got a little competitive. I dunno..lots of reasons you wouldn't even believe why that is crazy....I haven't felt chemistry like that in a long long time.

Chemistry with who?
 
Do u still think about her? Is it still love there?

She's the mother of my children. We have been through everything. She is in every memory good or bad for almost 1/2 my life. so yeah, always has to be there.

I could tell a while back she was really unhappy...these days seems ok, not like joyful, but not unhappy, like settled in. It is NICE though that what I think she is thinking/feeling/experiencing is not my problem in anyway. Selfish, yes, but it's a damned relief.

The kids have hinted trouble in paradise over there. I dont ask, they dont say. Last visit the livingroom is kind o set up for moving and the couches look like beaters I dont remeber seeing. She says my baby is acting out because of I forget how she said it but like changes around here or some such...and Im wondering if Mr. Query number 2 moved out.

Wow tht was a rush of what ifs...Not saying I wouldnt, but not looking to. Im thinking geeze can she handle her end, like that.

Now as it turned out the exercise was academic. He was out picking up new-to-them couches and the ones by the door were going to goodwill or wherever. But I didnt like having to think about that sort of stuff.

Never say never.. I'll outlive the fat bastard to be sure. But frankly I'm a man with options these days and I will never go back to a level of compliance that I put up with in the past.
 
She's the mother of my children. We have been through everything. She is in every memory good or bad for almost 1/2 my life. so yeah, always has to be there.

I could tell a while back she was really unhappy...these days seems ok, not like joyful, but not unhappy, like settled in. It is NICE though that what I think she is thinking/feeling/experiencing is not my problem in anyway. Selfish, yes, but it's a damned relief.

The kids have hinted trouble in paradise over there. I dont ask, they dont say. Last visit the livingroom is kind o set up for moving and the couches look like beaters I dont remeber seeing. She says my baby is acting out because of I forget how she said it but like changes around here or some such...and Im wondering if Mr. Query number 2 moved out.

Wow tht was a rush of what ifs...Not saying I wouldnt, but not looking to. Im thinking geeze can she handle her end, like that.

Now as it turned out the exercise was academic. He was out picking up new-to-them couches and the ones by the door were going to goodwill or wherever. But I didnt like having to think about that sort of stuff.

Never say never.. I'll outlive the fat bastard to be sure. But frankly I'm a man with options these days and I will never go back to a level of compliance that I put up with in the past.

Oh so she moved on? have you?
 
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